New York Times columnist David Brooks would be the first person to tell you he is a work in progress. In fact, he details his many shortcomings in his new book, How to Know a Person.

He writes about his detached younger self saying, “I had the emotional capacity of a head of cabbage.” He believes he’s not alone; that many people are cut off from their emotions, feeling estranged from other people and themselves.

David Brooks joins us to tell us what it takes to see someone for who they truly are and allow ourselves to be truly seen by others. Not surprisingly, it involves curiosity, empathy, vulnerability, generosity, and the ability to ask the right questions.