Divorce Dialogues

Divorce Dialogues

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Divorce Dialogues episodes

  • Staging an Epic Comeback After Divorce with Nikki Bruno
    In the midst of a challenging divorce, it may feel as if you’ll never be able to move on. But what if you could use the divorce process as fuel to stage an epic comeback, reclaim your power and design your own best life?
    Nikki Bruno is the founder and CEO of Catalyst Coaching. Her signature program, The Epic Comeback, helps women stage an epic comeback and build a joyful life in the aftermath of a long-term challenge or crisis such as divorce, domestic abuse, loss, illness or injury. Prior to coaching, Nikki spent 15 years in the publishing industry, and her work as been featured in Best Self, Cosmopolitan and Bustle, among many other media outlets.
    Today, Nikki joins Katherine to define an epic comeback and explain some of the characteristics a person needs to stage one after divorce. She offers insight on how to process, heal and give voice to strong emotions and describes how she helps clients uncover their unique superpower. Listen in as Nikki walks us through the stages of the epic comeback journey and learn how to overcome your fear, reclaim your power, and embark on your very own epic comeback!
    Topics Covered
    How reclaiming your power is key to an epic comeback
    The traits a person needs to stage an epic comeback
    • Sacred relationship with self
    • Absolute commitment to truth-telling
    • Radical acceptance
    How to process, heal and give voice to strong emotions
    1.) Find good therapist
    2.) Personal development
    3.) Nutrition + fitness plan
    The epic comeback journey
    • Utter hell
    • Period of healing
    • Reckoning
    • Clearing
    • Epic vision
    • Set goals + make plan
    • Take action
    • Troubleshooting
    • Epic launch
    How Nikki helps clients uncover their superpower
    Why fear is the #1 obstacle to staging an epic comeback
    Connect with Nikki Bruno
    Epic Comeback Coach: https://www.coachnikkibruno.com/
    Nikki on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikki.bruno2
    Nikki on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foxyover40/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Nikki’s Setting Boundaries Retreat: https://www.coachnikkibruno.com/hell-yes-no-way
    25 min
  • Co-Parenting to Protect Your Children During Divorce with Julie Ross
    If your child comes home complaining about your ex-spouse, it can be incredibly difficult not to react. You want to intervene, to defend your child. And your instinct is to address the issue with the other parent right away. But what if that puts your child in the middle—one of the very things you’ve been trying to avoid? How can you learn to take a step back and decide whether that problem really belongs to you? What is the best way to navigate co-parenting and protect your children during a divorce?
    Julie Ross is the Executive Director of Parenting Horizons, a platform created to enrich children’s lives through parent and teacher education. She leads parenting workshops and delivers keynotes across the US, and her work has been featured in Working Mother, Good Housekeeping and Real Simple, among many other national publications. Julie has also appeared on The Daily Show, The Today Show and NPR: Weekend America, and she is the author of Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex.
    Today, Julie joins Katherine to explain how divorcing couples can still work as a team when it comes to co-parenting and share the benefit of having regular ‘staff meetings’ around the parenting plan. She describes the conflict of loyalty kids experience when parents disagree, offering insight around how to avoid putting your children in the middle. Julie also discusses how to avoid reacting when your child complains about your ex and addresses the difference between keeping something private versus keeping a secret from your child. Listen in to understand why it’s never a good idea to make your child the messenger between you and your ex and learn how to best protect your child in the divorce process.
    Topics Covered
    What drew Julie to the idea of working with parents
    Working as a parenting team despite the end of a marriage
    The conflict of loyalty kids experience when parents disagree
    Why Julie suggests regular ‘staff meetings’ for co-parents
    The value of including kids in individual family meetings
    How to keep from putting your kids in the middle
    • Who does this problem belong to?
