Today’s episode with Yoga teacher, artist, writer and all-round creative Bryonie Wise, we discuss the power of Self-Care as a belief system.

How can we understand Self-care as not only something that we occasionally do, but that forms the very basis of our human experience so we can heal, forgive and feel gratitude at every moment?

Bryonie sadly lost her mother to lung cancer, and shares her story of working through (and with) the grief to heal and gain wisdom to move forward her life. We discuss the power of breath and Bryonie gives several exercises we can try. The power of gratitude and choice, and why the ripple effect of our self-care is bigger than we can even imagine.

This episode is perfect for you if:

• You are feeling confused, sad, or frustrated for reasons you feel are outside your control
• Find it difficult to make tie for self-care, or don’t believe it’s of that much importance to you.
• Want to feel deep empathy and more connected on this journey of the human experience, Bryonie has a way with words and shares great wisdom in a way that soothes and softens and gives heart for those tough times.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

4:51 Grief and patterns are the catalyst for change to start looking after her health and body.

08:14 Step beyond ancestral patterns and how we can heal with the discomfort more than the fear.

10:43 How to heal the battle with the voices in our head.

13:24 Making the choice of what you are listening to in your head.

15:53 The power of journalling for self-care, and how self-care may be different to what you think it is [unique value point].

18:12 The ripple effect: your self-care is not all about you.

20:56 Acknowledging our imperfection as human beings, gratitude, and taking space to deal with our difficult emotions.

26:31 Be with your breath easily within your day and “unplugging” in today’s modern world.

30:13 How we never know what’s happening in the background with anyone, so can’t compare ourselves to anybody else, empathy is the way.

31:43 We are forever healing, at every moment.

34:26 Gratitude, in the joy and the pain is the true practice.

36:61 Choosing to practice presence and why the answer often comes in your time of need [unique value point].

39:18 The one thing you can take comfort in when you struggle.

37.15 How we spend our lives abandoning ourselves by numbing out, collecting the pieces of ourselves, and what to do about it.

46:31 We don’t need to hold on, we are allowed to forgive and create freedom for ourselves.

47:48 Breathing exercises that Bryonie recommends [unique value point].

Key Take Homes

Your Self-Care is important for yourself. It is also important for your family, friends, your community, society at large, and the planet. It is not an indulgence, it is a necessity.

Gratitude is feeling joy for the difficult times as well as the epic, because we are always healing and learning in every moment that we draw breath.

We are not alone in our struggle there are people behind us, next to us, and ahead of us that understand the same challenges and difficulties that you face so, take heart.

Today’s episode is all about leading from the feminine, thinking with our body and balancing the ebb and flow of our masculine and feminine energies.

Niamh comes from a corporate background much like myself, and actually made herself ill and found herself on a cardiac ward at the age of 27! She shares her process of awakening, shedding her shoulds and leaning into her feminine.

We discuss intentional choosing, the meaning of anxiety (what we can learn from it) and how we really can have it all. Manifestation is touched upon and how we can successfully navigate our lives my effortlessly flowing between our masculine and feminine energies.

It is possible to ‘feel’ our way through life, although we have been programmed that we need to think and use our rational brain all the time. Niamh shows us another way.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You want to lead an intentional life, and feel power and control in your life, even while relaxing into your feminine side.

What to understand what it looks like to lead from the intuitive feminine, and have the courage to apply it in your every day

Time-Stamped Show Notes

04:52 Leading from the feminine and feeling your way through the world (whether you are male or female).

08:18 Niamh’s awakening: shedding her shoulds and seeking something more. Leaning into the masculine all the time was a significant cost.

11:05 Disease is “dis-ease” for a reason, and it occurs when you fall off your soul path.

12:31 Are you intentionally choosing your experiences each and every moment? [unique value point]. The changes Niamh started to make and the healing effects.

16:21 Suffering from anxiety - how to know when you are feeling off your soul path. Integrating our soul and exploring our beliefs.

19:15 You *can* have it all. Here’s why.

19:53 Constantly choosing - a simple manifesting exercise you can practice each morning to start leading an intentional life [unique value point].

