Today, it’s a coming out party for first-time fig-eaters, brothers, people who don’t want to talk about their hair, artists, and more! First up: My dad wants my brother to wait to tell my conservative grandma he’s gay, but I think he should come out now. Who’s right? Then: I told my friend I loved her – now I want her out of my life and she won’t go away. Help! My parents stifled my creativity as a kid and now I’m terrified to try to use my artistic talents. I’m a cancer survivor – how do I tell my well-meaning co-workers to stop commenting on my hair growing back? And finally: is it transphobic to want a divorce from a partner who wants to transition? Hear more Prudence by joining Slate Plus: Slate.com/Prudiepod.

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