Divorce Dialogues

Divorce Dialogues

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Divorce Dialogues episodes

  • Financial Planning For The Blended Family With Jay Mota
    Anxiety around money puts a strain on any relationship. But for blended families, there’s an added layer of complexity. Who will pay for what? And where is the money coming from? The good news is, remarried couples can alleviate a lot of that stress with a little planning.
    Jay Mota is a Certified Financial Planner and Chartered Financial Consultant with Prudential Financial. Born and raised in the Bronx, Jay served in both the US Marine Corps and Army National Guard before transitioning to financial services. Jay studied at NYU, Fordham University and The American College of Financial Services, earning degrees in Business Management, Marketing and Communication. With 20 years of experience in financial planning, Jay is a sought-after international speaker on financial wellness and other industry-related topics. 
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jay joins Katherine to discuss the finer points of financial planning for the blended family, explaining how disputes around alimony and child support take both a financial and emotional toll on all involved. He addresses the financial expectations of stepparents, challenging remarried couples to have an honest conversation about their current circumstances as well as their goals for the future. Listen in for Jay’s insight on estate planning in a blended family and learn how to make sure your children from a previous marriage are taken care of after you’re gone.
    Topics Covered 
    Why Jay recommends that blended families track their income and expenses 
    How disputes around alimony and child support take an emotional and financial toll on a blended family
    How Jay helps blended families identify the financial facts today, understand each other’s goals and plan for the future
    The financial expectations of a stepparent around paying for college
    Communicating your decisions re: estate equalization and your stepchildren with your new spouse
    The estate planning concerns associated with blended families (and what you can do to make sure your children from a previous marriage don’t get left out)
    The value in envisioning how you want your estate to be handled and creating a plan right now
    Jay’s fiduciary responsibility to introduce difficult conversations
    Jay’s insight on the challenge of retirement planning in a blended family 
    Connect with Jay Mota
    Call (929) 207-3838
    Jay on Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/Jay.J.Mota/posts_to_page/
    Jay on LinkedIn:
    https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymota
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    FAFSA:
    https://studentaid.gov/
    25 min
  • The Relationship Between Surrogates And Intended Parents With Alexis Cirel
    Family formation through gestational surrogacy can be a beautiful thing. It is also a lengthy, expensive process that comes with mental and emotional challenges. So, what do potential surrogates and intended parents, or IPs, need to know before they move forward? And how are both parties protected so that the surrogate-IP relationship thrives throughout the process?
    Alexis Cirel serves as partner in the Matrimonial and Family Law Group at Warshaw Burstein. Alexis is also a recognized leader in the area of reproductive family law, and she was instrumental in the recent passage of the Child-Parent Security Act (CPSA) , the legislation that legalizes gestational surrogacy in New York and ensures protections for New York families formed through assisted reproduction.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Alexis joins Katherine to discuss how the relationship between the surrogate and intended parents is formed, explaining what motivates women to serve as surrogates and how the CPSA provides a team of support for all involved. She walks us through the extensive provisions required by law in every surrogacy agreement and describes how negotiated provisions can be tailored specifically to the parties involved. Listen in for Alexis’s insight on how surrogates are compensated and learn how the surrogacy process can both put stress on a marriage and bring intended parents together.
    Topics Covered 
    How the Child-Parent Security Act legalized gestational surrogacy in New York State 
    Why the CPSA is considered the gold standard for assisted reproductive technology
    How the relationship between the surrogate and intended parents is formed
    What motivates women to serve as surrogates
    How the CPSA builds in ongoing protections to make sure the relationship between the surrogate and intended parents thrives throughout the process
    The extensive provisions required by law in every surrogacy agreement
    How negotiated provisions can be tailored to the specific parties involved
    How surrogates are compensated and what a surrogate might ask for beyond base compensation
    Where to find resources for professionals involved in the surrogacy process
    The financial, mental and emotional challenges associated with entering into a surrogacy arrangement and what happens if the intended parents separate or divorce
    How the surrogacy process can both put stress on a marriage and bring a couple together
    Connect with Alexis Cirel
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    The Child-Parent Security Act: https://health.ny.gov/vital_records/child_parent_security_act/
    Reproductive Technology Law at Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/reproductive-law-planning
    American Society for Reproductive Medicine: https://www.asrm.org/
    24 min
  • A New Way to Start the Money Conversation with Judith Stern Peck
    How do you talk to your partner about money? How about your kids? Many of us are afraid to discuss our finances, so we avoid the subject altogether. But what if you had a new way to initiate the money conversation with your family?
