Divorce Angel Podcast

Every process we go through in life is an opportunity to grow and evolve. It doesn't matter if it is either negative or positive, as long as we are grateful we will manage to add value to our lives. It is the same with divorce. We can regret the time lost in a relationship that didn't work, or we can be grateful for what we lived and learnt during that marriage. In this episode, I would like to share with you the four blessings I received from my divorce.  

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Timestamps

Teaching my kids through the divorce [00:01:30]

People under stress show their worst [00:04:00]

When the needs and wants are not compatible [00:07:30]

What I've learnt in my first marriage [00:09:00]

The give and take relationship [00:12:00] 

There has to be more than this [00:15:00] 

I always felt a deeper calling [00:18:00] 

What a real friend looks like [00:21:00]

From a derelict old car to a brand new model [00:22:30]

Links 

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What we often attract is not what we wish, but is a repercussion of where we put our energy and our focus on. When we think about it, it is reasonable that if we are struggling financially, our attention will go to the lack of resources. The thing is that according to the law of attraction if we focus on what is missing, we will attract scarcity and repel abundance. The universe sends back what we send out to it; it's as simple as that. If we send out gratitude, kindness, compassion and love, what kind of life do you think we will have?

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

We are where we are supposed to be [00:01:30]

The difference between knowing and understanding [00:03:00]

Stopping negative thoughts for starters [00:04:30]

The law of attraction [00:07:30]

There is undoubtedly something to be grateful for [00:10:30]

We tend to ignore what we already have [00:13:30]

Creating consciousness of how lucky we are [00:16:30]

We should get what we are entitled to, not more [00:19:30]

Life can be scary sometimes [00:22:30]

Links

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Communication is a crucial element of any human interaction, and of course, it is not different when we deal with divorce. It requires a set of skills more complicated than merely talking and listening. For instance, we feel triggered when someone says something, and maybe, what we understood wasn't what that person was trying to say. With the right guidance, it is possible to get to communicate effectively. In this episode, I will explain how effective communication grants a successful divorce.  

Timestamps

Most of us communicate the wrong way [00:01:30]

What triggers us? [00:03:00]

The rule of the six possible scenarios [00:06:00]

What I hear is what you are saying? [00:07:30]

How my communication skills evolved [00:09:30]

Reading the body language [00:12:00]

The art of mirroring [00:14:00]

Looking deeply inside of us [00:18:00]

Links

How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married.

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the first things we make clear when a client approaches us is to be positive about getting divorced. It is a huge decision, and we warranty there is no doubt about it before we start the engine of our support machinery. Still, what I've realized during the clarity call sessions, is that people's biggest struggle is not about getting a divorce or not, but how to do it. If you already decided you want to separate but don't know how to do it, this podcast episode is for you.  

Let's get into it

Timestamps

Is it possible to have a life of freedom, happiness, and love? [00:01:30]

Have you explained to your partner, how do you feel? [00:03:00]

100% commitment [00:04:30]

The seven alternatives [00:06:00]

Why do you need to be sure about separation? [00:08:00]

Security after divorce is everything [00:10:30]

First steps into getting divorced [00:13:30]

The importance of looking at the full facts [00:15:00]

The biggest issue about getting divorced [00:18:00]

Links

Podcast Episode #2 - When is the right time to leave my marriage?

https://tanyasomerton.com/when-is-the-right-time-to-leave-my-marriage-2/

15 Min Clarity Call:

https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week I received a beautiful email from a client who, helped with the tools and support we offered to her, managed to make a 180 degrees change in her life. I believe we can learn a lot from her story, from how she handled her divorce, and mainly, from the way she regained control of her life. Join me and enjoy Rachel's story, from Financial Whoa to Wonder. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

We want to feel safe [00:01:30]

The lessons we need to learn [00:03:00

What we should avoid during divorce [00:04:30]

The beginning of Rachel's story [00:06:00]

The body talks [00:07:30]