21:22 Dominated by masculine energy - the ebb and flow between masculine and feminine to manage burnout and disillusionment and what feminine leadership looks like.

31:39 Feeling our way through life via our emotions and intuitive intelligence.

33:50 Intuition is a choice - muscle testing exercise [unique value point].

41:08 Walking with the intelligence of your own body and emotions.

Key Take Homes

We are creating our world at every moment, it is possible to intentionally create every moment to manifest the life you want to see in front of you.There is power in being first, and then doing. Leading from the feminine and then taking action in the masculine.

We must check in with our emotions, intuition and body in making decisions, they are our greatest give but in a world where we are conditioned to find reasons and logic all the time they are often underused.

Resources

Niamh Cronin’s Website

Dr Joe Dispenza’s website

Muscle testing video

Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins With You by Matt Kahn

Curious Question

In the resources section I have provided a video of the muscle testing exercise that Niamh was describing. How did your find this exercise, and did anything surprising come up for you when you tried it?

Thanks so much for listening curious friends and, until the next episode, take care of yourself.
Love,

Jen x

Today we embark upon a spiritual and healing journey with Jemma Gawned, who has been learning for many years from the elders and shamans of the Andean Inca.

We discuss Jemma’s experience of an early cancer scare that led her to be more mindful about her being, and over the years this lean to her becoming fluent in her emotions so as to ensure in relating with others she remained centred in the present, rather than answering in anger from the past.

How can we respond more lovingly to those in our lives? How can we learn from them (even if they might drive us up the wall!), and how can we let go of all the anger and pain we have developed over a lifetime? Jemma addresses all these questions in sharing her learned wisdom.

We discuss developing faith in our life when we feel overwhelmed by who we should be, and we have fear to step into our authentic self (and our authentic path in life). Jemma shares her morning routine with us and we discuss being in rhythm with our life rather than fighting against it.

This episode is perfect for you if you:

• Find it hard to let go of past hurts, and find the pain repeats itself in present (and often unrelated circumstances)
• Find your thoughts are so overwhelming that you struggle to get in touch with your emotions and lead from your heart rather than what your logic tells you.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

03:34 Jemma’s spiritual path: the embodied state of inner peace and harmony, which reflects outwardly

5:51 Jemma’s cancer scare les to a more mindful way of being and eating (food is medicine).

07:46 Spiritual teflon - nothing negative sticks.

08:48 Jemma features on the first series of Big Brother in Australia. This made her realise that you can’t please all of the people all of the time.

09:65 A Jemma became more mindful she noticed how her emotions were running the show [unique value point].

12:10 How we respond from the past (and not the present) to people, and what to do about it.

15:21 How we can respond lovingly when we are in arguments. Heal ourselves and others as well.

16:14 The people who bug us the most are the ones who are our biggest teachers.

18:54 Nothing is ours and it never was. We are the master manifestors, but we’ve forgotten that we can transmute energy and release it.

22:21 Our power is in letting go. It takes so much energy to hold on.

23:34 How to let go of anything and lead from the heart (hint: it’s the simplest method in the world! [unique value point].

29:52 When you really don’t want to do something, that’s exactly the time to dive in and change the pattern.

31:21 How to have faith when your life feels overrun by shoulds [hint: we are too action oriented].

33:07 Jemma’s daily morning practice to get her best possible feeling state at the beginning of the day.

36:21 When we believe that we constantly have to strive and push, life pushes back. Do this instead.

39:55 Jemma’s path has not been easy at all, but now she is living the life of her dreams. She changed her outer world by shifting her inner world and created true choice for herself.

Key Take Homes

When we take that moment just before we are about to repeat the same old pattern in our interactions to pause and ask ourselves “how can I do this differently”, that can make all the difference to shifting our relationships.

We must learn to separate our thinking from our feeling in order to break the association. When we feel and feel alone we heal our past trauma.

We have spent all our lives taking on energy and storing it within our bodies, but we have forgotten that we are powerful at transmuting energy: we take it on, but then the change it, and release it again.

Curious Question

When you think about a thought and/or situation that brought up strong emotions for your recently, try to separate the thought from the feeling, and sit with only the feeling, allowing the thoughts to float away. How does this feel different to having the two simultaneously?

