Quality time with our kids is important! But how do we manage it, especially as single parents whose time is already so limited? And, sometimes we feel added pressure to make the time together a big deal.

It helps to consider that kids remember the time you spend with them much more than the things you do.

A recent study in the Journal of Marriage and Family says the quality of time is much more important than the amount of time parents spend with their children. It isn’t about endless hours spent together—it’s about how you choose to spend the time that truly matters.

So, how do we, as single parents, create quality time moments with our kids when time is one of our rarest commodities?

We considered four ways to create quality time with our kids:

Rituals: Build quality time into the normal rituals of daily life. Instead of trying to add in more activities, make the ordinary moments count.

Routines:  Establish routines that become meaningful ways to show up for your kids while you’re in the car, during meals, and at bedtime.

Random: Look for opportunities that pop up unexpectedly and make the most of them. Fun memories can come from quality time “on the fly”.

Responsive: Be aware of the times your kids need you to respond in the moment. Some things can’t wait. Stop what you are doing and make your response to them a priority.

Here are some suggestions single parents came up with to establish quality time in these areas:

Whether in the rituals and routines of your daily lives or in the random moments that pop up here and there, take every opportunity you can to be responsive to your kids.  If they had a hard day or seem out of sorts, put what you can aside and give them your undivided attention. Even 5-10 minutes can pay off. If they have a question, put your phone down and make eye contact. Demonstrate you are there when they need you.

With quality time, especially as single parents, it comes down to being deliberate with what we have and intentionally carving out simple moments to be special. Remember, it’s not about quantity, and it doesn’t have to be big, it just needs to be authentic and real.

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