Dear Me

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July 31, 2024144. Sabbatical Q&A
I have gotten so many questions in my DMs since announcing my return from a seven month sabbatical, and this episode is dedicated to answering those questions for you! I'm covering everything from what my business looked like while I was away to how my physical health has improved over the last few months. Whether you are planning an extended break in your future or just curious about my sabbatical experience, this episode is full of honest reflections and juicy takeaways that will get you thinking! In this episode, we cover…
Why I took a sabbatical and how I knew when it was time to come back
How I adjusted to having less structure and routine
The phases of my sabbatical
My take on why other entrepreneurs have taken breaks
What my business looked like during the sabbatical
The physical health struggles I've dealt with and how things have improved.

Quotes "It wasn't nourishing because I didn't have stability. I didn't have support. I didn't have community. The work for me to heal was facing every skeleton in my closet and stripping myself of my entire identity and everything I'd ever known." "It was very challenging in terms of going from 100 miles an hour to zero miles an hour." "You know what you have now. You know what's in front of you. And if you know that what's in front of you is not it, then you have no other choice but to try new and rest assured knowing you can always go back to what currently is. But something tells me you won't." Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Episode 140 - I'm Taking a Sabbatical: Why I've Decided to Take an Extended Break & How I'm Making It Happen Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
1 hr 3 min
July 29, 2024143. What’s Next For Me & The Business [Part 1]
A lot has changed over the last seven months, both in my personal life and for the state of the business! And the biggest question I’ve been getting is: What’s next? In this episode I’m sharing the options I’ve considered moving forward, and filling you in on what the near future looks like. Chances are it’s not what you think!
In this episode, we cover…
Why I’m letting go of decisions I made prior to my sabbatical
Making decisions without financial pressure
Why my previous business direction felt unaligned
Options I’ve considered for my business moving forward
My current decision for what’s next
Showing up as a work in progress and an authority

Quotes
"I'm no longer willing to do whatever it takes. I'm no longer willing to sacrifice a lot of different things or to let the pressure be the determining factor to check off those milestones or influence me to race to the finish line."

"I'm excited to let you get to know the new/maybe more real, me as I get to know that version as well."

"We're always in progress."

Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Episode 140 - I'm Taking a Sabbatical: Why I've Decided to Take an Extended Break & How I'm Making It Happen
Amanda Kolbye's Links:
Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
32 min
July 29, 2024142. I'm Back! The Story of Where I’ve Been + Life Updates
I’m back!! It’s been about seven months since we’ve released a new episode, so there is a lot to catch up on. In this first episode back from my sabbatical, I’m giving an inside look at what went down in my life during the months away, including an overview of my transformative healing journey and why I’m grateful my life crumbled when it did. Consider this the start of a new era, both for me personally, and the business!
In this episode, we cover…
The backstory of why I took a sabbatical
How things got worse before it got better
My experience with ketamine therapy and a healing retreat
Our decision to settle down in Spain
How this period has transformed my life

Quotes
“Entrepreneurship is like the biggest personal development journey you'll ever go on, whether you intended to or not, because it's going to bring up the shit. It's going to bring up the skeletons in the closet. It's going to make you face all your fears, and just expand constantly."

"You finally have a chance to explore yourself without being tied to a specific outcome."

“This has been the biggest awakening journey of my entire life. I am a different person to my core, to every cellular level, and I've had a lot of changes, shifts, evolutions in life - nothing, nothing like this.”

Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Episode 140 - I'm Taking a Sabbatical: Why I've Decided to Take an Extended Break & How I'm Making It Happen
Amanda Kolbye's Links:
Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
41 min
March 18, 2024 [REPLAY] Feeling Stuck? You Need To Hear This
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! Many of you in my audience have been expressing feeling stuck in one way or another. All of us in this entrepreneur online space have also been experiencing many changes within the industry. Even if it's not that, this is a natural season of entrepreneurship, and sometimes it's a day, sometimes it's a week, sometimes it's months. In this episode, we will talk about what it means to be stuck, what's happening with us in those times, and why and how many of us end up stuck. There are many different ways, so one of them will relate to you. And then lastly, we're going to talk about how to move out of being stuck. So if you're someone who's feeling pretty stuck in your business or just in one area of your business, you need to hear this episode. In this episode, we cover… • What does it mean to feel stuck • Letting go of situations, we have no control over • Setting up your business for growth • How overwhelm and burnout play into feeling stuck • Recognizing underlying contradictory beliefs • Navigating this stuckness "Sometimes, this is just a label for a period where not much is happening. It doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong or you're not capable of doing what you could do before." "Many of us tend to freak out and feel like, " Oh my gosh, okay, I don't have the same momentum or sales as I was before, you know, so I must be stuck. And that almost creates the reality that didn't exist for you." "The definition of stagnation is continuing to do the same things. And being very hesitant to change and essentially adapt as you go right." "Comparison makes you feel stuck. It doesn't mean you are stuck." "The mentality of being stuck is almost always what is fueling 99% of your stuckness. Right?" Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Laptop Lifestyle, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
44 min
March 11, 2024 [REPLAY] Do You Ever Feel Like Your Success Is A Fluke? Part 1
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! *Listen to the original Episode 113 - Part 2 once you finish this episode!* This episode is on what to do if you feel like your success is a fluke, and there is a lot to this conversation! Because this episode is a long one, we’ve broken it into two separate episodes to make it easier for you to take in. This is Part 1, so make sure to tune into Part 2 when you are finished listening. We are diving into the feeling that your success is a fluke - something that so many entrepreneurs feel at some point in their journey. I go deep into why this thought might be occurring for you, as well as addressing how you can start to shift away from this mentality by understanding the origins and taking action to change your mindset. I’m sharing the ways that your beliefs and perspectives, your brain, and even your business structure can play into you questioning your own success, and give you the tools you need to start believing in yourself and your business for good. In this episode, we cover… • What it means to feel like your success is a fluke • Six possible factors that contribute to this mentality (imposter syndrome, perfectionism, arguing for your limitations, safety/fear of success, low self-image, low self-worth) • How your beliefs impact how you view your successes • Shifting your perspective to focus more on where you want to go Quotes “What would have to happen for you to believe that you can keep doing your success? ‘Believe’ is the keyword there. What proof do you need? How do you need to feel? What would have to happen for you to believe that you are contributing to the success and can keep doing it?” "You cannot listen to and you cannot believe everything you think.” "Ultimately, your success was always up to you. Your results were always up to you… You are the one that showed up every f***ing day. You are the one that pushed through in those hard times. You are the one that came up with those creative ideas." Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
46 min
March 04, 2024[REPLAY] How to Use Your Enneagram in Business, Sales, Hiring & More with Sarah Wallace
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! With today's guest, Enneagram expert Sarah Wallace, we are diving into all things Enneagram and entrepreneurship. There are so many ways you can use the self-awareness that comes with knowing and understanding your own Enneagram type to improve the way you run your businesses - from learning how to best manage stress, to finding a sales routine that works for your personality, and helping team communication and productivity. The Enneagram is more than a trendy personality test, and in this episode we are exploring how this tool can be applied to make a real difference for you as a leader and business owner. Sarah Wallace is a Certified Enneagram Coach, host of the Enneagram MBA podcast, speaker, and workshop facilitator. With over 15 years in relationship building roles working with government agencies and companies like the US EPA, Federal Reserve Bank, John Deere, and adidas Outdoor, now small business owners, corporations, and event organizers work with Sarah to help them use the Enneagram to develop confident, empathetic, and emotionally intelligent leaders with powerful, productive, and happy teams In this episode, we cover…

Designing your business with your Enneagram type in mind

The parts of the Enneagram you should pay attention to (besides just your type)

