Divorce Dialogues

Divorce Dialogues

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Divorce Dialogues episodes

  • A Non-Toxic Approach to Divorce with Gabrielle Hartley
    Divorce is a difficult, painful process. But at the end of the day, people pursue divorce because they want to be happier and improve their lives. The experience CAN afford you the opportunity to look inward, rediscover yourself and architect a better future—if you approach divorce in a mindful, non-toxic way.
    Gabrielle Hartley is committed to helping couples divorce with dignity and ease. Gabrielle has 20-plus years of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, and in that time, she has developed a unique approach to the process that supports clients in designing a healthy post-divorce life. Gabrielle is also the coauthor of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate.
    Today, Gabrielle joins Katherine to share the philosophy behind Better Apart and offer insight around her intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity. She describes several practical strategies you can use to remain mindful and practice active self-care during the divorce process and discusses how to choose an attorney that will represent you in a way you can be proud of. Listen in for Gabrielle’s advice around responding rather than reacting to the conflict dynamic and learn how to leverage divorce as an opportunity to remap your future!
    Topics Covered
    The philosophy behind Gabrielle’s new book, Better Apart
    Gabrielle’s intention to help divorcing couples gain clarity
    How Gabrielle encourages clients to be kind to themselves
    The 5 lenses Gabrielle uses to help people navigate divorce
    How to train your mind with a positive affirmation journal
    How listening to your inner voice is part of active self-care
    Surrounding yourself with people who let you be happy
    The danger in overgeneralizing other’s stories of divorce
    Gabrielle’s advice on choosing the right divorce attorney
    How divorce affords an opportunity to remap your future
    The value of giving yourself something to look forward to
    Gabrielle’s strategies for responding rather than reacting
    Connect with Gabrielle Hartley
    Gabrielle’s Website : https://gabriellehartley.com/
    Resources
    Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate by Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Apart-Radically-Positive-Separate/dp/006268938X
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
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    26 min
  • The Nuances of a High Net Worth Divorce with Michelle Smith
    A divorce is a divorce is a divorce. And yet, there is a different layer of complication when divorce involves high net worth individuals. Whether the wealth came from an inheritance or wages earned during the marriage, there is a strong emotional charge involved as the divorcing couple sorts out who is entitled to what.
    Michelle Smith is one of the most sought-after divorce financial specialists in the country. As the founder and CEO of Smith FSG, she is dedicated to providing clients with guidance and expertise as they determine the best path forward through the divorce process. Michelle has 25-plus years of experience in the field, and she is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Divorce Mediator. Michelle is a regular contributor to national media and coauthor of Divorce & Your Finances.
    Today, Michelle joins Katherine to discuss what constitutes a high net worth divorce and the layers of complication involved. She speaks to the nuances of a divorce involving generational wealth versus wealth earned during the marriage, explaining how the source of the money influences the triggers that come up. Michelle also offers insight on the importance of setting ground rules for financial transparency early in the process to avoid delays as well as significant additional costs. Listen in as Michelle explores the challenge around appreciating each other’s contribution to the marriage and the necessity of putting your children’s needs first—regardless of the financial circumstances.
    Topics Covered
    The layers of complication in high net worth divorce
    Why Michelle looks to the source of wealth for triggers
    Generational wealth vs. wealth earned during marriage
    The need to avoid huge disparity between households
    Why it matters if you’re past prime wage-earning years
    The challenge of appreciating each other’s contribution
    What all divorces have in common regardless of means
    Why you owe it to your children to put their needs first
    The need to set ground rules for financial transparency
    The human instinct to protect money you earned
    The added complexity when the breadwinner is female
    Why Michelle is called to fix the broken model of divorce
    Connect with Michelle Smith
    Smith FSG: smithfsg.com
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    25 min
  • How Divorce Litigation Impacts Children with Shara Goldfarb
    Divorce litigation changes kids, and the attorney for the child witnesses this change firsthand. In contested custody matters, children watch the conflict between their parents play out in court—and no good comes from it. Some of these cases drag on for years, and the circumstances are toxic for the kids involved.
    Shara Goldfarb is an attorney with the Miller Law Group whose practice centers on matrimonial and family law. She has 15-plus years of experience representing children in highly-contested custody matters and observing the devastating impact divorce litigation has on children inspired Shara to shift her practice toward mediation and collaborative law.
