Dear MK

Valentine’s Day can be romantic, disappointing, chaotic, or completely ordinary … and of course, Mya and Dakota are talking about all of it! In this episode, they share their best and worst Valentine’s memories, most delusional situationship moments, and the times they accepted less than they deserved. Mya and Dakota are also reading your write-ins and unpacking the expectations vs. reality of this holiday. Whether you’re in love, healing, single, or somewhere in between, this day can be whatever you want it to be.

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In this episode, Mya and Dakota unpack DARVO — the manipulation tactic of deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender — and how it shows up in relationships, systems, and the media. They talk about why naming these patterns matters, how DARVO impacts survivors’ mental health, and why it can be so disorienting to experience. In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, this conversation is about education, prevention, and trusting yourself when something doesn’t feel right!

*Trigger & Conspiracy Warning:* Mya and Dakota use a highly documented and profiled case, which contains conspiracy theories, as it is still an unsolved case, to show an example of places to look for the use of DARVO. They explore the scary possibilities of what large figures hide from the public and hope to find justice in the narratives for all survivors.

Read Further on This Topic:

• ​https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EaJM9_9x_E&list=PLBpiUxZcKxXQ8Z9uAY6WXItquhnSIIGIK&index=4 
• ​https://www.jjfreyd.com/
• ​https://www.verywellmind.com/protecting-yourself-from-darvo-abusive-behavior-7562730 
• ​https://www.justice.gov/epstein 

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Healing is a word we hear everywhere — but what does it actually mean?

In this episode, Mya starts with an honest, solo reflection on what healing means to her. It’s an ongoing process of awareness, compassion, and choice. Dakota then joins the conversation, and they explore signs that parts of you may still be asking for healing and nurturing, including: feeling disposable or easily replaceable, a deep fear of abandonment, rejection, or being “too much,” struggling with self-worth or feeling like you have to earn love, and “testing” partners or pushing people away to see if they’ll leave.

They talk about how unhealed wounds can show up in relationships, how trauma shapes our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and how to recognize when you’re responding from past pain rather than present reality. Together, they answer: If healing is ongoing, what keeps you choosing it anyway? What’s a question you’ve learned to ask yourself when you feel triggered or activated? How do you tell the difference between reacting from the past and responding in the present moment?

This episode is for anyone who wants to heal but feels overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure where to start, and for anyone who needs the reminder that healing doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means parts of you learned how to survive before you had the tools to feel safe. We cannot change our past, but we can work to heal the parts of our past that still show up within us today.

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In this solo episode, Mya names the collective weight so many of us are carrying right now socially, politically, emotionally, and holds space for what it means to live and grow in a world that feels increasingly overwhelming. Through a mental health and trauma-informed lens, she reflects on generational pressure, nervous system responses to constant exposure, and the battle between staying informed and protecting our well-being. This episode isn’t about fixing everything, it’s about naming what’s real for many people (there are generalizations here, we acknowledge not everything is an absolute), offering grounding and regulation, and reminding you that you’re not alone! Together, we explore how to care for ourselves without totally disconnecting from the world, and how resilience can look like rest, boundaries, and simply surviving on hard days.

Please check out our resources below both for your mental health and ways to take action <3

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Season 3 of Dear MK is here. In this first episode back, Mya and Dakota check in, reintroduce the heart of the podcast, and share where they’re really at as they step into a new year and new seasons of life. Dakota opens up about using her real name after previously being known as “K,” and together they talk honestly about mental health, healing, boundaries, and how growth can change the way relationships, dating, and work feel. This episode is about giving yourself grace, letting go of pressure, and understanding that healing can make your world feel smaller and quieter, and that doesn’t mean something is wrong, but rather that you're choosing yourself.

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Please rate this podcast, comment, and share with your friends if you liked this! Mya and K love their audience and are so happy to be back! XOXO

In this bonus episode, Mya and K are catching up and giving their unfiltered hot takes on all things pop culture. First up: Love Island —  can production please show more depth? These women have real substance, and it’s time their voices, stories, and intellect were shown just as much as their bikinis. Where is the authenticity in these relationships? Who are Mya and K’s favorites, and who’s just there to play the game? 

