Delight in the Limelight

In today’s episode, we delve into the world of performance psychology with an expert who bridges the gap between physical prowess and mental resilience, offering unique insights that can elevate your speaking confidence.

Guest, Dr. Brian Hite, is not just an acclaimed sports psychologist but also an experienced stuntman, bringing a unique perspective on mental strength and readiness. His expertise spans across helping a diverse range of individuals, from athletes and musicians to dancers and even US Army personnel. Dr. Hite’s approach combines the rigor of physical training with the subtlety of cognitive strategies, making him an exceptional voice in the field of performance psychology.

In this episode, Dr. Hite and host Linda Ugelow engage in a compelling discussion about the significance of mental imagery, the nature of performance anxiety, and the essential elements of building resilience. They explore how these concepts, rooted deeply in sports psychology, are remarkably applicable to public speaking and business presentations. Whether you’re stepping onto a stage, leading a meeting, or presenting at a conference, the insights shared in this episode will provide you with the tools to approach these situations with increased confidence, focus, and control, transforming not just how you speak, but also how you perceive and handle the challenges of public performance.

Brian is a stunt man and sports psychologist who helps athletes, musicians, dancers, and US Army personnel to help them develop mental strength, resilience, and readiness to perform at their best.

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Got stage fright? 🌟 Listen to Dr. Brian Hite on our podcast as he reveals the secrets of mental resilience used by top athletes and performers. #ConfidenceBoost #PerformancePsychology
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Learn how to stay focused and motivated in high-pressure situations from Sports Psychologist and stuntman, Dr. Brian Hite. 💪 Check out our latest podcast episode. #MotivationMonday #BusinessTips
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From stage to boardroom: Apply sports psychology techniques to your speaking engagements with insights from Dr. Brian Hite. 🏆 #CareerDevelopment #SpeakingStrategies
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🎙️ Learn how a stuntman's mindset could enhance your speaking skills. Dive into the latest Delight in the Limelight episode with Dr. Brian Hite to find out! #MindOverMatter #SpeakingConfidence
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If you’re a leader, innovator, or entrepreneur who’s ever told yourself…

Then you are well acquainted with The Impostor.

Many think that impostor syndrome affects mostly women, but joining me on the show to dispel that myth is Kris Kelso, author of Overcoming the Impostor.

Kris has a male view on the experience, both personally and professionally. 

We’ll be looking at how to:

Listen in to reframe this as a journey toward freedom from these limiting beliefs and take your career to the next level. 

In addition to founding multiple companies and serving on the boards of directors of several non-profit organizations, Kris is trained as a certified executive coach having worked with hundreds of entrepreneurs, business owners, and their leadership teams. He’s the author of Overcoming The Impostor: Silence Your Inner Critic and Lead with Confidence“.

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I often say that impostor syndrome doesn't come from just one source, there's not just one issue or incident...some of it does come from childhood experiences and some of the systems that we have around us.#ImpostorSyndrome…
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Whether you're an extrovert or an introvert, whether you love being in large crowds of people or you prefer the individual one on one relationships, in either case, we are meant to be connected to one another in some…
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If you're in a community where vulnerability is the norm, that's going to really help you feel that, 'my struggles are the same as everybody else's struggles.'#ImpostorSyndrome #Vulnerability #Community
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You don't have to feel self doubt like 'I don't fit in, I'm a fraud, I’m the only one,' because everybody's just figuring it out as they go, which is the reality most of the time.#ImpostorSyndrome #SelfDoubt #Belonging
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If you're waiting to find people you can trust before you're willing to open up, you're going to have a hard time building. You actually build trust by being vulnerable.#ImpostorSyndrome #Vulnerability #Connection
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In this captivating episode, Howard Glasser shares his incredible journey to recognizing the potential greatness in every child and how nurturing their intensity can lead to empowerment and transformation.

Trained as a child psychologist, the methods he first used worsened the family relationships. Remembering how he himself was a difficult child, he used his memory of his own needs to reconstruct what children are craving from adults, which is often in direct contrast to how parents and teachers usually behave. He asserts that intense and challenging behavior in children is a sign of their potential greatness and should not be suppressed or medicated. Instead redirected and seen for the fuel that it is.

