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Courtship Confusions Post-Slutcon


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Going into slutcon, one of my main known-unknowns was… I’d heard many times that the standard path to hooking up or dating starts with two people bantering for an hour or two at a party. And even in my own imagination, I was completely unable to make up a plausible-sounding conversation which would have that effect. Certainly it had never played out that way for me, nor had I personally witnessed it play out for anyone else.

So at slutcon itself, I volunteered for a session in which a few guys would be paired up with women and flirt on stage, with the session moderator giving live feedback and pointers. I was hoping I would finally be able to figure out how the heck a conversation ever leads to sex[1].

Within five minutes, the session moderator declared that I was already sufficiently witty that he had nothing to teach me, and he went fishing for a new volunteer who would be more instructively inept. I kid you not: I was booted from a flirting workshop for being too good at flirting, despite being completely unable to even imagine any plausible way for a banterous conversation to lead to hooking [...]

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First published:

November 26th, 2025

Source:

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/rLbidEjvATEXtffYT/courtship-confusions-post-slutcon

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