The beauty of this woman [00:09:00]

Rachel's critical situation [00:12:00]

The last straw [00:15:00]

The first step into a new life [00:16:30]

Some things never change [00:18:00]

Rachel's email [00:19:00]

Links

15 Min Clarity Call:

https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After a tough couple of weeks, I've realized that even when life put us in dark places, there is something positive we can get from it. We might torture ourselves overthinking what would have happened if we acted differently, or how our life would be different if we hadn't chosen what we chose. Sometimes, the best choice is to shut all that chatter in our heads, connect with our feelings and be alone with our thoughts. Maybe in silence, we might listen to the answer we are looking.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

The body talks, we should listen to it [00:01:30]

The pressure goes up [00:03:00]

I think I had experienced this feeling before [00:06:00] 

One more pull [00:07:30]

What I wrote in my diary [00:10:30] 

Letting go of the heavy baggage [00:12:00]

The message I've got [00:13:30]

Links

15 Min Clarity Call:

https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The house we share with our partner at the moment of the separation has both a financial and emotional value. From an economic point of view, keeping it could look more accessible than it is; my experience showed me that numbers sometimes could be deceiving. But also, emotions will try to get a voice in this decision. We might feel inclined to keep it or get rid of it; it will depend on the happy or sad memories housed there. In this episode, I explain to the detail the elements we need to consider when deciding what to do with the family home at this difficult time. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

A real bugbear [00:01:00]

Is it possible to win at divorce? [00:03:00]

Is not easy to give up on some things [00:06:00]

Thinking twice before moving [00:09:00]

Why is it important to get a legal document? [00:11:00]

Can one partner take over the mortgage? [00:13:30]

What happens if the house sells for less than the value of the mortgage?[00:16:30]

The best way of moving on with your life [00:18:00]

Links 

15 Min Clarity Call:

https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Regardless of the kind of marriage you had, a divorce can take you to dark, cold places. Even if it looks like you will stay in these places forever, you won't. Life, like everything on this planet, has its seasons. And every season is followed by the next one to maintain balance and keep the cycle of life flowing smoothly. So if right now you feel like your life looks a lot like a harsh winter, relax, spring is just one season away.

Let's get into it

Timestamps

Life's seasons [00:01:00]

Knowing where are we going [00:04:30]

Why are you here? How did you get here? [00:06:00]

An opportunity to learn valuable lessons [00:07:30]

The things that matter in life [00:09:00]

You may need to hear this right NOW [00:10:30]

The way we talk to ourselves [00:12:00]

Links

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Getting out of the comfort zone is scary. We can't control what is happening, and we don't know what to expect. However, to be afraid is as understandable as necessary if we want to create change in our lives. If we decide to stay in the security of our safe spot, the prize we will pay is too high. It is a cost that someone going through a divorce can't afford to pay. That is why we need to embrace the fear of defying our limits and push our boundaries daily. Then one day, we will discover that waking up being scared is a powerful thing. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

We usually speak in three different ways [00:01:00]

Communication and interpretation [00:03:00]

What is your biggest fear? [00:06:00]

Stepping out of the comfort zone [00:07:30]

Creating a ripple effect [00:09:00]

Escaping normality [00:12:00]

Links

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Communication is much more than just talking and listening; it requires a set of skills beyond these simple actions. Still, it is possible to acquire these skills with the right guidance. When we are dealing with divorce, having Ninja Communication Skills will put you closer to a positive outcome, closer to a successful separation. 

Let's get into it

Timestamps

We are pretty bad at communicating [00:01:30]

Why we get triggered? [00:03:00]

The six other possible scenarios rule [00:06:00]

This is what I hear, is this what you are saying? [00:07:30]

My evolution at communicating [00:09:30]

Body language [00:12:00]

Mirroring your interlocutor [00:14:00]

Communicating with yourself [00:18:00]

Links

How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married.

https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Join my Free Facebook Group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Divorce Roadmap Session:

https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.