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We consistently say that all divorce involves conflict. Even in the most amicable divorce, couples aren’t likely to agree on everything. But one area that seems to spur the most conflict is co-parenting. We recently read that 80% of the court’s time is taken up by custody matters which tells us that co-parenting and making decisions about children is a hot button topic.

So today we're exploring one aspect that contributes heavily to co-parenting conflict and that’s when people have difficulty transitioning from stakeholders in each other’s lives to business partners. Moving from being a couple to being co-parents is a shift that can take time and requires both parents to focus on what’s best for their children instead of what’s important to them. 

We get into common triggers and obstacles, talk a bit about gatekeeping and alienation, and walk you through a real life client scenario.

If you're a certified divorce coach and want to learn more about supporting co-parents who are having difficulty, we'll be starting a 6-week co-parenting intensive beginning the week of November 4.

Learn more about becoming a DCA® Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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When we talk with prospective students and new students, we get a lot of questions about what’s it’s really like to start a career as a professional divorce coach. So today, Christina Stone is going to give us all a behind the scenes look at what that journey is really like.

Christina is a Certified ADR Divorce coach and if that name sounds familiar, it’s because she also happens to be our Operations Coordinator here at DCA so you may have been in communication with her at some point.

Today Christina and Debra are sharing some truth and busting some myths about starting a career as a divorce coach. It is truly a viable career, but as Christina will tell you...it takes persistence, patience and a plan.

While there are exceptions, the majority of new divorce coaches do not make $60 or $70k their first year out and anyone who tells you something different has an agenda. But you can get there by staying focused on your goals, being part of a divorce coaching community, and continuing to learn and hone your skills.

We hope you enjoy getting to know Christina and we are thrilled to have her as part of the DCA community and team.

You can find Christina at:

Email: [email protected]
Website: cnfewcoaching.net
Instagram: c.n.fewcoaching

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]

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Being a solopreneur is hard. Being a solopreneur in a new industry is even harder. It takes a lot of focus, intention, and community support to build a successful practice as a new divorce coach.

We say it every week in the podcast intro because we mean it. We are committed to the success of our DCA trained divorce coaches and we provide so many ways for coaches in our community to connect, learn, and grow.

Why are we so passionate about offering these kinds of opportunities for our coaches? Because we are simultaneously focused on raising the standards of practice for the profession and ensuring that properly trained coaches stay in the industry.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss all the ways DCA demonstrates their commitment to the coaches in our community including:

• Free online alumni community
• Free bi-monthly lunch & learn events
• Free listing on our coach locator
• Affordable professional case consultation groups
• No annual dues or certification renewal fees

We are personally invested in and committed to every single coach in our community. The world needs more properly trained and credential divorce coaches and we're here to support you every step of the way.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: [email protected]

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One thing that seems to be certain in divorce is that no one gets everything they want. Most walk away feeling like they had to give up more than their share in order to get to a final agreement.  Rarely do we hear a client say they thought the settlement was 100% fair and equitable. Most everyone feels like they got the short end of the stick.

So in this episode we dive into this idea of “fairness” and talk about how it can cause problems or create obstacles when it comes to getting to a final resolution. And we offer some coaching strategies for working with clients who get stuck in their own definition of "fairness".

Many clients start out saying “I just want what’s fair”. The trouble is that rarely will their spouse have the same definition of fair. We joke that “fair” is the 4-letter F word in divorce because what you think is fair, what I think is fair, and what the legal system thinks is fair can be wildly different. 

Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss the concept of fairness and justice and how expanding our definition of what's "fair" may be the key to finally reaching an agreement everyone can feel OK about.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage.

 We discuss how to recognize it, and more importantly, how to support clients who are engaging in self sabotaging behavior that may be preventing them from reaching their desired goal or outcome.

Self-sabotage is a completely normal human behavior and shows up frequently in divorce and co-parenting as a result of fear of the unknown, perfectionism, lack of self belief, resistance to change, or learned behaviors.

Overcoming self-sabotage requires a combination of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional effort - all things divorce coaches are great at supporting our clients with.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through why self-sabotage happens and how you can work with clients in self-destruct mode to get them on a better path.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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Email: [email protected]

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Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.

In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it’s well-intentioned, it’s also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.

Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving. 

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: [email protected]

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In this week's episode, we're exploring why empathy is so challenging in the context of divorce, why it's a key factor in conflict resolution and negotiation, and what can be done to foster it.

One of the primary reasons empathy is so challenging during divorce and co-parenting is the intensity of emotions involved. Big feelings like anger, betrayal, resentment, injustice and more can invoke our natural instinct is to protect ourselves. 

Also, the legal process and the adversarial nature of divorce proceedings can create an environment of competition rather than cooperation where any show of empathy might be seen as weakness.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about the role of empathy in divorce and the 7 tools we can use to effectively use empathy strategically to improve outcomes for families.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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Email: [email protected]

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We're launching customized curriculum for Canada next month! And we're excited for you to get to know our Canadian Director, Dori Braddell. 

Dori is a highly successful divorce coach who specializes in conflicted and complicated divorce and co-parenting situations. She originally received her certification through the CDC and has continued to pursue continuing education with DCA as a Certified ADR Divorce Coach, Divorce Conflict Coach, and Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach.

Listen in as Tracy and Dori talk about the rise of divorce coaching in Canada and why it's important for Canadian coaches to get certified in a program that is tailored to the laws, customs, processes, and resources of their home country.

The first Canadian cohort will begin the week of October 13 and applications are now being accepted.

Go to divorcecoachesacademy.com/divorcecoach and schedule a call with Dori today to learn more about DCA's Canada specific training program.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: [email protected]

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DCA is constantly growing to serve you better. In this episode, we highlight a few recent changes that offer even more ways to connect with each other. Check out your DCA student dashboard for more information.

Student Community
Each cohort in the process of studying to become certified ADR divorce coaches is being given access to a free online space to connect with their class and other students. It is automatically available after you enroll in the course.

Alumni Community
Every coach who has been certified through DCA is now part of a free online alumni community where you can post questions, collaborate, or share resources. This includes all graduates of our ADRDC, DCC, PMDC and CCDC courses.

Case Consult Community
All coaches participating in the Case Consultation and Mastermind Group have access to a dedicated community space to interact on a more frequent basis.

Lunch & Learn Events
DCA is launching a free monthly series of learning events for all members of our alumni community.
- 2nd Wed of each month is the Business Builder series focused on helping new-ish coaches get clients and start their practices..
- 4th Wed of each month is the Practice Accelerator series which will include advanced topics of interest to those with established businesses who are looking to continue their education.

Mobile App
And don't forget that DCA is now available on the Thinkific (our learning platform) mobile app. Just download the app, search for Divorce Coaches Academy and log in using the same credentials you use for the web version. Now you can take DCA and all your courses and communities on the go.
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We hope you'll take advantage of these new opportunities to network, learn, and grow.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]

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When it comes to attorney-client relationships, we hear a lot of complaints. We understand there are a few bad apples out there, but most attorneys we know are really trying to do the best job they can. So what’s gone wrong? Why are clients not satisfied with the service their attorney is providing and what can they (and we as their divorce coaches) do about it?

We believe that clients frequently make this decision without an understanding of the role that their attorney will play and without conducting a thorough interview process. And then they feel stuck in a contractual relationship with a professional that isn’t meeting their expectations.

In this week's conversation, Tracy and Debra unpack some common complaints, discuss 5 red flags, and offer solutions when our client isn't feeling good about their attorney.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]