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This episode of Dem Bois Podcast is jam packed with great advice, great storytelling, and great information. Today I had the privilege to sit down with educator, blogger, business owner, youth advocate, and creator and founder of Tea with T, Amari Leach. We talk about mental health, queer youth, self-care and self-love, family trauma, finding your village, and so much more. This will be the last guest episode of this season and I know that you will enjoy it. So go ahead and listen!

We talk:
Amari’s transition journey - 5:40
How he starting caring for himself first - 19:33
His divine intervention - 25:09
Older generations vs this generation of youth - 36:46
Tea with T; how and why it began - 49:22
Being teased as a child - 1:02:44

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Episode references:
Drop Dead Fred Movie
Black Yogi Nico Marie

Read more about Amari in his bio below:
Mr. Amari Leach is a Youth, Social/Gender/Racial Justice Activist who strives to make a difference in the world through his acts of service & business. He is dedicated to speaking the truth & positive change in the world/ all communities!

• IG: @teawithtllc
• TikTok: @teawithtllcbyamarileach
• Twitter: @teawithtllc

Resources:

Trans Lifeline Hotline (peer support phone service run by trans people for trans and questioning peers) Trans Lifeline is a grassroots hotline offering direct emotional and financial support to trans people in crisis. For the trans community, by the trans community.

Call 877-565-8860

CAN (877) 330-6366

Visit general website: https://translifeline.org/hotline/

The Trevor Project (provides 24/7 crisis support services to LGBTQ young people) If you are thinking about harming yourself get immediate support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S. It is 100% confidential, and 100% free

Call 866-488-7386 or text 678678

Chat online: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/section/get-help

• IG @trevorproject 

SAGE LGBTQ+ Elder Hotline (connects LGBTQ+ older people who want to talk with friendly responders who are ready to listen)

Call 877-360-LGBT (5428)

Visit general website: https://www.sageusa.org/what-we-do/sage-national-lgbt-elder-hotline/

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Too many of our Black brothers are in jail and prison for selling/using cannabis, but as it gets legalized in many states, it is becoming more and more popular. So on this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with cannabis influencer, Bobby “Uncle Bob” Walker, and he gives us some marijuana education. Bobby is also an adult herbalist, trans activist, and entrepreneur. We talk about the cannabis industry, identity vs. sexuality, entrepreneurship, living as a Black man, and much more.

We talk:
How the name “Bobby” chose him - 6:20
His transition journey - 7:56
Finding out about FTM (female to male transition) - 14:05
Cannabis education and the industry - 20:28
Bobby’s gender-affirming surgeries - 42:08
Stigmas around carrying a child as a trans man - 43:41

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Read more about Bobby in his bio below:
Bobby Walker, pronouns are He/ Him is 28 yrs. Old and Born and Raised in Buffalo, NY. More affectionately known as “Uncle Bob” or “Sub” is a Cannabis Influencer & Adult Herbalist who spends his life traveling, educating individuals across the country on the holistic effects and benefits of natural herbs, while teaching about the cannabis industry. A passion that grew for him, after discovering his own healing benefits from the work he now provides to others.

• IG: @UncleBobb716 (Personal) 
• IG: @SmokeUppBuffalo716 (Business) 

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Why is visibility so important? Because many times, if you can’t see something, you don’t know that it exists. And if you don’t know that it exists, you may think that it’s impossible. That is true for so many of my trans brothers and sisters out there, and that was the journey for today’s guest, Micah Scott, entrepreneur, artist, and musician. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we talk about transitioning later in life, being socialized as a hetero woman, dating as a trans man, and more.

We talk:
How the name “Micah” chose him - 5:00
His transition journey - 8:02
Insurance “privilege,” covering gender affirming care and surgery - 20:27
Growing up going to an all-girls school - 28:28
What dating is like for him post-transition - 35:02
Advice for listeners - 55:28

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Episode References:
On Loving Men Beyond the Erection by Mark Travis Rivera
In Living Color: Men on Films (‘Hated it’ reference)

Read more about Micah in his bio below:
I am late in medically transitioning starting at age 50. I am excited for my new life and my transition has made me more confident of myself and the value of my life. 

IG: @wolfftm111

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2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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Something I wish I knew before: there are no rules to being Trans. No boxes you have to fit in or experiences you have to check off. You just have to be true to you. I talk about this more in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast with Landyn Pan, strength nutrition coach and fitness trainer for LGBTQ+ individuals. Landyn shares their transition journey and their fitness journey, and they give lots of advice for queer youth or adults who want to transition and are looking to explore who they are. 

