Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that if a person needs to undergo surgery during the Nine Days (from Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab), and the procedure could be delayed until after Tisha B'Ab without endangering his health, then he should postpone the operation so as not to have it done during the Nine Days, which is an inauspicious time. Although it is customary not to make weddings during the three-week period from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab, it is permissible to get engaged during this period, and even during the Nine Days – and even on Tisha B'Ab itself. One may also host an event to celebrate the engagement, though without a festive meal. If a couple is getting married after Tisha B'Ab, wedding-related purchases may not be made during the Nine Days. These include clothes and other items for the wedding, as well as furniture and utensils for the couple's home. If, however, there will not be enough time after Tisha B'Ab to make the necessary purchases, or if the products might not be available after Tisha B'Ab, and the groom has yet to fulfill the Misva of Periya Ve'ribya (procreation) – and thus the wedding should not be delayed – then the purchases may be made during the Nine Days. One should not have his house painted or redecorated during the Nine Days. Work that is necessary for basic living – such as repairing plumbing, doors or windows – is allowed, but work that merely enhances the home, such as painting, wallpaper and carpeting, should not be done during this period. It goes without saying that building luxury items such as a tennis court or swimming pool may not take place during the Nine Days. In a synagogue, however, even work to enhance the building is permitted during the Nine Days, as it is a Misva to glorify the house of prayer. If a Jewish painter has no other source of income, and if he does not work during the Nine Days he will have no money for his basic necessities, then according to some Poskim – including Hacham Ovadia Yosef – he may be allowed to work during this period. If a Jewish painter was unable to complete before Rosh Hodesh Ab a job for which he was hired, and he if does not complete it during the Nine Days he would suffer a financial loss – as he has other jobs lined up for after Tisha B'Ab – there may be room to allow him to finish the painting work during the Nine Days. In such a case, a competent Posek should be consulted for guidance. If one hired a non-Jewish painter, and he wishes to continue working during the Nine Days so he can complete the job, the Jewish customer should try to convince him to agree to postpone the work until after Tisha B'Ab, even if this entails paying some compensation. If the painter cannot be convinced, then he may be allowed to complete the work during the Nine Days. The Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909) brings from an earlier source that one should not purchase wood during the Nine Days, in commemoration of the loss of the "Aseh Ha'ma'aracha" – the firewood on the altar in the Bet Ha'mikdash. Since we mourn in this period the destruction of the Bet Ha'mikdash, and the loss of the ability to offer sacrifices on the altar, it is appropriate to refrain from purchasing wood. Hacham Ovadia Yosef writes that according to this explanation of the custom, it applies only to the purchase of firewood, since it commemorates the loss of the firewood on the altar. However, Hacham Abdullah Somech (Baghdad, 1813-1889), in his Zibheh Sedek, writes that one should refrain from purchasing firewood during this period because we lost on Tisha B'Ab the building of the Bet Ha'mikdash, which was made from wood. According to this reason, purchasing wood even for building purposes should be forbidden. Hacham Ovadia Yosef concludes that since the Ben Ish Hai did not mention the reason given by Hacham Abdullah, it seems that it was not accepted. Therefore, although one may not purchase firewood during the Nine Days (such as if he wishes already then to prepare for the winter), he may purchase wood for construction purposes, or to build furniture, if he is planning to build after Tisha B'Ab. Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that in Israel, contractors who build homes with the intent of selling them for a profit may continue their work during the Nine Days, due to the housing shortage in Israel. Generally, one should not build during the Nine Days for the purpose of earning a profit, but Hacham Ovadia felt that given the urgent need for more homes in Eretz Yisrael, construction on residential buildings should not be suspended during the Nine Days. Rav Yisrael Bitan clarified that although Hacham Ovadia wrote this in the early years of the State of Israel, when the country saw a very large influx of immigrants, creating a dire housing shortage, this is true even today, when, thank G-d, many new couples are marrying and need homes. On Tisha B'Ab itself, however, the work should be discontinued. One whose new home becomes ready during the Nine Days may move in, assuming that this is his primary residence into which he is moving to more comfortably accommodate his family, and he is not moving for luxury purposes. He may even host a Hanukat Ha'bayit celebration during the Nine Days after moving in– and he in fact should do so rather than delay the celebration. Although it is customary to conduct the Hanukat Ha'bayit within a year of moving into a new home, it is nevertheless preferable to have the event as soon as possible, and so one who moves into a new home during the Nine Days should host the Hanukat Ha'bayit immediately. Light refreshments may be served at the event, but music may not be played. Normally, when hosting a Hanukat Ha'bayit, the homeowner wears a new garment and recites the Beracha of "She'hehiyanu." When the event is held during the Nine Days, one should wear the new garment and recite "She'hehiyanu" after Tisha B'Ab, as it is customary not to recite this Beracha during the Three Weeks. One should not purchase fine jewelry during the Nine Days. Nevertheless, a jeweler may continue operating his business during the Nine Days. Since people purchase jewelry more frequently nowadays than in the past, such purchases do not bring special joy as they used to, and so there is room to be lenient for somebody who earns a livelihood from selling jewelry. One may purchase a new car during the Nine Days if he needs it for his livelihood. If, however, he wishes to buy a new car as a luxury, not as a necessity, then he should wait until after Tisha B'Ab, unless the car will cost more money if he delays. It would seem that there is no distinction between buying and leasing in this regard. One may purchase new Torah books during the Nine Days, and if he needs more space for the new books, he may buy new bookshelves. In general, one may purchase furniture that is needed for basic living, but not furniture that is needed for luxury purposes. One may buy simple clothing, such as socks, but one may not buy more significant garments, such as a suit. However, this is permissible if the price will be significantly higher after Tisha B'Av. One may buy material during the Nine Days to be used for making clothing after Tisha B'Ab.

The Gemara in Masechet Ta'anit (29b) states that if a Jew has a court case against a gentile, he should try to avoid scheduling the case for the month of Ab, which is a time when our nation's "Mazal" ("luck") is compromised. He should instead try to schedule the hearing for the joyous month of Adar, which is a time of good "Mazal" for the Jewish Nation. A number of commentators raised the question of how to reconcile this teaching with the rule famously established by the Gemara elsewhere, in Masechet Shabbat (156a), "En Mazal Le'Yisrael" – the Jewish Nation is not governed by the forces of "Mazal" that affect the rest of the world. If, indeed, three is no such thing as "Mazal" as far as Am Yisrael is concerned, then why are we told that we have good "Mazal" during Adar and poor "Mazal" during Ab? The Ritba (Rav Yom Tob of Seville, Spain, 1250-1330) answers that Adar and Ab are exceptions to the rule. Although the Jewish Nation is generally not subject to the forces of "Mazal," Hashem decreed that these influences indeed affect us during these two months. Alternatively, the Ritba suggests, the Jewish People are indeed not influenced at all by "Mazal" at any time, and the Gemara in Ta'anit borrows the term "Mazal" to refer to Hashem's governance of His nation during the months of Adar and Ab. During Adar, He deals with us more graciously and compassionately, whereas in Ab, He deals with