In this episode, we explore the subtle yet powerful ways we abandon ourselves—often without even realizing it. From childhood experiences of making ourselves small to avoid burdening others to the lifelong patterns of prioritizing others' emotions over our own, this episode dives deep into the roots of self-abandonment and how to break free. We discuss the exhaustion of being the caretaker, the guilt of having needs, and the path to reclaiming emotional safety without outsourcing it to others. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling responsible for other people’s emotions or have difficulty tending to your own needs, this episode will help you begin the journey back to yourself.

Top Episode quotes:

"The way you kept yourself safe as a child was by making sure everyone else was okay—even if that meant leaving yourself behind."

"I’m done abandoning myself. It’s not my job to soothe everyone else’s emotions while ignoring my own."

"Our job is not to tend to others—it’s to tend to ourselves and build relationships where both people are emotionally responsible for their own healing."

"There will be guilt and anxiety around speaking your needs because you were taught they didn’t matter—but healing means honoring them anyway."

"I’ve spent my whole life soothing others, but I’m learning now that I can turn to myself. I don’t have to seek external safety—I can create it within me."

❥Stay or Go Course:⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

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TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

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In this episode, we dive into the deep-rooted wounds of abandonment, self-protection, and emotional healing. The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape our expectations of love and safety, leading to patterns of self-abandonment in relationships. Through personal stories of transformation—leaving a marriage, setting boundaries with family, and learning to truly receive support—this episode is a powerful reflection on breaking free from toxic cycles. You’ll hear about the challenges of allowing vulnerability, the importance of feeling anger rather than suppressing it, and the journey of reclaiming your own sense of security. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling emotionally unfulfilled, this episode will help you recognize the power you hold to stop abandoning yourself and start showing up for your own needs.

Top Episode quotes:

"Abandonment has been a wound on my heart forever. It's like a shadow that follows me everywhere, making me feel alone—even when I’m surrounded by people."

"We are not abandoned by other people. We can’t be. We are only abandoned by ourselves when we allow others to cross our boundaries and silence our truth."

"My whole life, I was taught that friends could never replace family, but my friends have been the ones showing up for me in ways I never experienced before."

"Healing isn’t just about sitting with your pain. It’s about actively choosing to walk away from what hurts you and stepping toward what nurtures you."

"I’m done inviting people into my life who behave in ways that aren’t good for me. I’m finally standing up for myself, and it feels so damn good."

❥Stay or Go Course:⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

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❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

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I have needs? What needs?

This is so common for those of us who grew up in families that were always stressed out, didn't work through trauma, and got triggered by our emotions. We learned to stuff down our emotions, get small and quiet, and we attracted adult relationships just like this: we feel alone even while the other person is in the room, unfulfilled, and disconnected. It's because our entire childhood involved us completely self abandoning. You might see abuse as toxic and unhealthy. What about emotional neglect? If you feel unfulfilled in your adult relationships and your emotional needs aren't being met - you NEED to listen to this episode! 

Top Episode quotes:

"Our standards of safety are much higher, and it can feel so difficult to say, 'I need this. I need emotional fulfillment. I need a partner that can meet me emotionally.' There’s guilt around that because our parents didn’t have it, and it feels like a luxury—like, is it even okay to want this?"

"Many of us grew up learning that our emotions weren’t safe, that we had to suppress them to keep our parents regulated. But as adults, that pattern leaves us feeling unseen, unheard, and completely alone—even in relationships."

"You don’t need permission to grieve the fact that you had to abandon yourself to keep others comfortable. That grief is valid, and feeling it is the first step toward reclaiming yourself."

"If you don’t know what your needs are, start by asking yourself what turns you on—not just sexually, but in life. What makes you feel alive, excited, and deeply present? That’s where your true needs are hiding."

"We keep chasing connection in the same way we learned as children—by abandoning ourselves in relationships. The work is in learning to stay with ourselves, even when connection feels uncertain."

❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

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❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

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In this episode, Katherine Fabrizio, psychotherapist and bestselling author of The Good Daughter Syndrome, dives deep into the complex dynamics between mothers and daughters. She explains how empathic daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or borderline mothers often fall into patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and chronic guilt. Katherine breaks down the unconscious contracts daughters sign in childhood, the emotional toll of always trying to keep mom happy, and how these patterns affect careers, relationships, and self-worth. If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, feeling responsible for your mother's emotions, or prioritizing your own needs, this episode is an essential listen.

Connect with Katherine:

https://daughtersrising.info/

https://www.instagram.com/katherinefabrizio/

https://www.amazon.com/Good-Daughter-Syndrome-Narcissistic-Borderline/dp/B0C9G4MZJY

Top Episode Quotes:

"Do I need for mom to be okay in order for me to be okay? If the answer is yes, you might be stuck in the Good Daughter Syndrome."

