If you're addicted to Love Is Blind and love dissecting dating dynamics through a therapist’s lens, this episode is for you.

Christina Hathaway, licensed marriage and family therapist, is diving deep into the Minnesota edition of Love Is Blind Season 8—unpacking emotional red flags, toxic family ties, communication breakdowns, and the difference between compatibility and true connection.

From Sarah and Ben’s values clash, to Dave and Lauren’s trust issues and enmeshed sibling drama, to the healthiest couple on the show (hello, Taylor and Daniel 👏), this episode breaks down what makes or breaks a relationship before and after the pods.

👀 If your love life feels like a rerun—this episode will help you figure out whether it’s DejaVu… or it might be you.

Subscribe, review, and share with your fellow Love Is Blind fans. Let’s raise the bar on what real love looks like.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction
01:00 Ben & Sarah: Values Clash & People-Pleasing
08:50 Dave & Lauren: Trust Issues & Enmeshed Family Dynamics
16:30 Joey & Monica: Sibling Sabotage & Emotional Guarding
21:15 Christina’s Personal Story: Family Projection & Acceptance
22:15 Taylor & Daniel: Secure Attachment & Healthy Communication
28:35 Final Thoughts: Putting Yourself Out There
29:21 Outro

If you’re tired of ghosting, breadcrumbing, or wasting your weekends on lackluster dates, this episode is your wake-up call!

Dating and relationship expert, Christina Hathaway, shares the exact boundary-setting strategy (the viral “3x3x3x3 Rule”) to help you date smarter, stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and protect your time, energy, and heart.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

✅ Spot dating red flags before the first date

✅ Stop trauma bonding through oversharing

✅ Avoid breadcrumbing and online pen pals

✅ Use boundaries as your dating filter (not just your safety net)

✅ Attract emotionally available partners who match your energy

This is the guide every single woman needs before opening another dating app. If you're burnt out, anxious, or repeating the same toxic dating patterns — it might feel like déjà vu… but it also might be you!

Hit play now!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:30 Why people ignore red flags in dating
00:48 How online dating sets you up to fail
01:12 The 3x3x3x3 boundary rule explained
02:13 Attraction is not compatibility
03:01 You don’t owe anyone a reply
03:36 How to set messaging boundaries
04:20 Vet your date before meeting

05:00 Ask about values and non-negotiables
06:02 Questions to ask before going on a date
06:31 First date safety rules
07:44 Transitioning from app to real life
08:34 In-person boundaries still matter
09:16 You don’t owe anyone a second date

10:06 How they handle “no” is a red flag

12:00 Emotional access must be earned

13:48 Sex as a false sense of control

16:37 Recap of the 3x3x3x3 dating method

18:08 Dating should not feel exhausting

18:53 Final takeaway on boundaries

Do you find yourself pushing people away just when things start to feel real? Do you pick fights, ghost, or suddenly lose interest? If so, you might be caught in the cycle of self-sabotage when it comes to love.

In this episode, Christina breaks down why we sabotage relationships, from fear of abandonment to hyper-independence, low self-worth, and even addiction to the chase. She helps you recognize these patterns and, most importantly, teaches you how to stop repeating them.

Tune in to uncover what’s really behind your self-sabotaging behaviors and learn how to finally break free from dating déjà vu. Because maybe, just maybe… it’s not déjà vu—it’s you.

💡 If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend and don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro00:10 Why We Self-Sabotage In Love01:22 Common Reasons For Self-Sabotage01:53 Fear Of Abandonment03:08 Fear Of Losing Independence05:17 Low Self-Worth07:21 Addiction To The Chase08:31 How Self-Sabotage Plays Out In Dating08:47 Picking Fights Over Small Things10:49 Hyper-Focusing On Small Flaws12:15 Testing Your Partner14:26 Pulling Away When Things Get Good14:59 Falling For Unavailable People17:12 How To Stop Self-Sabotaging17:28 Get Honest With Yourself19:06 Recognizing Patterns Early19:36 Communicate Even When It’s Uncomfortable21:12 Reframe What Love Actually Is22:05 Coaching Therapy And Self-Work22:46 Writing Down Your Patterns23:36 Reflecting On Past Relationships24:04 Final Challenge And Closing Remarks24:39 Outro

Saying "I love you" is easy, but does it truly land?

In this episode, Christina explores how love is communicated through words and actions, shares her personal experience of waiting a year to hear those three little words from her now-husband, and offers insight into recognizing love even when it’s not spoken aloud.

She breaks down the importance of love languages, how to know if someone truly loves you, and why actions often speak louder than words. Whether you're navigating new love or deepening an existing relationship, this episode will help you understand how love is shown, felt, and received.

🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and book a clarity call with Christina if you're ready to transform your dating and relationship patterns!

