It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth. Elizabeth and her boyfriend have a great relationship but there's one issue, and it's an elephant in the room: his jealousy. An event occurs where she's invited out by a colleague, sending her boyfriend into a jealous frenzy. Was Elizabeth the "A-hole" in how she handled that situation, or is her boyfriend's mistrust a red flag? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth!

34:23 - Shandy Debrief

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It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 3 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and received quite the selection of Qs about us, our relationship, the podcast, and of course, the random stuff in between! Thank you, Shandies, for another year of laughs, rabbit holes, and analogies. We deeply appreciate you and the community we've built. Come join us in our living room to chat!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:15 - What Is Your Favorite Feature On Each Other’s Bodies?

5:39 - Did Sharleen Always See Herself Moving To The US?

6:35 - Does Shandy Have Plans To Move To A Bigger Apartment?

8:50 - Are You More Or Less Goofy In Real Life?

9:42 - How Many White V-Necks Does Andy Own?

11:00 - Is Sharleen Embarrassed By Andy’s White V-Necks?

11:12 - How Does Shandy Fight?

15:57 - Why Can’t We Know What Andy Does For A Living?

17:11 - Do You Think Your Relationship Would Be What It Is If You’d Met Younger?

19:32 - What Are The Hardest And Easiest Parts Of Being A Public Figure Couple? 

24:45 - Do You Ever Get Annoyed When Recording With Each Other? 

28:26 - How Many Couples Have Declined Or Ignored Love Fest Requests?

29:16 - How Do You Feel When Love Fest Couples Break Up?

30:28 - Has There Been A Reaction To An Episode That Has Been Challenging To Reckon With?

39:09 - If You Knew Then What You Know Now, Would You Still Have Started Dear Shandy? 

40:31 - Who Would Be Dream Moderators For Your Own Love Fest? 

41:28 - Can We Get A Refresher On The Correct/Incorrect Use Of “You’re Welcome”?

46:12 - If You Could Monologue About One Topic Of Your Choice For 30 Minutes, What Would It Be? 

46:31 - Based On Your Experience, What Advice Do You Have On Things To Look For In A Partner?

51:47 - If You Were A Cat, What Kind, Color, And Personality Of A Cat Would You Be? 

53:29 - Power Rank (Least Favorite To Favorite): Chicken, Beef, Pork, Tofu, Fish 

57:23 - Why Doesn’t Shandy Eat Meat?

57:45 - Would You Rather a) Every Night For The Rest Of Your Life Have To Watch Your Parents Have Sex, Or b) You Can Avoid That By Joining In One Time 

58:30 - No Wine Ever Again, Or No Charcuterie Boards Ever Again?

58:57 - Power Rank: Amelia Earhart, Massages, Soup Dumplings, MLK, Contact Lenses, The Color Green

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it weird if your partner wants a private, locked room in your shared home? What are Shandy's thoughts on "Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"? Is there a "right" way to break up with someone? And let's help a Shandy find friends in her new city! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: Are My Boyfriend’s Friendships Weird?

7:30 - Q2: My Boyfriend Wants A Private, Locked Room In Our Shared Home—Thoughts?

20:14 - Q3: I’ve Moved Cities And Am Having A Hard Time Making Friends—Help!

28:28 - Q4: I’ve Been The Cheater—What Are Shandy’s Thoughts On “Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater”?

41:27 - Q5: I Just Learned About My Boyfriend’s Cheating History—Is This A Dealbreaker?

1:05:38 - Q6: I Know I Need To End It But Am Dreading It—Tips On Breaking Up?

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined AT HOME for their third ever in-person Love Fest, by a couple whose relationship Shandy got to witness firsthand when Sharleen hosted Bachelor In Paradise Canada! Last Summer Chelsea Vaughn (Bachelor S25 & BIP S7) and Austin Tinsley (Bachelorette S17) met on Canadian soil and left as a couple in love. Because the season didn't air until a near year later, Chelsea and Austin had to keep their relationship under wraps for a whopping 13 MONTHS! Needless to say, they've learned a thing or two about each other in the interim!

Today Chelsea and Austin join Shandy to share fun Paradise Canada #BTS, how they complement each other, what it felt like learning to text each other (yes, really!), and of course, how they fight! Finally, a kooky Newlyweds Game with answers you will not see coming! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Auston on Vaughnerable, P2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000622115759

Referenced Hot Cheetos Reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsXB9Q5NnoP

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Chelsea & Austin!

6:50 - Shandy’s Appearance On Chelsea’s Podcast, Vaughnerable

7:41 - Did They Feel A Cultural Difference In Canada?

9:29 - First Impressions

21:40 - Being “In Hiding” For 13 Months (!)

26:21 - How They Complement Each Other

30:33 - How They’re Different Than Expected

34:26 - How Austin’s Different Than What Chelsea Imagined For Herself

36:44 - Early Hurdle

42:47 - How They Fight

48:15 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

51:53 - The Newlyweds Game

1:06:48 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Kelly. Kelly's cousin's choices in her relationship have had a ripple effect in their shared friend circle and Kelly has wound up more involved than she ever intended to be or would have liked. When is someone else's infidelity your information to share, and in Kelly's case, should she have done anything differently? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Kelly!