Hello Curious Friends! Welcome to Episode 12 of the Curiously You Podcast!

Today’s episode is all about creating more ease at work, moving past stress and burnout yet still being as (or more) productive than we are already.

We are speaking with Tara Howisey, who made herself ill due to her stress levels at work, but over time she realised that we do not need to work harder and burnout in order to be productive. In a masculine-driven world, Tara found the courage to step into a feminine approach to work, and over time saw big shifts that improved her well-being.

She talks us through the basics of manifestation so we can shift from force to flow in our career. We discuss keeping centred and in our feminine inspired energy even though we may work in a very masculine environment.

Tara is a master manifestor! She speaks through the basics and gives us some exercise to get us started so there’s less force and more flow in our lives!

This episode is perfect for you if you:

• Are pushed to the limit at work, and would love to know how to relax into more ease and trust that you will still meet your KPI’s!
• Feel like you must always inhabit the masculine, pushy, forceful, driven energy at work, and what to know how to soften more into your feminine energy
• What to learn the basics of manifesting!

Time-Stamped Show Notes

03:41 With promotions comes more responsibility: Tara’s burnout and getting sick from her corporate job.

06:55 Tara’s turning point - started to see the long term effect, getting angry plus the self-protection mechanism.

08:09 Changing her diet, meditating, taking on a coach and purifying, how it is better to change one thing at a time.

12:45 One key word that will start to heal your burnout.

14:47 When the pain of staying where we are is worse than the pain of change.

16:36 Shifting from force to manifestation, believing that things come easily, softening your outlook, and balancing the masculine and feminine energies.

18:59 Steps to take to start manifesting and pulling things into your life [unique value point].

23:29 The key exercise to start your manifesting journey (hint: it’s smaller and easier than you think!)

22:38 Staying centred in our body, looking after ourselves and integrating softer artful feminine manifestation when you are in a stressful masculine job.

31:12 How to integrate the feminine at work and how it can actually make you more productive [unique value point].

37:49 Your zone of genius - when your work fuels your energy rather than drains it.

39:27 Why it scares you to let go, how to find out your fears, heal yourself, and what happens after [unique value point]

Key Take Homes

• Doing more does not mean you are being more productive, and can actually negatively affect your well-being. When we trust in the manifestation process and lean-into our feminine energy we take inspired action that is often more effective!
• Instead of trying to push to achieve your dreams, you want to pull your dreams toward you!
• Moving away from burnout is a step-by-step process

Resources

Tara’s Website: The Radiant Goddess Collective

Tara’s favourite books

The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by PhD Hendricks Gay

Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Life by Shakti Gawain

Ask And It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires (Law of Attraction) by Abraham Hicks

Curious Question

What are some feminine behaviours that you could incorporate into your working day to bring more ease, and which one will you start doing in the work environment?

Thanks so much for listening curious friends, and until the next episode, take care of yourself.
Love,

Jen x

Today’s episode is all about our intuition, but not in the way that you are perhaps used to. We are speaking with Dr Ricci-Jane Adams of the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence, who is on a mission to change the conversation about intuition.

We discuss how science and empirical measurements is starting to catch up with the main-stream conversation about intuition, because there is more than just survival intuition (which we often struggle with even though it ought to be so normal it’s unnoticable).

How do we make choices that are right for our intuitive self? How can we be discerning about where we direct our energies? We go answer these questions, and highlight (for the pragmatic minded) how research supports the concept that we are not victims of our own life but in every moment powerful creators.

Spiritual self-worth  is a big facet to unlocking our inherent intuitive nature, Ricci-Jane dives into how to do this, along with the best ways to reframe our hurts and struggles away from worry to radical acceptance.

Finally we dive into an amazing exercise you can do at home to meet your shadow archetype, and heal old fears and wounds that you may have been carrying for years.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You can’t get on board with the woo-woo nature of intuition and want to satisfy you pragmatic mind that, yes, it is real, as research and logic backs up what you experience!

Tend to get embroiled in micro-worries day-to-day, this episode will give you a broader, bird-eye view of the world building your sense of worth and value in your experiences and life.