    Judith Stern Peck is the Director of the Money and Family Life Project at the Ackerman Institute for the Family, where she serves as Senior Faculty. She has 40 years of experience as a family therapist and family business consultant, helping people break through the barriers of talking about money. Judith is also the author of Money and Meaning: New Ways to Have Conversations About Money with Your Clients—A Guide for Therapists, Coaches and Other Professionals.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Judith joins Katherine to explain why money is still such a taboo subject for most people and describe why it’s challenging for many divorcing couples to have explicit discussions about their finances. She introduces us to her framework for talking about money, walking us through an exercise for recognizing when your spending contradicts your values. Listen in for Judith’s insight on getting educated around your household finances and learn a new approach to communicating with your family about money.
    Topics Covered
    How money carries many different subconscious meanings for people
    How to communicate money decisions to your children
    Why money is still such a taboo subject for most people
    The challenge of talking about money when a couple has established the provider-distributor dynamic
    Why the shift from an implicit contract to explicit discussions about money feels uncomfortable for divorcing couples
    What people can do to start having better conversations around money
    Judith’s exercise for aligning your financial decisions with your values
    Recognizing when your spending contradicts your values and having a conversation about it
    Judith’s advice for people in families where money is used to control or manipulate behavior
    Why getting educated about the use of money in your family is the first step toward spending with intention and taking ownership of financial decisions
    Connect with Judith Stern Peck
    Judith at Ackerman Institute for the Family: https://www.ackerman.org/faculty/judith-stern-peck-lcsw/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Judith’s Money and Family Life Research: https://www.ackerman.org/faculty/judith-stern-peck-lcsw/
    Money and Meaning: New Ways to Have Conversations About Money with Your Clients—A Guide for Therapists, Coaches and Other Professionals by Judith Stern Peck: https://www.amazon.com/Money-Meaning-Conversations-Clients-Professionals/dp/0470083425
    24 min
  • Why Prenups Aren’t Just for the Rich & Famous with Soumya Evans
    A marriage is more than a romantic alliance. In the eyes of the law, saying I do makes you part of a financial partnership and social unit. And that has implications for EVERY couple, not just the rich and famous. So, what makes a prenuptial agreement a good idea? Is there a way to initiate the discussion without offending your husband- or wife-to-be?
    Soumya Evans is a family lawyer, trained mediator and experienced litigator with a clear understanding of the emotional and psychological issues affecting families in separation and divorce. She has been practicing family law exclusively since 2013 and joined Miller Law Group 18 months ago to continue her work helping divorcing couples find solutions that prioritize the family’s wellbeing.
    On this episode of the podcast, Soumya joins Katherine to explain why everyone should consider a prenuptial agreement, describing how it creates guidelines for a couple in the event of divorce or death. She introduces us to the difference between separate versus marital property and describes what can and cannot be dictated by the terms of a prenup. Listen in for Soumya’s insight on raising the issue in a non-adversarial way and learn how a prenuptial agreement can benefit you and your future spouse.
    Topics Covered
    How a prenuptial agreement creates guidelines in the event to divorce or death
    Why every couple should consider a prenuptial agreement
    How estate planning can be customized to your specific circumstances
    The difference between separate property and marital property
    Why a prenup can be especially important if you have children from a prior relationship
    What can and cannot be dictated by the terms of a prenuptial agreement
    How a lawyer can help a less-moneyed partner understand their rights and negotiate for the best possible arrangement under a prenuptial agreement
    How long before the wedding Soumya recommends negotiating the prenup
    How to raise the issue of a prenup in a non-adversarial way
    Why you shouldn’t be offended if your partner asks you to consider a prenup
    Connect with Soumya Evans
    Soumya at Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/our-attorneys/soumya-evans/
    Call (914) 862-7487
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    25 min
  • What You Need to Know About Dating After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen
    Dating after divorce is intimidating, especially for those of us who never dreamed we’d be looking for love online. So, how do you know when you’re ready to get back into the dating scene? How do you choose the right app? And how do you build a profile that reflects the best version of you?
    Alyssa Dineen is the dating coach and personal stylist behind Style My Profile, a consulting agency that helps clients feel better about online dating. Style My Profile is a first-of-its-kind service that offers 1:1 profile help and wardrobe consultation as well as a Mindful Dating Workshop and Membership Program. Alyssa’s has 20-plus years of styling expertise, and her work has been featured on the Today Show, NBC and The New York Times, among many other national media outlets.
