Divorce Angel Podcast

In many situations, fear can keep us alive or give us the strength necessary to overcome specific challenges. It is an instinctive reaction that kept alive our ancestors for generations. But what happens when we get stuck in fear? What is the result of being incapable of reacting because of fear? 

Sometimes we are so scared that we can't do any of the things we are supposed to do. We get trapped in inaction, which can be both costly and dangerous. 

In this episode, I want to talk about fear and being scared. Being afraid is not a problem; we must be aware of what we do with that fear. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

What I've achieved so far and how it can help you [00:03:00] 

We are responsible for our own happiness [00:06:00] 

An example of how things can be different in our lives [00:09:00] 

The things we carry from one relationship to the next [00:12:00] 

Why we should have a strategy of our next steps [00:14:00]

Links 

Restore Me - Waiting List

https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether we are in the process of divorce or starting with our separation, communication is a crucial element that can influence the outcome we will get. That is why when we communicate with our ex or soon to be ex, especially in documented channels like text messages, emails, or letters, we need to stick to the facts and let our emotions aside.  

In this episode, I will discuss the importance of being mindful about what and how we communicate and how this ability can make you bulletproof.

Lets' get into it:

Timestamps

The roles we play when getting into a relationship [00:03:00] 

A letter to the ex-partner that could've started a war [00:06:00] 

Keeping the communication sharp and short [00:09:00]

When the content is more prominent, there is more room for misinterpretation [00:11:00] 

Links

Restore Me - Waiting List

https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode, we will discuss the Restore Me program's third pillar: reclaim you. Despite thinking that our anguish, fear, uncertainty, or any negative feeling we are having is someone else's responsibility, it is not. 

In this episode, I will demonstrate to you that you have the power to change any negative emotion. I will explain to you how to become bulletproof to any negativeness you receive from anyone. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

The false belief that we can't change our fate [00:03:00] 

Our thoughts vibrate [00:06:00] 

We mirror what we feel [00:09:00] 

The stories we tell ourselves [00:12:00]

We don't need to be that person that feels exhausted [00:15:00] 

The importance of changing the context of our lives [00:18:00] 

Links

Restore Me - Waiting List

https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week we talked about the first of three pillars of the Restore Me program, rewriting your life. This week, we will talk about the second of those three pillars, reconnect. 

When we are going through a divorce, many of us fear what will happen after the separation. Who will love us again, how are we going to rebuild our lives, how is our financial life going to be?

In this episode, we will talk about how reconnecting with ourselves, with our values and beliefs, can help us answer these questions and quickly put this fear out of our system.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

What most people miss about the reconnect part [00:03:00] 

The moment the pain starts to decrease [00:06:00] 

What is the best way to rebuild? [00:09:00] 

Practical exercise - Name what you feel [00:12:00] 

What a life lover would do [00:15:00] 

Why do we speak to ourselves in a way we don't talk to others? [00:18:00] 

Links

Restore Me Program

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1051502

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We grew up listening to our parents and people around us that we need to care for everyone else before caring about ourselves. And the intention of that teaching is noble, but most of us got it all wrong. We care too much for others, and we end up relegating ourselves. The truth is we can still care about others, but we must love ourselves first. In fact, we can positively affect the people around us if we come from a place of love and acceptance of ourselves. 

Tune in and understand what I mean when I say that being selfish makes you selfless.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

What happens when we don't put ourselves first [00:03:00] 

When love to ourselves becomes natural [00:06:00] 

The start of rewriting ourselves [00:09:00] 

We need to learn to love ourselves [00:12:00]

Little things can mean the world to others [00:15:00] 

Links

Restore Me Program

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1051502

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The kind of person we are today is in part thanks to how we deal with our problems and concerns. Being worried, fearful, or even hurt for extended periods changes us. When we try to hide them, ignore them, or shut them down watching Netflix, that is a momentaneous solution, but not definitive.  

In today's episode, I want to talk about what it means to carry negative emotions, and I will show you a flawless technique to help you let go of negative emotions. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

When we have a blockage [00:03:00] 

What does it feel like to have negative emotions [00:06:00] 

The reservoir of feelings and beliefs we carry around [00:09:00] 

External factors that affect us [00:12:00] 

How changing the context will help us [00:16:00] 

Being grateful is the key [00:19:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The effect of getting a divorce goes further than your family. It affects the entire circle of affection that surrounds you. This includes the extended family and your friends. At some point, you will start wondering what to say to them, how they will take it, what they will think about you, and your spouse. 

Even when this concern is common and legitimate, your primary focus should be your mental and emotional health, and your kids', if you have them. Tune in and find out what should you say to your friends about your separation.

Let's get into it

Timestamps

What should you say to others about your separation? [00:03:00] 

What people think when we communicate them about our separation [00:06:00]

We cannot control what other people say or think [00:09:00]

Explaining our decision [00:12:00] 

Asking ourselves what we want to share and what not [00:15:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many times, divorce is the tree that won't let us see the wood. We tend to act based on our emotions, and when that happens, we usually make the wrong choice. It is perhaps one of the hardest things to do, but we need to focus on making changes in the context of our lives. 

A simple way to put it would be, we need to make decisions today that our future self will thank us we did. In this episode, we will unravel the reasons why separation is a time of confusion.

Let's get into it

Timestamps

What happens when we don't change our context [00:03:00] 

Making our best to avoid repeating errors from the past [00:07:00] 

The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow [00:11:00] 

What happens when we have vision and certainty [00:14:00] 

We can change our context at any age [00:17:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we feel affected by the words someone says to us? What makes us feel bad? Is it their words or what puts us down really perhaps is in what we make those words to signify?

I've learned a simple system to defuse that mechanism that makes us feel sad, low, vulnerable, not good enough, enabled. In this episode, we will talk about this simple yet effective method to be truthful to yourself and achieve great things.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Lawyers and solicitors and their missions [00:02:00] 

My previous marriage was a competition [00:04:00] 

The importance of feeling good with ourselves [00:06:00] 

The power of our interpretations [00:09:00] 

How evil thoughts affect us [00:12:00] 

Our stories and beliefs [00:15:00] 

You need a different perspective [00:18:00] 

Looking back at the facts [00:21:00]

The master thought formula [00:24:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The moment we must deal with our divorce or separation, the first thought that comes to our minds is that we failed. We might think that we lost at the game of life because our marriage didn't work out. But as we said before, the end of our marriage can be the beginning of a new life. It is the new chapter of a new life, we only need to embrace it. 

Once we go through the darkest parts of the divorce and emerge victorious at the other side of the tunnel, we will understand that it was all meant to happen this way. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

How I see divorce vs how lawyers do [00:02:00] 

Mixed emotions during a divorce [00:04:00] 

The old me compared to the new me [00:06:00] 

What is our purpose? [00:08:00]

It is not about winning or losing [00:10:00] 

How I struggled during my divorce [00:12:00]

You'll love the lessons you've learnt from this [00:14:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.