Are crippled by old fears that keep popping up and repeating in your life, and want a way to practically move beyond them.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

04:22 Changing the conversation about intuition: how main-stream is afraid of anything that is not empirically verified, yet science is catching up.

06:27 Survival intuition should be so normal it is mundane. As we teach our children to talk we should also  be teaching them to tap into their intuition.

08:23 The different types of intuition we have (hint: it’s not just survival intuition!).

11:03 Consciousness hygiene - how to make choices that are right for your intuitive self.

12:14 All of us are highly sensitive because we all have an electromagnetic (EM) field. Being discerning about where we direct our EM field, and the power we have to change our EM field.

15:59 Your physical limits do not end at your physical body: here’s why.

17:26 You are not a victim, but you have an immense power that you are unaware about!

21:12 Ricci-Jane’s life-changing question [unique value point].

23:13 The real reason why we reject our self-worth. How to shift our perception from worry to acceptance, and radical acceptance.

26:48 The concept of Earth school: what Ricci-Jane believes is our purpose on this earth and the one thing we can do to create peace of mind.

34:48 Going to meet your shadow - how to face our fears and the four primary fear archetypes - which are you?

40:29 The exercise you can do now to meet your shadow archetype to clear your fears and know exactly what you desire [unique value point].

54:10 What are the guardians of your shadow archetype? The light form of our shadow.

59:06 What it means to be spiritually fierce, and the art of Blissipline

01:06:39 What if you are not alone? Co-creation with the universe, choosing love and shedding our inner control-freak

Key Take Homes

Intuition is not a gift that only highly sensitive people possess. Each of us possesses the ability to tap into our intuitive nature, as we are all connected to everything around us and so are the creators (and co-creators through the energetic web of the universe) of our life.

All the terrible things that happen in our life when radically accepted transform into an experience of love, beauty and growth.

There is nothing to fear except fear itself - you are infinitely supported.

Today we are speaking with Colleen Valles, advocate of the slow life: simplifying your lifestyle, minimising your stuff, and making more room for creativity in your life.

Colleen used to have a long commute every day to and from work, and as a single mom she found she didn’t have any time to spend meaningfully with her daughter or making room for her own creativity. She knew something was missing, but she wasn’t sure what, it was only when she made her “ideal schedule” and compared it with her current schedule that she realised a big change was needed!

We discuss how to deal with going against the society’s trend to buy more, do more, achieve more, how to be clear on what you want to prioritise in your life. We discuss the effect that decluttering, downsizing and doing less superfluous shopping had on Colleen’s life.

Minimalism and declutter doesn’t just apply to stuff, it can be used with how you spend your time: learning how and when to say “no” to people, the time you invest into certain thoughts or worries, and how you maximise the use of your time on a daily basis.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You are unbelievably busy and think you may need to shift your lifestyle rather than take another holiday (that feels like it never happened within a day of coming back).

Find it hard to say “No” to people without feeling guilty, or as if you are missing out.

Love the idea of simplifying your life so you can make more time for this things that really matter to you.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

02:45 Colleen’s long commute, long hours & being a single mom made her very stressed - no time for her daughter or her own creativity.

05:08 How to use your schedule in order to decide what is missing from your life [unique value point].

10:23 What to do when you go against society’s rule book in deciding what your idea of success looks.

11:03 Deciding what the centerpiece is of your life: maybe a job is just a job so that you can focus on that which brings you joy.

13:27 Decluttering, downsizing, less shopping and slowing down in order to focus on the things that really matter to you.

18:08 Marie Kondo, decluttering - getting rid of the things that you don’t need so you only keep that which brings you serenity and contently. How to set this process up to succeed [unique value point].

21:22 The effect of downsizing on relationships, and how it helps shift Colleen’s priorities.

25:44 How to say no in a way that won’t make you feel guilty [unique value point].

22:00 How creativity can feature more in your life when you slow down, particularly if you have children (it’s not what you think!).

31:10 The importance of being flexible with you life as it flows so you can keep going with your new slow lifestyle, plus it will take a lot of trial and error for what works for you (each person is different and has different needs).

