Divorce Talk With Nicola Beer

When couples come to me saying that "we're only together for the children" I can't help but feel concerned for their future happiness and marriage and like to suggest an alternative plan.

You see when couples think, say and believe that there is nothing else but their children holding them together, they destroy their connection. As it implies they have willingly agreed to a life of misery, accepting something they wish they could avoid.

If you have begun to associate your spouse and the marriage, with being negative, unhappy and trapped, unfortunately that is what you are likely to experience and this will typically grow worse over time not get better unless you change something...

In this episode you will learn what to do if you only believe your together for the children.

From my heart to yours Nicola

Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

When will I stop feeling guilty? Is a question that comes up frequently in my private online sessions. Typically it's where after much deliberation and consideration someone has decided to leave their marriage and cannot shake off the breakup and divorce guilt.

Some worry about how their ex has taken the news, others are consumed with fears about the impact it will have on their children. Then there are those who feel guilty for causing pain, shame and disrespect to their parents and extended family.

Often they will say to me:

"I know I've done the right thing, it would be far worse for all concerned if I stayed for guilt alone... BUT

When will I stop feeling guilty?" Here my reply and the 7 truths you need to know about Guilt to free yourself.

During relationship challenges and divorce it is common to either overeat or not eat and neither aids recovery.

To change your life "All It Takes Is Good Habits" - I borrowed this line from Carol Holditch founder of Good Habits UAE, it’s the slogan for her business which has helped hundreds of men and women change their eating and lifestyle habits. Her philosophy is that switching to good habits should be easy, fun and for life.

Curious about how she does that, I jumped at the opportunity to interview her and find out more...

Listen to the exclusive interview in this episode.

P.S Carole knows the struggles of dealing with weight management she lost 42 lbs 25years ago and has maintained that weigh loss. Which is why I wanted us to have access to her wisdom and tips. As to create a new beginning it takes a tremendous amount of energy and energy comes from our food.

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This episode is for single men and women, looking for love. Want to know why so many people struggle with finding incredible relationships?

No… it’s not because there aren’t any good women or men left out there,

or because they are in the wrong city, profession, or wrong time in their life.

And it’s definitely not because the kind of love and relationship they want doesn’t exist.

The 3 main reasons people struggle will be explained in this episode...as well as some tips to help you set yourself up to win when it comes to finding love. to read this article visit my blog www.purepeacecoaching.com/blog

What is Your Reason for Being Together?

Do you have a Purpose for sharing a Life with one Another?

Gottman in his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" that has sold over a million copies worldwide, states that in order to have a successful marriage we must create a shared meaning. I have found this extremely useful in bringing couples closer together and want to share this principle with you.

Even if you are not in a relationship right now you may find it useful, as it helps to be clear on your values, vision, expectations, when considering potential partners. The more aware you are of what matters most to you, the more likely you will be able to attract the right match and quickly filter out those that won't make you happy long-term.

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Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach

Of all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of divorced families.

In this episode I will explore common reasons for long-distance parenting, the changes long-distance children experience and offer 12 tips for successful long -distance parenting. Whilst this is written for those separated and divorced, many expats living apart from their children have found the tips useful. To protect children further get your copy of my free e-books available at www.purepeacecoaching.com

When it comes to teenagers and divorce, many parents can find difficult to know whether teenagers need space or support. In this episode I cover the 3 warning signs to look out for, so you can decide if extra care or additional help is needed.

If you like this, you may also like my free e-book Protect Children Through Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce/

What Do Men Need from Relationships?

Well certainly the worst advice you can ever receive when it comes to meeting a man's needs is "treat them mean, keep them keen!" According to Dr Harley's research many of us fall in love with our partners partly because of the compliments they give us. Some of us just love to be told we are appreciated. attractive and admired for being a good worker, lover, parent etc. More men than women in his research had admiration as one of their top 5 needs.

Listen to the other top 5 needs for men in this episode...

From my heart to yours, Nicola

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So when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship?

Alcohol consumption in my coaching has been linked to an increase in angry outbursts, arguments and aggression. It also blamed or used as an excuse for infidelity and being out of control. Others mention how drinking has caused; their sex life to dwindle, a lack of interest in family activities and depression.

Is drinking yours or your spouses drinking interfering with your relationship? Or is someone close to you going through this? You may find this episode useful.

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7 Secrets to Saving your Marriage

10 steps to Creating a New Life after Divorce

Protect Children through Divorce

I don’t believe “Constructive Criticism” works in close relationships, especially between husband and wife.

Criticism kill passion, love and closeness

Just the same way Self-Criticism diminishes self-esteem, confidence and overall happiness.

Even in business surveys and statistical data show that frequent Criticism is responsible for millions of employee sick days, job dissatisfaction and resignations. Which in turn contributes to a decrease in productivity and profits.

Ongoing Criticism between parents and children can lead to built up resentment, rebellion, rows, and long-term fall out.

Having seen the damaging affect frequent criticism has in a relationship and to a person, where an individual loses their sense of who they are and happiness. I wanted to share some insights and new ways of expressing complaints.

Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - For your copy of a free e-book

7 Secrets to Save Your Marriage and Post Break Up Support visit www.purepeacecoaching.com