    • Empower child to resolve conflict
    Using the Box Step of Communication to be proactive
    How to avoid reacting when your child complains about your ex
    • Zip your lip
    • Script response + don’t vary
    Julie’s top advice on protecting your children in divorce
    1. Don’t keep secrets from child
    2. Don’t ask child to keep secrets for you
    3. Don’t make child messenger
    The distinction between keeping something private vs. a secret
    The danger in parentifying your child
    Connect with Julie Ross
    Parenting Horizons: http://parentinghorizons.com/
    Call (212) 765-2377
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex-, A Hands-on, Practical Guide to Communicating with a Difficult Ex-Spouse by Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran: https://www.amazon.com/Joint-Custody-Jerk-Uncooperative-Hands/dp/0312584202
    26 min
  • Profile Styling for Online Daters After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen
    Getting back into the dating scene after a divorce can be challenging, especially if you never dreamed you’d be looking for love on an app. How do you write a compelling bio? How do you choose pictures that will lead to quality matches? What do you wear on a date, especially if your style hasn’t changed in years? Where can you go for help navigating the online dating process?
    Alyssa Dineen is the founder of Style My Profile, a consulting agency that helps clients improve their online dating profiles with the support of a professional stylist. Style My Profile is a first-of-its-kind service, offering profile help, wardrobe consultation, and photography packages. Alyssa has 20 years of experience in the fashion industry and serves as a freelance stylist for national publications including Glamour and Real Simple.
    Today, Alyssa joins Katherine to explain how her own experience with online dating inspired the creation of Style My Profile. She shares her professional advice around writing a compelling bio, selecting profile pictures, and upping your style game. Alyssa also weighs in on the value of having your experiences validated and describes her own challenges with online dating after divorce. Listen in for Alyssa’s insight on ‘owning your level of style savvy’ and learn how to choose a wardrobe that is flattering and comfortable for you!
    Topics Covered
    Alyssa’s 13 years of experience as a professional stylist
    The most common style mistakes people make
    Alyssa’s tricks for writing a compelling online dating bio
    • Think outside box, avoid sounding like résumé
    • Get specific (run marathons vs. active)
    The Style My Profile offerings (profile, wardrobe + photos)
    How Alyssa’s experience with online dating inspired SMP
    Why Alyssa compares online dating to learning a language
    The value in knowing your dating experiences are normal
    How Alyssa collaborates with clients to write their bios
    Alyssa’s insight around ‘owning your level of style savvy’
    Choosing a wardrobe that is flattering and comfortable
    Alyssa’s style advice for people short on time or money
    Getting a trusted friend to help edit your closet
    Alyssa’s top tips for online dating profile pictures
    1. No blurry pictures
    2. Don’t crop out ex
    3. No sunglasses/hats
    4. Minimum of 5 photos
    Connect with Alyssa Dineen
    Style My Profile: http://stylemyprofilenyc.com/
    Call (917) 714-1969
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    ‘Dating Advice for Those Who Never Thought They’d Need Tinder’ in The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/01/nyregion/tinder-divorce-profile-coach.html
    Marie Kondo: https://konmari.com/
    23 min
  • Become Fully ALIVE Through the Divorce Process with Anne-Louise DePalo
    Divorce forces us to forge a new identity. Like it or not, life is different now, and we can either fight the change or accept and adapt to a new reality. Best case scenario, we use the crisis as an opportunity to change for the better, making decisions about what we value and focusing on our health and spiritual growth. We can leverage the divorce process to become fully ourselves—and fully ALIVE!
    Anne-Louise DePalo is a New York attorney with 30-plus years of experience in the realm of divorce and family law. She is a certified mediator, parent coordinator, spiritual director and collaborative divorce advocate. Ann-Louise is also a founding member of the Staten Island Collaborative Law Group and the author of Divorce: Now What? How to Survive, Thrive and Become Fully Alive Through the Divorce Process.
    Today, Anne-Louise joins Katherine to explain how helping people understand their options inspired her to write Divorce: Now What? She walks us through the benefits of the collaborative process, including its interdisciplinary approach and cost-effectiveness. Anne-Louise also shares her strategies for ‘becoming fully alive’ through the divorce process and offers insight into leveraging your anger to move your life forward. Listen in to understand the role a Spiritual Director might play in the divorce process and learn how to see divorce as an opportunity to transform mind, body and soul!