    Today, Shara sits down with Katherine to discuss her experience as an attorney for the child in contested custody matters. She explains how she served as a counselor for the kids she represented when her assessment of their best interests didn’t align with the child’s position. Shara also addresses the role of a forensic evaluator and describes the many factors a judge considers in making a custody determination. Listen in for insight around the harmful nature of divorce litigation and its impact on the children involved—and learn how mediation and the collaborative divorce model put kids first.
    Topics Covered
    The role of an attorney for the child in contested custody cases
    How Shara served as a counselor for the kids she represented
    The case study of siblings who wanted no contact with mother
    The age at which a child gets to decide their own fate
    How Shara explained her client’s position to the parents, judge
    The situations when a forensic evaluator might be called in
    The court’s standard to act in the child’s best interests
    The factors a judge considers in making custody determinations
    How Shara’s experience with litigation led her to mediation
    How conflict between parents negatively impacts children
    How the collaborative, mediation models puts children first
    Who pays for the attorney for the child in contested cases
    Why it’s best for parents to come to a resolution on their own
    Connect with Shara Goldfarb
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    23 min
  • The Evolution of Marriage—and Divorce with Stephanie Coontz
    Over the last 40 years, marriage has evolved from an institution based on strict gender roles and specialization to a connection based on friendship and shared interests. Our expectations of marriage have shifted as well, the standards for intimacy rising along with the need to negotiate shared responsibilities. So, how can couples best navigate these new rules? And how does this transition impact societal attitudes toward divorce?
    Stephanie Coontz is an author and educator in the field of marriage and gender relationships. She teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College and serves as Director of the Council on Contemporary Families (CCF). Stephanie has written seven books and published dozens of articles in scholarly journals and popular media, including The New York Times and the Journal of Marriage and Family, among many other publications. She has been honored with The Families & Work Institute’s Work-Life Legacy Award and CCF’s Visionary Leadership Award.
    Today, Stephanie joins Katherine to discuss how marriage has evolved over time, explaining the shift from strict gender roles to a bond based on friendship. She describes how couples who share responsibilities of breadwinning, childcare and housework report higher levels of satisfaction and addresses the ways in which old attitudes undermine modern marriages. Stephanie also speaks to the importance of negotiation, gratitude and respect for each other’s bids for connection. Listen in to understand how the feminist movement disrupted the institution of marriage and learn how our rising standards have changed the factors that make a marriage last.
    Topics Covered
    How marriage has evolved from specialization to sharing
    The way old attitudes undermine modern marriages
    How sharing responsibilities leads to higher satisfaction
    How to consider what’s attracting you to your partner
    The role of bids for connection as a predictor of stability
    Why modern marriage requires much more negotiation
    How the feminist movement served as a disruptor
    How our expectations for intimacy have shifted
    The destructive nature of holding onto traditional views
    The idea of gatekeeping in household/childcare duties
    Why the way we fight with our partners is important
    Stephanie’s insight around the economy of gratitude
    Why attitudes toward divorce do NOT predict behavior
    Connect with Stephanie Coontz
    Stephanie’s Website: https://www.stephaniecoontz.com/
    Council on Contemporary Families: https://contemporaryfamilies.org/
    Resources
    Philip & Carolyn Cowan’s Research: https://contemporaryfamilies.org/experts/philip-cowan-phd/
    Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    25 min
  • The Realities of Divorce Law with Jacqueline Newman
    Our cultural vision of divorce court is very different from reality. We fantasize about justice and imagine that the judge will take our side. But the truth of the matter is that most cases settle, and in those that do make it to trial, the judgement has little to do with who is morally right. So, if trial decisions are an urban myth, what does divorce really look like?
    Jacqueline Newman is a matrimonial law expert and divorce attorney based in New York City. As the managing partner of Berkman Bottger Newman & Rodd, a top-tier Manhattan firm, her practice consists of litigation, collaborative law and mediation. Jacqueline provides expert legal commentary for national media outlets, including ABC, NBC and FOX, and her work has appeared in numerous publications such as US News & World Report, Business Insider and The Huffington Post. Jacqueline is the author of Soon-to-Be Ex and Soon-to-Be Ex for Men, and she has been named one of Thompson Reuters New York-Metro Super Lawyers Top 50 Women Attorneys for five years running.