33:53 How to maximising your time.

35:47 Being aware of the “why don’t you just” trap.

Key Take Homes

You may not know what exactly is missing, just THAT something is missing from your life. A good way to see the contrast is to make your ideal schedule hour by hour on an average day, and compare it to your current schedule hour by hour today. Where do the differences lie?

Slowing your lifestyle involves making time and space for the things that matter most to you. This could be a combination of cutting down on shopping, downsizing the things in your house, cutting out activities bring you joy, and saying “no” to people.

This process does not happen overnight. It is a process of trial and error and seeing what combination of changes work for you, and most importantly, doing something each and every day!

Curious Question

When you think about an important decision you have to make but can’t seem to make up your mind, project yourself into the future you who is looking back on life and ask yourself:
“Am I going to regret, or not regret [decision here]?

Resources:

Colleen’s Blog: Slow Simple Life

Colleen’s Kick-Start Guide to Your Authentic Life

Influencial Blogs:

Marie Kondo

Zen Habits

Zero Waste Home

Slow Your Home

Be More With Less

Thanks so much for reading and listening, until the next episode, take care of yourself.

Love,

Jen

Hello Curious Friends and welcome to Episode 10 of the Curiously You podcast!

Today’s episode is a fascinating deep dive into how it really looks to go through a spiritual awakening and come out the other side.

We are speaking with Intuitive Healer Stephanie Jameson, who sets the scene for us as a high stress, over-worked masculine driven woman. This lasted right up until she became sick and was forced to slow down and tune in to herself.

Childhood trauma and switching off feelings in order to get ahead meant that Stephanie’s awakening forced her to stop living for logic and start to tune into her feelings. How did this look? What hidden superpowers were coming to the fore of Stephanie’s life? How did she deal with the pain of change?

We discuss all these aspects of spiritual awakening, as well as the catalyst awakening, and the ‘dark night of the soul’, both of which are likely to occur when we start to tune into the blueprint of our heart, but ultimately serves to heal us.

Stephanie provides lots of great advice for perspective shift, small activities we can do to make the process easier, and start to live in our truth, build our self-worth and tune into the voice that already knows and is speaking to us from within.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You have been switched off from your heart and feelings for so long it’s starting to affect your health and well-being.

You are currently going through a major spiritual awakening and are finding it hard to process what is happening.

You want some kind words, support and guidance because you are going through a particularly tough time at the moment and want to know that everything will be ok.

Time-stamped Show Notes

03:02 Being under loads of stress, getting very ill and how intuition and noticing the small things kicked in as Stephanie slowed down.

07:48 Childhood trauma, always following logic, and turning off feelings. Stephanie’s spiritual awakening forces her to face these old shadows.

09:13 Our feelings are a direct connection to source.

10:38 The process of shutting down mind and listening to the heart means that Stephanie’s clairvoyance and clairaudience began to awaken + Stephanie’s catalyst awakening (someone or something that happens that helps us remember who we are).

15:03 Stephanie did not realise how psychic she was! The power of meditation and journalling in the spiritual awakening process.

18:16 How to understand and make sense of what we receive through our meditations and journaling, plus how to start attuning yourself to these signs every day.

22:12 Seeking guidance, opening our eyes and heart to what our deepest needs are - the process of surrendering.

24:52 Owning your truth, even when you are afraid of judgement - what that looks like when it happens, how to do it.

27:03 How Stephanie built her self worth, learned to listen to her heart, and the difference that made in her life.

30:47 Dealing with change in a way that’s not as difficult, and how our intuition is the blueprint for our growth in this life.

32:30 Everything that you never need is within, and why we always choose not to listen.

34:06 Dark night of the soul that happens during complete surrender - how feeling pain the key to our awakening.

35:51 Feel first, then act.

Key Take Homes

When we go through a true spiritual awakening we learn to switch off our logic and our mind and start to tune into the blueprint in our heart for the growth path we are destined for in this life, we can delay it, but we cannot stop it happening!

A spiritual awakening will mean that you work with the pain of change and learn to surrender to the process.