    Topics Covered
    Anne-Louise’s mission to help people understand their options in divorce
    Why Anne-Louise prefers the interdisciplinary approach of collaborative law
    Why collaborative divorce is much more cost-effective than litigation
    The benefit of being in a room together per the collaborative model
    How divorce is an opportunity for transformation of the mind, body and soul
    Anne-Louise’s strategies for ‘becoming fully alive’ through divorce
    • Deep reflection + creative expression
    • Pursue hobbies and interests
    • Opportunity for spiritual growth
    The importance of accepting your new reality rather than fighting change
    Anne-Louise’s philosophy that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself
    Anne-Louise’s insight on the role of a Spiritual Director in the divorce process
    Accepting your anger + using that energy to move your life forward
    Anne-Louise’s advice on exploring your options, choosing a divorce attorney
    Connect with Anne-Louise DePalo
    DePalo Law Firm: http://depalolawfirm.com/
    Staten Island Collaborative Law Group: http://sicollaborativelaw.com/
    Divorce: Now What? How to Survive, Thrive and Become Fully Alive Through the Divorce Process by Anne-Louise DePalo: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Now-What-Survive-Through-ebook/dp/B07G9RQ38V
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring: https://www.janisaspring.com/
    Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring on Divorce Dialogues EP018: https://divorcedialogues.com/choosing-acceptance-when-you-cant-forgive-with-dr-janis-abrahms-spring/
    24 min
  • A Top Hostage Negotiator’s Approach to Divorce with Chris Voss
    Divorce settlements are often compared with business deals. But the analogy falls apart when you consider that business deals give you the option to walk away. Perhaps a better parallel is that of a hostage negotiation, where you have no choice but to work with the other side. And in both cases, approaching the negotiation with respect—despite your very different point of view—is the most beneficial strategy.
    Chris Voss is the founder and CEO of The Black Swan Group, a professional development and consulting firm that provides training and advises Fortune 500 companies through complex negotiations. A 24-year veteran of the FBI, Chris is one of the top authorities on international crisis and high-stakes negotiations, lecturing at business schools across the US and appearing on ABC, CBS and CNN, among many other national media outlets. He is also the author of Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It.
    Today, Chris joins Katherine to discuss the parallels between hostage and divorce negotiations, explaining how both work best when we respect the other side’s point of view despite a difference of opinion. He describes how providing emotional compensation in a negotiation can shift the other side’s demands and shares his approach to handling a bully with fearless deference. Listen in for insight around why Chris separates the HOW and the WHAT of a negotiation and learn why compromise is NOT the best approach!
    Topics Covered
    The parallels between hostage and divorce negotiations
    How to respect the other side’s POV without agreeing
    The distinction between empathy and compassion
    How providing emotional compensation can shift demands
    How the word ‘fair’ leads to overreaction in a negotiation
    How Prospect Theory explains our overreaction to loss
    How to negotiate with a bully through fearless deference
    The difference in demeanor of a bully vs. a predator
    How women seem to pick up negotiation more quickly
    Why hearing the other side out is key to a negotiation
    Why Chris separates the WHAT and the HOW of negotiating
    Chris’ insight around the problem with compromise
    Connect with Chris Voss
    The Black Swan Group: https://blackswanltd.com/
    Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss with Tahl Raz: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805
    Text FBIEMPATHY to 22828
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    Carl Rogers: https://www.simplypsychology.org/carl-rogers.html
    Books by Carl R. Rogers: https://www.amazon.com/Carl-R.-Rogers/e/B001ILFN7K%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
    Kahneman & Tversky’s Prospect Theory: http://www.its.caltech.edu/~camerer/Ec101/ProspectTheory.pdf
    Robert Mnuchin: http://www.mnuchingallery.com/gallery
    24 min
  • Organizing a Space to Support Your Best Self Post-Divorce with Janine Sarna-Jones
    Let’s face it: We are emotionally attached to our stuff. During major life transitions like divorce, downsizing, or dealing with a death in the family, that attachment is exacerbated by the emotional upheaval that accompanies change. How can a professional organizer help you learn to ‘treasure hunt’ rather than just keep things for the sake of keeping them? And how do you design a space to support the person you are becoming in the aftermath of these key life transitions?
