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In this episode, Mya and K get real about sexual ruts, initiating intimacy, and why great sex often starts before you even hit the bedroom (or your fav sexytime spot). They dive into the difference between being a "spontaneous" versus "responsive" partner, and how understanding your style can totally shift your relationship dynamic.

They explore how emotional connection, mental foreplay, and clear communication are just as essential as physical touch — and why intimacy isn’t just about sex.

Mya and K also unpack the shame and stigma many of us carry around sex — especially if you grew up being told it was inappropriate to talk about. They're here to challenge that narrative and empower you to have honest, open conversations with your partner.

Plus, they weigh in on the latest duality of feminism debate: Can hot girls be feminists? Spoiler alert — yes, and here’s why…

Time stamps: (0:00) Belly Welly scoop marketing (5:00) Ruts in relationships (10:00) What does healthy sex look like to you (14:00) Sexual touch without expectations (21:00) Responsive VS Spontaneous (25:00) Scheduling sex (32:00) “I feel like something’s off” let’s talk about it (38:00) Can hot girls be feminists?

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Inspired by Sex Therapist, Vanessa Marin! <3  

Struggling to communicate with your partner, friends, or anyone in your life? In this episode, Mya and K break down the most common toxic and unhealthy communication tactics — from gaslighting and guilt-tripping to passive aggression, love bombing, blame-shifting, and more.

They share real-life examples from their own relationships and stories they've heard from others to help you recognize when manipulation is happening — because it often comes in subtle ways. Plus, they dive into what healthy communication actually looks like: how to express your needs, navigate conflict with care, use timing/tone/turf, and determine what your partner needs to feel safe during disagreements.

To wrap it all up, they answer some of your powerful write-in questions. This is your go-to episode for leveling up your communication game in any relationship!

Topics Include: (1:00) Gaslighting (7:00) Guilt-tripping, Intimidation Tactics/Throwing Items (20:00) Passive Agression (24:00) Two Truths Can Coexist, Stooping To Your Partner's Level (30:00) Summer House Example (35:00) Isolation Tactics/Family/Friends (40:00) Love Bombing & Stonewalling (44:00) Answering Audience Questions! <3

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In this week’s episode, the girls are pressing pause on the heavy stuff and diving into all the things they’re loving right now — from Love is Blind and Love on the Spectrum to 365 Days and the spicy King of Sins book series! They’re catching up on all things girl talk: syncing cycles, birth control, and Mya’s biohacking that help her feel empowered during your period.

K and Mya dish on the relationships in the shows — including drama with Dave’s sister — and unpack the hypocrisy of indulging in toxic love stories. They reflect on how the media romanticizes dysfunction and why that can be harmful for folks still learning what healthy love really looks like.

To wrap it up, Mya shares Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory and how it can shift the way we approach relationships — especially when we feel the urge to fix, chase, or control. It’s a mix of laughs, hot takes, and real talk — because sometimes healing also looks like reality TV and hormone chats.

Topics include: (1:00-10:00) period talk, (10:00-17:00) King of Wrath, 356 Days, 50 Shades (18:00-23:00) Bachelor in Paradise, Love on The Spectrum, (23:00-40:00) Love is Blind (40:00) Mel Robbins “Let Them” Theory

It might not be sexual assault — but that doesn’t mean it didn’t feel wrong.

In this episode, Mya and K dive into the murky, often unspoken space of sexual discomfort. You know the feeling — when something you technically agreed to ends up leaving you feeling used, uneasy, or just… icky. Maybe it didn’t cross a legal line, maybe no one meant harm, but it still didn’t feel good — and that matters.

These kinds of experiences are more common than we think, and yet we rarely talk about them. Sometimes they stir up past trauma. Sometimes they create a lingering sense of shame or set the stage for future discomfort. Either way, they’re valid. And we deserve to unpack them.

In honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Mya and K explore the spectrum — from clear-cut sexual assault to the gray areas of discomfort. They break down enthusiastic consent, share personal stories, and ask the big question: Are my feelings valid even if no one “did anything wrong”? The answer is YES!

They also touch on the broader culture we’re navigating — including the harmful rise of the “Andrew Tate effect,” how misogynistic rhetoric is showing up in classrooms, and the terrifying reality of deepfake pornography targeting teenage girls. Mya ends by sharing a powerful metaphor explaining why women feel so invalidated by the phrase, “It’s not ALL men.”

This episode is for anyone who’s ever walked away from an experience feeling off, confused, or alone. We see you — and we believe these conversations matter.

TIMESTAMPS:

(4:oo) Feels good to have a word that describes what happened to you; “sexual discomfort” (7:30) Personal boundaries/you don't need to provide an excuse (10:00) It was my first time being triggered (15:00) Made me hesitant for all of my sexual encounters (20:00) Consent should always be enthusiastic (21:00) Safe words (25:00) The Andrew Tate Effect (28:00) Deepfake porn & digital abuse (32:00) Analogy “its enough men to make women afraid” (47:00) they get mad when you say no (crazy story)

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In this week's Safe Space Interview, Mya and K sit down with Jake Whan—a channeler, breath work facilitator, and spiritual guide—who bravely shares his journey of healing after three toxic relationships. Jake opens up about the impact of neglect, unhealthy communication, financial coercion, and constantly giving to partners who never gave back. It wasn’t until he finally left that he recognized the toxicity and found his own path to healing through therapy, coaching, plant medicine, and transformative retreats. Now, empowered and full of self-love, Jake helps others on their healing journeys. He even guides us through a breath work exercise to calm the nervous system and ground ourselves in the present. In this powerful conversation, Jake offers insight for men who have faced similar experiences, helping to break the stigma—because domestic violence and sexual assault can happen to anyone <3

Topics Include: (8:00) “I didn’t know how to stick up for myself yet - I didn’t know how to communicate” (14:00) “I was repeating patterns from my childhood - I was giving so much and not receiving” (25:00) “Notions in your head - I’m a man, I need to provide. If I’m not able to provide, I’m a failure” (37:00) “I’m meant to go through these things in order to see the other end of the spectrum” (44:00) Therapy & Spirituality “I didn’t have a lot of self-love, so we did a lot of deep work on that” (50:00) Stigmas & Advice “Join online communities, find people you resonate with” (52:00) Trauma In The Body “Emotions are energy in motion” (57:00) BREATH WORK EXERCISE (1:02) The Best Advice Ever “Recognize that you are deserving of love within yourself and relationships….”