    Today, Jacqueline joins Katherine to explain why she always wanted to be a divorce lawyer and how the realities of the profession differed from her expectations. She discusses her motivation for writing Soon-to-Be Ex and Soon-to-Be Ex for Men, sharing some of the practical advice she includes in those resources. Jacqueline and Katherine speak to their work with couples considering divorce, the long-term impact of the decision to divorce and the divorce lawyer’s role in providing an objective point of view. Listen in for Jacqueline’s insight on the urban myth of trial decisions and learn how a good divorce attorney can support you in making informed choices.
    Topics Covered
    Why Jacqueline always wanted to be a divorce lawyer
    How the realities of divorce law differ from expectations
    Jacqueline’s insight on the urban myth of trial decisions
    The very small number of couples who don’t settle
    What inspired Jacqueline to write Soon-to-Be Ex
    The practical advice included in Jacqueline’s books
    The value in meeting with a divorce lawyer for a consult
    How divorce impacts every aspect of your life
    The challenge to think long-term when emotions are high
    Jacqueline’s role in providing an objective point of view
    Jacqueline’s experience managing a divorce law firm
    Jacqueline’s take on the attributes of a ‘good client’
    Connect with Jacqueline Newman
    Berkman Botter Newman & Rodd: https://www.berkbot.com/
    Jacqueline’s Website: https://nycdivorcelawyer.com/
    Resources
    Soon-to-Be Ex: A Woman’s Guide to Her Perfect Divorce and Relaunch by Jacqueline Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Soon-Be-Ex-Perfect-Relaunch/dp/1945271841
    Soon-to-Be Ex for Men: Preserving Wealth, Fatherhood, and Sanity during Divorce by Jacqueline Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Soon-Be-Men-Preserving-Fatherhood/dp/194527185X
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    26 min
  • Reconnecting with Yourself After Divorce with Sara Woodard
    Divorce is a heart-wrenching process, but it is also an opportunity. Healing from the heartbreak affords you a new beginning, a chance to reconnect with who you are and what’s important to you.
    Sara Woodard is the architect of The HeartFull Journey, a platform designed to help you reconnect with yourself in the aftermath of divorce. Sara has compiled the tools and resources she created during her own divorce journey, and her blog, online course and workbooks serve to support others in regaining their confidence and remembering that they are worthy of love.
    Today, Sara joins Katherine to share the tools she developed to work through her divorce, explaining the ‘heart-full journey’ she took to reconnect with herself. She describes the value in developing scripted responses to bad advice, sharing the language she used to take her power back. Sara and Katherine discuss the challenge of trusting your gut after a divorce and the importance of reconnecting to your inner voice in the context of dating. Listen in for Sara’s insight on how social media contributes to feelings of unworthiness and learn how to reframe negative self-talk as you heal from divorce!
    Topics Covered
    The tools Sara developed to work through her divorce
    How Sara responded to bad advice during her divorce
    The value in developing scripted responses or language
    How the ‘heart-full journey’ reconnects you to yourself
    Sara’s advice on trusting your gut in dating after divorce
    How to reconnect to your inner voice through silence
    Sara’s insight around what makes divorce so prevalent
    Why it’s easy to lose track of your core values in divorce
    How social media contributes to feelings of unworthiness
    Sara’s guidance people in the beginning stages of divorce
    • Be gentle with yourself
    • Reframe negative self-talk
    • Get out of head, get active
    Connect with Sara Woodard
    The HeartFull Journey: https://www.theheartfulljourney.com/
    The HeartFull Journey on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theheartfulljourney/
    Sara on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheHeartFull
    Sara on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theheartfulljourneydivorce/?hl=en
    Resources
    ‘5 Things to Pack for Your Divorce Journey’ by Sara Woodard: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-things-to-pack-for-your-divorce-journey_n_57e1fba0e4b05d3737be50d5
    The HeartFull Separation Workbook by Sara Woodard: https://www.theheartfulljourney.com/separation-workbook
    Sara’s Love Yourself Through Divorce Course: https://www.theheartfulljourney.com/love-yourself-through-divorce
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    23 min
  • Empowering Divorcing Couples to Communicate Through Mediation with Linda Schoonover Carley
    The heightened emotions that come with divorce often lead to impulsive action. The brain shuts down and couples jump into litigation without considering the consequences—or the alternatives. But the court system takes their power away and hands all of the decisions over to a judge, and at the end of the day, everybody loses. How can we reestablish communication between these couples, empowering them to make decisions on their own?
