Dealing With My Grief

After scrolling through the Facebook group and attending a podcasting conference. I was forced to reflect on the aspect of forgiving someone who has committed the most horrible act imaginable - killing my father.

I was filled with every emotion possible for the first few years after my father's death... hate, anger, revenge, etc. But at some point I realized that I had to do one thing to begin letting go of these feelings that I had. I had to fogive that person that killed my father.

How was this even possible when he never expressed remorse for what he had done.

Other related podcast I discovered in the past week:

Good Grief Podcast - http://www.goodgriefpodcast.com/episodes/

Is this Adulting (More about mental health than grief, but very beneficial) - http://www.goodgriefpodcast.com/episodes/

This week's call to action: LAs you prepare for Thanksgiving here in the states, continue to think about how to incoporate your loved on into the holiday. Leave me a voicemail at http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/voicemail

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Math was always my favorite subject in school. My first memories of my father are of him teaching me to count money. I quickly learned my multiplication tables this way as well.

The subject has come easy for me ever since, I took some form of math every year in school - including college! Why it is not a grief trigger for me I don't know.

There are some things, however, that that remind me of my grief recovery process: repeating decimals and pi just to name a few.

I have to focus on a journey that seemingly will never end and try somehow to king implementing my coping skills at life's every turn.

This week's call to action: Let me know how you are going to incorporate your loved one's into your Thanksgiving celebration. Will you have a special meal, go to a certain place, etc/ :eave me a voice mail at http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/voicemail

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This past week, one of the members in the Facebook group communicated that people still questions why she is still grieving a loss from 10 years ago.

I personally believe that certain societal queues tend to lead people to think that we are at certain points in our grief recovery process and we are ok in our grief.

This week's call to action: Let me know how you are going to incorporate your loved one's into your Thanksgiving celebration. Will you have a special meal, go to a certain place, etc/ :eave me a voice mail at http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/voicemail

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After being cut off by a car on my way home, I asked myself why didn't the driver notice that there was no one behind me. was he focused just on my car and didn't notice that in the "big picture" it would have been safer to wait for me to pass because there was no one behind me.

When it comes to grief the big picture involves opening our hearts, to other to let them into our world... the help facilitate the healing process.

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As I sat in my office last week trying to meed a deadline, I had to yes the bathroom. The only problem was I needed to complete a though before I went and I didn;d know if I could hold it long enough!

This got me to thinking... could using bathroom actually be related to my grief recovery process? Believe it or not, it is!

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As I think about the heirlooms left to my by my loved ones, I started reflecting on the final time that I saw them or spent a considerable amount of time with them.

This week I ask two questions:

1. Do some people know that their time on this earth is coming to an end? And...
2. What would you differently if you knew that this would in fact be the last time you saw or spoke to your loved one?

I'm curious to know your answer... send me an email at [email protected]

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I recently wore a watch that was left to me by my uncle. Wearing it made me feel closer to him... and it really made me happy. Here I reflect on things left to me be relatives.

Do you have any heirlooms left to you, and if so do you incorporate them in any way in your daily life?

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I am often asked how long did it take me to "get over" my father's death.

The short answer is I haven't and I won't... at least not completely. In this episode I use my time in the army and the activity of running to explain why.

Now if I could just beat this cold!!

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While editing some images last wekk, I was listeing the CD "The B-Sides" by Prince.

To clarify, before there was streaming music services and befor CDs music was sold on vinyl as a 2 sided disc. When you purchase a hit single, it was on the A-side of the record and the B-side was usually the instrumental of that song or some song that was deemed unworthy to be included on the album or some song not related to the project at all.

Some B-side songs became more famous than the song that was intended to be the hit.

I believe in grief as in music we have a side that we don't want people to focus on or that we don't want to talk about. These things are in fact the most important things that we may need to discuss.

Famous B-side songs:

Beth by KISS - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHkojuUSDO8

We Will Rock You by Queen - https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=-tJYN-eG1zk

I will Survive by Gloria Gaynor - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I

Unchained Melody by The Righteous Brothers - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrK5u5W8afc

Green Onions by Booker T and the MG's - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9y-n9B_XUM

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I had the opportunity to help move some furniture at an assisted living facility for senior citizens. There I met a gentleman who was trying to deal the challenge of just trying to walk a short distance.

What I leaned from him in the span of 10 minutes is something I should have learned a long time ago - sometimes small victories make all the difference in the world

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