Dear Shandy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you loathe your brother's girlfriend's "Influencer" Instagram, are you just being judgy or should you warn him of red flags? If your friend's financial situation has gotten difficult, is it wise to loan her money? If you found your husband's top secret stash, starring a surprising main character, what should you do? And if your boyfriend is loyal and loving but you have a secret fantasy, is it worth it to risk it all for the Unknown? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

6:20 - Q1: My Brother Is Dating A Superficial Influencer Wannabe—Help!

24:25 - Q2: My Friend Is Having A Difficult Time Financially—Should I Lend Her The Funds?

36:46 - Q3: I Found My Husband’s Secret Stash Of Deepfakes He Created Of Me—Help!

52:20 - Q4: I Have A Loyal Boyfriend But A Secret Fantasy—Do I Take The Leap?

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Today Shandy is delighted to welcome the (co-)WINNER of Netflix's Perfect Match Season 4, the one and only Dave Hand! We watched Dave leave the show hand-in-hand with Sophie... so what *really* happened? Today Dave explains the truth behind the breakup, who from the cast is the most misunderstood, and how his life has changed in the aftermath of TWO reality shows. Most importantly, Shandy learns the thought process that goes into getting a neck tattoo! We enjoyed this conversation and think you will, too! #netflix #perfectmatch

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dave Hand!

3:20 - What Happened With Sophie

9:08 - Who From Perfect Match Is Most Misunderstood?

15:36 - Did He Feel A Cultural Difference On The Show?

21:09 - Life After TV

24:46 - What Is The Thought Process That Goes Into Getting A Neck Tattoo?

29:37 - Ranking Cast Members

30:04 - Is His Favorite Movie Really ‘The Notebook’?

31:16 - Rapid Fire

38:00 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, and today they're breaking down the grand FINALE!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:45 - Finale Kick Off

25:00 - “Perfect Match” Crowning Ceremony

44:19 - Surprise Couple

47:15 - Final Thoughts & Predictions

49:44 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you and your longtime platonic friend have been secretly crushing on each other, is it now or never to make a move, even if he's started dating someone new? (Speak now or forever hold your peace?) If your friend has volunteered YOU to help her move, can you worm your way out of it, or is it best to roll up your sleeves and help? And what can be done if your partner of 16 years has become a moody grump? Can people actually change, or must you grin and bear it? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:14 - Q1: My Longtime Friend And I Are Secretly Crushing But Timing Isn’t Our Friend—Help!

16:54 - Q2: My “Friend” Has Assumed I’ll Help Her Move Homes—Can I Get Out Of This?

26:03 - Q3: My Boyfriend & I Are Finally Moving In Together But I Fear Compromising On This One Thing—Help!

34:12 - Q4: I’m An Adult But These Former Colleagues Make Me Feel Like I’m In Junior High—Help!

44:58 - Q5: My Husband Is Moody And It’s Driving Me Nuts!

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, so today they're breaking down the first batch, aka episodes 6-7! 

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:06 - Episode 6

33:53 - Episode 7

1:12:15 - Shandy's Predictions

1:14:44 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, so today they're breaking down the first batch, aka episodes 1-5! 

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:16 - Episode 1

26:10 - Episode 2

35:32 - Episode 3

56:14 - Episode 4

1:07:53 - Episode 5

1:19:11 - Who We Would Go For

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Today Shandy is joined by fellow podcasters and dating advice givers, Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham from the U Up? Podcast! They chat the most common themes they see in the questions they receive, whether or not dating today is *actually* worse (or if we're just talking about it more), and what it's like to date when you're famous! Watch on for two relationship podcasts' (sometimes very different!) perspectives on apps and modern romance.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid of U Up? Podcast!

0:47 - What Are The Most Common Themes They See In Their Relationship Qs?

9:34 - Is Dating Today Actually Worse Or Are We Just Talking About It More?

11:51 - Number One Piece Of Dating Advice

21:43 - Dating When You’re Famous

25:22 - Leaving The House

31:57 - Advice They Give That They Struggle To Follow

39:06 - Would You Rather

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your best friend puts zero thought into setting you up with her husband's friend, is that a slight or are you just sensitive? If your boyfriend's new hobby involves regularly "borrowing" your ideas, is it weird to be annoyed or is just a case of "sharing is caring"? At what age is OK to stop sending your nieces and nephews money? And if a family member is addicted to making AI-generated photos of your family, is it worth the awkwardness of saying something? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:54 - Q1: At What Age Can I Stop Sending My Nephews Money?

17:08 - Q2: My Friend Put No Thought Into Setting Me Up—Am I Being Too Sensitive?

33:00 - Q3: My Boyfriend Loves Doing Standup But Keeps Stealing My Jokes—Help!

50:30 - Q4: My Mother-In-Law Is Addicted To Making AI-Generated Photos Of Our Family—Help!

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*Special Announcement*

Dear Shandy will be moderating Amy's Book Launch Event in NYC on May 5th, 2026! For more info visit: https://luma.com/unsingle

It's not every day we bring back a Hot Topic guest, but when Amy Chan writes a new book, YOU BRING HER BACK. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is a relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamp, retreats that apply a scientific, psychological approach to healing heartbreak and rewiring dating patterns.

It has been 4.5 years since we first had Amy on, and now with her new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" (April 28, 2026), she shares the science of rewiring your brain to actually find success in your love life. Today Amy chats your unconscious patterns, how being otherwise "high-achieving" is working against you, and at what leg in the "Dating Funnel" you're getting stuck. We promise you'll never see dating the same way again after hearing Amy's insights. Watch on to get "Unsingle"!

Our first episode with Amy: https://youtu.be/FRXrV7AXHwY?si=NRMBdTNNAKy1PwEg

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome (Back) Amy Chan!

3:30 - Unconscious Patterns

6:44 - Does Being Otherwise “High-Achieving” Work Against You In Dating?

11:00 - The Dating Funnel

16:16 - Expanding Horizons

25:34 - The Experiment

27:37 - Age Gaps

29:13 - Over-Icking

33:15 - Chemistry

49:14 - Situationships

51:29 - People Pleasing

54:18 - The Grass Is Always Greener

56:39 - What You Can Do Now To Rewire Your Brain

58:52 - Final Takeaways

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you love your husband but find his career boring AF, should you feign interest to spare his feelings, or be 100% honest about your disinterest? Is it acceptable to become close friends with your best friend's partner, even if your best friend doesn't approve? Has Shandy ever dated anyone who brought out the worst in them, and what are their thoughts on "breadcrumbing" in dating? Finally, if your date regularly brings you the ugliest flowers you've ever seen, does that speak to a deeper compatibility and "taste" issue? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:17 - Q1: I’m Bored To Tears When My Husband Talks About His Job—AITA?

21:16 - Q2: Can I Be Best Friends With My Best Friend’s Wife?

30:27 - Q3: I’m Still Hung Up On A Girl Who Brought Out The Worst In Me—Help!

43:42 - Q4: My New Flame Is Great But His Taste Is Not—Help!

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