    Linda Schoonover Carley is a former family, dependency and juvenile judge with more than thirty years of experience as a judge, attorney and mediator. She is also the author of Divorce Made Simple, a no-nonsense guide that demonstrates her practical, holistic approach to avoiding the chaos of the court system. An Amazon Best Selling author and award-winning speaker, Linda uses storytelling to illustrate her passion for children and justice.
    Today, Linda joins Katherine to discuss how couples make impulsive decisions around divorce without a clear understanding of the consequences. She explains the danger in shutting down communication and offers her approach to teaching couples to communicate again. Linda speaks to the mediation process, describing how it empowers people to make decisions themselves and how to prepare for the mediation process. Listen in to understand why litigation makes couples lose sight of what’s important and learn to leverage alternatives like mediation and collaborative divorce.
    Topics Covered
    How couples make impulsive decisions around divorce based on emotion
    The natural instinct to shut down communication in the divorce process
    How shutting down communication escalates turmoil for the children
    Linda’s approach to teaching couples to communicate again
    Why couples lose sight of what’s important during the litigation process
    How mediation starts with the practice of finding agreement
    How the parents’ relationship impacts a child’s idea of conflict resolution
    How mediation empowers people to make decisions themselves
    How to prepare for the mediation process
    Issues had during marriage will show up in mediation
    Make list of issues, rank in order of importance
    Come in with an understanding of financial needs
    How children can serve as an anchor for the mediation process
    The fundamentals of time sharing or shared parental responsibility
    The difference between child support and alimony
    Connect with Linda Schoonover Carley
    Linda’s Website:http://lindaschoonover.com/
    Divorce Made Simple: https://divorcemadesimple.com/
    Divorce Made Simple on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorcemadesimple
    Resources
    Divorce Made Simple: The Ultimate Guide by a Former Family Judge by Linda D. Schoonover: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Made-Simple-Ultimate-Former-ebook/dp/B071NZBYZG
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    25 min
  • Stop Poisoning Your Heart and Divorce with Compassion with Neelama Eyres & Michael Schiesser
    Holding on to bitterness and resentment is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.
    It is so much easier to blame someone who has caused you pain than it is to own your part in it and develop compassion for the hurt they are feeling—particularly in the case of divorce. But if you have the courage to open yourself up to another person’s pain, it is possible to heal and grow in your capacity for empathy and understanding.
    Neelama Eyres and Michael Schiesser are the co-founders of the Inner Journey Institute. Since 1999, the pair has facilitated the personal, professional and spiritual transformation of thousands of people. Michael and Neelama were married in 2002 and their son, Kai, was born in 2004. But in 2006, their marriage came to an abrupt end, and they began a transformational journey of their own. After an intense two-year process, Neelama and Michael established a loving friendship and a dedication to co-parenting their son. That journey became the blueprint for their Healing Divorce Intensive as well as the memoir, Divorced with Love.
    Today, Michael and Neelama join Katherine to share their story, discussing the healing work they did in the aftermath of their divorce for the sake of their son, their business and their friendship. Michael explains how blame prevented him from owning his part in the breakup, and Neelama describes how guilt provided a barrier of protection that kept her from recognizing Michael’s pain. They walk us through the process that allowed them to stop ‘poisoning their own hearts’ and grow in their capacity for compassion. Listen in to understand the value in recognizing that our experience of reality is subjective and learn Neelama and Michael’s approach to healing through self-awareness and empathy.
    Topics Covered
    The healing work Michael and Neelama did in the aftermath of their divorce
    Neelama and Michael’s commitment to personal growth and transformation
    How blame prevented Michael from owning his part in the breakup
    Neelama’s insight on how her guilt created a barrier of protection
    The freedom that comes from realizing you can’t change what the other person did
    The process that allowed Michael and Neelama to stop ‘poisoning their own hearts’
    How writing Divorced with Love brought Neelama and Michael to a new level of healing
    How science confirms that our individual experience of reality is subjective
    The way your heart grows in its capacity for empathy by way of conflict
    Michael and Neelama’s approach to healing
    • Learn to be present to own feelings
    • Step into other person’s shoes
    Connect with Neelama Eyres & Michael Schiesser
    Inner Journey Institute: http://www.innerjourneyinstitute.com/
    Resources
    Divorced with Love: Our Journey Through Heartbreak and Separation into Forgiveness and Friendship by Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0776YNNFC
    The Healing Heart Protocol: http://www.innerjourneyinstitute.com/healing-heart-protocol/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    24 min
  • Navigating the Four Stages of Divorce with Liza Caldwell
    If you’re reading this, you are likely familiar with the first stage of the divorce process, the stage Liza Caldwell identifies as Something is Wrong. The problem with stage one is that you can get stuck there, lost in a vicious cycle with your own thoughts. How do you move forward? Where can you go for support in taking action? And what resources are available to help you reinvent yourself once the divorce is final?
