Disagree better

Disagree better

By Tammy LenskiSociety & Culture
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  • How to express a concern without making things worse

    When I ask clients why they let a problem go on for so long before addressing it, a common reply is, “I was afraid I’d create more conflict by raising it.” It’s an understandable fear. Here are some tried-and-true ways to raise an issue for discussion without making matters worse.

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    9 min
  • Ask yourself this kind of question when an argument rattles you

    When a difficult conversation rattles you, using a centering question can help you get your balance back. Here are favorite centering questions I share with my clients, along with guidelines for developing your own.

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    9 min
  • Replay: A ridiculously simple way to be more persuasive
    Failing to ask effectively for what we want is the stuff of low-grade irritation that, over time, can become a source of chronic conflict and tension. Here s a ridiculously simple way to ask more effectively, be more persuasive without manipulating, and increase the odds a small favor will be granted.
    This episode is a replay of a 2016 episode. I'll be back with new episodes in a few weeks.
    Show notes
    Langer's copy machine experiment
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  • 3 everyday practices that will make you a good listener
    It’s hard to get better at listening during conflict by practicing during conflict. If you want to be a better listener, practice outside of a difficult conversation. The stakes will be lower and it’ll be easier to be on top of your game. Here are three simple ways to practice being a good listener in everyday life.
    0 min
  • The gift of anger
    What we believe about anger has an impact on what happens during emotionally charged conflict. Relief from the suffering of conflict can come from them changing how they act on their anger, of course. But it can also come from us changing how we think about anger.
    Show notes
    Anger as a signal
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  • Fighting in a relationship: The gift of anger

    What we believe about anger has an impact on what happens during emotionally charged conflict. Relief from the suffering of conflict can come from them changing how they act on their anger, of course. And it can also come from us changing how we think about anger.

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    5 min
  • This common (but faulty) reasoning leads to bad decisions
    We like to think of ourselves as rational beings, and yet we act irrationally in all sorts of ways. One way we act irrationally is with a type of faulty reasoning we use for decisions both large and small, influencing not just the agreements we reach, but also the process we use to reach those agreements.
    Show notes
    My agility dog, Chica
    One circumstance in which sunk cost thinking may have some use
    Source of Danial Kahneman quote
    Why it’s difficult for someone to quickly regain their composure during a difficult conversation
    How to ask for a break
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  • This common (but faulty) reasoning leads to bad decisions

    We like to think of ourselves as rational beings, and yet we act irrationally in all sorts of ways. One way we act irrationally is with a type of faulty reasoning we use for decisions both large and small, influencing not just the agreements we reach, but also the process we use to reach those agreements.

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    11 min
  • 5 impactful questions for handling difficult moments
    Most difficult conversations ebb and flow between good progress and difficult moments, those times it’s a challenge to access our best selves and skills. Here are five common difficult moments and five powerful questions to help you through them.
    Show notes
    The value of silence in difficult conversations
    How to politely stop long-winded talkers
    About deep listening
    Separating intention and impact
    Keeping yourself (and others) out of conflict corners
    “How can” questions
    Why it’s so hard to reason someone back into reasonableness
    Buying time to calm down
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  • 5 impactful questions for handling difficult moments

    Most difficult conversations ebb and flow between good progress and difficult moments, those times it’s a challenge to access our best selves and skills. Here are five common difficult moments and five powerful questions to help you through them.

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    7 min

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