Divorce Angel Podcast

Getting our emotions involved in our decision-making process is a recipe for disaster when we deal with divorce. If we want to get the outcome we need from our divorce is essential to have what we call Emotional Freedom. In this episode, I will explain the seven stages you need to go through to reach it.  

Let's get into it

Timestamps

The danger of making emotional decisions [00:01:30]

The secret lawyers don't want you to know [00:03:00]

The three ways of getting a divorce [00:06:00]

Stage one: time management [00:09:00]

Stage two: Multitasking [00:10:30] 

Stage three: Delegating [00:13:30]

Stage four: Excell at communication [00:15:00]

Stage five: Be detail-oriented [00:17:00]

Stage six: Be organized [00:18:00]

Stage seven: Teamwork [00:21:30]

Links

5 Steps To A Seamless Divorce

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008392

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

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As we already know, divorce is much more than just going to a lawyer. After we get the priorities in order, we will find out that divorce is the process of elimination. The key is to have access to a system capable of organizing the steps we need to take. We’ve got to ask the right questions, and then the answers will eliminate the problems that we’ve got. But we’ve got to go through them one after the other until we get the outcome we need. 

In this episode, I explain a little bit more about the Divorce Angel's pillars which I mentioned in last week's episode. I explain on how we manage this step by step approach of eliminating the problems we face during the divorce process and gear up to successfully finishing the race.

Timestamps

The issue with the old-fashioned divorces [00:01:00]

Divorce is something that we want to do only once [00:03:00]

A party or a war. The choice is ours [00:04:30]

Being attached to an outcome doesn't help [00:07:30]

The importance of planning [00:09:00]

The expert team [00:12:00]

Emotions during a divorce cost money [00:15:00]

It is essential to learn from people's mistakes [00:18:00]

You need to ask the right questions [00:21:00]

Links

The Action Centre

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008391

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being stuck in life is not always the consequence of not having a choice. When we decide to stay where we are because we are afraid of what we might find out there, we are choosing to live in fear. The unknown is not necessarily a synonym of danger; it can be a new, rewarding life. So when we decide to stay where we are, what is the reward we are getting by living in fear?

Timestamps

Future might look scary [00:02:00]

Ask yourself this question [00:03:00]

What drove humankind so far [00:05:20]

If I could, you can [00:09:00]

What inspired me so far [00:11:10]

Be brave for 5 minutes longer [00:13:00]

Fail your way to success [00:15:00]

Take action, any action [00:18:00]

Links 

Divorce Angel’s blog

https://tanyasomerton.com/the-best-way-to-overcome-fear/

5 Steps To A Seamless Divorce

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008392

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Getting a divorce is a little bit more complicated than just going to a lawyer. We will need emotional support, legal support, financial support and of course, life support. A tough journey lays in front of us, and it is our choice to get to the other side either severely wounded or stronger and wiser. Listen to my latest podcast episode and discover why leaving a marriage is never easy. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

Divorce doesn't need to be as complicated as we make it [00:02:10]

The moment you feel its time to move on [00:04:00]

How we hear advice / How we should hear it [00:05:00] 

The relevance of pre-work [00:07:00]

Do we communicate properly? [00:09:00]

What is it that we want out of our life? [00:11:30]

Like peeling an onion [00:13:30]

Links

5 Steps To A Seamless Divorce

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008392

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The divorce process can be costly. It can vary depending on the size of the law firm we hire, the lawyer we get and many other factors. Still, there is a way to spend less money, and it depends entirely on the way we decide to tackle it down. Listen to my latest podcast and find out if your divorce solicitor cost you money, or are you taking wrong decisions for yourself. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

What people expect on a first meeting with the lawyer [00:01:45]

The divorce ecosystem is disconnected [00:03:00]

How we spend more than needed on the lawyer's office [00:06:00] 

Work smarter not harder [00:07:30]

Not being organized or prepared is costly [00:10:30]

You should not do this alone [00:14:00]

Links

The Covert Divorce Plan

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1016882

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When our marriage is over, the first thing that comes in mind is that we failed. The truth is that divorce is a fact, and we are the ones who decide what to do with it. We can either transform it into a failure or a success. The key is to keep ourselves mindful and receptive to learn from our mistakes. Where else in your life have you tried and failed? You will change your answer to that question after listening to this episode. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