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro
00:41 – Christina shares her personal story about love and actions
01:34 – The importance of saying "I love you" with meaning
02:35 – The difference between feeling loved and just hearing the words
03:49 – Saying "I love you" intentionally and in meaningful moments
05:03 – Understanding and speaking your partner’s love language
07:07 – Showing love through actions, not just words
09:31 – The importance of listening and validating feelings
10:22 – Small daily actions that demonstrate love
11:12 – Choosing your partner every day through effort and commitment
12:17 – Questions to ask yourself: Are you truly feeling loved?
13:26 – The impact of past experiences on how we receive love
15:09 – Love happens on different timelines—why patience matters
17:21 – Client success story and the power of self-work in relationships
17:50 – Outro

In this DeJa View episode, we're diving into the relationship dynamics of your favorite reality TV couples. From Shep and Sienna (Southern Charm) to Joe Bradley and Maddi Reese (Southern Hospitality) and Jesse Solomon and Lexi (Summer House), we're breaking down the love addict/love avoidant cycles, boundary issues, and the patterns that keep people stuck in unhealthy relationships.

Ever felt like your dating life is stuck on repeat? It might be DeJa Vu... but it also might be you. Let's figure it out together!

👉 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share with a friend who needs a reality check in their love life!

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro
00:23 – Shep & Sienna (Southern Charm): Avoidance, Love Addiction & Fantasy Vs. Reality
03:08 – Shep’s Relationship History & Emotional Avoidance
06:59 – Signs That Sienna Isn’t Into Shep & His Fantasy Thinking
09:11 – The Love Avoidant Vs. Love Addict Dynamic
12:02 – Why People Struggle To Accept Reality In Relationships
13:19 – Jesse & Lexi (Summer House): Love Bombing & Shiny Object Syndrome
15:53 – How Rushing A Relationship Creates Problems
17:35 – The 3-3-3-3 Dating Method & Setting Early Boundaries
19:40 – Why Open Communication Is Key In Early Dating
20:34 – Joe & Maddie (Southern Hospitality): A Healthy Approach To Boundaries
22:26 – The Difference Between Pushing & Respecting Boundaries In A Relationship
24:05 – The Importance Of Speaking Your Truth In Relationships
25:28 – Final Thoughts & Takeaways On Reality TV Dating Patterns
25:43 – Subscribe, Review & Follow On Socials

Let's talk about the outdated dating rules we need to leave behind! From “the guy should always text first” to “playing hard to get actually works,” Christina unpacks where these tropes come from, why they’re problematic, and whether they deserve a spot in modern dating.

Are opposites really the key to lasting love? Does jealousy mean someone actually cares? Christina challenges these old-school ideas and offers a fresh, intentional approach to dating based on communication, mutual effort, and shared values.

Ready to stop playing games and start dating with purpose? Tune in for a reality check on the rules that are keeping you stuck in dating déjà vu.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:12 The most overrated and toxic dating rules

01:35 The guy should always text first

02:03 Where this rule comes from

02:41 Why this rule is problematic

03:29 Taking control of your dating life

04:34 Why people still defend this rule

05:11 Verdict: Cancel it – mutual effort matters

05:42 Playing hard to get works

07:56 The psychology behind this strategy

08:38 Why playing hard to get attracts the wrong people

09:22 The difference between pacing and playing games

10:04 Verdict: Modify it – flirting is fine, games are not

10:32 Opposites attract

11:15 How movies and pop culture reinforce this trope

12:14 The difference between chemistry and compatibility

13:46 Why shared values matter more than differences

13:58 Verdict: Modify it – opposites can attract, but compatibility keeps you together

14:39 If they’re not jealous, they don’t care

15:13 How jealousy is mistaken for passion

16:14 The difference between insecurity and love1

7:25 Personal story on handling jealousy in dating

17:50 Verdict: Cancel it – security is what we want

18:11 Final takeaways – the dating rules to cancel and modify

18:30 What actually works in modern dating

18:50 Where to follow and work with Christina

19:05 Outro

Why is it so hard to move on from a toxic ex?! From emotional addiction and trauma bonding to the justifications we tell ourselves, Christina unpacks the hidden forces keeping you stuck and gives you actionable strategies to break free.

If you're ready to stop the emotional yo-yo and attract the love you truly deserve, this episode is for you!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
01:44 The psychological hold of toxic relationships
03:06 Emotional addiction and the cycle of highs and lows
05:50 Trauma bonding and its impact on relationships
08:23 The what-if trap and why we romanticize the past
09:21 Common lies we tell ourselves to stay in toxic relationships
10:46 The truth about closure and why you don’t need it
12:32 How manipulators exploit your weaknesses
13:47 Why the intensity wasn’t love but emotional turbulence
14:48 How nostalgia keeps you stuck in the past
16:45 Reality reframe and how to break free
17:14 The no-contact rule and why it’s non-negotiable
18:17 Shifting the mindset from losing them to reclaiming you
19:45 How to fully break free and heal
20:45 Detoxing your mind and reframing the fantasy
21:54 The inner work needed to stop repeating toxic patterns
23:41 Shifting the focus back to yourself and rebuilding your identity
24:34 The real healing happens when you become someone new
25:24 Outro

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationships—one person craving closeness, the other pulling away? It’s not just bad luck—it’s a cycle.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the Love Addict & Love Avoidant cycle—a dynamic that explains why some people chase love while others run from it. Based on Pia Mellody’s post-induction therapy model, this framework will blow your mind as you start seeing patterns in your own dating history.