Stephanie’s favourite saying, “Faith, Trust, and a little angel dust!”

Resources

Stephanie’s website: Divine Soul Journey

Divine Love Meditation

Stephanie’s Recommended Books:

The Power of Now: A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Fight On by M H Clark (a simple affirmation book that Stephanie keeps on her desk and uses to keep her motivated, in Stephanie’s words, “it encourages you to trust yourself and surrender.”)

She… by Kobi Yamada (In Stephanie’s words, “another simple affirmation book that helps women remember how beautiful and special they really are.”)

Curious Question

Is there any situation that you are dealing with right now where you can use Stephanie’s advice (that she uses on her personal clients): Feel first, then act?

Let me know in the comments, or send me an email direct to [email protected].

Thanks so much for listening, and until the next episode, take care of yourself.

Much love,

Jen x

This episode is all about values and alignment. We are speaking with life coach and positive psychology practitioner Kelsey Joy about how to uncover what we truly value, and how to bring ourselves back into alignment with those values.

There are exercises a-plenty for you to try, Kelsey runs us through them all. We speak about how it’s not necessary to make massive life changes in order to start living by our values, rather, we can start to infuse the things we already to everyday with them, in this way we can start to feel in more control of our life, even if there are certain things we can’t change right now.

We discuss the importance of understanding your ‘why’ and always taking action by reference to your why, and how in seeking “purpose”, what we are *really* seeking is the most valuable use of our time.

We dive into fixed vs. growth mindset, and how you can very quickly move yourself from saying “I’ll never be able to do that”, to creatively coming up with ways that you can! We discuss how focussing on process rather than outcome is a great way to inspire us to action and self-belief.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You are feeling something is not quite right, and there is an inexplicable resistance in your life right now - it may well be your values are out of alignment.

You like the idea of integrating your values into things that you already do every day.

You have been thinking about going for something that you really want to do but keep telling yourself “I’ll never be able to do that”, or “that’s just not for me.”

Time-stamped Show Notes

4:02 The overwhelm, Kelsey’s destructive habits, and trying to have it all. The process of unlearning when life no longer feels right.

4:58 Resistance is because you values are out of alignment, and the misconception of what is needed to be happy.

7:24 3 simple exercises you can use to align yourself with your values [unique value point].

10:31 What exactly ARE values?

12:26 Living in alignment is like strengthening your muscles, plus what it *really* feels like when you are connecting with your values, and how to do it [unique value point].

15:43 How to put your life in your control by infusing your values into your everyday.

17:41 It takes time to build values-based living, so we must do it in a compassionate way.

19:21 The trap of doing constant personal development work, how constantly “trying to be a better person” actually makes you less happy.

21:56 Every action you take has a reason, whether you are aware of it or not.

22:58 Knowing that your why is connected to your values brings you back into alignment.

25:38 How everything comes down to love or fear, and how to flip a fearful mindset into a loving mindset quickly.

28:55 It’s not “what’s my purpose” it’s “what can I do with my time that’s important”.

33:36 The difference between fixed and growth mindset, which are you?

36:28 How to focus on process rather than outcome i.e. you worked hard vs you’re really smart.

38:37 The ONE THING you can tell yourself when you feel like you can’t do something to inspire you to take action [unique value point].

51:05 The importance of trying out different life coaches before you settle on one.

Key Take Homes

The times when we feel the least resistance in our lives, and when we feel most easeful, is when our thoughts, actions and behaviours are in alignment with our values.

Everything that you do can simplify down to love or fear, if you ask yourself “what would I be doing if I act out of love?” then you will bring yourself back into alignment with your authentic “why”.

It doesn’t take dramatic action in order to bring yourself back into alignment with your values. Understand your values then make small efforts every day to infuse the things you already do with them.

