Couples Becoming Intentional | Christian Marriage, Communication, Young Marriage, Relationships

One of the most impactful things we learned in our marriage is the importance of asking good, clarifying questions, to be empowered to ask people in your life. Today, we’re using the same framework and understanding how we can use questions to grow deeper in our relationship with Jesus. 

From this episode, we encourage you to ask questions of God. Opening yourself to be vulnerable, asking questions of doubt, and the purpose of seasons are important to ask to strengthen your relationship with Jesus. 

“To have belief is to ask questions” - Barnabas Piper 

Highlights: 

• Being shaped by our belief beyond just knowing it 
• It’s okay to doubt, it’s what you do with the doubt that matters
• The hardest part about belief 
• Importance of being in community 
• Asking questions of Context and Content
• Specific questions you can journal during your bible time
• Reading the bible formationaly rather than informationally 

Rapid Fire: 

• Favorite ice cream flavor?
• Favorite ice cream topping?
• Favorite place to get ice cream?

References: 

• Episode 4 of How and Why American Fight
• Help My Unbelief by Barnabas Piper
• How to Read the Bible for All It’s Worth by Gordon D Fee
• The Bible Project 
• The Homiletical Plot by Eugene L. Lowry 
• The Blue Parakeet by Scot McKight
• Shaped By The Word by Robert Mulholland

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This may be a taboo topic for most couples to talk about (especially before getting married.) We want to equip you with tools and strategies to get on the same page when it comes to finances. We are VERY intentional about having hard conversations about how much we make, how we spend our money and how credit cards play into it. 

I truly encourage you to start with getting on a budget. Take a look at where your money is going and how you can be a good steward of what you’re doing with your hard earned money. 

Having a budget gives you freedom to spend money.

How you deal with a little, is how you’ll deal with a lot. 

Highlights: 

• Single you will be married you
• Benefits of Financial Peace University and how we use the principles now 
• How we set up our finances as a married couple with kids 
• The importance of a budget when you’re a free-spirit spender 
• Importance of having fun money 
• Living off of one income 
• Side hustles 
• Setting ourselves us for future success 

Rapid Fire: 

• What is your go to pizza topping? 
• Favorite road trip snack?

References: 

• Episode 2 of Couples Becoming Intentional 
• Every Dollar App
• Episode 8 of Couples Becoming Intentional - Adults Only Disney Trip

Submit your question at couplesbecomingintentional.com or email us at [email protected] to connect with us! 

What did you love most about this episode? Send us an email at [email protected] to let us know or DM Carrie on Instagram.

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To celebrate Carrie’s birthday and our 6th year anniversary, we headed to an adults only trip to Disney World. While we expected the trip to be magical, romantic, and adventures, it was filled with unexpected surprises (like an ER visit). We share all the highs, lows, and the joys of this trip and hope you can laugh alongside us too. 

Highlights: 

• Going to Disney World in the summer 
• Disney World vs Disneyland 
• Cash flowing a Disney trip 
• Staying on property vs off property 
• Recap of our trip 
• ER visit 
• Food and Wine Festival 
• The ONE thing Carrie wanted to do in Disney 

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What did you love most about this episode? Send us an email at [email protected] to let us know or DM Carrie on Instagram.

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Hannah from the Reclaimed to Reign Podcast is asking the question, “How did you know each other was ‘the one’?” SPOILER - we don’t think there’s such a thing as a “the one.” 

Highlights: 

• The philosophy behind “the one” 
• What characteristics should you look for when you’re looking for someone to marry
• Should I be making a list of qualities of what I ideally want? 
• Love is a choice, not a feeling

Rapid Fire: 

1. If you could travel to one place outside of the US, all expenses paid for, where would you go?
2. If you could travel to one place in the US, all expenses paid for, where would you go?
3. What is your favorite meal that Carrie makes?

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What did you love most about this episode? Send us an email at [email protected] to let us know or DM Carrie on Instagram.

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It’s question time! We love to be able to give you questions that spark curiosity so you can ask those you love in your life. 

