Dontbeacrumqueen

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Attracting the Wrong Person”.  We’ve all been there at some point in our lives when we look back at our failed relationships and, whether we want to admit it or not, we start to see a pattern.  Why do we keep getting involved with the wrong type of person?

Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast.  My name is Sher and I’m your host.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “Being Alone and Being OK”.  There are several reasons why we find ourselves alone.  For some, it’s a choice and for others it’s where they’ve currently found themselves.  No matter the reason, being alone is actually not a bad thing.  It can be a Blessing in disguise.  If you have just experienced the break-up of a relationship or a divorce, being alone may be a difficult adjustment but I hope you choose to see it as an opportunity for growth and not a prison sentence.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “When Relationships Fail”.  Although we have many different kinds of relationships in our life, the break-ups I’m referring to are those that involve the heart.  It doesn’t matter if it was a romantic relationship or a marriage, it hurts when it ends.

In this episode, I’m going to talk about “The Power of Your Thoughts”.  The mind is a VERY powerful thing.  It can become a toxic wasteland or a sea of encouragement and strength.  We determine the outcome by what we allow through our thoughts.  It’s true what they say, you ARE what you THINK.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “The Truth About Love”.  It’s amazing how those 4 little letters can cause us the greatest Joy and the deepest pain.  

Love is something we’ve searched for, or continue to search for, our entire lives.  As a child, we longed for nothing more than to be Loved by our parents so we could feel “special” and to know that we mattered.  If that eluded us, we eventually looked for that Love in another.  That person we found, made us feel all of the things we’ve been longing for and we called it “love”.  

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Unhealthy Behaviors and How to Unlearn them”.  If there is one thing we ever do in Life, I hope it’s this.  Unlearn unhealthy behaviors.  

We don’t start out in life with unhealthy behaviors. They are simply “learned”.  Learned as a result of coping mechanisms we developed back in our childhood.  I’ve shared how the way I was raised created a “silence and compliance” mentality within me.  Additionally, my mother’s struggle with her weight shaped me into a rescuer and a people pleaser.  My father’s inability to tell me “I Love You” left me longing for approval that I searched for in all the wrong places.  I just wanted to know that I was good enough.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Forgiving Yourself” especially after the ending of a bad relationship or marriage.  It’s the time when we tend to beat ourselves up the most.  “How could I have been so stupid?”  Looking back, we now see the red flags that we ignored.  Bu that’s the beauty of hindsight though, it’s always crystal clear.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Overcoming Fear”.  Fear is something we have all experienced and the reasons vary but when it comes to narcissistic abuse, well, it can be absolutely paralyzing.

 Fear is a very natural emotion.  It motivates us to either take flight or fight.  Fear warns you about danger and you will feel your body respond.  Your heart may start to race, you feel sick to your stomach, you feel sweaty, and maybe even a little dizzy.  Panic sets in as your mind is racing.  You create every worse scenario you can think of.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “The Root of Rejection”.  This is a topic that unfortunately, we can ALL relate to.  Everyone, at some point in time in their life, has suffered rejection.  

It is defined as dismissal, refusal, non-acceptance, declining, shutting out or the spurning of a person’s affections.  All of which are hurtful and detrimental.

In this episode I’m going to talk about “Is a Narcissist Ever Sorry?”  When you’ve spent years of your life with someone who has found pleasure in treating you like shit and you finally leave, you wonder “are they sorry for what they’ve done or do they simply just move on to the next person without blinking?”