Howard’s unique approach “nurtured heart approach.” is being studied by four universities and has been adopted by school districts across the country and around the world. We discuss the implications this approach has on our speaking confidence.

Howard Glasser is Founder is the creator and developer of the Nurtured Heart Approach®. He is a voice of greatness for children so that they can ultimately find their own voice of greatness.

He has been referred to as one of the most influential persons working to reduce children’s reliance on psychiatric medications. Howard is the author of 15 books, including Transforming the Difficult Child, a longstanding bestseller on intense and challenging children. The Nurtured Heart Approach is currently being researched by Rutgers University, the University of Arizona’s Zuckerman School of Public Health, and New Mexico State University.

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

“When children are led to feel great about who they are, they act-out greatness.” Howard Glasser guides us to feed the right energy to our kids to build confidence.#TheNurturedHeartApproach #Speakingconfidence #DelightInTheLimelight
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Today we’re talking about how to tell better stories to yourself, ones that will create more empowering experiences of ease and confidence when you speak up, put yourself out there, and advocate for yourself.

Tammy Heermann is an award-winning leadership expert and author of Reframe Your Story. With over twenty years of experience, Tammy has helped thousands of people shift their mindsets around leadership and personal growth.performance. 

We discuss the ways we sabotage ourselves when it comes to putting ourselves out there, and tips for interrupting cycles of negative self-talk and limiting beliefs. You’ll hear how traditional corporate training programs fall short and what you can do instead to boost your professional development for confidence when you put yourself out there.

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Change the stories we tell ourselves to create empowering experiences! #MindsetMastery #Visualization
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If you’re not getting to where you want to be, maybe it’s time to tell yourself a better story. #ReframeYourStory #UnlockYourPotential #Podcast
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In this episode of the Delight in the Limelight podcast, host Linda Ugelow is joined by Kim Meninger, a leadership coach and host of The Impostor Syndrome Files podcast to discuss the phenomenon known as Impostor Syndrome and how it affects individuals in the workplace.

They discuss the definition of Impostor Syndrome, misconceptions, and provide insight into its root causes and the impact it has on self-perception and performance.

Listeners will gain insights into recognizing and overcoming Impostor Syndrome to cultivate confidence and success in their careers.

1:43 The definition and misconception of Imposter Syndrome
3:38 The difference between being new at something and the Imposter Syndrome
4:45 The root causes of Imposter Syndrome
10:04 What triggers Impostor Sydrome and what to do when you’re triggered7
16:21 Strategies for dealing with the Impostor Sydrome
19:44 The hazards of preparation
20:56 Building psychological safety
25:07 How to make it okay to fail
25:26 Top three tips for overcoming impostor Syndrome

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032. Overcome Impostor Syndrome in the Workplace
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Do you ever feel like everyone else has it all figured out except you? The truth is, Impostor Syndrome affects many of us. We just don't see the messy behind-the-scenes of others' self-doubts. You are not alone! #Community #Support
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Impostor Syndrome is not the same as feeling new or inexperienced. It's about the emotional brain telling us we're not good enough, even when the rational brain knows there's a learning curve. @kim_menninger explains this key…
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032. Overcome Impostor Syndrome in the Workplace
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Impostor Syndrome can also arise from external factors, like being told you don't deserve your achievements or opportunities. @kim_menninger highlights how these experiences can shape our perceptions of ourselves. #Confidence…
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Welcome back, delightful listeners, to another captivating episode of the Delight in the Limelight Podcast! Today, we are diving into the art of persuasion and the power of belief with our guest, Heather Hansen.

Heather Hansen, a best-selling author and keynote speaker, brings a unique blend of expertise as a trial attorney, psychology degree holder, mediator, and former TV anchor. She combines these experiences to help her clients advocate for their ideas, their products, and services.

In this podcast Heather shares her intriguing journey from a courtroom setup to an unexpected realization about the role of laughter in her profession. We’ll explore the importance of building belief within ourselves and convincing others to believe in our abilities. Heather will walk us through her three C’s – compassion, curiosity, and credibility – that are vital for winning over any jury, be it inner or outer. Get ready to unlock your potential and discover the transformative power of persuasion in this thought-provoking episode of the Delight in the Limelight Podcast!