    On this episode of the podcast, Alyssa joins Katherine to discuss dating after divorce, encouraging us to look at online dating as a language we can pick up with a little practice. She explains why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids) and challenges us to make sure we’re ready to date before we go online. Listen in for Alyssa’s insight on choosing the right dating app for you and get her top tips for putting together an intentional, creative online dating profile.
    Topics Covered
    Why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids)
    How to get past feeling intimidated about dating after a divorce
    The importance of modeling a happy, functional relationship for your children
    Alyssa’s take on online dating as a new language that you can pick up with practice
    How to find the right dating app for you based on age, lifestyle and where you live
    Alyssa’s argument for online dating vs. meeting someone in real life
    Alyssa’s advice around making sure you’re ready to date again before you create a profile
    Why it’s crucial to put effort and creativity into your profile pictures and bio
    Why casual photos of you doing things in real life are better than studio shots
    How Alyssa serves clients who need support with online dating
    Connect with Alyssa Dineen
    Style My Profile: https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Alyssa on Divorce Dialogues EP099: https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/
    Alyssa’s 12-Week Mindful Dating Webinar: https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/mindful-dating-workshop/
    Alyssa’s Dynamic Dating Membership Program: https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/dynamic-dating-membership/
    Match: https://www.match.com/
    Bumble: https://bumble.com/
    25 min
  • What You Need to Know About Family Building Via Surrogacy with Lisa Schuman
    As society evolves, the landscape of what a family looks like and who can be parents is changing, too. More and more single people, same-sex couples, transgender individuals and people with medical issues are building families by way of surrogacy or adoption. So, what do those of us who are considering surrogacy need to think about before we start the process?
    Lisa Schuman is the licensed clinical social worker behind The Center for Family Building, an organization working to make the journey to parenthood easier. She also serves as the Director of Mental Health Services for Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut and Gay Parents to Be. Lisa offers counseling for parents and children who formed their families through sperm and egg donation or adoption, and she recently testified as a surrogacy expert for the New York State Senate Judiciary Committee.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Lisa joins Katherine to discuss the pros and cons of New York’s new surrogacy law and explain why more and more people are using surrogacy to become parents. She describes the separate roles of the surrogate and the egg donor, offering insight on how intended parents decide whether to contribute their own genetic material and why it’s important that everyone involved knows what to expect. Listen in for Lisa’s advice on how to best support single people, gay male couples, transgender women and people with medical issues as they build families through surrogacy.
    Topics Covered
    Lisa’s take on the pros and cons of New York State’s new surrogacy law
    Why more and more people are using surrogacy to become parents
    The four categories of people who might use surrogacy to build a family
    The process Lisa uses to make sure the intended parents, the surrogate and her partner (if she has one) know what to expect
    The separate roles of the surrogate and the egg donor
    How intended parents decide whether to use a sperm donor or contribute their own genetic material
    Lisa’s insight on the psychological impact of a child being biologically related to one parent and not the other
    The altruistic personality type of a typical surrogate
    How to support single people, gay male couples, transgender women and people with medical issues who are building their families through surrogacy
    Lisa’s advice on getting educated before you look for a surrogacy clinic
    Connect with Lisa Schuman
    The Center for Family Building: http://familybuilding.net/
    The Center for Family Building on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecenterforfamilybuilding/?hl=en
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Family Equality Council’s LGBTQ Family Building Survey: https://www.familyequality.org/resources/lgbtq-family-building-survey/
    American Society for Reproductive Medicine: https://www.asrm.org/
    ASRM’s Surrogacy Resources: https://www.asrm.org/topics/topics-index/gestational-carrier/
    ASRM’s Recommendations for Practices Utilizing Gestational Carriers: https://www.asrm.org/globalassets/asrm/asrm-content/news-and-publications/practice-guidelines/for-non-members/recs_for_practices_utlizing_gestational_carriers.pdf
    New York’s New Surrogacy Law: https://www.governor.ny.gov/news/governor-cuomo-unveils-16th-proposal-2020-state-state-legalizing-gestational-surrogacy
    25 min
  • The Legal Ins and Outs of Surrogacy with Yifat Shaltiel
    For couples who can’t carry their own child, surrogacy is a viable option. And yet, the law in many states recognizes the surrogate as the legal mother and forces intended parents to work through the adoption process. So, how does surrogacy work? And how is the legislation changing in New York?