Improving communication and leadership by understanding your's and your team members' Enneagram types

How your type may influence your decision making

Leaning on your strengths to approach sales

Using the Enneagram as a tool for hiring and managing your team

Quotes "There's so much great advice, it's just not every piece of advice is great for you. And so it really helps you get clear on what you need to focus on." "Understanding your strengths, and also what you enjoy, and then applying it to 'Okay, how do I come across on a sales call?'" "Growth is going to look different, and the Enneagram kind of shows us what growth looks like for different personalities." Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel Sarah's Links: Sarah's Website Sarah's Instagram Sarah's YouTube Channel Sarah's Overview For The 9 Types Other Links Mentioned: Enneagram Test
57 min
February 26, 2024 [REPLAY] The 4 Buyer Types (And How to Sell to Them) with Natasha Zoryk
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! Successful high-ticket launches and booked-out services with waitlists are not luck or a fluke. A lot of things come into play when entrepreneurs see success in their business and sales. There are skills and strategies involved, and one of these highly effective strategies is psychology around sales and buyer types. Implementing marketing strategies that speak to all buyer types has been proven to benefit sales in your business. Today's guest Natasha Zoryk is a business mentor who has scaled her business to achieve massive growth, reaching $200k + launches (without even posting on her IG Grid). Natasha has mastered the tactics of sales psychology and buyer types. In this episode, Natasha breaks down the different buyer types and explains the psychology of selling to each type effectively. In this episode, we cover… • The four different buyer types • Where most people get stuck in the sales process • How to implement sales psychology • Creating content to target each buyer type • How to sell high-ticket without posting every day "A lot of people say, sell the way you would buy. I couldn't agree less with that. Because no, that's the issue, you sell the way you think people will buy, but you don't know them. The best thing about sales psych is its customization to the person. It's not about you; it's about them." "You have to be consistent in the beginning but test things out. Don't let anyone ever tell you, you have to do something and believe there is only one way. There are 1,000,001 ways to scale and be successful. I'm living proof, and you're living proof." Connect with Natasha Zoryk Instagram www.natashazoryk.com Thanks for listening, and if you like what you’ve heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Laptop Lifestyle, and I’d love you to help me spread the word. Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
44 min
February 19, 2024 [REPLAY] How to Position your Business as the High-Level "Go-To" Brand in Your Niche
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! There are many go-to people in every nook and cranny of a specific type of market; there is probably at least one 'go-to' person that comes to mind in the niche or industry that is relevant to you. Today we're going to be talking about a whole different way of standing out and how to position yourself and position your business as a high-level, high-ticket, go-to brand in your industry. In this episode, I will discuss a bunch of different strategies that, when combined, will impress people at every stage and build that unwavering 'go-to person' brand reputation. In this episode, we cover… • Highlighting your authority & positioning yourself • What a stand out factor is • What makes a person a go-to person • Character traits to embody • Personal brand & likeability • Building a high-quality reputation "There are many go-to people. Not everyone is a go-to person, right? There are many go-to people in every nook and cranny of a certain type of market that you have positioned yourself into and dominated. Still, I'm never going to compare a high-level luxury vibe designer to a designer that's known for like her playful template shop. And that's the corner of the market that she dominated. They can both be the go-to, but you have to decide intentionally how you're going to position yourself within the designer market, and then go and dominate that." "No one is the go-to person that sits on the sidelines, and that sits on the bench, and that doesn't play, and that doesn't show up, right? The go-to person is visible. Everyone knows who they are. They're known for both their skill set and their execution in just this unmatched way that makes them, even when the competition knows about them.” Thanks for listening, and if you like what you’ve heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Laptop Lifestyle, and I’d love you to help me spread the word. Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
35 min
February 12, 2024[REPLAY] How Burnout and Chronic Stress Can Affect You As An Entrepreneur with Dr. Amanda Chay
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! Building a business is a lot of work, especially in the beginning 'solopreneur' stage. We often have a lot on our plate, and we tend to put consistent pressure on ourselves. Experiencing burnout, overwhelm, and chronic stress is all too familiar in the entrepreneurial space; however, understanding what you're experiencing, how it's affecting you, and your limits are crucial for preventing the physical and mental effects of long-term stress. In this episode, we are diving into all things around burnout and chronic stress as an entrepreneur with Dr. Amanda Chay. Dr. Amanda Chay is a Naturopathic Physician, store owner, and business consultant for wellness professionals. Running a busy clinic, online education platform, and brick & mortar store, she realized the most common cause of hormone imbalance and chronic disease was chronic stress. Her background as both a doctor and owner/founder of multiple corporations has made her an expert in optimizing wellness and peak performance in body, mind, and business. In this episode, we cover…