Resources

Via institute of character

Simon Sinek - Start With Why

Mark Manson

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown

You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

By Jen Sincero

The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

A List of Core Personal Values

Authenticity

Achievement

Adventure

Authority

Autonomy

Balance

Beauty

Boldness

Compassion

Challenge

Citizenship

Community

Competency

Contribution

Creativity

Curiosity

Determination

Fairness

Faith

Fame

Friendships

Fun

Growth

Happiness

Honesty

Humor

Influence

Inner Harmony

Justice

Kindness

Knowledge

Leadership

Learning

Love

Loyalty

Meaningful Work

Openness

Optimism

Peace

Pleasure

Poise

Popularity

Recognition

Religion

Reputation

Respect

Responsibility

Security

Self-Respect

Service

Spirituality

Stability

Success

Status

Trustworthiness

Wealth

Wisdom

Curious Question?

Above is a list of 50 common personal values. Using your gut reaction circle your top 10. Cut that top 10 in half, then cut it down again to 3.

What are your top 3 values, and how well aligned is your life to them?

Let us know in the comments, or send me an email directly ([email protected])

I hope you enjoyed this episode Curious Friends and, until the next episode, take care of yourself.

Much love,

Jen x

Hello Curious Friends and welcome to Episode 8 of the Curiously You Podcast!

I am speaking with Amanda Davies of Light Purpose Living about pursuing today the what you’ve dreamed for a lifetime of doing “one day”.

We use Amanda’s story of being in the high-flying corporate world, but becoming totally burned out, stressed and ill to following her dreams of running her own business from home.

In this episode we’ll be focussing on the feelings of guilt that come with deciding that the life that everyone else seems to lead is not for you, and what it really feels like to step beyond the people-pleasing that may have led us down a poorly aligned path.

How does it feel to make the decision to change? For the woman who is always in control, how does it feel to surrender and start being softly attuned to opportunities, rather than pushing for on-paper achievement all the time?

A whole array of emotions comes up when we journey through this change: frustration, jealousy, fear, guilt, disconnection. We speak about dealing with these emotions as they come up, taking action, and seeking out a community that will help you make your dreams of “one day”, today.

This episode is perfect for you if:

You are really scared of making a career change and are finding it hard to deal with all the emotions that come up when you think about it.

You tend to be super practical, efficient and organised, and find it difficult to let go of control, surrender, and be guided by your intuition (but you’d like to!)

You are independent and do things by yourself, but find it stressful that everything rests on your shoulders all the time.

Time-stamped show notes

Amanda was ambitious in her career and very successful on paper but she felt like she wasn’t following her true purpose - and felt guilty for feeling that way!

How feeling guilty originated in Amanda’s “good girl” belief that she needed to please others - success always looked very specific.

Stress caused Amanda poor health meaning her life “tick-list” went downhill - the job, home, career. It lead to her reassessing what she *really* wanted from life.

How making a change originates in a decision to change, plus making an energetic contract with the universe.

Total surrender and being on the look-out for opportunities, coincidences and synchronicities - how to do it when it feels completely alien to you [unique value point].

How to following the dreams now that you tell yourself you will do one day, and using jealousy and frustration of others who are already living your dream as fuel.

How to deal with the fear, ego, and guilt of feeling separated from your dreams, and how to close the gap.

Taking action in a non-threatening way, and using fear to propel you.

The power of community in following your dreams, plus accepting help when you always do things on your own. [unique value point]

How finding words that resonate with you will slowly help build a picture of the puzzle that you’re trying to figure out.

Doing research toward your dream (the practical) and doing visualisations, meditations and using your intuition (the magical).

Creative visualisation and how to do it.

How we’ve disowned the feminine intuitive and rooted side of ourselves.

The ongoing process of owning your voice when you are afraid or judgement and persecution from others - how to release fears in this area of our life.

Living AS IF you are already living your dream, and how small choices will lead you there over time.

Key Take Homes

If you want to create a change in your life, it all starts with the decision to change, surrendering to the fact that the way you have been doing things isn’t working any more, and keeping your eyes open and being attuned to opportunities, coincidences and synchronicities that cross your path.

The key ingredient to any change is seeking out the community who have already made the change you are looking to make, and starting to integrate them (and their teachings and energy) into your life.

Curious Question

Which community will you reach out to today that will bring you one step closer to you goal?

Episode 7 with Salema Veliu

Hello Curious Friends and Welcome to Episode 7 of the Curiously You podcast!

This episode with Salema Veliu, we dive into the power of our language in helping us break out of old mindsets and belief patterns, and the importance of permission and boundaries.

When we are in a rut and unable to change, we tend to use the same language over and over and over again to explain the issue we are struggling with. The language we use has the power to bring about drastic changes in the way we approach our life. We discuss how we can start to become aware of our habitual language patterns in order to change them.

Permission is the unspoken powerhouse in our life. We constantly seek it, and give it - to ourselves and others, but it’s not always explicitly discussed. We discuss how to we can cultivate the ability to give ourselves permission, in our actions, thoughts, emotions, and in expressing our wants and needs to others.

By extension of speaking about permission, we discuss boundaries, because permission only exists in this context because of the existence of boundaries. We discuss how to set boundaries for ourselves and in our relationships, and how our language influences the perceived boundaries we put in place, and the permissions we seek.

We speak about “The Happiness Trap”, how happiness is no longer useful in describing how we want to feel. We also discuss non-avoidance in experiencing our emotions, and the importance of honouring our sadness.

Salema dives into the idea of the “experiencing” and the “remembering” self, how in the modern world the two are often lumped together, but in reality they are both very different. Depending on which one we associate with, it can have a huge impact on our well-being.

You are going to love this episode if:

• You feel like there is an invisible force holding you back from making changes in your life that you simply can’t put your finger on.
• Struggle to assert yourself in your career, in a relationship, or in a friendship.
• Can’t shake that same old story you tell yourself about a particular problem, or the ‘type of person you are’.
• Find that you spend a lot of time thinking “about” your life, rather than living “in” it.

Time-stamped Show Notes

04:40 Choose our words in order to influence what we want and need from others.

07:06 Why people have a negative view of permission and boundaries, and how it starts with us.

11:42 How to assess our language to learn what our needs are and how the way we speak influences boundaries and permissions.

14:47 How to cultivate the ability to give ourselves permission and create contentment in each day.

16:24 The power of the word ‘how’. How is expansive and in using it we create permission for ourselves.

18:03 Building strength, stamina, resilience in the brain (not the mind). The importance of creating habits through repetition, which builds are neural connections.

26:43 What is it that you *really* want, not what is it that you *think* you want - how to know. [unique value point]

28:44 The importance of processing the negative thoughts and not avoiding what is uncomfortable through permission.

29:45 Cultural and social conditioning - it is implied that permission isn’t granted.

30:29 “The Happiness Trap”, why Salema doesn’t believe in the usefulness of the word “happy”, and giving ourselves permission to feel sad.

36:11 The confusion between experience and memory/the real and the illusory self: are you happy “in” your life vs. are you happy “about” your life? There is a massive difference between the two.

42:35 Practicing non-avoidance and regulating well-being by honouring the positive and the negative sides of the self. Dropping the struggle to be perfect and control everything.

50:23 Building our physical presence. How our body language gives and holds back permission.

55:39 Putting self-boundaries in place, and how boundaries are essential for permission.

58:55 How language and words help other people understand your boundaries, and how when we are silent the issue remains unresolved in our mind.

01:04:11 Three golden questions that Salema uses on her coaching clients that you can use on yourself [unique value point]

Key Take Homes

Permission starts with us. We cannot expect to make changes unless we give ourselves permission to do so.

Our language is powerful. When we start to shift the language we use to describe our problems and/or our character, we start to change the neural connections in our brain and make real lasting changes for ourselves.

Practicing non-avoidance and honouring both the positive and negative sides of the self will help us drop the struggle for perfection and control.

Resources

Salema Veliu’s website

http://www.drdansiegel.com/

https://www.triyoga.co.uk/chelsea-2

http://jonathanbricker.com/

Susan David Emotional Agility

Presence: How To Use Positive Energy For Success In Every Situation by Patsy Rodenburg

The Happiness Trap by Brian Johnson

Curious Questions

I loved Salema’s three golden questions. Thinking about your main current struggle:

What COULD you do?

What CAN you do?

What WILL you do?

Go ahead and let me know in the comments, or send me an email directly!

Thanks so much for listening and, until the next episode, take care of yourself.

Much love,

Jen xx