    Yifat Shaltiel is the Founder and Attorney-Director of Surrogate Steps, an agency that helps individuals of all family types become parents through surrogacy. An expert on surrogacy and reproductive law, Yifat has been featured on MSNBC and Fox News, presented at Cornell University and the Women’s Bar Association of New York State, and testified for the New York State Legislature.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Yifat joins Katherine to discuss how the laws around surrogacy are changing in New York, describing the risks intended parents faced up until now and how the new legislation makes the process easier. She explains the technology used in in vetro fertilization or IVF and shares her experience around one parent being genetically related to the child while the other is not. Listen in for Yifat’s insight on the emotions associated with having a baby through surrogacy and learn how an agency like Surrogate Steps matches intended parents with a surrogate they can trust.
    Topics Covered
    How surrogacy helps couples with infertility issues as well as the LGBT community
    The difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy and why traditional surrogacy can be a riskier process
    How the laws around surrogacy are changing in New York on February 15, 2021
    Why intended parents had to trust that the surrogate would follow their memorandum of understanding under previous law
    How the new law will recognize the intended parents as the legal parents when the child is born
    The technology used in the IVF process to inject sperm into an egg
    How egg donors in IVF surrender their rights to the clinic or intended parents
    Why couples usually care more about having a healthy baby than who is genetically related to the child and who isn’t
    Why counseling is recommended for couples who have children through surrogacy
    How a surrogacy agency assists in matching intended parents with a surrogate they can trust
    Connect with Yifat Shaltiel
    Surrogate Steps: https://surrogatesteps.com/
    Surrogate Steps on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourSurrogateSteps
    Surrogate Steps on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/surrogatesteps/
    Surrogate Steps on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@surrogatesteps?
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    New York’s New Surrogacy Law: https://www.governor.ny.gov/news/governor-cuomo-unveils-16th-proposal-2020-state-state-legalizing-gestational-surrogacy
    27 min
  • Working Through the 10 Emotional Stages of Divorce with Jackie Pilossoph
    EP: 143
    Jackie Pilossoph
    Working Through the 10 Emotional Stages of Divorce
    Divorce is an emotional roller coaster. You might feel shock, fear, hope, sadness, gratitude and anger—and that’s just in one afternoon. So, what can you expect to feel as you move through the divorce process? And how can you work through those emotional stages with as much grace and dignity as possible?
    Jackie Pilossoph is the Creator and Editor-in-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, an online divorce support community designed to empower and inspire women and men during and after divorce. A former television journalist with a Master’s in Communication, Jackie is committed to helping people navigate divorce with grace, courage and gratitude. She is also the author of the Better Magazine weekly column Love Essentially.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Jackie joins Katherine to discuss the ten emotional stages of divorce, describing the initial shock divorcing couples feel and the sadness that accompanies the end of a relationship. She explains why getting lawyers involved can induce panic and anxiety and explores how anger can either be destructive OR drive us to make necessary change. Listen in for Jackie’s insight around the feelings of hope and empowerment you can expect as you work through the process and learn how to navigate the strong, conflicting emotions that come with divorce.
    Topics Covered
    How her own feelings of isolation inspired Jackie to write about divorce
    The very strong, conflicting emotions you feel through the divorce process
    Jackie’s insight around the ten emotional stages of divorce
    Shock and disbelief
    Sadness
    Panic, fear and anxiety
    Anger and resentment
    Tinge of excitement and hope
    Frustration
    Gratitude
    Acceptance
    Empowerment
    Peace
    What couples can do to find their way through divorce and avoid a lawsuit
    How anger can be destructive OR drive us to make necessary changes
    The experiences that might offer us a feeling of empowerment in divorce
    Why it’s crucial to be patient as you navigate a lengthy divorce process
    Developing a sense of gratitude for what was good about your marriage
    Jackie’s advice around who to talk to first if you’re considering a divorce
    Connect with Jackie Pilossoph
    Divorced Girl Smiling: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
    The Divorced Girl Smiling Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DivorcedGirlSmiling
    Love Essentially: https://better.net/love-essentially/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    ‘The Emotional Stages of Divorce Are Like a Roller Coaster Ride’ by Jackie Pilossoph: https://better.net/love-essentially/
    ‘Going Through a Divorce? A Word That Will Keep You Out of the Garbage Chute’ by Jackie Pilossoph: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/going-through-a-divorce-a-word-that-will-keep-you-out-of-the-garbage-chute/
    27 min
  • Helping Women Have a Good Relationship with Money with Carrie Rattle
    Though it’s been proven that girls are just as good at math as boys, the cultural assumption that men are better at managing money persists. And in the divorce process, many women (even the smart, capable ones) struggle with financial decisions. So, what are the systemic myths that keep women from having a good relationship with money? And what can we do to change that?