    Janine Sarna-Jones is the founder and president of Organize Me Inc., a firm that offers moving and relocation, hands-on organizing and estate clearance services. She has been helping people get organized at home and at work for 26 years, and her client roster includes corporate executives, small business owners, moms, artists and nonprofit organizations. Janine is a member of the inaugural class of Certified Professional Organizers, and she has been featured on radio, in print and online as a member of Parenting magazine’s Mom Squad.
    Today, Janine joins Katherine to share her objective, non-judgmental approach to organizing for a move, explaining how she supports her clients through major life transitions. She walks us through the first steps of her process, from determining the scope of a project to preparing for a move or reorganization. Janine addresses the emotional upheaval that comes with every major life transition, discussing why clients look to her for permission to let go. Listen in for insight around reclaiming a space in the aftermath of divorce and learn how to design an environment that supports the person you are becoming!
    Topics Covered
    Janine’s objective, non-judgmental approach to organizing for a move
    The value of a professional with no emotional attachment to our stuff
    How Janine supports clients emotionally through major life transitions
    Janine’s first step to determine the scope of a project
    How Janine’s team helps clients make choices around what to keep
    Janine’s philosophy around keeping things that really are meaningful
    How a good organizer coaches clients through the process
    The emotional upheaval that comes with every life transition
    Why clients look to Janine for permission to let go
    What it means to be a certified professional organizer
    Janine’s approach to reorganizing a single room
    How Janine supports divorcing clients in reclaiming a space
    • ‘Organize for person they are becoming’
    • Action plan to break into smaller steps
    The importance of designing a space to support your best self
    Connect with Janine Sarna-Jones
    Organize Me Inc.: https://organizeme-inc.com/
    Organize Me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/organizemeinc?lang=en
    Organize Me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OrganizeMeInc/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    23 min
  • Telling the Story of Your Divorce with Steve Friedman
    In the midst of difficult life transitions like divorce, it is human nature to reach extreme, self-defeating conclusions: I’m incapable of love! All men are sociopaths! The world is unspeakably cruel! How can we take a closer look at what happened in our relationship and expand the narrative to something a little more nuanced, a little more balanced, a little closer to the truth? One strategy that works is to tell the story of your divorce in writing.
    Steve Friedman is the award-winning author of seven books, and his essays on relationships have appeared in anthologies like Modern Love and The Bastard on the Couch. Steve’s work has appeared in a number of national publications, including Esquire, GQ and The Washington Post, and he was the writer of the first Modern Love column in The New York Times. Steve teaches the popular writing course Divorce, Breakups and New Beginnings: Telling Your Story through the organization UNtied.
    Today, Steve joins Katherine to discuss how writing helps people make difficult life transitions. He explains how the demands of storytelling impose order in a chaotic world and afford us a more nuanced perspective of divorce. Steve also shares the value of exploring separation in the context of a writing workshop and walks us through some of the exercises he uses to examine a story from different perspectives. Listen in for insight around what Steve has learned about love through teaching and writing about relationships and learn how telling the story of your divorce can help you move forward!
