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In this episode I’m going to talk about “What the Narcissist is Afraid Of”.  We don’t always think of someone who is a narcissist as being afraid of anything especially since the persona they portray is mighty aggressive, however there is plenty that causes them tremendous fear.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “How a Narcissist Uses Guilt”.  Generally speaking any manipulative person will use this tactic but a narcissist, well, they take it to the next level.  In addition to their constant belittling comments, keeping you bound in “false” guilt is the perfect passive-aggressive game.  It allows them to remain the “victim” while you end up feeling “bad” (or shameful) when you didn’t do anything wrong.  It is a viscous cycle that only YOU can break.

Letting go of anything can be challenging especially when it comes to relationships.  It can be even more difficult when you’ve been living in a chaotic, toxic relationship for a long period of time.  The thought of it all suddenly going quiet can be a little overwhelming.  Letting go is finality and you have to mean it.

In this episode I’m going to talk about When a Narcissist Gaslights You.  Out of all the tactics they use, this is one of their favorite methods of manipulation.  It is very destructive for the victim.  

 According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary the official definition of gaslighting is:  the psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence, self-esteem, and a dependency on the perpetrator.

One thing you can count on after the relationship has been dissolved with the narcissist, is they will always try to come back but not for the reasons you think.  They may try right after the break-up or it may be months or years down the road especially if they feel like they have a chance at playing on your heart strings.  They will always keep you on the “possible” supply list unless you’ve cut the cord for good.

In this episode I’m going to talk about something that I believe everyone has felt at one time or another.  Although I’m speaking from a woman’s point of view, I’m sure men too have pondered the proverbial question,  Am I Enough?  

Settling in a relationship is probably the last thing any of us wants to do and yet, we do it.  The words “don’t settle for less than what you deserve” ring through our head as we find ourselves giving reasons to justify the “stay”.  The reasons why we choose to stay longer than we should are many.  Although some of the reasons in a marriage may be slightly different than a romantic relationship, they can be applied to both.  If you’re wondering if you’re settling, whether in a marriage or a romantic relationship, it’s going to take real honesty on your part to find out if you truly are.  

In this episode I’m going to talk about something I’ve personally struggled with a lot, forgiveness, especially when it comes to forgiving a Narcissist.  If you know anything about forgiveness it’s most likely because you’ve heard about it at some point in time in your life at church.  The message that was (and still is) preached is that we should forgive others because we have been forgiven.  But why?  Why am I supposed to give my offender a “get out of jail free” card while I’m left holding my bleeding heart.  It didn’t sound fair and I didn’t like it one bit.  

In this episode I’m going to talk about something that I feel is one of the most difficult things to experience, the Pain of Betrayal.  The violation of trust that comes from a betrayal is extremely difficult to overcome in any relationship, married or not.  I personally am a firm believer that once a cheater always a cheater, especially when dealing with a narcissist.  Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.  At least that’s been my personal experience.

In this episode I’m going to talk about something most of you have probably heard of but may not fully understand, “Emotional Triggers”.  Traumatic past experiences (or PTSD) are the root of what causes us to be triggered.  Those experiences could be from a variety of sources, but I’m going to talk about how it affects you as a narcissistic abuse survivor.