Divorce Angel Podcast

When we are dealing with divorces and the legal system, justice and fairness are not necessarily related. In some cases, especially those where abuse is involved, the judge's sentence could look like a mockery to the victim of that abuse. The point is that when we are going through the division of assets or calculating spousal support, the court won't ask who hurt who the most. In this episode, I want to share my clients' and my experience in court, and explain what I mean when I say 'the court doesn't care'. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

What we'll get in compensation for what we suffered [00:01:00] 

What are judges and lawyers worried about [00:03:00] 

The things we go through when divorcing [00:05:00] 

When no one can help us [00:06:00] 

Living according to fairness [00:07:00]

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we were kids, our parents would tell us to do things not because we wanted, but because we were supposed to. They taught us to be aware of the other's feelings, and that might be the reason why we continuously seek for approval. There is nothing wrong with being mindful of the otherness of who is next to us; the problem starts when others' opinions affect our well-being. In this episode, I'll explain why caring what others think can be a deep black hole.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

The way we grow putting others in front of us [00:01:00] 

People you might need to declutter [00:03:00] 

When our friends show their true colours [00:05:00] 

The unexpected best friends [00:07:00] 

Getting separated from the extended family [00:09:00] 

Losing more than just friends [00:11:00] 

You can still get along with your ex's family [00:13:00] 

Links 

Episode #88 - Declutter Your Life With A Happy Divorce 

https://tanyasomerton.com/declutter-your-life-with-a-happy-divorce/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Going throw a divorce might hijack our minds and take us to a place where we can't think clearly. It can be so overwhelming that I've seen people experiencing physical pain. I've even heard people saying that it felt like they were having their hearth pulled out of their chest. When I was going through my divorce, one of the advice that most helped me was that despite it hurts like hell; it will get better eventually. And it did, and I'm here to assure you the same, it might be hurting like hell, but it will get better. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

I've been there [00:01:00] 

The most stressful human experiences [00:03:00] 

It will better over time [00:05:00] 

The three different types of breakups [00:07:00] 

Having the right team [00:09:00] 

What you should do if you're hurting [00:11:00]

Links

Episode #86 - Are You Happy With Who Is Staring Back In Your Reflection?

https://tanyasomerton.com/are-you-happy-with-who-is-staring-back-in-your-reflection/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

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See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if what makes us feel trapped are the things we are putting in our way. We may live according to someone else's expectations and don't realize that it is not what we need.  Is everything you have what you need? As we know, happiness comes from the inside. So what is the point of accumulating and be attached to objects? In this episode, I would like to show you how to declutter your life with a happy divorce. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Happiness comes from inside [00:01:00]

Objects that mean something to us [00:03:00] 

Your lifestyle becomes a habit [00:05:00] 

Why and how I've decided to change my life [00:07:00]

Sometimes we can't get out of bed [00:09:00] 

Getting out of my way [00:11:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Of course, there is no such thing as the perfect person. Even after a lot of personal growth and spiritual evolution, there are always things we can do better. And the main goal shouldn't be reaching perfection, but keep growing, facing our flaws and learning to forgive ourselves. We need to accept that it is okay if we are not perfect, and only when we dare to admit we were wrong and we want to create change in our lives, is when the real growth begins. In this episode, I'd like to ask you, are you happy with who is staring back in your reflection?  

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

One of my first discoveries [00:01:00] 

It is okay not to be perfect [00:03:00] 

Are you always late? [00:05:00] 

The importance of learning to listen [00:07:00]

My former relationship with money [00:09:00] 

How I spend my money now [00:11:00] 

Am I really on debt? [00:13:00] 

How I deal with money pitfalls [00:15:00] 

The moment I knew I had to leave [00:18:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mostly linked with pain and affliction, tears have a negative reputation. Since we are little kids, almost every time we cried someone would shut it down, please, stop crying. As a result of that kind of reactions, we grow up tending to avoid shedding tears, in some cases hiding in the shadows to cry. Still, these beliefs couldn't be further from the truth. Research shows that the act of crying has a positive impact on the human body; it can even release endorphins. In this episode, I'll be glad to explain what I mean when I say that befriending your tears is a good thing. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