    Topics Covered
    How writing helps people make difficult life transitions
    Using storytelling to impose order in a chaotic situation
    Why women are more inclined to take writing classes
    The value of exploring divorce in a workshop setting
    The ground rules of Steve’s divorce writing workshop
    • No judgement
    • Accountable for telling truth
    Creating space to reach new conclusions with writing
    The cathartic nature of journaling through difficult times
    Exercises for seeing a narrative from different perspectives
    Steve’s surprise at the blame women take on in divorce
    The relief that comes from realizing you’re not alone
    Why instant chemistry doesn’t ensure a happy marriage
    Steve’s insight that no one is the ANSWER for anyone else
    Connect with Steve Friedman
    Steve’s Website: http://stevefriedman.net/
    Books by Steve Friedman: https://www.amazon.com/Steve-Friedman/e/B000AR7YFC?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_11&qid=1559662805&sr=1-11
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    Resources
    The Bastard on the Couch: 27 Men Try Really Hard to Explain Their Feelings About Love, Loss, Fatherhood, and Freedom edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Bastard-Couch-Explain-Feelings-Fatherhood/dp/0060565357
    Modern Love: True and Extraordinary Tales of Desire, Deceit, and Devotion edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Love-Extraordinary-Desire-Devotion/dp/0307351041
    Modern Love in The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/modern-love
    UNtied: https://untied.net/
    UNtied Events: https://untied.net/upcoming-events/
    Elise Pettus on Divorce Dialogues EP030: https://divorcedialogues.com/a-community-of-women-navigating-divorce-with-elise-pettus/
    22 min
  • Helping Teens Cope with Divorce & Adapt to Blended Families with Barbara Rothberg
    Divorce is never easy on the kids involved, but the process can be particularly fraught for teenagers. How does divorce impact teens differently than younger children? What is the best way to customize a parenting plan for teens? And how can you support teens in adapting to a new, blended family?
    Barbara Rothberg, DSW, LCSW, has 35-plus years of experience helping clients resolve conflicts and navigate transitions in their lives. In her role as a divorce coach and child specialist, Barbara helps families customize solutions that emphasize the best interest of the child. She often serves as a mediator or family specialist in the collaborative divorce setting, and Barbara’s work as a parent coordinator allows her to support separated parents in becoming good co-parents to their children.
    Today, Barbara joins Katherine to explain how divorce impacts a teen’s growing autonomy and offers insight around designing a parenting plan for older children. She describes how teens think about blended families, discussing why it’s important to give them the freedom not to like a parent’s new partner—as long as they’re respectful. Listen in for Barbara’s advice on being up front with your teens and learn why she advocates for making your child a priority, regardless of their age when you divorce.
    Topics Covered
    How divorce impacts a teen’s growing autonomy
    Barbara’s definition of what it means to be a teen
    Why Barbara cautions against hiding divorce from kids
    The best way to tell your kids you are divorcing
    1. Share with all children at same time
    2. Don’t give false reassurances
    Why Barbara suggests week-long timesharing for teens
    The value in giving teens input on the parenting plan
    How to handle teens who don’t want to see a parent
    Creating a parenting plan based on the family’s needs
    How incremental engaging helps teens adapt to stepparents
    Giving teens the freedom not to like a stepparent
    Barbara’s insight on spending alone-time with your teen
    How to approach a blended family with stepsiblings
    Barbara’s advice for divorcing parents with teens
    • Don’t get in power struggle
    • Do things slowly
    • Make children priority
    Connect with Barbara Rothberg
    Barbara’s Website: http://barbararothberg.com/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    27 min
  • Reclaiming a Sense of Control in the Divorce Process with Sonia Queralt
    Once you have made the difficult decision to divorce, a sense of urgency sets in. You want to get through the painful process as quickly as possible. Yet it is unwise to make snap decisions when you’re under that kind of emotional stress. How do you give yourself time to process what is going on? How do you define your non-negotiables and use them to reclaim a sense of control? And how do you find the right professionals to guide you through the divorce process?
    Sonia Queralt is a former divorce litigator and founder of Divorceify, an online platform designed to help clients take a holistic approach to divorce. The site employs machine learning to match people in all stages of the process with vetted professionals and resources customized to their specific needs. A former divorce attorney, Sonia founded Divorceify in 2015 to offer divorce consumers the technology and tools to navigate the process efficiently and with confidence.
    Today, Sonia joins Katherine to explain how her background as a divorce litigator and her own unhappy marriage inspired the launch of Divorceify. She discusses how every divorce is different and shares advice on navigating the early stages of the process. Sonia also describes how defining your non-negotiables affords you more control and why you should avoid making any snap decisions under immense emotional stress. Listen in for Sonia’s insight on interviewing divorce attorneys in order to find the right match and learn how Divorceify can identify what’s not going well in the divorce process—and help you pivot if necessary.