    Liza Caldwell is the co-founder and director of SAS for Women: Support and Solutions for Thriving Beyond Divorce, an organization that provides resources and coaching for women who are considering, in the process of, or recovering from divorce. Liza earned her MA in gender and leadership development from Columbia University’s Teachers College, and she is a certified professional coach trained through Leadership That Works.
    Today, Liza joins Katherine to explain how she came to co-found SAS for Women. She shares the four-stage divorce roadmap that SAS uses to help women manage their expectations and navigate each phase of the journey. Liza and Katherine discuss what makes a good candidate for collaborative divorce and how the model you choose directly impacts the children involved. Listen in to understand the ongoing process of reinvention that occurs after the papers are signed and learn how SAS can support you in achieving a new normal in the aftermath of divorce.
    Topics Covered
    How SAS provides support and solutions for women in any stage of divorce
    The SAS for Women four-stage divorce roadmap
    Something is wrong
    Something’s got to change
    Something is changing
    The new normal
    How women in stage one are caught in a vicious cycle
    The trigger in stage one that compels women to take action
    The importance of connecting with seasoned experts during stage two
    What makes a good candidate for the collaborative divorce process
    How the model you choose for divorce directly impacts your children
    The value in working with a coach to get an overview of available options
    The discovery process and reinvention involved in stage three
    How stage four brings you to the peaceful rhythm of a new normal
    Connect with Liza Caldwell
    SAS For Women: https://sasforwomen.com/
    SAS on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sasforwomen
    SAS on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sasforwomen/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    25 min
  • Developing Radar for High-Conflict Personalities with Bill Eddy
    If you divorced someone with a high-conflict personality, you may be concerned about repeating the same cycle in your next partnership. What steps can you take to reflect on the dynamics of your relationships and develop radar for people with high-conflict personalities?
    An international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities, Bill Eddy is the co-founder and Training Director of the High Conflict Institute. In addition, he is a Certified Family Law Specialist and Senior Family Mediator with the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Bill has written several books, including Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to ‘The One’ Who Will Make Your Life Hell and 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities.
    Today, Bill joins Katherine to share the four warning signs for people with high-conflict personalities. He explains how high-conflict people can jam your radar with fake compatibility and how to leverage your friends and family for insight. He addresses why you should finish grieving the loss of a previous relationship before committing to new one, describing the danger in using a relationship to feel okay about yourself. Listen in to understand why people commit to relationships with high-conflict personalities despite the red flags, how to identify behaviors exhibited by high-conflict people, and how to manage high-conflict personalities if you can’t avoid them entirely.
    Topics Covered
    The four warning signs for people with high-conflict personalities
    All-or-nothing thinking
    Unmanaged emotion
    Extreme behavior
    Preoccupation with blaming others
    How high-conflict people can jam your radar with fake compatibility
    The value in asking friends and family for their insight on your partner
    Why you must finish grieving a loss before committing to a new relationship
    Why Bill recommends waiting at least a year before committing to marriage
    The reasons why people commit to relationships despite red flags
    The five types of high-conflict people who can ruin your life
    Narcissists, sociopaths, borderline, histrionic and paranoid
    The extreme behaviors exhibited by people with high-conflict personalities
    How to manage high-conflict people if you can’t avoid them altogether
    Connect with Bill Eddy
    High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
    National Conflict Resolution Center: https://www.ncrconline.com/
    Resources
    Dating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to ‘The One’ Who Will Make Your Life Hell by Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/dating-radar
    5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/5-types-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller
    Call (914) 738-7765
    26 min

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Divorce Dialogues helps people navigate divorce with dignity, clarity, and perspective. Through thoughtful conversations with experts and practitioners, the show explores the emotional, financial, legal, and relational realities of divorce, so listeners can make better decisions, communicate more effectively, and move forward with greater confidence.