Divorce Angel Podcast

When we go through our divorce, we feel our life has been shattered to pieces. Life hit us with a hammer, and we see parts spread all over the place. Our family home, our family traditions, maybe our businesses, our feeling of safety, and everything seems to be reduced to tiny pieces. 

Divorce is definitely the end of many things in our lives but by no means is the end of our lives, it is very beginning. From rebuilding, repairing, and putting together those pieces, we start the new chapter of our lives.

In this episode, the Art of Kintsugi helps me explain how to heal from connection and not from perfection.

Let's get into it

Timestamps

The underlying message of these hundred episodes [00:02:00] 

The Japanese Art of Kintsugi [00:04:00]

Picking up the pieces of our life [00:06:00]

My intention towards my clients [00:08:00] 

The things I went through made me who I am [00:10:00] 

When we are sincere with ourselves [00:12:00] 

The real me [00:14:00] 

Links 

The Art of Kintsugi

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The week of Christmas is full of happiness and in most cases, is when family traditions flourish. But Christmas can also be challenging if it is the first we spend separated or divorced. We will remember every nice moment from our previous life, and we can go through rough times. 

In this episode, I want to talk about how to deal and get over those difficult moments. We need to focus on not being hard on ourselves, and perhaps creating new traditions. I'm convinced that you need to go back to loving yourself and happiness will flow. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Sometimes it is easier to stay [00:02:00] 

My family's traditions changing in front of me [00:04:00] 

Memories assaulting us [00:06:00] 

Feeling sad is not wrong, don't be harsh on yourself [00:08:00] 

The importance of putting ourselves first [00:10:00] 

Our ex trying to trigger us [00:12:00] 

This time of the year finds us tired [00:14:00] 

The Opposite Day technique [00:16:00] 

Going back to love ourselves [00:18:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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It takes time and courage to identify what's hurting us in our life. It could be our environment, our partner, the lifestyle we've imposed ourselves to have, and many other things. After we identify them, it takes even more courage to step away from those things that hurt us. 

But, in many cases, leaving, or putting distance between us and what hurt us is not enough. There's something else we need to change to reach happiness, our context. In today's episode, I want to talk to you a little bit more about content and context, and why your failed marriage is keeping you trapped. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

What is hard for me might be not hard for you [00:01:00] 

Your habits keep you trapped [00:04:00] 

When we tell excuses to ourselves [00:06:00] 

Leaving what makes you unhappy, is a solution? [00:09:00] 

Changing the content but not the context [00:11:00] 

Having clarity and vision of what you want for your future [00:13:00] 

Links

Listen to my latest episodes

Episode #96 You Are A Gift In The Making

Episode #97 A Letter To You

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A few days ago, a close friend of mine was struggling, and I wanted to help her. Someone suggested I write a letter to her from herself. Writing the letter, I've realized that I was answering some questions I ask in my Divorce Roadmap to my clients, and I thought it would be great sharing the experience with you. 

In today's episode, I'll share with you the three questions you must ask yourself, and that if you manage to answer, they'll change your life overnight. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps:

The feeling of not knowing what'll happen next [00:02:00] 

A letter to you [00:04:00]

Doing what we think we should do [00:06:00] 

The key to your happiness [00:08:00] 

Putting everyone before ourselves [00:10:00] 

Don't be a taker [00:12:00]

The questions you need to ask yourself [00:14:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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Sometimes people tell us things that can dig deep in our unconscious thoughts. Perhaps they are trying to help us, and still, the effect is the opposite; we start doubting ourselves, we start second-guessing every decision. And every difficult moment we sort out in our separation process has several effects on us; they make us grow, they teach us, and they transform us. That's why it is vital we trust ourselves at all times. 

Today's episode is about being aware of the content and the context of our past and future relationships to understand what's the best path into our evolution. After all the hard work you'll go through, you'll find out that you are a gift in the making. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Looking a little bit deeper at what you see in the mirror [00:02:00] 

Short recap about context and content [00:04:00] 

When you lose self-confidence [00:06:00] 

Living in autopilot [00:08:00] 

Behaving in the way we want to be treated [00:10:00] 

Learning about ourselves [00:12:00]

The evolution of YOU [00:14:00] 

People that stood up and their results [00:16:00] 

Links

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Episode #95 - It's Not Your Fault

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After we go through a process of separation or divorce, it's common to spend a lot of time alone with our thoughts. Trying to find the answer to why it happened is inevitable. And almost every time, we tend to think things like, "I should've done this or that differently" or "I shouldn't have said that," and so forth. We tend to feel guilty about what happened. What we don't know is that those feelings of guilt might be the product of the stories we carry with us. Things that someone told us one or thousands of times. We make those stories real.