    Topics Covered
    How Divorceify’s unique technology matches people with vetted professionals
    Sonia’s mission to eliminate the shame associated with divorce
    Sonia’s insight into how every divorce is different
    How Sonia’s experience as a litigator and her own divorce inspired Divorceify
    Sonia’s advice on navigating the early stages of the divorce process
    1. Own truth about situation and create support system
    2. Create small-scale vision and take baby steps forward
    3. Allow self to feel, mourn and get through emotions
    Why you should NOT make any snap decisions under the stress of divorce
    How defining your non-negotiables affords more control in the process
    How Divorceify helps you identify what’s not going well and pivot if necessary
    Why an attorney with an aggressive approach doesn’t work for most divorces
    Sonia’s tips on interviewing divorce attorneys to find the right match
    Why you should run from a divorce attorney who claims to help people win
    Connect with Sonia Queralt
    Divorceify: https://divorceify.com/home
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    26 min
  • Building a Community to Help You Navigate Divorce with Deanna Coyle
    Most people dealing with divorce feel isolated and alone. It’s challenging to find people who really understand what you’re going through and attending events around the divorce process can prove embarrassing. So, where can you go to learn about your options, get recommendations for trusted professionals and connect with other people who truly empathize with your situation? Where can you find a safe, supportive community that will help you find a new life on the other side of divorce?
    Deanna Coyle is the founder of Vesta: Redefining Divorce, an organization that seeks to educate, connect and empower people through the divorce process. Deanna is a former Wall Street securities analyst who went through her own emotionally and financially draining divorce, and now she is on a mission to help others transform this challenging life transition into an opportunity for growth. Vesta offers complimentary consultations with legal and financial professionals as well as educational and social events. In five years, Vesta has hosted hundreds of workshops and retreats for more than 1,000 attendees.
    Today, Deanna joins Katherine to explain how Vesta is building a supportive community for individuals navigating divorce. She offers insight around Vesta’s post-divorce events and advice on finding your personal power through the process. Listen in to understand the value of working with professionals who have been through divorce themselves—and learn how Vesta can support you in recreating yourself and designing the life you’ve always wanted!
    Topics Covered
    The legal, financial and social/emotional resources Vesta provides
    How navigating her own divorce inspired Deanna to found Vesta
    The confidential nature of Vesta’s events, workshops and retreats
    How Vesta is building a supportive community of divorced people
    How Deanna used her own divorce to pursue personal growth
    Leveraging divorce as an opportunity to recreate yourself
    Deanna’s mission to help people ‘find a new life on the other side’
    Vesta’s post-divorce events to focus on health, dating, career, etc.
    Deanna’s first steps in finding your personal power after divorce
    The value in connecting with people who know divorce firsthand
    Vesta clients who developed a new confidence in themselves
    Deanna’s advice on getting info for people contemplating divorce
    Finding professionals who are a good fit by asking about their WHY
    Connect with Deanna Coyle
    Vesta Divorce: https://vestadivorce.com/
    Vesta on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VestaDivorce
    Vesta on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vesta-redefining-divorce/
    Vesta on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vestadivorce/
    Vesta on Twitter: https://twitter.com/VestaDivorce
    Call (508) 744-6014
    Resources
    ‘Transforming Divorce’ by Deanna Coyle: linkedin.com/pulse/transforming-divorce-memoir-people-pleasing-divorc%C3%A9e-coyle-cfa-mba/
    Connect with Katherine Miller
    The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
    Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
    Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
    The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
    Call (914) 738-7765
    26 min

About Divorce Dialogues

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Divorce Dialogues helps people navigate divorce with dignity, clarity, and perspective. Through thoughtful conversations with experts and practitioners, the show explores the emotional, financial, legal, and relational realities of divorce, so listeners can make better decisions, communicate more effectively, and move forward with greater confidence.