us more strictly and exactingly, and this is the Gemara's intent when it speaks of the "Mazal" during these months. A different answer was offered in light of Tosafot's comments to the Gemara's teaching "En Mazal Le'Yisrael." Tosafot explain that indeed, we, like all people on earth, are subject to the powers of "Mazal," but we have the ability to negate these forces through the merits of our Misvot. Accordingly, the Gemara in Maseches Ta'anit might be understood to mean that we require additional merits to overcome the harsh "Mazal" of the month of Ab. We are never helplessly at the mercy of "Mazal," as we always have the ability to earn Hashem's favor through out merits irrespective of our "Mazal," but during the month of Ab this is somewhat more difficult. In conclusion, it is worth noting the Gemara's startling comment in Masechet Mo'ed Katan (28a) that a person's lifespan, his ability to beget children, and his livelihood depend not on his merits, but rather on "Mazal." This seems to explicitly contradict the aforementioned rule of "En Mazal Le'Yisrael." In truth, however, Rav Menahem Meiri (Provence, 1249-1315) comments that the Gemara's statement in Mo'ed Katan reflects a minority view among the Sages, and has been resoundingly rejected. Therefore, the Meiri writes, one should never cease praying for everything he needs and wants, because our merits and G-d's mercy can overcome any "Mazal." Hacham Ovadia Yosef noted that the Rambam similarly followed this view, firmly stating that we are not affected at all by the forces of astrology. This is the position taken by many other Rabbis, as well. Until when specifically should a person delay his court hearing? The Magen Abraham (Rav Abraham Gombiner, Poland, 1635-1682) writes (551:1) in the name of Rabbenu Yeruham (Provence, 1290-1350) that one should delay the hearing until the onset of the month of Elul. According to this view, the inauspicious quality of the month of Ab extends throughout the entire month. By contrast, Rav Levi Yitzhak of Berditchev (1740-1809), in his work Kedushat Levi (Parashat Va'et'hanan) writes that the Gemara refers only to the first half of the month. Starting from the 15 th of Ab – Tu B'Av, which is a festive day – the remainder of the month is not considered inauspicious. Accordingly, some have ruled that already from Tu B'Ab there is no concern going to court. An allusion to this concept is the configuration of the divine Name associated with this month. The Kabbalists teach that the four letters that comprise the Name of "Havaya" (spelled Yod, Heh, Vav and Heh) can be arranged in twelve different sequences, and each sequence is associated with a different month. The month of Tammuz is associated with the reverse spelling – Heh, Vav, Heh and Yod – and this month is thus a month of calamity. The month of Ab is associated with the spelling Heh, Vav, Yod and Heh – with the first two letters reversed, and the second two letters in proper sequence. This alludes to the fact that the first half of the month of Ab is one of misfortune and tragedy, but the second half – starting from Tu B'Ab – is joyous. Hacham Ovadia Yosef, in Hazon Ovadia (p. 166), follows a third view, based on a passage in the Zohar (Yitro, 78b) stating that Esav took control of the month of Tammuz and the first nine days of the month of Ab. According to the Zohar, it seems, it is only through Tisha B'Ab that one should avoid a court hearing against a gentile, but already from the 10 th of Ab there is no concern. This is, indeed, the view of the Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909), in Parashat Debarim, 1). Summary: The Gemara teaches that a person who has a court case against a gentile should try to avoid scheduling the hearing for the month of Ab, which is a time of bad "Mazal." The commentators clarified that this does not mean we are helplessly subject to the forces of astrology and the like. We are always able to earn G-d's favor and compassion through prayer and good deeds, but in the month of Ab He deals with us somewhat more harshly, making it more difficult to earn His kindness. Different views exist as to when specifically one should avoid going to court. Hacham Ovadia Yosef rules that the concern is only through Tisha B'Ab; starting already on the 10 th of the Ab, one may go to court without any worry.