In this episode, I will share with you a few principles of my latest program Restore Me, and I will explain to you why it's not your fault. 

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

A bit of my constant effort to evolve as a person [00:02:00]

The million-dollar question, where do I start? [00:04:00] 

Our environment and other people's opinions [00:06:00] 

How our stories impact us [00:08:00] 

The dangers of living on autopilot [00:10:00] 

Changing your context to change your life [00:12:00]

Following the wrong advise and its consequences [00:14:00] 

Links  

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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As promised last week, today's episode is the second sample of the audios I've recorded for the Restore Me program. In this occasion, we will talk about anger. Anger, and what makes us get mad is related to our identity and the stories we tell ourselves. If someone tells or does something that makes you angry, is that what makes you angry, or is the meaning you're giving to those words or actions what upset you? 

In this episode, I want to help you discover what meaning are you giving to anger.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Our habits and choices [00:02:00] 

The simple definition of unhappiness [00:04:00]

What we need to ask ourselves when we get mad [00:06:00]

What we feel and what we think when we get angry [00:08:00]

The meaning we give to things [00:10:00] 

Stories we tell ourselves [00:12:00]

From point A to point B [00:14:00] 

What can we create from negativity [00:17:00] 

What's the most empowering story I can tell myself? [00:19:00]

Our self-integrity at stake? [00:21:00]  

A powerful identity [00:23:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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I've decided to do something special for this and the next week's podcast. It's a sample of Restore ME, a program I've put together to help people get out of the baggage that their relationship had allowed them to transfer into their next life. This week's snippet of the program is about the stories we tell ourselves and how they affect our present and our future. 

Whatever you have in life is a direct result of your stories, and I can explain how and why.

Let's get into it:

Timestamps

Getting rid of the crap from previous relationships [00:02:00] 

A lightbulb moment [00:04:00] 

Repeating a story in our heads [00:06:00] 

The result of the stories we tell ourselves [00:09:00] 

Changing our stories [00:11:00] 

Feeling trapped in our stories [00:13:00] 

The things that make us angry [00:15:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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Deciding on getting a divorce might be a process that lasts a couple of years. Perhaps we feel in our gut that something is not right; still we choose to ignore that feeling. And then, after all that work, the inner growth, the pain of making such a hard call, the challenging part begins, where to start? 

In this episode, I want to help you take the first steps into self-alignment and the beginning of the most challenging part of getting a divorce. 

Let's get into it!

Timestamps

The time we take to decide to leave our marriage [00:01:00] 

Nobody wants to go to war [00:03:00] 

Acting outside of our character and its consequences [00:05:00] 

Coming into a solution that works for both of you [00:07:00] 

What is self-alignment? [00:09:00] 

What is missing to make you thrive? [00:11:00] 

Ignoring your gut or accessing your intuition [00:13:00] 

What are your values [00:15:00] 

Divorce is like the key in the engine [00:17:00]

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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It is funny what happens with bravery. We tend to think that there are only two possibilities, brave or coward. The truth is we can teach ourselves to be brave; we can make our bravery grow the same way we grow our muscles in the gym. It is possible to learn from every backlash we suffer in our lives and use that experience to feed our courage. In this episode, we talk about courage, and I will explain what I mean when I say that bravery comes in many forms.

Let's get into it

Timestamps

You are brave, even if you feel you're not winning [00:01:00] 

Putting steps in place [00:03:00] 

The four types of courage [00:05:00] 

Moral courage and me [00:07:00] 

I'll stand up for you [00:09:00] 

The body follows what the mind tells it [00:11:00] 

Why it's vital to keep growing [00:13:00] 

Intellectual courage [00:15:00] 

You've got the courage [00:17:00] 

Links

15-Minute Clarity Call

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My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Join my Free Facebook Group here:

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