00:00 Introduction
2:01 What it means to advocate
2:53 Mistakes on how we ask for things
4:42 Determine what is realistic to ask for
6:48 The “jury” problem
8:37 How to get buy-in from yourself
10:39 The real role of the inner jury
15:26 The first C”” of an advocate– Compassion
19:17 The second “C” of an advocate– Curiosity
24:36 The third “C”– Credibility
30:42 The belief triangle works in action
32:40 How do you embrace rejection
35:45 When you have a shaky voice
36:50 The role of laughter
38:11 Why you are your own best advocate

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

Learn the three C's that are vital for winning over any jury, be it inner or outer.
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Selling. Does it create a ball of dread in your stomach? Imagine finding a way to sell without the push, that feels authentic and aligned with your values.

In today’s episode, we have an incredibly insightful and inspiring conversation about boosting your sales confidence. I’m joined by the renowned sales influencer and coach, Carole Mahoney. Carole shares her journey of transforming her perception of sales from negative and pushy to collaborative and buyer-focused.

We dive into the power of mindset, the importance of putting the buyer first, and the impact it can have on your sales success. Carole introduces us to the concept of the “We-We factor” in communication, offering valuable strategies to engage buyers in meaningful conversations, overcome common obstacles in sales, and achieve your sales goals. So, whether you’re a seasoned sales professional or just starting out, get ready to enhance your sales confidence by putting the buyer first.

00:00 Intro
1:32 A different way to look at sales
3:36 The needed mindset shift for making sales
8:22 Similarities between sales confidence and speaking confidence
9:44 A Cognitive-Behavioral approach to sales
12:03 How to be more authentically yourself in the sales conversation
16:56 Holes in your awareness
19:56 Quick wins in sales confidence
26:37 High level questions before you begin

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

What if you could find a way to sell that feels authentic and aligned with your values?
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Conflict. Does it make you want to run and hide?

Imagine learning tools that make conflict less scary, easier to handle, and more productive!

In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Liane Davey, a renowned organizational psychologist and best-selling author of “The Good Fight.” Liane’s mission is to foster better communication, connection, and contribution within teams and organizations, and she offers invaluable insights on navigating conflicts with confidence.

We discuss the the vital role tension plays in effective teamwork as you learn practical strategies and tools for effective communication that can help you transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and collaboration.

What we cover:

00:00 Intro
2:48 Helpful metaphors for conflict
8:45 Healthy and Unhealthy conflict, tension vs. friction
12:31 Messages about conflict that get in the way
17:41 Why it’s kind to speak up
10:19 Handling bullying
20:52 Emotions as a tool
27:07 Tying emotions with good questions
29:04 The most useful kind of feedback
31:23 Interpretations and the Two Truths principle
33:01 True communication

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Learn the tools that make conflict less scary, easier to handle, and more productive!
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Fotini Iconomopoulos is an expert in negotiation and conflict resolution. She understands that most people aren’t fans of conflict and associate negotiation with potential conflict. Our brain’s fight or flight response kicks in, just like when faced with a physical threat like a sabertooth tiger (metaphorically speaking, of course). Even though we don’t face the same physical threats today, our bodies still react the same way during stressful conversations.

Fotini’s book, Say Less, Get More, encourages taking a pause to regain rationality before saying something we might regret. She knows the fears that come up during negotiations – leaving something on the table and damaging relationships. Through her workshops and surveys, Fotini helps people navigate these saber-tooth tiger moments and negotiate with grace and diplomacy.

00:00 Intro
1:22 The panic around negotiation
3:53 Misleading experiences and messages around negotiations
5:19 What is negotiation exactly
6:54 Questions to ask to create rapport
13:20 Salary negotiations
17:11 Negotiation strategy
19:32 The power of pausing
23:32 Not splitting the difference
24:56 Resistance points in negotiation
27:28 What you lose without negotiation
30:20 Especially for non-native English speakers
36:11 Advocating for others vs for yourself
37:05 The negotiation Quiz

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Learn an uncommon approach that leans on likability, rapport, and relationship building.
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