Generally speaking, the restrictions observed during the three-week period of Ben Ha'mesarim – from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab – apply equally to both and women. The question was asked regarding an unmarried girl who would like to take a haircut before going on a date, or an engaged girl who wishes to take a haircut before spending time with her fiancé. Ashkenazic practice is to refrain from haircutting through the Three Weeks, and Sephardic practice is to refrain from doing so from Shabbat Hazon (the Shabbat immediately preceding Tisha B'Ab). Is there room to permit a girl to take a haircut during the Three Weeks or the Nine Days if she finds this necessary for purposes of courtship, or for her fiancé? When it comes to a female mourner, the Shulhan Aruch (Y.D. 390:5) rules that a woman in mourning for an immediate family member may take a haircut already after the seven-day Shiba period, whereas the Rama, whose rulings are followed by Ashkenazim, forbids haircutting even for women until after the thirty-day Sheloshim period. Accordingly, Hacham Ovadia Yosef ruled that a Sephardic girl who wishes to cut her hair may do so, even after Shabbat Hazon, since the restrictions of Ben Ha'mesarim are treated more leniently than the laws of mourning. Moreover, it seems clear from Hacham Ovadia's rulings that any Sephardic woman who feels the need to cut her hair, for any reason, may do so, even after Shabbat Hazon. An example would be a woman who needs to immerse in a Mikveh and wishes to cut her hair to make the preparations for her immersion easier. As for Ashkenazic girls, Hacham Ovadia ruled that they may, if necessary, cut their hair until Shabbat Hazon. Although Ashkenazic practice forbids a female mourner from haircutting during Sheloshim, the laws of the Three Weeks are observed only by force of custom, and not as strict Halacha, and so there is greater room for leniency. After Shabbat Hazon, however, an Ashkenazic girl should not take a haircut. Hacham Ovadia showed that this is the position also of Rav Moshe Feinstein (1895-1986) and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (1910-1995). Summary: Ashkenazim refrain from haircutting during the three weeks from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab. An Ashkenazic girl who wishes to cut her hair for a date, or an engaged Ashkenazic girl who wishes to take a haircut so she looks good for her fiancé, may do so until Shabbat Hazon (the Shabbat preceding Tisha B'Ab). Sepharadim refrain from haircutting from Shabbat Hazon through Tisha B'Ab, but a Sephardic woman who feels a need to take a haircut for any reason during this week may do so.

The custom among Ashkenazim is to refrain from shaving and haircutting throughout the three-week period of Ben Ha'mesarim, from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab. Sepharadim, by contrast, observe this practice only during the week of Tisha B'Ab, from the Shabbat immediately preceding Tisha B'Ab until the 10 th of Ab. If a Sephardic boy is studying in an Ashkenazic yeshiva, where the majority of the students are refraining from shaving and haircutting already from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz, he is nevertheless allowed to shave and take a haircut, until the week of Tisha B'Ab. However, it is preferable that he avoid doing so in order not to stand out. Hacham Ovadia Yosef writes about one who is stringent in this regard, "Tabo Alav Beracha" – he is worthy of special blessing. If a Sephardic student in an Ashkenazic institution has been accustomed to acting stringently, refraining from shaving and haircutting already from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz, and now wishes to change his practice, he may perform Hatarat Nedarim (the annulment of vows). His acceptance of this practice constitutes a "vow," assuming he never explicitly said that he was taking on this practice "Beli Neder" – without making a formal vow. Thus, if he wishes to change his practice so he can shave or take a haircut during the Three Weeks (until the week of Tisha B'Ab), he should conduct Hatarat Nedarim in front of a Bet Din to have his commitment annulled. However, Hatarat Nedarim is required only if the student knew that this stringency was not strictly required by Halacha, and he had followed this practice as an additional measure of piety. If, however, he mistakenly thought that he must refrain from shaving and haircutting already from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz, and he then learned that this is not required, then he may drop this stringent practice even without Hatarat Nedarim. Since this "vow" was taken on a faulty premise, as he erroneously assumed that Halacha requires him to refrain from shaving and haircutting, the "vow" is not binding, and he may therefore change his practice even without annulling his vow. Summary: Sephardic practice is to refrain from shaving and haircutting during the week of Tisha B'Ab. A Sephardic student studying in an institution where the majority of students are Ashkenazim – who refrain from shaving and haircutting already from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz – may shave and take a haircut until the week of Tisha B'Ab, even though the other students refrain from doing so. Nevertheless, it is preferable him to refrain in deference to the Ashkenazic students. If he had observed this stringency and now wishes to act leniently, he may perform Hatarat Nedarim. If he had observed this stringency because he mistakenly thought it was Halachically required, then he does not need Hatarat Nedarim.

