Decompress with Jess

I would like to think of myself as a very positive person... at least that’s what everyone tells me. But sometimes I wonder if this is almost to a fault.

In this solo episode, I dive right into yes....toxic positivity. I feel like it is running rampant, especially with the pandemic and just life in general sometimes it is hard to cope. What better way to tackle this topic with your everyday average person, your everyday average Jess. 

I remember the first time I heard the term toxic positivity . Well technically saw it, and  I thought it was an oxymoron.

I remember thinking to myself 

How can being positive be negative?

How can it be counterproductive?

What is toxic positivity?

What are some examples?

How does it impact our relationship with ourselves and others?

I get into all of this and more!

Resources:

Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes (thepsychologygroup.com)

What Is Toxic Positivity? | Psychology Today

Blog Entry: Entry 3: Being genuinely positive. Minus the toxic part. (decompresswithjessblog.com)

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In this episode, Shane Coyle and I discuss ahhh....expectations. Something that is not nearly talked about enough, yet plays such an important role in our lives. Especially in our relationships with ourselves and each other (Get ready for this one lol).

What is at the root of an expectation?

How does mind-reading play a role?

How can expectations lead to resentment?

How can we better communicate?

We get into all of this and more!

Shane is a speaker, writer,  trauma informed board certified compulsive behavior specialist and mental health advocate. The way he shared his knowledge on this topic made it so easy to understand and leaves you with a lot to think about..... a LOT lol.

Shane's Information:

Website: HOME (shanecoylehealing.com)

Connect on Instagram: Ｓｈａｎｅ | ｈｅａｌｅｒ (@shanecoylehealing) • Instagram photos and videos

Instagram Live Conversations: WTFisthishumanexperience (@wtfisthishumanexperience) • Instagram photos and videos

My Information:

Instagram: @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

Email:  [email protected]

In this episode, Gabrielle Stone and I discuss her remarkable journey that she turned into two books that are MUST reads. We dive into the concepts of planning, not planning, being uncomfortable, THE THOUGHT ONION (I freaking love that lol), and basically everything in between.

What role does planning play or not play in our process of self-growth?

Where does self-awareness tie into acknowledging our feelings?

We get into all of this and more!

Gabrielle Stone is author of Eat, Pray, #FML, and, The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl. She is also an actress, director, podcast host of, "FML Talk" and courageous human being. Gabrielle took a very private and vulnerable experience and made it a very public one to help others heal. 

Gabrielle's Information:

Books:
Eat, Pray, #FML
 Eat, Pray, #FML: Stone, Gabrielle: 9781733963701: Amazon.com: Books

The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl
Amazon.com : the ridiculous misadventures

Connect on Instagram: Gabrielle Stone (@gabriellestone) • Instagram photos and videos

Podcast: ‎FML Talk on Apple Podcasts

 
My Information:

 Instagram: @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:  [email protected]

In this episode, Suzane Joseph and I discuss relationships and mental health. Relationships seem simple enough because we are engaging in them everyday...right? At work, home, friendships, romantic relationships and so on. However, for something that is such a major part part of our lives, it is not discussed enough. 

What is your definition of relationships?

How can insecurities impact relationships?

How can we be better to ourselves and each other?

We get into all of this and more!

Suzane Joseph is a motivational speaker, author,  and mental health advocate. I asked her to join me in this discussion because she really is so genuine. There are just some people that have that ability to convey their knowledge in such a way that you can literally feel their energy. That is Suzane, and what better person to talk about relationships with!

Suzane's Information:

Website: Wellness | Suzane Joseph

Book: Chasing After God's Own Heart: Redirecting My Life - Kindle edition by Joseph, Suzane. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

Connect on Instagram: Wellness Strategist (@suzanejoseph_) • Instagram photos and videos

 
My Information:

 Instagram: @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:  [email protected]

In this episode, Dr. Jessica Louie and I discuss  burnout.  First of all ( I know I say this about a lot of things lol), I didn't even know this was a real thing. There is a name to feeling exhausted even though you are getting enough sleep. A name to constantly feeling worn and stressed out physically, mentally and emotionally.  It is burnout. 

Every though everyone’s burnout may look different, are there any general signs to look for as possible indicators of burnout?

How does burnout relate to clutter?

How can we cultivate joy at work?

What are some tips on addressing clutter/burnout?

We get into all of this and more!

Jessica Louie, PharmD, APh, BCCCP is the CEO of Clarify, Simplify, Align and Host of The Burnout Doctor Podcast. Dr. Louie uses her signature Burnout Doctor Method to coach burned out pharmacists & professionals to simplify because work-life balance is a LIE. Align work into your life & break free from people pleasing, perfectionism and thrive in life on YOUR TERMS. Dr. Louie is a Board-Certified Critical Care Pharmacist and Associate Professor in Los Angeles. She provides weekly content on her YouTube channel, podcast and online courses

Dr. Jessica's Information:

Get your Complimentary Burnout Starter Kit: https://drjessicalouie.com/burnout-coaching

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrJessicaLouie?sub_confirmation=1

Listen to The Burnout Doctor Podcast: https://drjessicalouie.com/podcast/

Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-m-louie-pharmd-bcccp/

Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjessicalouie/

 
My Information:

 Instagram: @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:  [email protected]

In this episode, Mollie Birney and I discuss  a topic very close to my heart....people pleasing ( I think that is my middle name lol). During the pandemic, I started to read more books about it and was blown away that it was actually a real thing, and there was a term for it. I know...I am late to the party lol

What is people pleasing?