We talk:
Landyn’s transition journey - 5:44
Not fitting into rigid masculine or feminine boxes - 13:09
Landyn’s fitness journey - 22:00
How being thin does not equal being healthy - 27:44
Advice for anyone who is turned off by the gym - 33:13
How you can work with Landyn - 40:05

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Landyn Pan (they/them) is an online fitness and nutrition coach who helps LGBTQ+ individuals feel confident and affirmed in their bodies through building strength and muscle. They are trans masc non-binary and Chinese-American.

• Website: https://landynpanfitness.com/
• IG: @fitlandyn 

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2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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Dallas Martinez (he/they) is a Latine-Indigenous Trans Masculine identified person. They currently live in Seattle, Washington, but were born and raised in Dallas, Texas. He is married with children and lives in an intergenerational household, as his 90 year old father is aging in place with his family. They are an attorney for an LGBTQIA2S+ civil legal aid non-profit and founder of an intergenerational QTBIPOC non-profit in their South Seattle community. 

• IG: @DallasinSeattleWA
• Dallas Martinez - Staff Attorney - QLaw Foundation | LinkedIn
• https://www.spectrumresourcecenter.org/ 

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2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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Donate today!

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The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! 

Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. 

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For me, medically transitioning was like going through puberty for a second time, and it triggered me in ways I didn’t expect. My acne came back, my body changed, I grew hair in places it never grew before, I couldn’t get this “man scent” off, and so much more. But, as I celebrate 10 years of choosing to live authentically, I now realize that I should have been celebrating every one of those little moments, because they all add up to make me who I am today. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I share more of my transition story and reflect on my journey so far.

I talk:
My youtube page and documenting my medical transition - 5:53
How my body physically changed - 10:49
My acne problems and skin issues - 20:48
Having to learn my body all over again - 25:08
Anger issues and how they affected my family - 29:57
How I celebrated 10 years of being my authentic self - 38:29

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Episode References:
Ep. 3 - Surviving Homelessness
Ep. 7 - Transitioning at Work
Ep. 13 - Reaching Back Through Philanthropy and the Actualization of Dem Bois Inc
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2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! 

Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. 

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What does self-care look like? There is no right answer because it is different for every person, but it is important, so that you can continue pouring your everything into others. And, in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, my guest gives some great advice on how to do that. Naya’Hri Suhalia is a hospice caregiver, hip hop head, and bourbon and cigar enthusiast. Today we talk about his transition journey, his job as a caregiver, and how he maintains his self-care. Naya’Hri also gives some great resources for LGBTQ caregivers and trans men of color seeking caregivers.

We talk:
How the name Naya’Hri chose him - 6:08
His transition journey - 11:56
His mom’s health transition - 31:01
What hospice is and Naya’Hri’s duties as a caregiver - 45:17
What his self-care looks like - 52:50
Resources for LGBTQ caregivers and trans men looking for care - 1:10:50

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Read more about Naya'Hri in his bio below:

Naya'Hri Suhalia is hospice caregiver, hip-hop head, bourbon connoisseur and cigar aficionado.  Located in Charlotte, NC by way of Compton, CA, Naya'Hri is currently creating his first-ever short documentary about being a Black Transman living in the South.

IG:  @TheVibeChronicles
Email: [email protected]

Episode References
LGBTQ Care Givers
T4T Care Giving 

Celebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!

2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

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One thing that hasn’t gotten talked about much on this show is spirituality. There is a big difference between spirituality and religion, and in this episode, my guest goes in on this topic. Kris Royal Wallace is a Transgender FTM, and today he talks about following God’s timing, and the miracles that occurred to help him discover his purpose. We also talk about being trans in the 60s and 70s, family history, maternal support, and forgiveness.

We talk:
Kris’ family history and growing up in the 1970s - 3:55
How he learned to heal and forgive - 13:24
Kris transitioning in his late 40s - 19:19
God’s perfect timing and impact on Kris’ life - 27:06
His mom’s death and his journey to becoming sober - 38:06
Advice to listeners who feel stuck and don’t know what to do - 51:25

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Read more about Kris in his bio below:

My name is Kris Royal Wallace. I am Transgender FTM. My existence in this life has not been in vain and neither has yours. My life was not a choice. This life was given to me for a purpose, But I had to live in pain and misery until I was able to do some extensive soul-searching to address my gender issues and put to rest some generational curses that plagued me for most of my life.

What I found out is that I was made in God's perfect image because of the assignment that was put on my life. There are places that I have been able to go where no free man could ever go, and people that needed my assistance.

I was able to get completely free from the curses and demons that pledged me for the majority of my life. In my transition I have been able to be completely happy and in perfect peace.

