Courtship Code

Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself.

A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily.

There are cold guys, warm ones, and hot guys. Cold guys are inconsistent, rejecting, and emotionally unavailable. You only attract the hot & ready ones when you yourself are self-secure and fully commitment ready. There can be endless debate on the third type of guy - the warm guy.

Warm guys who are valuable and ready to explore are tough to decipher. Not courted with intent and knowledge, warm guys can even turn cold. Then there are men who are valuable and warm but they’re not commitment-ready. Many women get stuck in these grey spaces with valuable and warm guys who they think are hot guys.

The underlying truth is you can’t expect every man you meet to be “The One”. We are actively working in the Captivating Courtship Code to break these stereotypes. The common thing about all three types of guys is: they come to teach you. You must be open to receiving and learning from each man you meet. The more experience you gain, the more value you show up with, in the ultimate relationship that later turns into a successful and valuable marriage.

Dive into this episode to learn about the three types of men, three things that could happen when you meet these men, and what you can do when you meet a warm, valuable guy.

Time Stamps for the episode:

00:00 - Introduction

1:40 - What is a commitment?

2:10 - Check-In with Yourself

4:00 - You have to be able to receive a commitment

4:33 - Three Types of Guys

10:20 - What to expect from guys in the relationship market?

14:02 - Every man you meet is not going to be your husband

15:18 - 3 things that could happen when you get out there and meet men

16:55 - More on the 3 types of men|

20:20 - How Warm Guys Are Different

22:28 - Conclusion

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men. 
Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable. 

It became clear they had no real idea how to identify a man of value and how to focus their energy on being courted by them. Even if they had attracted these types of men in the past, they didn’t actually know why they attracted them, or how to meet more men they actually desire to partner with.

The big problem for these women, and maybe even you, is that valuable men meet women with the same accolades often. Women who are successful, educated, and attractive. That’s not enough to feel emotionally moved to commit. You must understand the psychology of commitment. Why they want to commit to a woman and how the process of commitment works so the relationship naturally and authentically moves in that direction, or you will find yourself in hot-cold relationships and situationships.

Two important things women need to consider: Valuable men want women like you and there are lots of valuable men available, right now.

Today's podcast breaks it down and provides a clear understanding and perspective of the shifts necessary to focus your energy on valuable men so that you can attract the types of men you deserve.

Time Stamps for this episode:

00:00 - Introduction

3:15 - Not attracting commitment

4:15 - What is a valuable man?

7:21 - Building an authentic connection

7:30 - Logical Attraction

9:00 - How successful women will sometimes fear a valuable man's circle of influence

9:35 - Accolades aren't enough to move a man to commit

10:13 - Not understanding commitment psychology

10:35 - Do you believe you're worthy of a valuable relationship or do you question it?

11:11 - You are already worthy enough to attract a valuable partner

11:49 - Successful women are often the first of their kind

14:15 - How you will notice shifts in your life once you start working on yourself

15:25 - Holding the initial interest beyond the initial desire

15:57 - Low value thoughts and emotions arising in courtship

17:00 - Valuable men actually want women like you

17:42 - What makes a valuable man feel supported?

19:42 - You already have the qualities that you value in someone else

21:26 - The odds are in your favor

22:07 - Envisioning life with a valuable partner

23:00 - Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

23:26 - Two reasons you're not attracting commitment ready men

24:00 - Conclusion

Links mentioned in this episode:

Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan call

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact

Take Assessment to Discover Your Path to Love

www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship

Apply to coaching

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Questions? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship

You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep.

Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like many other women in this community did.

When you repeat the same actions and expect different results, you disappoint yourself and get stuck in the Loop of Distrust. However, changing your courtship actions and decisions can be a first step to having valuable relationships with a man worthy of your time and effort.

This episode gives us a quick and impressionable glance at 6 courtship mistakes made by successful women like you and how you can correct them. Tune right in and click on the link below for a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call which will guide you with actionable steps on starting your courtship journey right.

Time Stamps For This Episode:

00:00 - Introduction

1:25 - Envisioning Valuable Men

4:02 - Spending more time living your vision

5:00 - Making different courtship decisions

7:40 - Shifting the focus of your energy

8:59 - First Mistake

9:52 - Quality men vs Valuable men

11:01 - Second Mistake

12:07 - Third Mistake

13:07 - Fourth Mistake

14:30 - 5 Steps for commitment

15:08 - Fifth Mistake

16:19 - Sixth Mistake

17:30 - Conclusion: Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process?

This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your relationships and your love life.

In this episode, Zara J. interviews Jasmine Filiatrault, who is an ER Nurse and a specialist on Hormonal Health and Relationships, who takes us on a journey of how her mother had Endometriosis, her struggles with her cycles as a young woman and how she discovered the path to feminine wellness.

We learn about hormonal health, PMS, uterus alchemy, period cramps, birth control methods, their pros and cons AND fertility which is a concern to many women listening to this podcast because you’re looking to start a family or you see commitment and marriage in your future plans!

Take away life changing knowledge and tips from this enlightening episode of Captivating Courtship Podcast. LISTEN NOW!

Time-Stamps for the Episode:

0:00 - Intro

2:58 - Jasmine’s background and life

4:12 - Jasmine’s painful period cramps, is that normal?