The Midrash Shoher Tob (Tehillim 91) speaks about a dangerous "demon" called "Keteb Meriri" that is covered with scales and hair, has eyeballs all over its body, and sees from the eye situated on its chest. It generally resides in areas that are partly sunny and partly shady, and moves by rolling like a ball. Anyone who comes near this demon, the Midrash comments, exposes himself to great danger. The Midrash in fact relates that there were schoolchildren who suffered harm as a result of "Keteb Meriri." It is specifically during the three weeks of between Shiba Asar Be'Tamuz and Tisha B'Ab, the Midrash teaches, that this harmful spirit surfaces and poses danger. It is very uncharacteristic for the Shulhan Aruch, which was written as a strictly Halachic code, to include Kabbalistic concepts in presenting Halachic guidelines. Yet, the Shulhan Aruch indeed writes that during the three weeks one should not go outdoors to partially shady areas between the fourth and ninth hours (referring to Halachic hours) of the day, when this demon is most threatening. He adds that during this period, parents should make a point not to hit their children, and teachers should likewise refrain from smacking students, in order to avoid risks. The Midrash tells the story of Rabbi Abahu who saw a teacher with a branch ready to hit an unruly student. Rabbi Abahu sharply condemned the teacher, noting that "Keteb Meriri" was standing right behind him with an iron rod, ready to strike. This story shows the dangers of administering any type of corporal punishment during this period, when we are exposed to the dangers of "Keteb Meriri." The Aruch Ha'shulhan (work by Rabbi Yehiel Michel Epstein, Byelorussia, 1829-1908) cites authorities who limit this Halacha to uninhabited areas, such as forests and the like. Inside a city, however, the presence of many people, as well as the presence of Mezuzot on the doorposts, offers a degree of protection from this harmful spirit. On one level, this restriction essentially renders this Halacha practically irrelevant nowadays, when we usually spend our time in towns, cities and other inhabited areas. Nevertheless, this Halacha demonstrates the importance of avoiding danger during this three-week period and keeping a "low profile," as this period is particularly suited for mishaps and calamity, Heaven forbid. It is therefore advisable to remain in safe, secure quarters during the three weeks, especially between the fourth and ninth hours of the day. Summary: It is advisable to avoid desolate, outdoor areas between the fourth and ninth hours of the day (as defined by Halacha) during the three weeks between Shiba Asar Be'Tamuz and Tisha B'Ab. More generally, it is proper to avoid all dangerous situations during this period, which is a particularly inauspicious time for the Jewish people.

Is it permissible to swim in a pool or in the ocean during the Three Weeks, the period from Shiba Asar Be'Tammuz through Tisha B'Ab? According to the practice of the Sepharadim, it is permissible to swim – both in a pool and in the ocean – during the Three Weeks, and even after Rosh Hodesh Ab. The prohibition against swimming begins only during the week of Tisha B'Ab, meaning, from after the Shabbat that immediately precedes Tisha B'Ab, until after Tisha B'Ab day. Just as bathing is forbidden during the week of Tisha B'Ab, swimming is similarly forbidden. This is the ruling of Hacham Ben Sion Abba Shaul (Israel, 1923-1998). There are some authorities who forbid swimming already from Rosh Hodesh Ab. The practice in our community, however, appears to follow the lenient position, that allows swimming until the week of Tisha B'Ab. Summary: It is permissible to swim during the Three Weeks, except during the week of Tisha B'Ab, meaning, from after the Shabbat that immediately precedes Tisha B'Ab, until after Tisha B'Ab day.

One of the customs which we observe during the Nine Days – from Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab – is to refrain from meat. The Mishna establishes that eating meat is forbidden only during the Se'uda Mafseket – the final meal before Tisha B'Ab – but the custom was accepted to refrain from meat throughout the period of the Nine Days (except, of course, on Shabbat). A number of companies today sell synthetic meat – products made from soy or other ingredients but resemble meat, and are eaten as meat substitutes. Are such products permissible for consumption during the Nine Days? Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Jerusalem, 1924-1998) writes that although the concept of Mar'it Ha'ayin – avoiding actions which appear as Halachic violations – forbids eating something which appears prohibited, this rule does not apply to something which is forbidden only by force of Minhag (accepted custom). When something is forbidden by the strict Halacha, then we must be concerned about Mar'it Ha'ayin, but not when it is forbidden only on the level of Minhag. Therefore, Hacham Bension writes, it is permissible during the Nine Days to eat vegetarian products which resemble meat, but during the Se'uda Mafseket, when meat is forbidden on the level of strict Halacha, it may be eaten only privately, but not in public view. Summary: Synthetic meat products – meaning, products which resemble meat but are made from soy or other ingredients – may be eaten during the Nine Days. However, during the Se'uda Mafseket right before Tisha B'Ab, such products may be eaten only in private, but not in a public setting.

