The Halacha below was derived from multiple classes orated by Rabbi Eli Mansour in the Bekiim B'Halacha series. Click on any of the dates below to hear the original audio files, which are the sources for today's Halacha below. 04/07/25 ; 04/08/25 ; 04/09/25 ; 05/06/25 ; 05/08/25 May Another Person Help Put Tefillin On You—And Who Qualifies to Do So? The act of putting on Tefillin is a personal Misva that requires intention, precision, and sanctity. But what happens when a person cannot do it themselves? May another person assist? And are there restrictions on who is allowed to help—such as a woman, child, or even a non-Jew? This Halacha explores the boundaries of assistance, the impact on kavana and the Beracha, and the situations where help becomes a necessity. Is a Person Allowed to Receive Help Putting On Tefillin? Yes. A person may receive help putting on Tefillin, especially when needed due to age, injury, or inexperience. Ideally, a man should put on his own Tefillin to perform the Misva personally, but Halacha allows for assistance when necessary. The Misva lies in the placement and binding of the Tefillin onto the body. As long as the wearer has the proper intention (kavana) and recites the Beracha, the Misva is fulfilled—even if another person places or wraps the Tefillin. This applies both to the Shel Yad (on the arm) and the Shel Rosh (on the head). Help may be given with positioning, adjusting, or tightening—especially if the wearer cannot reach, does not know how, or is worried about doing it incorrectly. Does the One Assisting Need to Have Kavana? No. The kavana that matters is that of the person wearing the Tefillin, not the one providing assistance. The helper does not need to have in mind that a Misva is being done. The individual receiving the Tefillin is the one performing the commandment, even if someone else does the physical action. Therefore, one can fulfill the Misva even if the helper is not religious, does not know the laws, or is not thinking about the Misva. Can a Woman Help Someone Put On Tefillin? Yes. A woman may assist someone with putting on Tefillin. Since the woman is not fulfilling the Misva for herself, but simply helping position the Tefillin on another, there is no issue. This applies to mothers helping sons, nurses helping patients, or even a bystander helping a man with limited mobility. As long as the person wearing the Tefillin recites the Beracha and intends to perform the Misva, the placement by a woman is Halachically acceptable. Some might wonder whether the woman should wear gloves or avoid contact, but Halacha does not require this. Modesty and appropriateness should always be observed, but the assistance itself is permitted. Can a Child Assist an Adult? If the child is old enough to understand how to properly place the Tefillin, and is respectful and calm, he may help. However, ideally, the Tefillin should be placed by an adult, since a child may lack the strength, precision, or awareness needed. Still, in the absence of alternatives—for example, if a young son is helping his elderly father—it is acceptable. May a Non-Jew Help Someone Put On Tefillin? Surprisingly, yes. A non-Jew may assist in the physical placement of the Tefillin—provided that: - The person wearing the Tefillin recites the Beracha - The non-Jew does not interfere with kavana or Beracha - The Tefillin are placed correctly and securely This is relevant in cases of hospital care, where nurses or aides who are not Jewish help position the straps or box. The non-Jew is not fulfilling the Misva, and the Halachic responsibility lies entirely with the person wearing them. However, it is crucial to ensure the Tefillin are not handled disrespectfully, and that the placement is correct. If the non-Jew does not know how to handle them properly, one should avoid asking for help unless truly necessary. What If the Wearer Cannot Wrap the Strap Themselves? If a person cannot wrap the retzuot due to paralysis, amputation, weakness, or other physical limitation, another person may wrap the Tefillin for them. As long as the Bayit is placed properly and the intention and Beracha are performed by the wearer, the Misva is fulfilled. It is best for the wearer to be involved to the extent they can—such as holding the box in place, tightening the strap, or reciting the Beracha before assistance begins. If none of that is possible—for example, a fully paralyzed individual—the helper may do everything, and the person fulfills the Misva mentally, with kavana in the heart. Can the Helper Speak or Interrupt During the Process? While helping another person put on Tefillin, it is best not to speak during the process—from the time of the Beracha on the Shel Yad until after the Shel Rosh is secured. Just like when putting on one's own Tefillin, interruptions are discouraged, unless for a Misva or necessary communication. The helper should be mindful and respectful, preserving the sanctity of the moment. Summary - A person may receive help putting on Tefillin if needed. - The Beracha and kavana must come from the person wearing the Tefillin—not the helper. - A woman, child, or non-Jew may assist if done respectfully and correctly. - The helper does not need to have kavana to fulfill the Misva. - The wearer should be involved as much as possible, even minimally. - Speaking or interrupting during the process should be avoided unless necessary.