Counting the cost is the process of honestly and unselfishly gauging whether someone is willing and able to pursue a relationship with the intent to create a healthy, functional blended family. 

A single parent cannot perfectly determine whether someone is entirely prepared for that commitment and ready to do the work to make it work over time. However, there are some indicators that could provide clarity concerning readiness:

1. Behavior - actions and daily conduct over time

2. Communication - ability to convey understanding, emotional experience, and empathy

3. Personal Progressive Work - involved in support group, schooling, church, mentorship, etc. (putting themselves in positions to be challenged and held accountable)