Sometimes, it can be disheartening when we consistently show up for people who don't reciprocate the same level of effort or support. While it's important to be understanding and compassionate, it's also crucial to set healthy boundaries and prioritize our own well-being. Here are a few reasons why you should consider stopping to show up for people who don't show up for you:

1. Self-worth and value: Continuously investing in relationships where your efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated can erode your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. You deserve to surround yourself with people who value and appreciate you for who you are.

2. Energy preservation: Constantly giving your time, energy, and support to those who don't reciprocate can be emotionally and mentally draining. By redirecting your efforts towards people who reciprocate your kindness, you can preserve your energy for relationships that are mutually fulfilling.

3. Balanced relationships: Healthy relationships are built on mutual give and take, where both parties contribute and support each other. It's important to surround yourself with individuals who are willing to show up for you just as you do for them. This balance fosters a positive and fulfilling connection.

4. Growth opportunities: By redirecting your focus towards those who genuinely value your presence, you create space for new and meaningful connections. These new relationships can provide opportunities for personal growth, shared interests, and a stronger support system.

Remember, it's not about completely shutting people out or holding grudges, but rather prioritizing your own well-being and investing in relationships that bring positivity and reciprocity.

Yes, loneliness from overthinking is a real phenomenon. Overthinking can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnection from others, even when surrounded by people. When someone constantly overanalyzes situations, relationships, or their own thoughts and actions, it can create a sense of being misunderstood or disconnected from others. This can result in increased feelings of loneliness and a lack of social connection. Overthinking can also lead to self-doubt and a negative perception of oneself, further exacerbating feelings of loneliness.

In this episode I dissect my thoughts and questions I have in quite moments. With my knowledge, skills network and resources I put my reputation on line to share intimate moments that are important to me and how I think I’m a daily basis.

In a world where I believe we have to set our intentions right and live with the right intentions. I personally have lost people and found myself suffering from the fact that I failed to show love when the particular person was in alive and I truly loved them but I failed to express the love that was always on the tip of my mind. We nowadays live such fast paced lives that we fail to show love when we can easily and truly show love to people who have positive effects on our life. One of the things we find difficult is the fact that we cannot forgive things for fear of showing weakness or giving up our ego and letting go of past experiences. So today I’m inviting you to take time out and show love .

This episode I speak about my realisation that I’m lonely and I’m okay with that, not long ago spending a day on my own was so terribly terrifying and I just couldn’t bearer it, but now I’ve learnt to be at peace with my loneliness.

Thank goodness is Sunday s a podcast I’m relation to my Sunday morning and how I’ve created something which I enjoy and love and at the same time I’m making financial gains on it. In life you make your life what you want it to be . All I can say is you have to create your milestones and moments and don’t wait for things to happen for you, learn a skill and monetise your skill.

Imagine one day you wake up and you are finally thankful for the 47 years you’ve been alive. What if by design your experiences which include love, kindness, hope , peace, sadness, anxiety, anger, emotional outburst, spiritual awakenings, miracle healing, mental breakdown, marriage, birth of your children, your first heartbreak and current heartbreak, your jobs and experiences, the music you love and the pain and sorrow you feel for your losses, your travels your journeys and the people you’ve met along the way, the kindness and the hateful abhorrent experiences.

The need to be needed is one of our fundamental desires. We want to feel significant in the eyes of others, even if it is only one other person.

It has taken me 47years to assess the difference between the gospel and the real truth of life. Those were one and the same for ages—no take-backs, no prisoners, no holds barred. I filtered the kingdom through my African ,Malawian born disadvantaged, denominational lens, and by golly, I found a way to make most of it fit!

But then God changed my life, and everything got weird. I discovered the rest of the world! And other cultures! And different Christian traditions! And people who were way, way different from me! And poverty! Then the system in which God operated according to my rules started disintegrating.

There is a biblical benchmark I now use. We will refer to this criterion for every hard question, big idea, topic, assessment of our own obedience, every “should” or “should not” and “will” or “will not” we ascribe to God, every theological sound bite. Here it is: If it isn’t also true for a poor people .The fact of the matter is we are all living a lie, the biggest lie the devil told us is we deserve to have a better life. In truth we are where we need to be with the opportunities and personalities that we have been afforded to.

Gender-based violence is a worldwide issue. It exists in almost every culture and country on earth and has been accepted and condoned in history for centuries. ‘One in three women will experience violence in her lifetime’, and as a result, she will be deprived of her human rights and put at risk of mental and physical health problems. Violence against women remains a key factor undermining women's ability to participate as full and equal citizens. The 70s also saw the development of the Sex Discrimination Act (1975), outlawing sexual discrimination in the workplace, and the Domestic Violence and Matrimonial Proceedings Act (1976) allowing married women the right to stay at home without the abuser. a study between 2014 and 2015 found that ten countries still permit marital rape. 2010 and beyond

The passing of Clare’s Law in 2014 has allowed for police to disclose to individuals details of their partners’ abusive pasts. The scheme's introduction provides people with the opportunity and information about their partner if they are worried about potentially violent situations. Below are some associations that women can go to and find help against violence. 1)Southall black sisters

2) Suzy Lamplugh trust

3) End Violence Against Women

4) Glitch

5) Women's Aid