Curious Fox

Why are people into dirty talk? What are different types of dirty talk? How can we start experimenting with verbally expressing our hottest thoughts and desires? 

In this episode, Effy invites Jocelyn Silva to discuss the ins and outs of dirty talk. They explore why people are into it, appreciate different types and share some solid tips on how to get started.

To learn more about Jocelyn
Jocelyn Silva is a bisexual polyamorous Sexual Empowerment Coach, Sex Educator, First Generation Latina, and full-time digital nomad. She empowers YOU to embrace your sexual essence and lead a pleasure-FILLED life! She has 12 years of sex education experience, and 3 years coaching women, couples, and now men on their road to full sexual empowerment + embodiment.

Instagram: @iamjocelynsilva
TikTok: @iamjocelynsilva
Website: www.jocelynsilva.com

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How can you find the right doctor? What should you ask during your appointment? How can you pleasurably and safely explore anal play? What is unique about sexual health within the gay and queer community? And what is a butt clock?

Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist, Doctor Carlton.

With 3 million likes and over 200,000 followers on TikTok, Doctor Carlton shares his expertise on men’s sexual health and pleasure, tips for tops and bottoms, and sex advice for every body and orientation.

To learn more about Dr. Carlton
Doctor Carlton is a Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist in San Diego, California who you have probably seen on Tik Tok or Instagram talking about Butt Stuff tips and LGBTQ health. He has been featured on Mashable and in Instinct Magazine and even recently headlined Austin Kink Weekend in Texas. Who better to learn butt stuff from than a doctor who knows all the science and a gay man who has had PLENTY of real life experience with it! Welcome Doctor Carlton!

TikTok: @doctorcarlton
Instagram: @doctorcarlton

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Can psychedelics be more than a party drug? How are they used in therapy and why are they so effective? What does it take to get into a psychedelic treatment program? 

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society, psychotherapist and clinical supervisor Dee Dee Goldpaugh to discuss her work with psychedelics and their effective use in treating and healing trauma psycho-chemically as well as spiritually.

More about Dee Dee
Dee Dee (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist, educator, clinical supervisor, author, and activist. They have taught and published widely on the topics of psychedelics, sexuality, trauma, gender, and spirituality. They have been a leading voice in the development of Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy techniques, specifically with survivors of trauma and have published the first article to appear in an academic journal, Sex and Relationship Therapy, exploring the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and psychedelic healing. Dee Dee is a Clinical Supervisor for the CYB003 clinical trial sponsored by  Cybin using a psilocybin analogue to treat major depression. They offer Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as part of the team at the Woodstock Therapy Center and are part of the Relationship Resources team leading ketamine-assisted therapy retreats for couples. They have also completed the MAPS training in MDMA-assisted psychotherapy.

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Website: deedeegoldpaugh.com

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What’s kink and bdsm? How can we start a conversation with our partner(s) about exploring different sexual expressions? How can kink be a healing modality?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Rena Martine to talk about how to explore the taboo in a healthy way. They discuss how kink can be therapeutic and share some resources on how to get started.

Mentioned in this episode:
BDSMTest.org
Lina Dune - Ask a Sub - Patreon
Sex and Psychology Podcast

Books:
Tell Me What You Want
Reclaiming Pleasure

More about Rena
Rena Martine was a Los Angeles County Deputy District Attorney for 14 years, where she specialized in sex crimes, child abuse and domestic violence cases. She continues to serve women today as an intimacy coach, educator, TEDx speaker and author, with a mission to help women love their bodies, experience deep intimacy and have great sex, shame-free. 

Instagram: _rena.martine_
Website: renamartine.com

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How do you break out from societal norms? What does it take to design a relationship that we can thrive in? What happens when you open your mind to all the possibilities? 

In this week’s episode, we bring you another installment of Fox Tales: stories of people who are living, loving and connecting in unique ways. Jacqueline balances a life with her daughter, her wife, and her partner living between two homes. Jacqueline tells the story of how she went from a hetero-mono-normative marriage, to this very unique parallel poly vee relationship. 

More about Jacqueline
Jacqueline Misla is a queer, Latine, mother, polyamorous partner, writer, podcaster, and change strategist. She works with companies and individuals to create pathways towards audacious and impactful change. Jacqueline holds a Master's Degree in Social Work, and is certified in Complex Change Theory and Strategic Visioning.

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Are periods simply a burden for women to bear? Can menstruation education cause systemic change for the better in women's welfare? What are the implications of women revitalizing menstrual practices on society and the earth? 

In this special episode, Effy talks to the co-founder of EcoFemme Kathy Walkling about how rethinking menstruation and menstruation education can cause radical social change in women’s welfare. Kathy explains EcoFemme’s approach to menstruation that is healthy, environmentally sustainable, culturally responsive and empowering and Effy has a profound shift in her relationship with her body and the earth as the conversation unfolds. 

