Do parents have favorites? Even if you say you don’t, research shows you probably do. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about dads showing favoritism, even unknowingly, harms everyone in the house. 

Why This Matters
Siblings who receive less favored treatment tend to have poorer mental health and more strained family relationships.

Key Takeaways

·      You probably DO have a favorite kid: A BYU study shows 80% of parents show preferential treatment

·      Behavior is a factor: The American Psychological Association says “agreeable and conscientious” kids are usually favored. 

·      Sorry, boys: Both mothers and fathers are more likely to favor daughters.

Action Steps for Dads
Perception is reality, so avoid even appearing to have a favorite kid by doing these things:

1. Analyze yourself.

2. Avoid unfair assignments and punishments.

3. Examine your wallet.

4. Divide your time as evenly as possible. 

5. Schedule regular check-ins. 

6. Hear them out. 

Important Episode Timestamps
00:00 – 03:40 | Who’s the Favorite?
03:40 – 04:32 | Research on Parental Favoritism
04:32 – 06:11 | Why Easier Kids Get the Edge
06:11 – 08:27 | Daughters and Favoritism Trends
08:27 – 11:13 | Long-Term Impact on Sibling Bonds
11:13 – 15:18 | A Teenager’s Perspective
15:18 – 18:20 | Time, Perception, and Fairness
18:20 – 26:38 | Avoiding Unfairness in Parenting
26:38 – End | Pro Move Think about how you might be favoring one kid over the other. Make a plan to even things out so that there is harmony in your home.

Sponsor:
The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net.

All Pro Dad Resources:

Episode 37: “Have I Taken the Time to Get To Know My Kid For Who They Are?”

Episode 63: “How To Help My Kids Navigate Their Emotions”

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