Chronic stress: What it means and how to identify it

Recognizing the signs of burnout

The difference between chronic stress and burnout

The connection between cortisol and inflammation

Actionable steps for recovery from burnout

Setting and defining boundaries for preventing overwhelm and stress

"When you're in that chronic fight or flight mode, like you have so much on your plate, you were late for the bus, or you got in a fight with your spouse, whatever it is, all these little things, our bodies start increasing cortisol. So you're always in this kind of high cortisol state. And that's when people tend to feel more anxious and overwhelmed, tired, but wired." "burnout is so hard to define because it's not actually like a medical condition. I think of it as typically, like low crash cortisol." "I think as entrepreneurs, we're always in the thinking, growing, expanding kind of phase in our mind. It's like, oh, what's next? What other cool things could I do? It's hard, I think, for entrepreneurs to be in the moment of being like, look at what I have and what's here. I think we're always kind of chasing the next thing. And that makes it hard just to calm down and be in the moment." Connect with Dr. Amanda Chay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/achilleaandcobc/ Website: https://achilleaandco.com Thanks for listening, and if you like what you’ve heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Laptop Lifestyle, and I’d love you to help me spread the word. Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
44 min
February 05, 2024 [REPLAY] 3 Steps to Remove your Limits & Go Bigger this Year
This is a replay of a top downloaded and raved-about favorite episode from the past few years! This episode was chosen very intentionally as an episode that I know everyone needs to hear right now whether for the first or second time, so tune in and enjoy! Welcome to the first little reveal of my new brand. If you're listening to this episode in real-time - over the next few weeks, you'll be seeing my current company grow and expand. The motto of my new brand is 'made for more,' and my word of the year for 2022 is 'bigger.' I'm paralleling together this idea of deep knowing and craving more. I know every one of you has had a tipping point where you realized that you were 'made for more, and that is probably what led you to begin this entrepreneurial journey. In this episode, I break down my ideas and theory behind the three puzzle pieces to achieve your 'made for more' life. I dive into my journey a little bit and share how I used these concepts to achieve the life I live today. In this episode, we cover… • Made it VS Made for more • Limits - Is it possible? • Going against the societal norms • Your desires are your truths • Chasing after your calling "I know that if I were to do a raise of hands, every single one of you would be like, how the hell did I even get sucked into this weird entrepreneur, space, and world? Like, how did I get here, there was a moment in time where you realized you were made for more, and it started at all, for every single one of us" "I knew I was made for more, and I refuse to believe that what I had was it. I knew I had to jump in to see what was possible, to see what I was made of. I wanted to push the boundaries, push these edges to see what was more." “I want you to ask yourself, Where have I set limits for what's possible in my life? What do I believe? As of right now, in this moment, don't correct yourself but ask yourself, what do I believe as of right now is not possible for me?” Thanks for listening, and if you like what you’ve heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Laptop Lifestyle, and I’d love you to help me spread the word. Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode Laptop Lifestyle Co Links: Website Instagram Tik Tok YouTube Channel
44 min

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