Conversations with Toi

Dj Envy and his Wife Gia are making headlines with their upcoming book. Gia talks about 10 years of faking an orgasm. That to me sounds like a loss of energy and passion for 10 years. Their marriage is their marriage but ladies this is not it. Married to on man for the rest of your life you will go through challenges and changes in your life. This is why the man or woman you marry isn't the same one during the phases of your marriage.

Do not think this is normal to do. There needs to be a line of communication that is given. You do not need to stroke your partner's ego (no pun intended)

We also discuss self care and the ways in which we can let that NO be a full sentence. I am changing some ways in how I pull back. I also mention that this week on the blog.

What are ways that you are showing up? Are you taking care of you?

I talk about the drink of the day being an Old Fashioned and in the blog Cocktail Culture Co. I give you 3 recipes for drinks. Enjoy and drink responsibly.

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As we start the Easter celebrations this weekend are we still doing all of the traditions? Growing up it was church 2 times on Easter Sunday, poufy dresses, and no mentions of an Easter Bunny. Not that I didn't get candy but it was all about church.

As we grow up we make our own traditions that tend to make others uncomfortable. If this is your first holiday bringing a new love interest-prepare them for what is to come. Don't let them walk in to your family's space unaware. Also we dealing with uncomfortable questions like if you're getting married or having babies.

What is living with intentions? How are you truly embracing life? Are you waiting on others to catch up?

Kim Kardashian is back with her show but one thing about being a Mother and you have lived a little you can turn those uncomfortable stories into some help for your own children. One day I will have to share those clubbing, single days but I plan to be honest and use it as a teaching moment.

Today's drink of the day is a Buzzed Peeps Cocktail so if you like Peeps which I am not a true fan of but there you go. However this would be life for my twin. For my real life learning of making cocktails with Cocktail Culture Co. Take this cocktail making class if you are in the Philadelphia area. So much fun.

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We are back for Season 6. We have a royal guest with Arielle Jacobs who plays Princess Jasmine in Disney Concerts. Disney Concerts is coming to a city near you. It is playing here at the Kimmel Center on Tuesday April 12th. Tickets are available. Come and listen to over 30 songs, background stories, and more. It's an experience for all ages and a magical way to relive your childhood and make memories.

Also since we are back and in a whole new season-Spring, We are talking about way to renew. Booking trips, experiences whether as a solo traveler or with friends too. Keep in mind if you are traveling with others what should you know:

• Budgets

• Ideals to do

• Travel accommodations

• Road Trips

What do you incorporate in your morning routine? If grabbing your cell is one to mindless scroll is a way you start your day, let's fix that. There are ways to use your phone for self care. How do you do at night routine too?

Drink of the day is a Blackberry Smash. Recipe included in the episode.

Tips for traveling alone!

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Money is what we need to make life happen. Sometimes we think we need to make a certain amount of money in order to get the help of a financial advisor. Although we know we need to get a financial advisor we may too not recognize the warning signs of selecting one. Also what are YOUR financial goals. Often times we compare our goals with others and that's not the way to take control of your financial freedom.

We have guest host, Sarry Ibrahim. Sarry Ibrahim is financial planner and member of the Bank On Yourself Organization. He helps real estate investors, business owners, and full time employees grow safe and predictable wealth regardless of market conditions using a financial strategy that has been around for over 160 years. Sarry started this journey when he was in grad school completing his MBA. He worked for

companies like Allstate, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna Healthspring, and Humana before founding Financial Asset Protection, a financial services firm that focuses on one sole concept; the Bank On Yourself Concept, also known as the Infinite Banking Concept.

He can be reached on Linkedin or via email [email protected]

Also we talk briefly about using or weaponizing mental health against others. It's inappropriate to do so.

This is the last episode of season 5 we will be back in 2 weeks. Follow me on social media as Toitimeblog and on the blog.

I'm here for supporting women. I am a woman who uplifts women all year long. Are we as a society really supporting women? Like Cindy Gallop said, don't empower me, empower my bank account. We need to pay women what they deserve. We run things and do it well.

Y'all feeling Kim Khardashian stance on what women (business owners) need to do to be successful? Are we more mad at the messenger than the message?

Mental Health/Wellness check in-are you consistent in your self check? Are you doing the things that bring you joy even when you have to do them alone. Solo trips? Planning a vacation? Carving time for yourself?

Friend check-do you support your friends for real? If you are the first in your group do you allow your friends to have their moments? Upstaging someone in their moment is a sign of jealousy and lack of true friendship-we checking our friends?

Lots of questions but they all start with a conversation.