This Halacha was developed from multiple transcriptions of Rabbi Eli Mansour's lectures in the "Beki'im BaHalacha" series. The original audio recordings for this Halacha were delivered on the following dates and can be accessed here: 06-24-25 Audio File ; 06-25-25 Audio File ; 06-26-25 Audio File ; 06-29-25 Audio File The Three Weeks , spanning from Shiba Asar BeTammuz (the 17th of Tammuz) through Tisha B'Av , is a time designated for national mourning over the tragedies that befell Am Yisrael throughout history—most notably the destruction of both Bateh Mikdash. Our Sages instituted a number of customs and halachot during this period to reduce our joy and help us internalize the gravity of the losses. While the Nine Days and week of Tisha B'Av carry stricter restrictions, even from the start of the Three Weeks, there are behaviors and activities that should be avoided due to their association with excessive joy, lightheartedness, or distraction from mourning. Entertainment and Recreational Outings The Rambam writes (Hilchot Ta'aniyot 5:1) that the proper response to communal suffering is to reflect and act—not to carry on with business as usual. For this reason, it is customary to avoid outings and events that are designed purely for fun or celebration . This includes: Attending concerts, comedy shows, musical performances, or theater productions Going to amusement parks, carnivals, bowling alleys, or arcades Group activities or trips organized for entertainment and leisure Recreational barbecues, parties, or similar festive gatherings The She'elat Ya'abets and Ben Ish Hai (Parashat Devarim) both emphasize avoiding such joyous outings during this period. Rav Moshe Feinstein (Iggerot Moshe, O.C. vol. 3, siman 87) also addressed recreational gatherings and ruled that they should be avoided even when music is not involved. Sports and Physical Activity Recreational sports are another category of concern. While physical activity for health is permitted, engaging in sports for fun—especially if competitive and emotionally charged—should be avoided. Casual jogging or gym workouts for health reasons are permitted . Joining in competitive team sports, tournaments, or pickup games, especially those that attract crowds or bring heightened excitement, are discouraged . Swimming for fitness may be permitted during the Three Weeks, but not during the Nine Days. The Mishna Berura (O.C. 551:16) cites that joyous activity should be limited even during the early part of the Three Weeks, especially when it mimics festivity. Poskim such as Rav Shmuel Kamenetsky extend this to include sporting events with celebratory atmospheres. Shopping for Enjoyment During the Three Weeks, one should refrain from shopping for enjoyment , even if no Beracha Shehechiyanu would be required. This includes: Buying new clothing, shoes, jewelry, accessories, or electronics Making home décor upgrades or indulging in hobby-related purchases Shopping sprees or window-shopping done for leisure Essential purchases (like school supplies or items urgently needed) are permitted. If one finds a limited-time deal or discount that will not be available later, they may buy the item during the Three Weeks but should wait to use it until afterward , if possible. This is ruled by Rav Moshe Feinstein and others (Iggerot Moshe, O.C. vol. 3, siman 80). Travel and Leisure Trips The Three Weeks are also considered a time of danger (see Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:18), and for this reason, many refrain from leisure travel or long road trips. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yechave Da'at 1:37) writes that unless there is a real need, vacation trips should be postponed until after Tisha B'Av. This includes: Cruises, resort stays, or beach vacations National parks or nature sightseeing trips Visiting distant relatives for enjoyment rather than necessity However, if the travel is required for business, medical needs, family obligations, or other pressing reasons, it is permitted—though one should still avoid turning it into a joyous excursion. Maintaining the Right Tone Some mistakenly believe that the Three Weeks require sadness or depression. On the contrary, the Torah teaches that a Jew must always serve Hashem with joy (Devarim 28:47). But during periods of national mourning, the tone of that joy must be subdued and introspective. The Gemara in Ta'anit 30b teaches, "Mi'shenichnas Av, mema'atin b'simha"—as the month of Av begins, we reduce our joy. We do not eliminate joy, but we avoid external expressions of frivolity and celebration. This balance is echoed by the Aruch HaShulchan (O.C. 551:23) , who writes that one's behavior during these days should reflect a seriousness and awareness of our national losses, even if one continues to smile, work, and engage with others normally. Summary During the Three Weeks, one should avoid: Concerts, shows, amusement parks, and festive outings Competitive or recreational sports done for fun Unnecessary shopping for non-essential or luxury items Travel taken for leisure or vacation Parties and gatherings unrelated to Misvot This helps us remain focused on the deeper meaning of this period—a time to reflect, mourn, and yearn for the rebuilding of the Bet HaMikdash.

