When someone dies suddenly there is so much death administration to start taking care of.  It’s hard to know where to start.   

Many people are surprised to learn that it can be a very long & sometimes complicated process dealing with wills, estates, and all sorts of death administration. 

 Today on Deadly Serious conversations I have a wonderful chat with Danielle from Sage Executor Solutions about the role of an executor of a will and some of the things that  are important to know to make the process easier, less stressful and more efficient.  

Today, I have a special episode featuring Dan from 'All about me films'- a Melbourne-based company dedicated to preserving life stories on Film for future generations.
We delve into the importance of storytelling for family history and how it gives us a sense of belonging that can shape who we are today.
This episode reminds us that we continue to exist long after we are no longer physically here, living on through the stories and memories we leave behind.
So whether you're looking to preserve your own story or would like to encourage your loved ones to document their story,  this episode will inspire you to see the value in capturing part of your family's history.

All about me Films 

I am often asked how to support children who are grieving I am no expert but I am delighted to share this episode of the podcast,  where I have a chat to Scott Andrews from the National Centre for Childhood grief.

Knowing how to support a child deal with loss and grief can feel overwhelming.   It's hard to know what is the right thing to do to help them.   Scott offers gentle suggestions on language to use, whether they should be involved in the process and how grief may show up for children.

Scott is incredibly experienced in this area and shares his wonderful insights on how to help children grieve in healthy ways.

This is an invaluable episode for everyone to learn what we can do to support children and help them feel less alone and isolated in their grief. 


National Centre for Childhood grief

Most people are familiar with the traditional burial and cremation practices, such as using a cemetery, or storing the ashes in an urn.   Some people choose to scatter their loved ones ashes but do not realise that this may be harmful to the environment.  

Mornington Green Legacy Gardens in Victoria are beautiful botanical gardens situated on the Mornington Peninsula.  

They offer an environmentally safe way for people to go back to nature after they die.  

The cremated ashes are scientifically treated to avoid causing any harm and are infused into a carefully chosen tree in their beautifully landscaped gardens or forests. 

The Legacy Gardens also offer future generations and loved ones a place to come and visit to watch as the tree grows and blossom.  It also provides a beautiful space in nature for families to gather, celebrate, and connect  

In this episode I chat with Luke Roberts, the co-founder of Mornington Green Legacy Gardens to hear more about this innovative practice

On this episode of the podcast, I have a wonderful conversation with Lesley who works as the co-ordinator of the Body Donation program at Melbourne Uni. 

Body donation is when someone chooses to donate their body after their death so that it can be used in the training and education of future healthcare professionals including medical, dental, physiotherapy, science and nursing students.   

Through the incredible generosity of donors, the university can provide these students with hands-on learning experiences to advance their medical knowledge that is crucial for their training & potentially impact countless lives for generations to come. 

This is a fascinating conversation offering a glimpse into what the body donation program entails.

Melbourne University Body Donation Program

This episode of the podcast is one that challenges the conventional narratives surrounding end-of-life ceremonies and funerals.  

In it, I have a wonderful chat with Tim and Paul, whose mum Mary Anne decided to face her own mortality and embraced the idea of a living wake after deciding not to continue treatment for Bowel cancer.  

 
Often at funerals, people remark to me that it is a shame that the person who died didn’t hear all the lovely things that others had to say about them.   

But Mary Anne got the opportunity before her death, to be with her family and friends and to hear the many reasons they loved her at her living wake.  

Her loved ones shared and stories and memories and were able to express their gratitude to Mary Anne so she was able to hear how people felt about her before she died.  

Tim and Paul offer their different perspectives on this celebration of their mums’ life.  

Living wakes or funerals are certainly not for everybody, but the landscape of funerals is changing as we explore alternatives to the solemn occasions that funerals traditionally have been.   

Whether you are curious about the concept, planning such an occasion for yourself or a loved one, or seeking a fresh perspective on one of life’s inevitabilities, this episode has it all.  

 
Fiona Garrivan Celebrant 

We hear it all the time that life changes in a second, and nothing can prepare us for it when that does happen.  We all think and hope it will never happen to us. 

Jacinda has been living with the loss of her son Harper and his dad Matt, when they were both killed in a freak accident.  

Losing 2 people you love at the same time seems unimaginable. 

In today’s episode, Jacinda shares with us a glimpse into what life after the loss of a child looks like 4 years on,  the unique pain of losing two people you love at the same time, her experience of living with such a loss and learning to find hope when all hope has been lost.  

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 As the cost for a traditional burial rises each year and as people have become more environmentally conscious about our land shortage, Cremation has become the preferred choice for many Australians, With over 70% of funerals now involving a cremation.   

There is no textbook to tell you what to do in these circumstances, and suddenly you find yourself in a situation having to decide whether to cremate or bury your loved one.  Subsequently, you then have to make a decision about what to do with their ashes.  

Just recently there was a lot of media coverage about a fan allegedly throwing a bag containing her mum’s ashes at a Pink Concert.   And it prompted a lot of people to think what they would do with their loved ones ashes.  

Today I have a chat with Oliver & Yaz from the URN Collective to discuss the options on what to do with someone’s ashes.   

Urn Collective  

Jo Lincoln is no stranger to the podcast.  In fact, she was my first ever guest and I am absolutely delighted to have her back, talking about her new book - "Is this normal?"
Grief is uncomfortable, it is complex and everyone experiences it differently.
At times it feels overwhelming and all consuming, and indeed very abnormal. 
Jo is a death doula, a celebrant, a certified grief educator, a counsellor with Griefline and now a published author.
And today we have a lovely conversation, normalising grief in the early days after someone dies


Links
Is this normal? 
Griefline 

20 percent of women or 1 in 5 may experience a pregnancy loss in the first 20 weeks of pregnancy.  

That is 1 early pregnancy loss every 5 mins in Australia.  
Behind these statistics are real people.  So many people walk this lonely road, yet often we never know.  It’s such a silent and isolating grief, not being able to talk with anyone about it. And having to act like it never happened...

The chances are someone you know and love will have experienced an early pregnancy loss and it is very important that we all learn how to support grieving parents better.  

I have to admit, my experience of miscarriage or early pregnancy loss is from a professional point of view.  I have walked with many parents to honour their precious babies but I haven’t experienced this type of loss myself.  

But I do know that there isn’t enough understanding of the grief around this type of loss.  But I want to educate myself and learn more.  

In an effort to being more open to learning how we can support couples who have experienced pregnancy loss,  I have invited Karen Schlage to be a guest.   

Karen’s 2 babies – Charlie and Sophia both died in the 2nd trimester of each pregnancy.  Although it is very bittersweet, Karen is now doing incredible work in honouring them and advocating for those facing pregnancy loss.  

This is a wonderful chat and I think we can all learn something from it.  

Links

Karen's Website 

Churchill Fellowship

Pink Elephants