"When you’ve been conditioned to take care of your mother emotionally, it’s no surprise you struggle to recognize and prioritize your own needs."

"Grieving the mother you never had is an essential part of healing—without it, you stay stuck chasing an illusion."

"Boundaries aren’t about asking for permission. They’re about deciding what you will and won’t accept in your life, regardless of how others react."

"You have more power than you know. The moment you stop over-explaining and start setting limits, you shift the dynamic entirely."

❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

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❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

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In this episode, Raquel Devillé, Neurodiversity Therapist and creator of the EnCorps Method, shares her journey of discovering neurodivergence and the unique ways it presents in women. She explores the differences between male and female neurodivergent traits, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the importance of body-based practices in managing sensory overload, chronic stress, and emotional regulation. Raquel discusses how overstimulation affects neurodivergent individuals and offers practical insights on creating a life that supports nervous system balance. If you've ever felt misunderstood, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your own needs, this episode provides invaluable tools for self-awareness and empowerment.

https://encorps.be/

https://encorps.be/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/raqueldeville/

[email protected]

Top Episode Quotes:

"Numbness is not the absence of emotion—it’s a signal that something deep and overwhelming is underneath, waiting to be processed."

"Autistic women are often misdiagnosed because they tend to be more social, masking their traits in ways that differ from men."

"Our bodies are constantly taking in information—when there’s too much, overstimulation can feel like being trapped in a storm with no way out."

"Choice can sometimes be too much for neurodivergent individuals. Clear direction, rather than endless options, can create a sense of safety and ease."

"Healing isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about understanding how you function best and creating a life that supports that."

❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

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⁠⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠⁠

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❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

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Today, we are continuing our journey from the last episode (if you have not listened yet, I highly recommend you go back and listen), and we uncover - are you being triggered in your relationships and can do the inner work and make it better? Or is it a dysfunctional or toxic relationship?

If you are the kind of person who does their inner work consistently, if you're feeling really confused in your relationship, if you feel like you constantly walk away from interactions with this person feeling horrible, if you often feel guilty to cancel plans or any desire that clashes with someone else, this is the episode for you!

Some of the things we cover are:

❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

Join with a free trial: 

⁠⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠⁠

❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

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I am opening this season of the podcast with a little tirade about the coaching/therapy industries (whom I love dearly!) We often tell you to do your inner work: but what inner work can you do when the other party isn't interested in joining and doing theirs? Seriously! When you feel like your needs are constantly minimized, it's time to consider leaving the relationship. In a healthy, loving relationship, you need to feel like the other person cares about meeting your needs because they love you - and that's what love feels like! In this episode, I break down the signs of invalidation of your needs and what happens in your physical body as a result. I really hope this was helpful and eye opening for you! 

❥Stay or Go Course: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go 

❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.

Join with a free trial: 

⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠

❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here: ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠

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In this episode, Effie and I talk about what post traumatic growth actually means: rather than surviving the trauma, how can we learn and grow from it? How can we expand through the trauma? And what role do emotions play in our healing and expansion?

We address how we have personally learned to work with our sadness and anger, and rather than shutting down, process our emotions to heal and become even more creative as a result of past traumas.

Connect with Effie:

https://www.effiekli.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.educator/

Join HeartSpace to get this incredible only course for just $11 instead of $55: www.marinayt.com/heartspace

Episode Highlights:

"When relational trauma comes up, all of my tools go out the window—it’s like I forget everything I know about how to deal with it."

"Numbness is a very clear sign in our bodies that we are feeling something intense and threatening underneath, often fear or even terror."

"Anger can be a bridge—it allows you to connect, express, and start the journey back to yourself, even if it’s not perfect."

"When you let yourself feel your anger in your own body, you create space for clarity and begin to show up differently in your relationships."

"Triggers during the holidays can help you grow if you approach them with awareness, self-compassion, and tools for nervous system regulation."

❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

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Something we often speak about when it comes to the holidays is grief, and grief is such a common emotion that arises during this time.

But something we don't address is terror and fear, and how anger can actually help us move through the blind spots and the numbness in our bodies to express ourselves more, and to even connect deeper to ourselves and our loved ones. This is what this insightful episode is all about.

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Episode Highlights:

❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted

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Feeling like you are too much and your needs are too much is derived from a childhood trauma where your emotional (or other needs) could not be met by your caregivers, therefore giving you this message that YOU are the problem, rather than they are simply incapable.

We explore this theme this week and how it has helped me make the big life decision of leaving my marriage. I hope this helps you in making your own big life decisions! 

Stay or Go: A Somatic Journey to Clarity and Alignment

Discover clarity and confidence in navigating major life decisions—from relationships to careers—while evolving through the process.

Join HeartSpace to get this incredible only course for just $11 instead of $55: www.marinayt.com/heartspace

Episode Highlights:

❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

Download here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted

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