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This week's guest is JJ Ramberg, Co-Founder of Goodpods. Goodpods is your go to Podcast player. It's a way to build community. It's the Instagram of Podcasts. You can follow your friends, and Podcasters while learning new podcasts and enjoying the ones you learn.

JJ talks about building the Podcast player and learning to ask for help. She hit the ground asking others what they thought they were missing in a Podcast player. 700 individuals who either were a Podcaster or listened to them to build the Podcast Player that people really needed. To download Goodpods, do it now. Also we sat down on the blog and talked to JJ as well.

I also talk about Burnout. Burnout is real. It's the world of doing too much without taking a break and moving with intentions to take care of you. SO if you have dealt with BURNOUT-this episode is for you.

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Depression, anxiety, and trauma shows up in people in various ways. It can be debilitating. Having the right tools in your life is key.

We have Rachelle McCloud, a Mental Health Therapist and Emotional Wellness. Through years of successfully helping clients move their anxiety, depression, and trauma disorders into remission, she has developed a program that empowers people to skillfully get rid of symptoms and heal.

She is also the facilitator of the Facebook group Releasing the Baggage of Anxiety, Depression, and Traumatic Stress where she delivers free training on leading interventions that work well for getting rid of symptoms, not just coping or managing them. Her mission is to empower people to do their own healing work effectively, safely, and skillfully.

She also has a YouTube page.

If you are in need of her services this is a great way to get ahold of her.

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Today we have guest host Steve Taylor. If you have ever thought about going into business this is your episode. Also you know we drop nuggets no matter the topic. If the woman on TikTok can sell sunflower seed soup-yup just like I said it you are sitting on your talents and gifts.

Steve Taylor is a former Navy Lieutenant and Naval Academy graduate who proudly served afloat and ashore for seven years following graduation.

Upon completion of his military service, Steve began a career in high tech and consumer electronics. While enjoying a healthy career, he began to look into franchising and small business ownership as a way to insulate himself from the vagaries of technology and large business. He purchased his first franchise during the ‘great recession, eventually building it into one of the top units in a large system, selling a majority interest in 2019

Realizing his passion and interests were evaluating and exploring the vast opportunities in franchising and then sharing this knowledge, Steve joined the FCC team as a partner. He genuinely enjoys “evangelizing” the American Dream as embodied in Franchise and Small Business Ownership while helping clients both visualize and realize a better quality of life.

As a franchise consultant, Steve is dedicated to providing his clients with the most thorough and honest guidance possible.

Steve lives in Pleasanton, California with his wife with their three children (including twins). In his spare time, Steve enjoys cooking, skiing with his kids and traveling throughout the state and beyond.

Steve Taylor's Personal Statement: I absolutely believe that the best way to transform our communities and ultimately, our country is by identifying, enabling, and creating a new class of business owners. In some ways, the franchise model and military veterans are purpose-made for each other. On one hand, you have a model that comes with a ready-made template for success - on the other, you have a group of people that know how to follow a process, persevere through adversity, and seize opportunities while remaining creative and focused. My passion is to identify opportunities and resources and match them with veterans and others that have a desire to change the trajectory of their lives and their communities while achieving something out of the ordinary for themselves and their families.

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What do you want your slice of social media to look like? We are on social media for various reasons. It's up to us to make it what we want it to be. How? Who are you following, subscribing to, or indulging in? It reveals who you are. We are responsible for what we subscribe and take in.

-Bloggers with no website? Blogging is a IT word these days

-Why are people doing think pieces on Rihanna's pregnancy? She is an amazing artist but we don't need a full essay on it.

-Galentine's Day is on Sunday-who is in your tribe? Friendships that are solid should be celebrated Friends are like the Framilly that you picked.

-Single for Valentine's Day as a married woman I don't tell single folks how to think or feel. I remember my own days of being single.

-Self Care check in-let's remember how simple self care can be. It is a daily way to check in and evaluate your needs

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Today's podcast guest is Caitlin Rose. She is a resilience coach with over five years experience helping people overcome panic and anxiety naturally and permanently. Her work comes from her own experience navigating complex PTSD from early life trauma. After living with and troubleshooting chronic panic and anxiety for over a decade, she eventually mastered the principles of nervous system regulation and emerged panic-free. Today, she coaches people using a three step process to shift the nervous system out of a chronic survival state, calm the fear centers in the brain and proactively strengthen the brain structures that allow us to make those shifts permanent. Take advantage of a free, no-pressure 15 minute consultation to find out if this process can help you regain ease and freedom in your life!

You can find her on Instagram or LinkedIn. Her email is [email protected]

Also as always you can follow me on the blog at www.toitime.org

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As always please if you are feeling suicidal in any way or form please contact the National Suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255