💡 What You’ll Learn:
✔️ What a love addict is and why their biggest fear is abandonment
✔️ What a love avoidant is and why intimacy makes them feel suffocated
✔️ The cycle that keeps these two types attracting each other (and ending in chaos)
✔️ How childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs shape these patterns
✔️ What to do if you recognize yourself in this dynamic

If your relationships feel like déjà vu, it might not be a coincidence—it might be you. Let’s figure it out together.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:10 Introduction to the love avoidant, love addict cycle
00:22 Recognizing relationship patterns and self-awareness
00:43 Pia Melody’s post-induction therapy model explained
01:14 The Meadows and its influence on relationship dynamics
02:06 The love addiction cycle and its connection to attachment styles
02:21 Explanation of the love addict’s greatest fear and trauma response
03:17 Unrealistic expectations and emotional highs in love addiction
03:48 Childhood neglect and its role in love addiction
05:02 The cycle of clinginess, fear of abandonment, and resentment
06:24 The love addict’s struggle with facing reality
08:16 Emotional withdrawal, obsession, and attempts to regain attention
09:16 The repetitive cycle of seeking new partners for validation
10:11 The impact of love addiction on dating behavior
12:04 Steps to heal from love addiction and develop self-worth
12:36 Introduction to the love avoidant and their core fears
13:30 How love avoidants feel overwhelmed by intimacy
15:02 Personal story of developing love avoidance tendencies
16:22 Love avoidance and detachment strategies
18:25 How avoidants cope by turning to external distractions
19:05 The love avoidant’s cycle of duty, resentment, and withdrawal
21:19 Healing love avoidance by learning to ask for help
24:09 The push-pull dynamic between love addicts and love avoidants
26:15 Recognizing triggers and working towards conscious awareness
26:55 Coaching and support options for breaking these patterns
27:56 Outro

Welcome to the very first Dating DejaVIEW episode! In this series, host Christina Hathaway dives into the relationship dynamics of reality TV couples—analyzing attachment styles, emotional patterns, and the psychology behind love, heartbreak, and everything in between.

In this episode, Christina takes a deep dive into:
✨ Mauricio and Kyle’s separation—what went wrong?
✨ Lindsay and Carl’s whirlwind romance and breakup on Summer House
✨ Paige and Craig’s long-distance love story and what their relationship teaches us about commitment fears

Whether you're a reality TV fan or looking to reflect on your own dating patterns, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and real talk on love and relationships.

💡 Follow Dating Deja Vu for more deep dives into dating patterns, relationship psychology, and personal growth. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!

👉 It might be déjà vu… but it also might be YOU!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
01:18 Mauricio and Kyle’s separation and financial issues
02:41 Relationship insecurities and prioritization in marriage
04:26 Empty nester syndrome and brushing issues under the rug
05:50 Fame, money, and relationship struggles in reality tv
06:43 Lindsay and Carl's relationship history
07:35 Lindsay’s attachment style and relationship patterns
08:42 Monkey branching and love addiction tendencies
10:39 Carl’s sobriety and its impact on relationships
12:23 The importance of healing before serious commitment
14:20 Lindsay’s pregnancy and fast-moving relationships
15:47 Using relationships to avoid emotional pain
17:20 Paige and Craig long-distance relationship
19:53 Commitment fears and the illusion of stability
21:26 Mixed signals in relationships and fear of commitment
24:55 When people-pleasing delays a breakup
26:14 Outro

We're flipping the script! While red flags get all the attention, today we’re focusing on the green ones—the signs of a strong, stable, and fulfilling relationship. From emotional safety and consistency to healthy communication and genuine investment, we break down the key traits that make love last. If healthy relationships have ever felt "boring" or unfamiliar, this episode will help you recognize and embrace the qualities that truly matter. Tune in and learn how to spot (and embody) the green flags that lead to real connection!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:25 Focusing on positives instead of red flags
01:30 Green flags may feel unexciting but are important
02:30 Dysfunction can feel like passion when it’s all you know
03:31 Emotional stability as a green flag
04:15 The importance of emotional safety in relationships
05:06 Identifying emotional safety early in dating
06:43 Consistency over time in relationships
07:51 Love is about showing up over time
08:34 Healthy and direct communication
10:52 Communicating needs in a relationship
11:37 Genuine interest and investment in a partner
12:48 Small acts that show care and effort
14:10 Following through on green flags
14:34 Healthy relationships may feel slow or uncomfortable at first
15:38 Avoiding self-sabotage in healthy relationships
16:32 Recognizing your own patterns and reactions
17:19 Giving consistency a chance
18:06 Communicating your needs clearly
19:24 Ensuring you also have green flags in yourself
20:10 Overcoming the "nice but boring" perception
20:27 Outro