Question: What has been your favorite book you’ve read this year? 

If you don’t consider yourself a reader, this episode is for you. Being a learner is a key principle we have in our relationship so we can stay intentional! 

Whether through podcasts, books, courses, or classes, we know that when you’re desiring to deepen your relationship first with Christ and then with each other, great things are going to happen within your relationship. 

Highlights: 

• How to handle reading books that you don’t agree with 
• Building discernment when reading
• Biblical discernment vs a Google search
• Learning how to conserve energy 

Books mentioned: 

• Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard
• Revolution of Character by Dallas Willard
• The Homiletical Plot by Eugene L. Lowry (a different way of preparing a sermon)
• The Lost World of Genesis One: Ancient Cosmology and the Origins Debate by John Walton
• What is the Bible? by Rob Bell (the book we used to talk through discernment) 
• Live No Lies by John Mark Comer (book we used for our Life Group)
• At Your Best by Carey Nieuwhof (Carrie’s favorite book)

Podcasts mentioned (Apple podcasts link): 

• The Rachel Cruz Show
• Reclaimed to Reign 
• Pro Church Tools
• Well-Oiled Operations with Stacy Tuschl
• Office Ladies
• Couples Co-Op

Rapid Fire: 

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We’re celebrating 6 years of marriage this weekend! Anytime there’s an anniversary, we love to look back on the last year and share things that we have loved, learned and walked through. Today, we share our 6 things we have learned throughout being married. 

1. Understanding that your spouse sees the world differently than you.
2. Learn how to set clear and realistic expectations with those you love.
3. Ask better questions and actually listen to the answer.
4. Don’t be afraid to have difficult conversations. There is so much beauty on the other side. 
5. Plan intimacy! 
6. Be okay with change. 

Rapid Fire:

1. If you were not married right now, where do you think you’d be in life?
2. What was your favorite thing about the wedding?
3. If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?

Submit your question at couplesbecomingintentional.com or email us at [email protected] to connect with us! 

What did you love most about this episode? Send us an email at [email protected] to let us know or DM Carrie on Instagram.

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It’s question time! We love to be able to give you questions that spark curiosity so you can ask those you love in your life. 

Question: What activities do you both like doing? 

Since being together, we’ve had to find cheap and easy ways to do things together. Like mini golf, pool, or even as simple as watching a TV show together or learning a card game. We also know the importance of finding things to do yourself, so we share what we personally love to do too! 

We hope this episode gives you some fun ideas to do with those you love! 

Rapid Fire Questions: 

1. What’s your go to coffee order?
2. If you were to invite anyone to a dinner party, who would you invite?
3. What is your favorite genre of book?

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What should I do after high school? Where do I go to college? What do I do if I don’t like the degree I’m in? Making ends meet in a new town with new career opportunities. Being a stay at home mom. Network Marketing and working an online business. What we do for work now and how it is WAY different than what we would have ever dreamed. 

We’re answering all of these questions today on the podcast. This is truly an overview of what our life has looked like over the last 6 years and all the crazy jobs we never thought we would have. 

We hope this encourages you and gives you hope in a season of uncertainty. 

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Whoa, this is super practical and actionable. We’ve got our teacher hats on for this one where we’re sharing our tips on fighting fairly in your relationships. 

How and Why Americans Fight Article

Highlights: 

1. Removing WHY from your vocabulary 
2. Understanding motivation
3. Owning 100% of what you did 
4. Giving space for silence 

Rapid Fire Questions: 

1. What is your favorite fast food restaurant?
2. Where would you take someone who was visiting your hometown? 

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Welcome to episode #1 of Couples Becoming Intentional! 

This podcast has been years in the making and today we're sharing more about who we are, our story and our mission behind CBI! 

One of the practical things we share in this episode is creating your family roots system. We dive deep into the 6 things that make up our "tree" and how you can take next steps on making your own for your family. 

You can create your own family legacy tree at deeplyrootedlegacy.comSubmit your question at couplesbecomingintentional.com or email us at [email protected] to connect with us! 

Music: Higher Up by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com

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