The Halacha below was generated by AI based on multiple classes given by Rabbi Eli Mansour in the Bekiim B'Halacha series. Click on any of the dates below to hear the original audio file. This write-up has been reviewed, but if any errors remain, we welcome corrections. 06-16-25; 06-17-25 One of the more commonly encountered questions during the Three Weeks concerns music. Is it permissible to listen to music during this period? What about recorded music, or music intended to help a person focus, relax, or stay awake? And is singing permitted even if instruments are not? This Halacha examines the nature of the restriction, its halachic basis, and when—if ever—music might be allowed. What Is the Source for This Custom? The custom to refrain from music during Ben HaMesarim is not explicitly found in the Gemara. Rather, it evolved as part of the broader mourning practices adopted after the destruction of the Bet HaMikdash. Music brings joy and emotional upliftment, and is therefore seen as inappropriate during a period meant for national reflection and sorrow. The Rambam (Hilchot Ta'aniyot 5:14) writes that after the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash), the Sages enacted decrees to limit expressions of joy, such as music and dancing. Although this was not originally specific to the Three Weeks, over time the practice was incorporated into this period to align with the overall spirit of mourning. Does This Apply to All Music—Even Recorded? Yes. Most Poskim today apply the restriction to both live and recorded music. Even if the original decree referred to instruments and public festivities, recorded music triggers the same emotional experience of joy and is therefore avoided. This includes music played casually at home, in the car, or on headphones. Background music in stores or commercials is not the listener's intent and may be permitted. Some Poskim draw a distinction between upbeat, celebratory music versus neutral or calming music. However, the general rule is to avoid music that provides emotional enjoyment. What About Music for Practical Use—Exercise, Focus, or Sleep? There is room for leniency when music serves a functional purpose rather than entertainment. For example: A person using soft background music to help them focus while working or studying. Someone who cannot fall asleep without relaxing music. A person who requires rhythmic music for exercise or therapy. In such cases, some authorities are lenient, especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Still, one should try to use instrumental or neutral tracks and avoid upbeat or joyous songs. Is Singing Without Instruments Permitted? Yes. Singing without instruments is generally permitted throughout the Three Weeks, including the Nine Days. However, one should refrain from overly joyous or festive singing. This is especially true during learning or prayer, where singing a Pasuk or Zemirot is part of the experience. Even singing Shabbat Zemirot at home is encouraged as part of Oneg Shabbat. Music at a Se'udat Misva At a Se'udat Misva—such as a Brit Mila, Pidyon Haben, Siyum Masechet, or Sheva Berachot—some authorities permit live or recorded music, even during the Three Weeks. The joy is centered around the Misva, and therefore the usual mourning restrictions are eased. Still, many avoid music during the Nine Days (Rosh Hodesh Ab through Tisha B'Ab) even at a Se'udat Misva unless absolutely necessary. Summary Music is generally avoided during the Three Weeks as part of mourning the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash). The restriction includes both live and recorded music. Leniency exists for functional uses (focus, sleep, exercise), especially before Rosh Hodesh Ab. Singing without instruments is permitted, particularly for prayer or learning. Music at a Se'udat Misva may be allowed but should be avoided during the Nine Days unless warranted.