When overwhelm hits [00:01:50]

My divorce and why I used to think I've failed [00:03:00]

Being in Victim mode [00:06:00] 

The greatest accolade you could ever have [00:07:30]

You haven't failed, you succeded [00:09:00]

Shape your identity the right way [00:12:00]

Those who throws grenades end up in a war [00:12:00]

Links

The Action Centre

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008391

The Covert Divorce Plan

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1016882

Podcast Episode #24 - Victim- How Did I Find Myself Here?

https://tanyasomerton.com/victim-how-did-i-find-myself-here/

Podcast Episode #25 - Overwhelm - I Can’t Do This, It’s All So Hard!

https://tanyasomerton.com/overwhelm-i-cant-do-this-its-all-so-hard/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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Divorce Roadmap Session:

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There is a long list of details we need to take care of when we are getting a divorce, and worrying about what other people think should be at the bottom of that list. There is nothing we can do to change what others think about us and wasting time thinking about it only makes us paralyzed and keep us stuck.

Listen to this episode of the Divorce Angel podcast and learn where you should put your energy during a divorce, and where you should not. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

You're always going to upset someone [00:02:00]

What happens when we get lawyers and emotions involved [00:03:00]

Like a boxing match [00:05:00] 

The language we use [00:07:00]

Elvis, his talent and his looks [00:08:30]

Your greatest supporters [00:10:00]

Be alert to new opportunities [00:12:00]

What would your children think? [00:14:30]

Control the narrative [00:15:00]

Links

The Action Centre

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008391

Podcast Episode #34 - When Should I Take Off My Wedding Ring?

https://tanyasomerton.com/when-should-i-take-off-my-wedding-ring/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

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This week I would like to share with you the story of a couple that made a tough decision during these rough times. The announcement of the pandemic hit in the middle of their divorce process, forcing them to figure out a different way to face the lockdown. Having their 7-year-old son in mind, they looked at the bigger picture before deciding how to deal with their divorce. Join me in today's episode and listen to this inspiring story of different thinking during the lockdown.  

Let's get into it

The story of "Jill" and "Robert" [00:01:30]

The procedure during lockdown that decided they fate [00:02:40]

A previous arrangement that helped in their decision [00:03:40] 

How are they dealing with the new scenario? [00:04:49]

Looking at the bigger picture [00:06:00]

Links

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

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Divorce is a costly experience. If we are not prepared enough, we can squander lots of money. A divorce solicitor may not be aware of certain things that will lead you to spend more money than needed, or it can happen that they don't care about it. In today's episode, I want to share with you the money-saving tips a divorce solicitor won't tell you. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps 

What a pandemic does to a couple [00:02:00]

The 80/20 % rule before consulting a lawyer [00:04:30]

Picking the right lawyer [00:06:00] 

What worked with a friend might not be the best for you [00:07:30]

Why lawyers can be so expensive [00:09:30]

Mediation rather than litigation [00:11:30]

Try to keep it amicable [00:13:00]

Difference between the $450 and the $750 lawyer [00:15:00]

Lawyers are not therapists [00:17:30]

Links

Podcast Episode #36 - Mediation Rather Than Litigation

https://tanyasomerton.com/mediation-rather-than-litigation/

Trello Divorce Template

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008393/?action=signup

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The decision of leaving your relationship could take months to make it. Even when preceded by hours of thinking, planning, and lots of chats with the closest people, it can go wrong. 

Setting the scene, practising your speech, and being mindful about the words we use are the most effective advice I can give when you are approaching this very delicate task. Listen to the full podcast for all the tips that can help you step on the right direction.

I've also put together a video series and a downloadable workbook for this special episode of Divorce Angel podcast. I invite you to watch the videos and download the workbooks which is free of charge. The link is given below.  

Let's get into it

Timestamps 

Relationships pushed to the extremes during quarantine [00:01:30]

First tip: Set the scene [00:03:30]

Consider your stance [00:04:30] 

Tip two: Practice your speech [00:06:00]

Third tip: Mind your words [00:07:30]

Watch your tone [00:09:00]

The importance of silence [00:12:00]

What people hear [00:15:00]

Final tip: The consequences of what was said [00:17:30]

Links

Workbook & Video Series - How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married :

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008391/?action=signup

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

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