To find out more about Kathy
Kathy Walkling is the co-founder of Eco Femme, a women-led social enterprise working to create environmental and social change by promoting menstrual practices that are healthy, dignified, affordable and eco-positive. Kathy heads Eco Femme’s research and not-for-profit menstrual health education and pad distribution programmes, Pad for Pad and Pads for Sisters. Originally from Australia, Kathy moved to the international community of Auroville in Tamil Nadu, India in 1997. Grounded in Auroville’s commitment to human unity and sustainable living, her passion for care of the earth and the sacred feminine were well-nourished, giving rise to Eco Femme in 2010.

Prior to this, Kathy worked with the Auroville Village Action Group (AVAG), a local grassroots NGO, where she established community-led teaching programmes for children and livelihood programmes for women, in the villages neighboring Auroville. More recently, Kathy has been a core founding member of the Auroville Citizens’ Assembly which successfully launched with a pilot project in early 2021. Kathy is an active member of the Menstrual Health Alliance, India, and completed Dasra‘s Social Impact Leadership Programme in 2014

Throughout her journey, Kathy has been a staunch advocate for empowerment built upon non-judgemental, culturally responsive and accurate education to individuals and prompting critical thinking—in a nutshell, “informed choice”. This approach is about more than menstrual products; it is about supporting individual’s personal transformation and reconnecting with themselves, one another and the environment. Naturally, Kathy cherishes spending time in wild spaces simply“being” and turning within to reflect, question and embrace never-ending learning!

Instagram: @ecofemme
Youtube: @ecofemmeindia
Facebook: ecofemmeindiaonline
Eco femme shop: www.ecofemme.org

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What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind?

In this revised episode, Effy and Jacqueline reflect on couple privilege and hierarchy in relationships on Valentine’s Day when these dynamics can really be accentuated and exasperated. They share suggestions on how to elevate our relationships beyond these limitations and nurture ethical connections across all our relationships. 

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What is sexual morality? How do we decide what is right and wrong when it comes to sex? Is it universal or does it change across cultures? How does moralizing sexuality affect our individual sexual expression and our views on sex as a society?

In this week’s episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore sexual morality with insights from Dr. Kelly Asao who is a professor of psychology at Westminster College in Salt Lake City. Dr. Asao teaches classes on human sexuality and conducts research on the intersection of meaning and morality. Dr. Asao shares the seven components to sexual morality according to a major study and reveals the biological driver behind what we deem as right or wrong.

To learn more about Dr. Kelly Asao
My goal is to inspire academic curiosity and deep learning in my students. I enjoy teaching smaller classes that allow for individualized attention, advanced subject matter, and real-world application (e.g. research projects, demonstrations, excursions). My classes utilize a flexible combination of discussions, activities, videos, and lectures to encourage deep engagement with the material and to meet students where they are. In addition to teaching excellence, I have a proven track record of mentoring and supervising undergraduate and post-graduate students in research.

Broadly, I am interested in understanding human psychology from an evolutionary perspective. My core research program explores morality and mating using an interactionist approach, investigating how biological and environmental factors combine to drive behavior.

Find Kelly on Research Gate
Linkedin: kelly-asao

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What is borderline personality disorder and what causes it? How does it affect familial and romantic relationships? What does treatment look like? What can people with loved ones who have BPD do?

On this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline take on one of the most elusive mental health struggles that predominantly show up in the relational context with the help of psychiatrist and the author of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality and Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder Dr. Jerold Kreisman. They discuss the characteristics of this disorder, how it impacts relationships and strategies for those who have loved ones with BPD.

To learn more about Jerald
Dr. Kreisman graduated from Cornell University Medical College and concluded residency in psychiatry at The National Institute of Mental Health in Washington, D.C., and at St. Louis University.

He is board certified in Psychiatry and is an Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at St. Louis University. He is past president of the Missouri Psychiatric Association and has been designated a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. 

Dr. Kreisman has lectured widely in both this country and abroad, and has appeared on many media programs, including The Oprah Winfrey and Sally Jesse Raphael Shows.

He has been listed in “Top Doctors,” “Best Doctors in America,” and “Patients’ Choice Doctors.”

He is the author of:
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder

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What is masochism and why do people engage in it? What is the difference between consenting to pain as a means to an end/ byproduct of an activity (e.g., ballerinas and competitive eaters) vs. pain on purpose? What are the benefits and the costs to pain as pleasure? What does masochism have to say about the human experience?

In this week’s episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into pain for pleasure with science reporter, noted masochist and the author of Hurts So Good, Leigh Cowart. Leigh broadens our understanding of masochism by drawing parallels between the experience of people who pursue pain for sexual pleasure and those who endure pain for sense of satisfaction, achievement or self expression, such as competitive eaters, ultramarathon runners and ballet dancers. They normalize our desire for pleasure by offering an open and honest commentary of their own experiences. 

More about Leigh Cowart
Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist whose work has appeared in the Washington Post, New York Magazine, Popular Science, Buzzfeed News, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" has been featured in the New York Times, The New Yorker, NPR, the Wall Street Journal, and The New York Review of Books. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed in academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats, and resource allocation in flowers.

Instagram: voraciousbrain
Twitter: voraciousbrain
Their book: Hurts So Good

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