I have always been popular and well known. People have watched me transition and it wasn't always easy. I've been talked about, and I have lost people that I really truly loved. But It only made me stronger. Today I walk in my own brand of dignity, and I've embraced my right as a man. I always knew what my gender was (Male) at an early age. I never gave up on myself and neither should you, If you can relate.

In closing all I can say is that no matter what people say about you, (Family and Friends) to put you down it's just because they don't understand, and that's ok just stay true to yourself. Know who you are and who you belong to (GOD). Be the best version of you everyday, and most of all learn how to love you first. My biggest blessing and my biggest fans are my family. I have all the support and love that I need and want. It makes my existence, my journey and my life so much better.

This is what Trans Freedom Looks like.

To all who reads this, Thank you and God Bless You

Truly your's 

Kris Wallace

Celebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!

2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

Your support helps build a future rooted in care, visibility, and possibility.

Donate today!

Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!

The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! 

Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. 

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There is no such thing as a completely healed person. You heal and grow through things, but there will always be something else to grow through and heal from. So don’t wait for the right time or the right person. Dive in now, responsibly. That is advice from today’s guest, Oscar Robles, a Trans man, and Senior Marketing Manager on HubSpot’s Community-led Growth team. In this episode we also talk about having depression, taking care of your mental health, dating and relationships, and staying sober from addictions. 

We talk:
How the name Oscar chose him - 5:26
How his suicide attempt propelled his transition - 11:52
What his support system looked like growing up - 18:09
Advice to listeners who want to create a community - 24:25
How Oscar navigates relationships - 31:13
Healing while dating - 40:38
Advice to someone trying to navigate their identity and sexuality - 51:54

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Read more about Oscar in his bio below:

Oscar Robles is currently a Senior Marketing Manager on HubSpot’s Community-led Growth team. In this capacity, he is focused on the company’s customer and partner-led groups that connect HubSpot users interested in advancing their tech knowledge. Oscar is also a trained organizer and facilitator, previously working with grassroots community groups, school districts, law firms, and major corporations in their diversity and inclusion efforts. Passionate about social and restorative justice, he seeks to create a safe space for individuals to be their full selves, as well as self-reflect on their identity and how to show up as stronger allies in society. When not working, Oscar enjoys spending time hiking upstate with his pup Willie, practicing yoga, cooking, and visiting local arts institutions.

Celebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!

2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

Your support helps build a future rooted in care, visibility, and possibility.

Donate today!

Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!

The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! 

Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. 

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A lot of the time when we think of progress, we think of making giant leaps and diving forward. But progress can be made in small increments, 1% at a time. That is what I want you to take from this episode. As Cairo would say, “feel the fear and keep going!” In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, part 2 of my conversation with Cairo Nevitt, we talk about being kind to people and being aware of the impact you can have. We also talk about the importance of expanding visibility and starting conversations.

We talk:
Moment of silence for Cairo’s friend who was lost to suicide - 3:42
Advice to anyone who may be struggling right now - 10:07
Loving our community and being there to support you - 14:57
How Cairo navigates the world of bodybuilding - 17:28
His fundraiser and his charity - 24:07
Facing your fears and making progress - 39:56

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Read more about Cairo in his bio below:

As a trans advocate, he predominantly works as a guest speaker & facilitator on the topics of diversity & inclusion, gender identity, intersectionality, as well as motivation. His collaborations include: Huffton Post, Salomond Institute, Euromoney’s International Panel, Trans Fest, NHS, Kent Police, Stonewall, BBC Bite Size, Pink News, Mermaids, Gender intelligence, Diversity Role Model, Young Vic, London’s Southbank Centre, Colours Network, My Genderation, Netflix, 201 Dance Company & Budweiser.  

During the UK tour of Bullish by Milk Presents, he worked for over the course of 2 years as an actor + facilitator delivering gender smart training along their show. Together they trained every single arts venue from London to Cardiff that they toured as the entire cast was trans. Over the last 12 years, Cairo has worked in some capacity with almost every major UK LGBT charity. He is truly passionate about community work and believes anyone can thrive with the right network of support. 

• IG: @cairo_leon

 
Episode References:
Cairo was a recipient of Point of Pride’s Annual Trans Surgery Fund https://www.pointofpride.org/
Find Cairo’s GoFundMe here - Get Cairo, a trans athlete to the stage

Resources:
Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (formerly the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline)
Call or text 988, or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Chat online: https://988lifeline.org/talk-to-someone-now/
For TTY users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988

Veterans Crisis Line (for veterans, military personnel, and their families)
Call 988 and Press 1, or text 838255
Chat online: http://veteranscrisisline.net/

Celebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!

2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.

Your support helps build a future rooted in care, visibility, and possibility.

Donate today!

Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!

The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! 

Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. 

Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc - Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else!