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Trick Daddy is on some other level for the lengths he went to talk on Beyonce's good name. Its one thing not to like her singing if that's what you want to do but we don't have to do the most.

Panic attacks are real how to deal with them and recognize them

Place boundaries in all relationships. Being there for a friend and allowing them to dump all of their cares on you when they may need a licensed therapist is a fine line.

Get prepared for your kids this Summer. Don't let the "I'm bored" talk start. Also is it best to run your kids lives so much that they can't be their true selves...

National Day of forgiveness: https://toitime.org/national-day-of-forgiveness/

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Summer Book suggestions: https://toitime.org/summer-reading-list-stepping-away-from-electronics/

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Today we talk about those gut punches we need from time to time to stand and be accounted for our own toxic behaviors. We also tend to only focus on what someone said and not enough on what someone has done or is doing.

So much responsibility in being honest in what you can call out and deal with.

Also did you hear what Monique said? No not about bonnets and pajamas but about how your family and friends-mostly family view you? Take a listen so you can see what I am talking about.

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This is the episode where if you need some motivation and a boost this is it! There's no way you are going to listen to this episode and not be inspired. We want to encourage you to allow grace to follow your steps. Beyond anything this is about pouring back into each listener!

We talked to Noel Davis of Paris Fit Studios. Noel Davis is an Archaeologist turned personal trainer and is now a gym owner. Over the years her business Paris Fit LLC has been able to teach at senior centers throughout Philadelphia, grade schools in New Jersey, Rutgers University, talk on panels, fitness expos and much more. Previously she has help raise money CHOP Philadelphia Walk/Run for Childhood Cancer , donated and hosted back to school drives and recently she collected over a 300 toys from her 3rd Cardio Holiday Challenge/Toy Drive. She is currently the official pageant coach for the state of Pennsylvania. In January 2020 Noel opened up her first fitness studio in Old City, Philadelphia where currently she is recording for her live stream classes during the pandemic. Working with company such as Macy’s, Oxygen Magazine, Boxed Water, NIKE and Under Armour has allowed her to expand her brand while creating new opportunities for her to grow. *For information about on-line classes contact: getparisfit.com

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What a way to start Season 4 with Noel pouring nuggets of wisdom and jewels into us.

Blog about the kid activities to do this Summer mentioned: https://toitime.org/week-5-storr-summer-adventures/

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Self care is something we all need a daily dose of. We are attempting to do our best. Can you fail your own self care? Yes overthinking, not doing it enough, or not seeing simple things as self care.

We talk with Vera Fair. Vera Fair is a working mom with two amazing daughters (5 and 9 years old), wife to a wonderful husband who she has been with for 22 years, and volunteer in multiple organizations. She works full-time as a Senior Project Manager for the Office of the Chief Technology Officer and Boeing Research & Technology. In her 20 year career, she has held 16 different roles at the same company. Her educational background is in Psychology (UCLA), Computer Science (CSULB), Business (USC), and Project Management (Cal Tech). She is passionate about community involvement and is an active board member of Ascend Orange County (VP of Membership), Boeing Employees Community Fund (non-profit organization that provides grants to local non-profit organizations), Boeing Leadership Association of Southern California (VP of Professional Development), and Boeing Women Inspiring Leadership (Connect Circles Leader). She also volunteers with the local Girl Scouts group that her daughter is involved in. She is a certified speaker, coach, and leadership development trainer through the John Maxwell Team. Prior to the pandemic, she was a student pilot flying Cessna airplanes and also took acting lessons.

Let's give a listen and really try to do better and extend grace.

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There's a time for talk and there's a time for action, AAPI Solidarity Fundraiser is doing both. This Sunday at the Peridance Center from 10:30am -4:30 you can sign up and take classes at $10 per class. There are amazing teachers:

Yuka Kameda teaching Tap

Kevin Suzuki teaching Japanese Folklore

Sun Kim teaching Popping

Pauline Casino teaching Choreography

Afterwards there is a community discussion to bring an action plan together from 4:30-5:30 and that portion is free to the community and those who participated in the dance classes

This is a pre-registration event meaning no walk ins. You must also wear your mask.

The event is a fundraiser for APEX for Youth, underserved Asian and Immigrant youth from low income families.

Tickets can be found here: https://dancers-unlimited.square.site/product/aapi2021/77?category_id=18&cp=true&q=false&sa=false&sbp=false

Special thanks to Linda for taking tine to talk to me as well as Peridance Center for the use of space, etc.

Find more information on Dancers United's Instagram page: https://instagram.com/dunyc.hi?utm_medium=copy_link

Happy 40th to me. I reflect on the lessons learned. We also talk about those epic fails that took place too. The things we have gotten into that we don't speak on because we want to be appear less flawed than we really are.

We also discuss the self care fails and success that have taken place over the last week. Some you may remember from last week. Pray that I will have the self care fixed up by the time we come back.

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We will be taking a break and will be back on Friday June 4. Breaks are a beautiful thing

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Welcome to a new week of Conversations with Toi. We talk about mental health, self-care, social media stories, and failures in life.

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This Week social media stories include Josh Duggar, Safaree and Erica Mena, as well as Khloe Khardashian. When we talk about social media it is always about a way to relate and the take a ways we can add to our own lives.

We also talk about my self care fails and greats of the week. Can not making a doctor appointment reveal where you are in your self care.

Lets love on all of the amazing and giving mothers this weekend for Mother's Day.

Lets also keep our loved ones who may have experienced lost in our hearts and prayers.

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The world is in an uproar at least in the comment section about Oprah's newest book that is coming out. She is telling parts of her story that she has been reluctant to share. Apparently she is too rich to STILL have trauma. Which we know that is a whole lie and a half.

Trauma doesn't have an expiration-you carry the scars for life. We discuss both sides of the discussion.

Also Mendeecees stated that if the roles were reversed with Yandy went to jail for a few years, he's not sure if he could do what she did when he went to jail.

Steve Harvey clip resurfaces about whether or not men and women can just be friends.

RIP to Shock G aka Humpty Hump from Digital Underground.

Did you watch DMX funeral? Amazing send off!

Don't forget that Mother's Day is around the corner. Its the hardest time of the year for a lot of folks.

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Staying the course even when giving up seems too easy and comfortable. Like Beyonce says winner doesn't quit on themselves. So we talk a very personal story where I had no choice but to stay the course.

Self care go tos the week. What are they and how have I been managing.

RIP to George Floyd and a continued conversation and action plan for what to do next.

What is up with the integrity of Sean Puffy, P Diddy, Love? Why everyone telling the same lie?

My 5 podcast go tos:

Turn to your Neighbors

Dead Ass by Khadeen and Devale Ellis

Awaken the Awesome

Ratchet and Respectable with Demetria L. Lucas

The Reclaimed Podcast

Mother's Day Gift Guide: https://toitime.org/mothers-day-gift-giving-guide-2021-give-mom-what-she-really-wants-giving-with-a-purpose/

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Sometimes we get so caught up in the admiration of others who we will are doing better than we are that we don't humble our eyesight. We don't know what someone has been through to get to where they are. We need to find a way to love ourselves a little more.

Our condolences to DMX's Family and friends. We said last episode that we would keep him in our prayers and sadly he has passed.

Black Lives Mattering is more than just an organization its about the actual lives.

What brings you joy? Let's find a way to do more of that this week and every week and day.

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Today is also National Stress Awareness day: https://toitime.org/stress-awareness-physical-stress/

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