Doin' It Scared Podcast with Lea Coultas

TW: Sexual Assault

The Cornell 7 case is everywhere in the media right now. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone is weighing in. And honestly, it can be really hard to listen to it all.

But maybe it should be uncomfortable.

Because it is horrific.

And this year, I experienced something horrific too.

I was sexually assaulted.

And I didn't tell anyone. I didn't report it. I didn't fight back. I pretended it didn't happen. I fawned, I compartmentalized, and I did whatever I needed to do to get through the situation and the days that followed.

Because my story isn't special.

In fact, it's horrifyingly ordinary.

In this episode, I'm choosing to share my experience—not for attention, not for pity, and not because I think my story is more important than anyone else's. I'm sharing it because I've carried the shame of it for months, and I'm ready to put some of that shame down.

And if telling my story helps even one woman feel less alone, or helps someone understand that surviving doesn't always look the way we think it does, then it is worth saying out loud.

But this episode is also a plea to the good men.

We need you.

We need you to speak up. We need you to challenge the conversations, the jokes, the behaviour and the silence that allow sexual violence to continue.

Because “it's not all men” doesn't mean much if the men who aren't doing it are still choosing to do nothing.

This is a difficult conversation.

But maybe that's exactly why we need to have it.

I’m back with my first solo episode in a couple of months — and there’s been a lot swirling around in my brain.

In this episode, I catch you up on where I’ve been, how I’ve been feeling, and why showing up and speaking openly has felt a little scarier lately.

We’re talking social media, AI, the fear of saying the “wrong” thing, and what happens when it feels like everyone is ready to react, judge, or jump to conclusions.

How do we keep showing up authentically when speaking up feels so...risky?

Have you ever expressed an emotion - something that's heavy on your heart - either in person, via text, or in a voice note, and have been met with....silence?

In this episode, I share a recent experience of this and how my brain spiraled after 24 hrs of silence, and just what sitting in that discomfort revealed to me.

Can't wait to. hear your thoughts on this and if this has happened to you! What was your reaction? What did you learn?

I'm so excited to finally interview someone on the Pod. It's been a while, and I can't think of a more perfect person to introduce to this podcast than Angelise States.

6 time marathon runner, Digital Creator, Fitness Instructor at Studio Verso, Lululemon Ambassador - Ange truly is embodying the phrase "feel the fear and do it anyway".

From her first decision to take up running almost a decade ago, to now, training for her 7th Marathon in Berlin, Ange has a lot of insight to share on how she got to where she is today. And it didn't happen overnight. It was a lot of small (and BIG) decisions & yes's that put her on this path, which makes this interview such a good listen for anyone that's looking to try something new.

You can find Ange on Instagram @angelisestates or teaching classes at Studio Verso.

You can also find her Run Club on Instagram: @mileonerunclub

Listen, share with a friend, give a 5-star review. Help me get this podcast into more people's ears! And as always, thank you for being here. :)

Why is money such a shameful topic for so many people? And why do we feel like if we're not making enough money, that we are not as successful as those who are? Do you equate success with what's in your bank account? Do you even look at your money? What you're spending? What you're saving?

Money is a topic I have a really hard time talking about. I've made a lot of mistakes over the years when it comes to my finances. Some hard truths I've had to face despite being terrified.

Let's dive in! Would love to hear your thoughts.

In this episode, I talk about the challenges of showing up messy, my Janet Jackson story (it's prob not what you think), and some full circle moments that carry me through.

I also talk about my upcoming 4 Week Doin' It Scared Mastermind. I'm taking on 3 people for the month of June. Details are on my website:

www.elevating-your-experience.com

https://www.elevating-your-experience.com/offerings/the-doin-it-scared-4-week-mastermind-with-lea-coultas

A common theme I see within myself & a constant conversation I have with others is about the fear of getting it wrong. This is one of the biggest reasons why we hide or put things on pause. What if we show up, but we get it wrong? What if I embarrass myself? What if people hate what I'm putting out into the world??

This weekend I hosted a retreat, and that theme came up quite a bit. With my participants AND me. In this episode, I share about my retreat experience and some things that came up for me leading up to the weekend, during, and after.

Another deep dive! Solo episode where I discuss the pain of staying silent and coming out of people pleasing behaviour. How do you start speaking up when everyone around you is used to you playing small?

Have you ever let someone else's opinion of you be the reason you stop pursuing your dream? Have you ever started something that you're passionate about, but then shared it with someone, and they haven't had the same enthusiasm as you?

I've def allowed the opinions of others to dictate how I show up in my life. I've played small so many times in order to make others feel better while suffering on the inside.

In this episode, I share the REAL reason why I stopped the podcast over a year ago. And the steps I'm now taking to get over my fear of stepping fully into my authentic self.

It's been almost a year & a half since the last podcast episode.

Ripping the bandaid off and diving back in with a solo episode.

Sharing what's been going on during this hiatus, the mental highs & lows, training to become a fitness instructor, embarking on a solo travel adventure to meet my podcast idol, & finding my voice again.