People in my life that never cried [00:01:00] 

What does it mean when people don't cry? [00:04:00] 

Why should you embrace crying? [00:06:00] 

The feeling of someone having our back [00:08:00] 

The white flag in the middle of an argument [00:10:00] 

Some of the benefits of crying [00:12:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From all the possible mistakes we can make when we go through a divorce, there is one almost everyone does. And that is trying to make money out of their divorce. Most people have their heart in the right place; still, they make a wrong assessment of how much they're entitled to from the division of their assets. The problem is that moved by greed or poor counselling, we can get into a war trying to get more than what we're entitled to, and we might end up losing what we were going to get in the first place. In this episode, I would like to explain why I believe that money comes from happiness, not from divorce. 

Let's get into it:

The importance of a divorce strategy [00:02:00]

What we deserve might be not what we think [00:03:00] 

Working hard for our money [00:05:00] 

When there is a difference between what each one earns [00:07:00] 

What do you wish for your partner? [00:09:00] 

The consequences of fighting for what is rightfully ours [00:11:00] 

Money comes to you [00:13:00] 

The doors happiness can open [00:15:30]

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It can happen in our relationships; we think we are free, but we are not. Perhaps we are not physically held by someone or something, yet still we are not supposed to or allowed to say or think certain things. Freedom is a key that opens infinite doors; it stimulates our creativity. We are free when we can chase our happiness. However, we might have to pay a price for it, and this is how the question that names today's episode arises, how much are you prepared to pay for freedom?

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Do you have freedom in your life? [00:01:00] 

Be in control or controlled [00:03:00] 

A shiver in my spine [00:05:00] 

The reason why people have controlling behaviours [00:07:00] 

The cost to pay for freedom [00:09:00] 

For every action, there is a reaction [00:11:00] 

The value I offer my clients [00:13:00] 

Striving for freedom [00:15:00] 

The greatest gift I've given myself [00:17:00] 

Links 

15-Minute Clarity Call

https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week we talked about the five key reasons why divorce is so hard for most people. Even when every divorce is unique, those having a hard time are most likely struggling with one of those five. However, it is possible to handle each one of these situations and pay a low emotional and financial cost for our divorce. As promised last week, in this episode, I'll tell you what the best way to deal with these five reasons that make divorce so hard. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

A quick recap [00:00:30] 

The price we pay for our assets [00:01:30]

Keeping an asset for the wrong reasons [00:03:00]

Why you need to master your frequency and your vibration [00:06:00]

Getting over fear and having a wonderful life experience [00:07:30]

How therapy sessions helped me [00:09:00]

Assets versus liabilities, what works best for you? [00:10:30]

Do your homework, don't act under emotions [00:12:00]

Helping you find your identity [00:15:00]

The importance of managing our emotions [00:18:00]

Links

Divorce Angel - Episode #79 - Did You Know Your Life Is A Reflection Of You?

https://tanyasomerton.com/did-you-know-your-life-is-a-reflection-of-you/

How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married.

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From what I've witnessed dealing with hundreds of divorces as a Divorce Angel, I believe that if there is someone to blame for divorce being so hard, it is ourselves. The critical element here is emotions; we make divorce so hard because of them. It is our emotions that will affect our decision-making process directly. Our feelings will probably force us into a wrong choice, and we might end up in a disadvantaged position if we follow them. In this episode, I would like to raise some questions to understand why does divorce have to be so hard? 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

The demons we face during our divorce [00:02:30]

Taking away the emotions [00:04:30]

One of the reasons why divorce is so hard [00:07:00]

The emotional cost [00:08:30]

We know how to speak, but not all know how to communicate [00:10:00]

How we build our identity [00:12:00]

What is your identity? [00:14:00]

Links 

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.