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This week on Dear MK, Mya and K are fired up, asking the age-old question: Why are women still putting up with bad dates and even worse sex? They break down the latest misogynistic social media chatter—from Sabrina Carpenter’s viral “Eiffel Tower” dance to Paige DeSorbo’s breakup and career glow-up, plus Monica Lewinsky’s powerful Call Her Daddy interview. K introduces her signature “Steps of Sex,” and the girls unpack why following them is crucial for women to feel their best, own their orgasm, and protect themselves. Tune in for a candid, unfiltered conversation you won’t want to miss!

Topics Include: Life Updates - Medications/Birth Control - Celebrity Gossip - Steps of Sex - Canon Girl Events (Not knowing it was SA, Losing Your Entire Friend Group) - Saying DONE with it all! 

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This week on Dear MK, Mya and K bring back a topic by popular demand: how to tell your friend they’re in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. In the last two Safe Space Interviews, the brave survivors shared their personal experiences with their friends being the reason they survived and are in the healed spaces they are today. It might be natural to want to say “just break up!” to your besties when you see them struggling and not acting like themselves, but it’s important to remember that they might be in denial, experiencing trauma responses, or being severely manipulated to the point where they cannot hear what you have to say. The girls go through multiple scenarios you may face with your friends or loved ones, but you’ll see that sometimes, all it takes is just being there and never giving up. 

Topics include: (6:50) Scenario building (10:30) “If you see the delusion in their eyes, let it go for now” (19:30) Planting seeds, trying new methods (23:00) Scenario with Southern Hospitality Recap (36:00) Breakup safety planning (39:00) Resources

Is your relationship healthy? Take this quiz to find out! https://www.loveisrespect.org/quizzes/   

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In this powerful Safe Space Interview, a brave survivor of dating violence shares her journey—from believing she had found forever love to realizing she was trapped in a relationship she no longer recognized. During the isolation of the COVID-19 lockdown, her abuser’s excessive drinking fueled a transformation from jealous, controlling behaviors to fights and physical abuse.

Her story challenges harmful myths: that men don’t hit women, that successful and intelligent women couldn’t possibly find themselves in abusive relationships, that collegiate athletes should battle their mental struggles alone, and that bystander intervention is a one-size-fits-all solution.

She closes with a heartfelt piece of writing, offering a message of hope, resilience, and healing after trauma.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of emotional and physical abuse. Please take care of yourself, and explore the resources and self-care tools below for support.

Notable Moments: (12:00) “It's hard to know what's healthy and unhealthy in your first relationship” (17:00) “He would grab my wrists, he would blame me for his drinking” (26:00) “I blocked it out of my mind completely” Fight. Flight. Fawn (37:00) “I would do anything for my best friend to not have seen what happened to me” (52:00) “We were just 17 year old girls, I didn’t know what to say to my mother” (1:13) “You don’t need to be afraid to ask for help” 

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Mya and K are back this week with a quick episode, recapping the last safe space interview, updating you on the latest Title IX policies, and answering audience questions! Mya talks about the ban of DEI language in federally funded schools and what that has looked like when working with them as she is doing everything she can to uphold her own moral and ethical duties, and K helps explain why the current Title IX policies can be harmful to survivors. They address how DV and SA can happen to ANYONE regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, and that everyone deserves justice in their healing process. Mya and K end with answering their amazing Dear MK listeners questions!

Topics include: (5:00-16:00) Title IX, “Protecting Women” Media Narrative, DEI Language (17:00-19:00) Male Survivors, (19:00-End) Q&A: “What are healthy habits in relationships and tips for reflecting inward? How do you stay positive in light of everything happening right now in the world?” Love Languages, Check-ins, Intentional Quality Time

READ ABOUT THE CURRENT TITLE IX LAWS

https://www.advocatesforyouth.org/campaigns/know-your-ix/ 

https://nwlc.org/press-release/nwlc-moves-to-defend-title-ix-protections-for-student-survivors/ 

https://nwlc.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Title-IX-Vacatur.pdf 

https://19thnews.org/2025/02/trump-education-department-title-ix/

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In Part 2 of this courageous survivor’s story, Mya and K continue to unpack the layers of her journey—exploring the emotions and challenges she faced while seeking justice and finding healing. She opens up about overcoming resentment, from friends to classmates who sided with her perpetrator, to the societal biases and victim-blaming that added to her pain.

They discuss the weight of navigating blame, including the haunting words, “You’re going to ruin his life,” and how she fought to reclaim her voice in the face of doubt and stigma. Her reflections touch on universal themes of anger, blame, and the fight for meaning and connection after trauma. This episode is a testament to the resilience of survivors and the power of speaking out. Join us for the next chapter in this unforgettable journey!

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As always please continue practice self-care and check out Mya's favorite resources here if you need coping/mindfulness tips or sites to read more on SA/DV :)

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