Dr. Finneran, psychotherapist drops in as guest speaker to talk about Stockholm Syndrome, trauma bonding, getting proper support, and healing after abuse. Avoiding re-engaging in another abusive dynamic is also discussed.

This episode covers idealization and devaluation stages narcissistic partners put us through. Recovering from it and fearfulness that comes after. Pros and cons of feeling numb versus embracing sensitivity is discussed. Using a soft heart for the better instead of feeling resentful of feeling a lot is also covered. For A❤️

This episode covers the state of mind we get stuck in after idealization and devaluation stages of narcissistic abuse. The effects on a woman’s mind after being subjected to constantly trying to keep up with unrealistic standards. Tips on over coming challenges in recovery related to body image, fear of intimacy, and somatic symptoms during flash backs are also discussed. For A❤️

This episode focuses on how gaslighting works, what it does psychologically to victims, and the hyper vigilance we develop as a skill to protect ourselves through abuse. Self sabotage and impulsiveness is also discussed. Ideas on how to work through this and stay grounded are included.

This episode focuses on the different stages of leaving an abuser. How to grow strength to get through withdrawals, things you’ll need within your support system, and learning how to love yourself again are discussed.

This episode focuses on security versus unhealthy intensity. Feeling emotionally regulated after a life of adrenaline chasing and sleep being correlated to fearfulness after abuse. What sleeping safely feels like in recovery after fighting so hard to feel like you again, and feeling secure attachment.

This episode focuses on gaining insight into how abusers use pity, guilt, and blame shifting to distract us from their hurtful behavior. Description of how we get to a point where we feel like we are the abusive partner, and chronically believe we are the cause and are responsible for the pain we experience with an abusive partner. How to trust yourself again, and the self forgiveness felt when you finally know for sure….It’s not me. It’s you.

This episode discusses shifts in mind set during dating after an abusive relationship has ended. Being triggered, fight or flight response, and how to talk your self down and decide if you’re upset with new guy, or if it’s left overs from Voldemort. Should I really be putting my nikes on right now to run? Being transparent with new partners is also discussed.

This episode covers being aware of one’s feelings and needs within a relationship. Early signs that someone may not be a person who will provide you emotional safety. Creating a road map before taking the trip with someone new. Dating after abuse is discussed. Dedicated to my person ❤️

This episode focuses on the trauma bond formed from triangulation. How continuous cheating creates intermittent wounding and the effects of the “reuniting” stage. Abuser’s tactics to keep the victim in the relationship, blame shifting, and gas lighting are also discussed.