    Financial Therapist Carrie Rattle is the Founder and CEO of Behavioral Cents, a coaching practice dedicated to helping professional women build wealth by learning how to get out of debt, save money, or protect their assets during a divorce. A financial executive with 30 years of experience in the banking industry, Carrie teaches women to build money-life balance and align their values with their spending.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Carrie joins Katherine to discuss the five unique hurdles that separate women from a good relationship with money. She introduces us to the princess syndrome, explaining how parents treat girls differently when it comes to finances and what’s problematic about the cultural assumption that men are better with money. Listen in for Carrie’s insight into the not-good-enough messaging women get from the media and learn what we can do to combat the fear, shame and social assumptions that impact a woman’s confidence around money.
    Topics Covered
    What inspired Carrie to focus her work around women and money
    Why it’s crucial for divorce professionals to understand where women are coming from when it comes to money
    The five hurdles that separate women from a good relationship with money
    How parents treat girls differently when it comes to finances
    The difference between general financial literacy and connecting how our behaviors translate to expenses
    How the princess syndrome impacts young girls and influences their attitude toward money
    The problem with our false cultural assumption that men are better at managing money
    The not-good-enough message women get from the media and how it impacts their confidence around money
    Why investing is a lot less complex than most women think and how Carrie teaches asset allocation
    Connect with Carrie Rattle
    Behavioral Cents: https://www.behavioralcents.com/
    Call (914) 923-6081
    Stopping Overshopping
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Sarah Coyne’s Study on Disney Princesses: http://commons.princeton.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/87/2019/01/Coyne-et-al.-2016-Pretty-as-a-Princess-Longitudinal-Effects-of-Enga.pdf
    Geena Davis Institute of Gender in Media: https://seejane.org/
    27 min
  • How to Have a Good Divorce with Sarah Armstrong
    When our children are growing up, we cover the electrical outlets. We make sure they wear bike helmets and drink organic milk. We go out of our way to ensure that they are safe and healthy and happy. And yet, many parents fail to protect their kids from the toxicity of a high-conflict divorce. So, what can we do to set aside our feelings for our ex and make things better for our children?
    Sarah Armstrong is the author of The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children Are Involved. Sarah began her career with Leo Burnett before joining the Coca-Cola Worldwide Media team in 1997. In 2017, she transitioned to a leading global management consulting firm where she serves as Partner. After her own marriage ended, Sarah became the go-to advisor for her divorcing friends and was inspired to write The Mom’s Guide... to share that wisdom with the world.
    On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Sarah joins Katherine to discuss the responsibility we have to take co-parenting seriously and bring our kids up in the healthiest environment possible. She introduces us to the key components of a good divorce, offering insight on how to approach decision-making with your ex and compartmentalize your feelings to focus on what’s best for your children. Listen in for Sarah’s advice on how to course correct and end up with a good divorce—even if it didn’t start off that way.
    Topics Covered
    The experiences that inspired Sarah to write The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce
    Sarah’s argument against the societal perception that you cannot have a good divorce
    The potential to have a good divorce even if it’s one-sided
    The responsibility we have to take co-parenting seriously and bring our kids up in the healthiest environment possible
    The key components of a good divorce
    Sarah’s advice on approaching your ex with one shift that will make things better for your children
    How to minimize your child’s feeling that they are a professional traveler
    The top two mistakes divorced couples make that adversely impact their children
    Engaging your kids for help in creating new holiday traditions
    Strengthening your compartmentalization muscle and taking care of yourself in this time of unexpected togetherness
    How to course correct and end up with a good divorce (even if it didn’t start off that way)
    Connect with Sarah Armstrong
    Mom’s Guide to Good Divorce: https://www.momsguidetogooddivorce.com/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children Are Involved by Sarah Armstrong: https://www.momsguidetogooddivorce.com/
    27 min

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Divorce Dialogues helps people navigate divorce with dignity, clarity, and perspective. Through thoughtful conversations with experts and practitioners, the show explores the emotional, financial, legal, and relational realities of divorce, so listeners can make better decisions, communicate more effectively, and move forward with greater confidence.