The Halacha below was generated by AI based on multiple classes given by Rabbi Eli Mansour in the Bekiim B'Halacha series. Click on any of the dates below to hear the original audio file. This write-up has been reviewed, but if any errors remain , we welcome corrections. 06-17-25 ; 06-18-25 The Three Weeks—also known as Ben HaMesarim —represent a time of national mourning over the destruction of the Bet HaMikdash . While many of the customs during this period are observed passively (such as refraining from music or haircuts), Tikun Hatzot is an active custom that allows a person to express sadness over the Hurban (destruction of the Bet HaMikdash ) in a personal, heartfelt way. In this Halacha, we will explore what Tikun Hatzot is, why it is especially appropriate during the Three Weeks, and how and when it should be said. What Is Tikun Hatzot ? Tikun Hatzot refers to a set of prayers recited around midnight to mourn the Hurban and the exile of the Shechina . The Zohar and many Mekubalim praise it as one of the highest spiritual practices, particularly during this period. Rav Haim Vital writes that the Arizal himself would say Tikun Hatzot regularly, and especially during the Three Weeks. The Tikun is traditionally divided into two parts: Tikun Rahel : Emphasizes mourning and sorrow over the destruction. Tikun Leah : Focuses more on hope, rebuilding, and longing for redemption. During the Three Weeks, especially at night, it is fitting to recite both parts, though some only recite Tikun Rahel if they are pressed for time or emotionally unable to complete both. Why Is Tikun Hatzot So Powerful During This Time? The Three Weeks are designated as a time to feel the loss of the Bet HaMikdash and yearn for Geula. Tikun Hatzot allows us to turn that feeling into prayer. The Arizal taught that crying during Tikun Hatzot at this time carries immeasurable value. The act of waking up at night, sitting on the floor, and expressing pain over the exile of the Shechina is considered a personal partnership in the national mourning of Am Yisrael. As the Midrash says, "Whoever mourns the Hurban will merit seeing the rebuilding." How and When Is Tikun Hatzot Recited? Tikun Hatzot is ideally recited at Halachic midnight ( Chatzot Halayla ), which varies depending on the season. It typically falls around 12:30 a.m. in the summer months. The person should sit on the floor or a low stool, remove leather shoes, dim the lights, and recite the Tikun slowly and tearfully. If one cannot stay up until midnight, it may still be recited later in the night, and some authorities permit it slightly before Chatzot . If one is unable to recite the entire Tikun, he should at least say a portion or even sit in silence contemplating the loss of the Bet HaMikdash . The sincerity is more important than the length. Can Tikun Hatzot Be Said on Shabbat or Friday Night? No. Tikun Hatzot is not recited on Shabbat or Yom Tob, including Friday night, as it is a time of joy. Mourning rituals are suspended on these days, just like we don't say Tahanun or observe other mourning customs. Is This Custom for Everyone—Or Only the Very Pious? While Tikun Hatzot is classically associated with Mekubalim and very pious individuals, during the Three Weeks it becomes a powerful tool available to all. Even one who does not say it year-round should consider adding it during this time. One does not need to be a scholar or mystic to sit on the floor and say Tehillim or express longing for the Bet HaMikdash . The emotion and sincerity are what matter most. Summary Tikun Hatzot is a midnight prayer of mourning the Hurban, highly appropriate during the Three Weeks. It consists of Tikun Rahel and Tikun Leah; both are ideal, but even saying part has value. It is best said at Halachic midnight, but later or earlier is allowed in some cases. Not recited on Shabbat or Yom Tob. Open to everyone—not just scholars—and especially encouraged during Ben HaMesarim .