4:32 - What happened to her body on birth control pills

7:07 - Birth Control stopped, IUD started

14:26 - Why do doctors insist on other solutions outside hormonal balance and nutrition?

17:55 - Jasmine specializing in hormonal health

19:05 - Women pick better partners, make better decisions when not on birth control

19:35 - Certification in Australia

21:25 - Do we inherit period/hormonal issues from our mothers?

24:02 - Over-working out

25:55 - Why is hormonal health something that matters?

30:26 - What is one of the biggest misconceptions some women have about their hormones?

31:29 - Can you have COFFEE?

33:45 - How Jasmine assessed Zara and her hormones!

35:05 - 3 to 5 big things YOU’RE ignoring!

40:43 - Funny Story by Zara

43:15 - Cancer, Breast Cancer

46:36 - How your hormonal imbalances are directly impacting YOUR LOVE LIFE!

49:37 - Misconception you might have about hormonal health or fertility!

53:13 - Tips for someone NOT ON BIRTH CONTROL!

54:20 - Concluding notes and tips.

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life.

If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much action you take, if your mindset does not welcome new, healthy relationship patterns, you are not going to be able to bring about a substantial change in your love life. This is exactly what is called self-sabotage.

In this episode, we discuss that the key to changing this is being powerfully vulnerable & transparent with yourself about what you want in your relationship and taking full ownership of the choices you make in your courtship & dating journey. You have to decide that your old patterns are not serving you any longer and you want to make the decision to be committed to making your future happen.

Listen to this podcast to finally give yourself the permission to not shrink yourself when you decide to dream, think and live big. You are allowed to design a Captivating Life with a man who wants to grow with you.

Link in bio, listen now.

In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to be on the driver's seat of your love life.

You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!

Time Stamps For This Episode:

00:00 - Introduction

00:29 - Self Care Weekends

4:01 - Cycle of repeat experiences

6:20 - You should know this, if you really want a marriage & family life

7:57 - Owning the desire for a partner

10:06 - You have to get clear on your patterns

12:00 - You have help available to you

12:33 - 5 Tips to create new authentic, high value relationships

13:05 - 1st Tip

16:47 - 2nd Tip

19:24 - 3rd Tip

24:00 - 4th Tip (The Gap)

26:58 - Make the Decision (You are committed to make that happen)

30:00 - Note on Making Decisions

34:32 - There is no Plan B

35:58 - Conclusion

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset

https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types.

Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validation or settle in a relationship.

In this episode, we deep dive into the three main relationship pattern types to understand what each type can do to break a toxic pattern and create new patterns that take their relationships to the next level.

Listen to this podcast episode to know how to reverse this and shift all control to the hands of your authentic adult self. This will help you create the high value love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.

Link in bio. Listen Now!

In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. You too can make your way through the courtship process and qualify & attract a man who is aligned with the love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.

You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!

Time Stamps For This Episode:

00:00 - Introduction

1:49 - 3 most popular pattern types

5:06 - The Too Goods

9:10 - The Love Mes

12:07 - The Trophies

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset

https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image.

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If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know where to start, this podcast is tailor-made for YOU!

When she joined coaching, Maryama felt like she had “nothing to lose” and she needed “external help to figure out” her love life. From the Captivating Courtship Community, she found the examples, healing and relationship skills she needed to attract the right match for her. Coaching helped her also establish healthy boundaries and improve her career and her relationships, she finally learnt to advocate for herself!

In this episode, Captivating Courtship Code student shares her journey of becoming an emotionally available woman, attracting love, getting married and moving abroad. We dive into tips for long distance relationships and what made her decide to commit to her husband and take the leap to get married.

Get to know how Maryama turned around her love life and the ONE thing that was holding her back! She also gives us a sneak peak into her life as a wife and how coaching has impacted that. Head over to the podcast and LISTEN NOW!

Time Stamps:

00:00 - Introduction

2:22 - Where Maryama was before she joined coaching

5:57 - The benefits she had after joining coaching

8:07 - Maryama’s No.1 thing to work on when she joined coaching

10:23 - How she turned around her No.1 thing to work on

13:27 - How Maryama met her husband during coaching

16:30 - Long distance before marriage

20:40 - What about her husband was a “YES!” for her?

23:00 - What impact did coaching have on how Maryama shows up now as a wife?

25:20 - What has life been like now?

27:00 - Her wedding!

28:16 - Moving abroad and some important advice!

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE!

The good news is that you can rewire it.

Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love?

We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out of this cycle is to learn how to process from the present and the future instead of your past. You have to get new experiences that validate new beliefs. You have to rebuild your trust muscle so your brain has proof that you can have the type of relationship and commitment you want from the types of men you want.

Listen to this podcast to make high quality relationship decisions so that you can attract the right partner faster and to get more information and action to develop the skills you will need in this courtship journey with us!

We have a Freebie for you today. It's called Total Package Confidence. It breaks down the pillars of stepping into the best version of yourself and that includes trust & intuition. To get the free download, message Zara on Instagram, “TPC”.

Time Stamps for the Episode:

00:00 - Intro

4:16 - Time is now to make your love life a priority!

6:17 - The Loop of Distrust and its effects

14:47 - Attracting the same type of men

16:54 - How To Break The Loop of Distrust

18:14 - First & Second Hand Proof

18:57 - Captivating Courtship Coaching Community - why YOU should be part too!

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

Get FREEBIE DM “TPC” on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship