Dad Tired

 In this episode, Chris Hilken shares a powerful exercise every dad can try. 

Here are the 7 Questions:

Projected Value: What do you think is most important to me? 

Intended Value: If I could wish for one thing for you, what do you think it would be?

Perceived Value: What do you think I love the most about you?

Interpreted Value: What are ways that I show you love that mean the most to you?

Expected Value: What are ways that I could show you better that I love you?

Rejected Value: What’s one thing that I have done that you will do differently as a parent?

Respected Value: What’s one thing that I have done that you will do as a parent?

Episode Resources:

1. Range Leather (15% off): rangeleather.com/dadtired — Code: DADTIRED
2. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
3. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
4. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate
5. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with filmmakers and ministry leaders Alex and Stephen Kendrick. They share how their father broke a cycle of brokenness and showed them how to lead with faith. The Kendricks talk about the heart behind their new film The Forge, why real discipleship is rare, and what it actually looks like in daily life.

 What You’ll hear:
• Why fatherhood and discipleship go hand in hand
• How one man’s faith can change a family tree
• What they learned about manhood while making The Forge
• Why real discipleship is about imitation, not just instruction
• How to start discipling even if you don’t feel ready
• What happens when men choose comfort over calling

Tune in to hear why the next generation is waiting for men who will show them how to follow Jesus — not just talk about it.

Episode Resources:

1. Watch the trailer and get updates: theforgemovie.com
2. Read the book: The Resolution for Men by Stephen and Alex Kendrick
3. Learn more about their films: kendrickbrothers.com
4. Watch War Room, Courageous, Overcomer, and Facing the Giants
5. Dwell Bible App (25% off): dwellbible.com/dadtired
6. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
7. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
8. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
9. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate

Jon Tyson joins Jerrad to talk about the hidden battles Christian men face. They discuss themes from Jon’s new book Fighting Shadows, including shame, lust, apathy, and loneliness. Jon shares how Satan uses these shadows to keep men stuck in isolation and defeat. This is a call to step out of the dark and live with  purpose, and brotherhood.

What You’ll hear:
• Why most men are battling shame and isolation
• How apathy and ambition often feed each other
• What real healing from lust looks like
• Why confession and community are essential
• How to build a life that fights for truth and light
• What Jesus offers when the shadows feel overwhelming

Tune in to name what’s holding you back and step into the light with courage.

Episode Resources:

1. Book: Fighting Shadows by Jon Tyson and Jefferson Bethke
2. Learn more at: formingmen.com
3. Watch: The Work documentary (featured in this episode)
4. Read: The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson
5. Join a Men’s Group: https://www.dadtired.com/groups
6. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
7. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
8. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with someone he never expected to share the mic with — his dad. For the first time, they talk openly about their strained relationship, what absence did to both of them, and how forgiveness and healing began. This is not a teaching. It’s a real conversation. A son and father working through decades of hurt, regret, and love.

What You’ll Hear:
• What father absence really does to a boy
• How unspoken pain shows up in marriage and parenting
• Why honest conversation can open the door to healing
• What changed when Jerrad forgave his father
• How God used brokenness to birth Dad Tired
• Why it’s never too late to reconcile

Tune in to hear what grace sounds like when it moves from theory to real life.

Episode Resources:

1. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
2. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
3. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate
4. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
5. Learn more about WinShape Camps: winshapecamps.org

In this episode, Jerrad talks with Natalie Abbott and Vera Schmitz, the co-founders of Dwell, about parenting, anxiety, and what happens when the Word of God becomes your lifeline. They share how Scripture memory moved from a discipline to a daily rescue, especially in seasons of doubt, fear, and deep need.

What You’ll hear:
• Why kids need more than protection — they need truth
• What happens when performance becomes your identity
• How Scripture speaks when anxiety gets loud
• Why silence often reveals what's really in your heart
• How Dwell began after Olympic dreams faded
• Why parents must fill themselves with truth to lead well

Tune in to see why the Word of God is essential.

Episode Resources:

1. Dwell Scripture Memory Tools: dwelldifferently.com
2. Free downloads for Dad Tired listeners: dwelldifferently.com/dadtired
3. Book: He Is: A Devotional Guide to the Attributes of God (by Natalie & Vera)
4. Podcast: Dwell Differently Podcast
5. CSB Men’s Daily Bible (50% off): lifeway.com — Code: MDB50
6. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
7. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
8. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate

In this episode, Jerrad is joined by Chris and Kaleb to answer questions submitted by listeners. From God’s view on divorce to judgment day and denominational confusion, they take on topics that matter deeply but are rarely discussed with honesty. They also tackle the tension in marriage when one spouse feels “touched out,” and how respect, sex, and spiritual leadership all intersect.

What You’ll hear:
• What the Bible says about final judgment
• Whether God ever prompts divorce
• How to think about denominations and unity in the Church
• What assurance of salvation looks like
• How wives can support husbands when they feel empty
• Why physical intimacy in marriage often needs intentionality

Tune in to hear honest, pastoral answers to questions many christian men and women are quietly wrestling with.

Episode Resources:

1. Submit your own question: Call 503-877-3836
2. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
3. WinShape Camps for kids and families: winshapecamps.org
4. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
5. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
6. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate

In this episode, Jerrad shares a personal story that started with a haircut and ended in conviction. What began as a lighthearted moment with his son turned into a  reflection on anger, joy, and what kind of father he’s becoming. It’s about  how our family feels the weight of what we carry.

What You’ll  Hear:
• Why joy is a fruit, not a feeling
• How sin, stress, and selfishness rob your joy
• Why joy matters more than you think in fatherhood
• What your kids learn when they see your serious side
• Why spending time with Jesus resets your soul
• How to give your family the joyful version of you

Tune in to find joy again, even in the mess of normal, everyday parenting.

Episode Resources:

1. WinShape Camps: winshapecamps.org
2. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
3. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate
4. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
5. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com

Joey Odom, co-founder of RO, joins Jerrad to talk about how smartphones are quietly changing homes. He shares his own story of missing his son’s first goal while looking down at his phone , and how that moment changed everything. They talk about addiction, distraction, and why putting down your phone might be the most important thing you do as a dad.

What You’ll hear:
• How phones are affecting your kids in ways you don’t see
• Why you have a relationship with your phone  and how to change it
• The hidden cost of being constantly connected
• How habits, not willpower, shape your leadership
• Four simple ways to be more present with your family
• Why noticing your kids may be the key to connection

Tune in to reflect on your daily habits and reclaim the attention your family is craving.

Episode Resources:

1. Get RO: https://www.goro.com
2. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
3. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
4. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
5. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate
6. Podcasting Course: https://www.podtofinish.com

Ben Roethlisberger joins Jerrad Lopes to talk about parenting, marriage, and identity.  Ben Roethlisberger is a two-time Super Bowl champion and former quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers. He shares what it’s been like to go from the field to full-time dad. They talk about discipline, presence, and how to lead your home.

What You’ll hear:
• Why your kids need consistency more than perfection
• How Ben is learning to listen, not just lead
• What he’s discovered about slowing down after the NFL
• Why respect and tenderness can go hand in hand
• How bedtime reveals the heart of your parenting

Tune in to hear how a championship mindset changes when your greatest job is at home.

Episode Resources:

1. Dwell Bible App (25% off): https://www.dwellbible.com/dadtired
2. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
3. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
4. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
5. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate
6. . Shop Dad Tired Coffee (by LC Coffee): https://shop.dadtired.com

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Bobby Cooley, pastor and co-founder of Empowered Homes.  They talk about father wounds, identity, and what every man needed to hear growing up. Bobby shares his story of abuse, neglect, and redemption. They also discuss how your view of God is shaped by your dad, what to do with the pain you carry, and how to stop passing it on.

What You’ll hear:
• Why many men don’t realize they’re still hurting
• How father wounds show up in marriage and parenting
• What healing can look like when you name the wound
• Why identity must come from God, not your past
• How to offer what you never received
• What it means to be fathered by God

Tune in learn how you can find the freedom to lead with grace.

Episode Resources:

1. Visit: empoweredhomes.org
2. Book: Fathered by God by John Eldredge
3. Documentary: The Work (Group therapy in Folsom Prison)
4. Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
5. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com
6. Join the Dad Tired Retreat: https://www.dadtired.com/retreat
7. Support the ministry: https://www.dadtired.com/donate