Mya and K  dive into the internet’s reactions to Sabrina Carpenter’s “Man’s Best Friend” and Sydney Sweeney’s Squatch Soap and spoiler alert: these women are not “setting feminism back.” If anything, they’re flipping the script, profiting off a system that already sexualizes them. From satirical music videos to reclaiming their power, Sabrina and Sydney are giving Gen Z its own Britney and Kate Upton moment — and we’re here for it.

And yes… we had to talk about Bonnie Blue’s “Petting Zoo.” Everyone’s quick to shame her, but what about the thousands of men signing up for it? Let’s stop tearing down women for playing the game and start calling out the system that created it.

Stop blaming successful women — blame the patriarchy.

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It’s giving Love Island… but with emotional clarity. In today’s episode, Mya and K dive into the summer fling dilemma — is it just a seasonal situationship, or something deeper? They unpack the whirlwind of short-term summer romances and whether they’re fun, fleeting, or an emotional rollercoaster.

They get into the red flags that might signal it’s just a fling, and the confusing feelings you may be trying to make sense of. They also read your write-ins (yes, we talk about Huda & Jeremiah 👀), and open up about how pop culture — especially shows like Love Island — influences our ideas of romance and emotional connection.

Plus: Questions to ask yourself when you’re unsure where you stand, boundary-setting statements to protect your peace & red flags to stop ignoring!

Whether you’re feeling confused, hopeful, or somewhere in between, this one’s for you. You deserve clarity, not just chemistry.

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P.S. Send this to a friend who might be confused in their summer situation! <3

In this episode, Mya and K get real about the internal struggle so many of us feel: Should we be “savoring” our single era or locking in our forever person? Should we want the Carrie Bradshaw fantasy or the Pinterest-perfect engagement? Is everyone else doing it “right” as we’re falling behind?!

They unpack the pressure to hit certain relationship milestones (moving in, getting engaged, and married) while also navigating the message to live it up in your 20’s and 30’s. From societal expectations to internalized fears, this conversation is all about the in-between — the questioning, the comparison, and the self-doubt that creeps in even when you're in a good and healthy place.

They reflect on last week's "Romanticizing Potential" episode and open up about how even they second-guess themselves because the truth is, no one has it all figured out. Which is exactly why these conversations matter!

Whether you're single, in a relationship, healing, or unsure, this episode reminds you that your timeline is valid, your journey is your own, and it’s okay to both wonder what if and feel grateful for what is!

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In this episode, Mya and K unpack the all-too-relatable experience of falling for someone’s potential instead of who they truly are or what they show you. They dive deep into why so many of us stay in relationships, hoping for change, clinging to memories, promises, or the fantasy version of a partner, even when the reality might be full of red flags!

They break down the difference between loving someone and loving the idea of who they could be, and explore how this pattern is often rooted in trauma, people-pleasing, and societal messages that reward “fixing” others instead of choosing ourselves.

From the emotional toll of waiting on someone to change, to the signs that you might be romanticizing someone, Mya and K encourage you to never settle in a relationship that isn’t 100% for you. Plus, they offer listener check-in questions and advice for anyone who’s in the romanticizing pattern. You deserve love, not a never-ending project.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I in love with this person or the potential I see in them?” — this one’s for you.

In this deeply personal and validating episode, Mya and K open up about what mental health can really look like during and after abuse, toxic relationships, or emotional trauma, and why NONE of it is something to be ashamed of. From depression and PTSD to OCD tendencies that feel confusing or isolating, they normalize the messy aftermath of surviving and how it can shape your brain, your behavior, and ultimately your sense of self.

They dive into the science of trauma, including the real neurological changes that happen in your brain, and share their own stories with vulnerability and humor to show listeners they’re not alone. This conversation breaks down stigma, sheds light on patterns survivors often struggle with in silence, and reminds us all that healing isn’t linear, but support systems, understanding, being gentle with yourself, and psychoeducation can make all the difference.

Whether you’re in the thick of it, still healing, or just starting to realize what you've survived, this one is for you!

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