36:48 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

1:04 - Finale Kick Off

2:10 - Aaron B’s Return

3:45 - Rose Ceremony

9:43 - Live: Aaron B

10:44 - Charity With Her Family

12:43 - Joey Meets Charity’s Family

13:49 - Live

14:29 - Dotun Meets Charity’s Family

19:18 - Charity Seeks Clarity

22:45 - Joey’s Final Date

24:58 - Live

26:00 - Dotun’s Final Date

28:47 - Neil Lane

31:34 - Proposal Day

33:17 - Joey

36:23 - Live: Joey 

37:30 - Live: Charity Joins

39:19 - Dotun

41:32 - Live

42:27 - Live: Charity & Dotun

45:34 - Bachelor Reveal

48:42 - Overall Thoughts On Charity’s Season

49:45 - Shandy Word Watch

50:37 - Reviewing Night One Predictions

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Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to tackle the ever-relevant topic of NARCISSISM since Dear Shandy's inception, however, we insisted on waiting until we could get the best of the best to join us. Our patience paid off as today we're joined by the acclaimed, unparalleled expert on narcissism, the one and only Dr. Ramani. Trust us, she does NOT disappoint!

Today Dr. Ramani sets the record straight on the definition on narcissism, how social media has changed the narcissist landscape, and how many of us fall on the narcissism spectrum. She gives us insight on how aware of their own narcissism narcissists are, whether or not they have a moral compass or can improve, and whether or not you can "win" in your battle against a narcissist. We wrap with actionable tips for those healing from their relationship with narcissists, those who have no choice but to live or work with narcissists, and what "red flags" to look out for.

Our minds were blown multiple times during this conversation and this is easily one of our all-time favorite Hot Topics to date. We promise you will learn something new (and useful) to apply to your most challenging relationships.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Ramani!

2:59 - The Clinical Definition of Narcissism (So We’re All On The Same Page)

4:35 - Is There A Point On The Spectrum Where A Personality Style Becomes A Personality Disorder?

8:27 - Nature And Nurture

13:09 - How Wrong Is It To Throw The Term “Narcissist” Around?

15:41 - What Percentage Of People Fall On The Narcissism Spectrum?

17:40 - Social Media

22:56 - Can A Person Be Narcissistic In Some Ways But Not In Others?

23:58 - Can They Help It?

27:52 - When Narcissists Are Acting Out, Are They Drinking Their Own Kool-Aid?

30:25 - Do Narcissists Have A Moral Compass?

32:31 - Shame

33:54 - Can Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists?

35:06 - Has She Ever Seen Narcissists Improve?

38:59 - Is There A Correlation Between Narcissism And Enormous Wealth?

39:50 - Is There A Way To “Win” With Narcissists?

42:39 - When Dating Someone New, What Are Red Flags To Look Out For?

47:46 - Are People Raised By Narcissists More Likely To End Up In A Relationship With One?

48:47 - For People Who Have Fallen For Narcissists, What Questions Should They Ask Themselves?

51:45 - What Do Narcissists Truly Want In A Partner?

54:53 - Navigating Narcissism In The Workplace

58:04 - When Your Colleagues Are Drinking The Narcisisst’s Kool-Aid, Can You Make Them See The Light?

1:01:52 - The Basic Rules For Handling A Narcissist

1:04:51 - How Can One Tell If *They* Are A Narcissist? 

1:06:21 - Are There Benevolent Narcisissts?

1:09:22 - First Steps Victims Of Narcissists Should Take Towards Healing

1:12:34 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down Men Tell All!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:35 - Men Tell All Kickoff

7:35 - A Guy Named Peter

10:43 - Brayden’s Hot Seat

17:02 - Xavier

20:28 - Charity Arrives

27:16 - Xavier’s Hot Seat

37:13 - Unseen Footage

40:04 - Captain Tom

40:45 - Former Bachelorettes

41:22 - Gerry, Our Golden Bachelor

45:18 - Credits

45:44 - Andy’s A-Game

46:37 - Shandy Word Watch

49:37 - Overall Thoughts

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a red flag if your date leads with compliments about your physical appearance? If your mother's wedding gift is a check that seems to be missing a "0", is it worth bringing up? And if your brother has created a web of lies so big you're forced to play a part in the charade, when is enough enough? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:48 - Q1: Don’t Tell Me I’m Pretty… Yet

13:57 - Q2: My Boyfriend Lacks Initiative—Should I Be Concerned?

26:04 - Q3: My Mother Gifted Us A Surprisingly Low Amount Of Money For Our Wedding—Can I Say Something?

44:34 - Q4: My LDR Is Rocky But We’re So In Love—When Is It Too Much To Overcome?

54:14 - Q5: My Boyfriend Didn't Do Anything For My Birthday :(

1:07:39 - Q6: My Brother Can’t Keep It In His Pants—Help!

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Fantasy Suite Week!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:44 - Episode 7 Kick Off

3:34 - Xavier’s Overnight

35:31 - Joey’s Overnight

40:55 - Flashpoint

46:21 - Dotun’s Overnight

55:11 - Aaron B

58:40 - Credits

1:01:16 - Andy’s A-Game

1:02:12 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:59 - Shandy’s Predictions

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