Is lasting love something we find—or a skill we learn? Susan sits down with Belle Gayer, author of "Are Relationships for Suckers?", to explore the lessons she has learned from more than 55 years of marriage and thousands of relationship questions.
They discuss chemistry versus compatibility, handling recurring conflict, maintaining intimacy, expressing gratitude and knowing the difference between healthy commitment and losing yourself. Belle also shares practical wisdom for divorced and later-in-life daters who still believe love is worth the effort.

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Would you put a beautiful steak in the microwave? Then why do we do it to love?

In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer welcomes back elite Palm Beach matchmaker, entrepreneur, and mystic Rose Lambert, founder of Rose Match Inc., a nonprofit addressing loneliness through education and community. Rose explains why instant chemistry is lust rather than love, why she asks singles to give someone at least three dates, and how endless options have taught us to discard people instead of building with them.

They also discuss what men actually need from a partnership, the cost of postponing love until the career is built, why financial security and a full social calendar don't cure loneliness, and how raising your own energy changes who you attract.

Whether you're swiping, dating, or rebuilding after divorce, this conversation makes the case that love is grown, not found. Learn more about Rose at roselambertmatchmaker.com, or join her free masterclasses and community at rosematch.org.

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“He’s a narcissist.” “She’s borderline.” “My ex is toxic.” Mental health terminology has become part of modern dating—but are we actually recognizing disorders, or simply labeling people who hurt or disappoint us?
Susan Shoer talks with Frederic Bien, President of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), about the difference between difficult personality traits and diagnosable personality disorders, how emotional dysregulation and attachment patterns can affect relationships, and why understanding someone’s behavior doesn’t mean excusing unhealthy or hurtful treatment.
They also explore boundaries, relationship instability, fear of abandonment, the tendency to diagnose our dates, and whether people with personality disorders can have healthy, loving relationships. Learn more and find resources at pdan.org.

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That irresistible spark may feel like love—but sometimes it’s your nervous system recognizing something familiar.
Susan Shoer talks with Pavini Moray, PhD, somatic coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner, about the body’s role in attraction, desire, attachment and relationship patterns. They explore why intense chemistry can sometimes be confused with compatibility, how past experiences can shape who we’re drawn to, and what it means to feel genuinely safe and connected with another person.
Pavini also shares how somatic awareness can help us recognize old patterns, make more conscious relationship choices, and understand the difference between excitement, anxiety, lust and lasting intimacy.
Learn more about Pavini at pavinimoray.com.

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Can a marriage thrive when one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous?
In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with Courtney and Nate, The MonoPoly Couple, to discuss the unconventional relationship that's captured attention online. Married for 17 years, they began navigating a mono-poly dynamic just four years ago after Courtney realized she was polyamorous while Nate remained monogamous.
Together, they share how they navigate jealousy, boundaries, trust, and communication, challenge common misconceptions about polyamory, and explain why honesty and emotional safety matter in every relationship.
Whether you agree with their relationship style or not, this conversation offers fresh insights into love, commitment, and what it takes to build a partnership that works for both people.Can a marriage thrive when one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous?
In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with Courtney and Nate, The MonoPoly Couple, to discuss the unconventional relationship that's captured attention online. Married for 17 years, they began navigating a mono-poly dynamic just four years ago after Courtney realized she was polyamorous while Nate remained monogamous.
Together, they share how they navigate jealousy, boundaries, trust, and communication, challenge common misconceptions about polyamory, and explain why honesty and emotional safety matter in every relationship.
Whether you agree with their relationship style or not, this conversation offers fresh insights into love, commitment, and what it takes to build a partnership that works for both people.

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Why do two people who genuinely care about each other so often end up feeling misunderstood?
In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with relationship and intimacy specialists Naomi Jordan and Martin Pemberton, co-creators of The Space Between® Approach, to explore the invisible lessons men and women learn about love long before they ever enter a relationship.
They call it "Boy School" and "Girl School"—the unspoken emotional education that shapes how we communicate, handle conflict, express vulnerability, and seek connection. Through humor, honesty, and real-life examples, Naomi and Martin reveal why so many relationship struggles aren't caused by incompatibility, but by two very different emotional languages colliding.
Whether you're dating, married, divorced, or looking for love after 50, this eye-opening conversation will help you better understand yourself, your partner, and why good people can keep missing each other—even when love is there.

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Are dating apps on life support?
After years of endless swiping, ghosting, and burnout, more singles are asking a different question: Is there a better way to meet people? In this episode of Dateless in Delray, relationship coach and dating strategist Scot MacKay joins Susan Shoer to explore why so many people are walking away from the apps—and what comes next.
Together, they discuss the growing frustration with online dating, why technology alone can't create chemistry, and how today's singles can use AI, social media, communities, and real-world opportunities to build authentic connections. Scot also shares practical strategies for creating a dating life that doesn't revolve around algorithms—and why the future of dating may look a lot more human than digital.
Whether you're ready to delete the apps or simply want to date smarter, this conversation offers fresh insight, hope, and actionable advice for finding love in a changing world.

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Love doesn’t end when someone dies—and according to psychic medium, life coach, and author Susan Anderson, neither do the connections that matter most. In this fascinating episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan explores the idea that the loved ones we've lost may continue to guide, support, and even influence our lives from beyond.
Drawing from her own experiences as a medium and the insights from her book, Communicating with Grace: The Awakening of a Psychic Medium, Susan shares stories of spiritual connection, signs from the other side, and how grief can sometimes open unexpected doors to healing, hope, and even new love. Whether you're a believer, a skeptic, or simply curious about what happens after loss, this thought-provoking conversation offers a fresh perspective on love, loss, and the enduring bonds that connect us. Learn more at SusanAnderson.net.

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Many relationships struggle, not because of what we say, but because of what we fail to hear.
In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer welcomes author, speaker, and relationship coach Hoady Spencer to discuss his book,"Listen Baby: A Man's Guide to Better Relationships." Hoady explains why genuine listening is one of the most overlooked—and transformative—skills in love. Together, they explore why people often listen to respond instead of understand, how emotional validation can strengthen intimacy, and the simple communication shifts that can dramatically improve romantic relationships. Whether you're dating, in a long-term partnership, or starting over after 50, this conversation offers practical insights for creating deeper trust, fewer misunderstandings, and stronger connections.
If you've ever wanted to feel more understood—or become a better partner—this episode is full of wisdom you'll use long after the conversation ends.

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Most men aren't struggling because they're "bad at dating"—they're making mistakes they don't even realize they're making.
In this eye-opening episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan sits down with human sexuality expert Suki Nefertiti to unpack the most common dating mistakes men make—and how a few simple shifts can dramatically change the way they're perceived by women.
From being basic, cheap, or performative to developing what Suki calls "Delicious DNA," this conversation explores attraction, confidence, emotional intelligence, and the qualities that create genuine connection. Drawing on psychology, evolutionary biology, and real-world dating experiences, Suki offers practical, often surprising advice that benefits men and women alike.
Whether you're dating, coaching someone who is, or simply fascinated by modern relationships, this episode delivers fresh insights, plenty of laughs, and actionable takeaways you can use on your very next date.

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