Are we tying it to our self-worth?

How can we become more aware that we are people pleasing?

We get into all of this and more!

Mollie is a Clinical Life Coach, and you can really feel the passion in her words when she speaks. Not to mention she is absolutely brilliant, and the way she conveyed the information was so easy and understandable. She is also the co-founder of Catch Your Breath Retreats, which incorporates stress-relief, mindfulness and self-reflection into an eclectic approach. 

Mollie's Information:

Website:

@mbclinicalcoaching | Linktree

Instagram:

Mollie Birney, M.A. (@mbclinicalcoaching) • Instagram photos and videos

Catch Your Breath Retreats:

Catch Your Breath (catchyourbreathretreats.com)

 
My Information:

 Instagram:

 @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:

 [email protected]

Surprise episode with yours truly!

Social media filters smooth your face out,  get rid of blemishes, make your lips bigger, give you perfect eyelashes, hide features you aren’t too proud of (definitely my nose) and alter the angles of  your face. 

But at what expense?

In this episode, I dive into the unattainable standards of  filters, and the impact they have  on our mental health. 

Subliminally with all the images we see throughout the day, are we going to think these filtered images are real and attainable?

What are some root causes for using a filter?

How does it impact our self-esteem?

What are some tips to limiting the impact of filters on our mental health and self-esteem?

I get into all of this and more!

Marie Claire Article:

So, are social media filters ruining your mental health? | Marie Claire

Systematic Review:

Social Media Use and Its Connection to Mental Health: A Systematic Review (nih.gov)

My Information:

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 @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

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 [email protected]

In this episode, Dr. Michele  and I discuss (drumroll please) , manipulation (yikes)!!!!  Manipulation is such an important thing to talk about, as it runs rampant in our lives without even realizing it in all facets (work, relationships,  even scams with shopping). 

What are some factors that can make someone more susceptible to being manipulated?

What are some strategies we can use to outsmart a manipulator?

We get into all of this and more!

Dr. Michele  is an author, psychotherapist, and mental health advocate.   She has done  research regarding domestic abuse,  and she works with pre-teens to adults at her private practice. She really breaks manipulation down in such a way that makes you not feel doomed if you are being manipulated LOL.  Her approach is no nonsense yet understanding.  Her expertise was much appreciated. 

 Dr. Michele's information:

Website:

Home | Dr. Michele Finneran (drmichelefinneran.com)

Email:

[email protected]

Phone Number:

(561) 350 - 1599

Book:

Surviving Domestic Abuse: Formal and Informal Supports and Services - (routledge.com)
 
My Information:

 Instagram:

 @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:

 [email protected]

In this episode, Rachel Ceness and I talk about empaths, basically the coolest people ever. Empaths are people that are able to feel other people's emotions to the point that they absorb them and take them on as their own. Sounds like a super power to me. 

What is the science behind why empaths can be exhausted?

What are the physical and psychological differences for people who are empaths and those who aren't?

What is an "energy leak" and how can we best recognize it?

We get into all of this and more!

Rachel Ceness  is a coach and podcaster that motivates leaders to utilize their power and practice self-care. It was so nice to sit and talk with her because she really broke down being an empath is such a holistic way. Her energy is so contagious and pure (you'll see)!

 Rachel's  information:

Linktree:

@bloomingwithhealth | Linktree

 Instagram:

Rachel🌹Empath Empowerment (@bloomingwithhealth) • Instagram photos and videos

  Podcast:

‎The Empath Metamorphosis Podcast on Apple Podcasts

 My Information:

 Instagram:

 @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:

 [email protected]

In this episode, Sarah Caliendo and I discuss one of my favorite past times, and a big hobby of mine....overthinking !!!

How does overthinking interact with our goals?

Has overthinking become a trend ? 

When does overthinking become unhealthy? 

We get into all of this and more!

Sarah Caliendo  is a coach, instructor, mental health advocate and writer. The way she approaches mental health topics is truly so candid and genuine that it makes you feel comfortable to delve further into these topics. Not to mention that her ability to persevere is quite inspirational. 

 Sarah's  information:

 Instagram:

Sarah Caliendo 🌈 (@sarah.caliendo) • Instagram photos and videos

  Website:

Sarah Caliendo, PCC

 My Information:

 Instagram:

 @decompress_with_jess • Instagram photos and videos

 Email:

 [email protected]