Doorknob Comments

In this episode, Grant and Fara are joined by Dr. Alexey Tolchinsky, a clinical psychologist, adjunct professor at George Washington University, and clinical fellow of the International Neuropsychoanalysis Association. He works with neurodiverse patients and young adults struggling with life transitions. Today, they discuss his peer-reviewed research, namely what he refers to as narrative fallacy in psychotherapy. Dr. Tolchinksky explains what he thinks are the dangers of narrative fallacy in psychotherapy, how it plays out between therapists and patients, and ways that we can consider re-thinking ingrained narratives in the therapeutic encounter.

We hope you enjoy it.

In This Episode

[0:00] Introduction

[1:30] Episode Overview

[04:40] Alexey’s Journey into Clinical Psychology

[6:10] The Concept of Narrative Fallacy

[13:10] Narrative Fallacy in Clinical Setting: ADHD and Anxiety

[21:15] Achieving Patient Wellness

[24:50] Data vs. Theory-Driven Practice

[28:40] Applying Narrative Fallacy in Therapy

[34:30] Static and Dynamic Diagnostic Tools

[44:40] Potential for Dynamic Tools in Therapy

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Alexey Tolchinksky

https://montgomerycountypsychologist.com/

Dr. Fara White

https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

https://www.granthbrennermd.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this episode, Grant and Fara are joined by esteemed neurophysicist and authority on brain imaging, Dr. Karl Friston. His revolutionary impact on studies of the brain derives from his inventive use of probability theory to analyze neural imaging data. They discuss how we might think about psychotherapy from the point of view of Dr. Friston’s work and briefly touch on artificial general intelligence, AGI, through Karl’s work on VERSES AI.

We hope you enjoy!

In This Episode

[0:00] Introduction

[1:35] Episode Overview

[02:30] Journey into Brain Imaging Research

[6:30] Mathematics and Brain Processing

[12:10] Active Inference and its Relevance to Psychotherapy

[24:10] Therapeutic Alliance as Computational System

[27:50] Revising Entrenched Beliefs Through Therapy

[32:20] Trauma, Condition, and Altered Rationale

[55:00] Mindfulness and Managing Prediction Errors

[1:00:00] Consciousness and Selfhood

[1:04:35] Verses AI and the Future of Psychiatry

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Karl Friston

https://profiles.ucl.ac.uk/2747-karl-friston

https://www.verses.ai/

Dr. Fara White

https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

https://www.granthbrennermd.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this episode, Fara and Grant approach the sticky subjects in therapy, such as: billing, scheduling, boundaries, connection... and whether I really AM my therapist's favorite patient!! They provide insights into the challenges associated with managing this relationship and offer guidance on how to effectively communicate with your therapist. How do you bring up your concerns? Is it wrong to feel emotionally or romantically attracted to your therapist? This episode covers a wide range of topics to hopefully ease some of your anxieties.

We hope you enjoy.

Key Takeaways:

Therapists, like anyone else, have their unique ways of approaching therapy based on their training and sensibilities.

If you ever feel uncertain or have questions about your therapy, please don't hesitate to bring them up with your therapist. It's important to work through any concerns in your relationship with your therapist, and they are there to take them seriously and support you.

In This Episode:

[0:00] Introduction

[01:00] Episode Overview

[03:15] Getting to Therapy on Time (...or not)

[07:30] Balancing Scheduling and Boundaries

[12:10] Adapting Therapy Practices

[15:10] Professionalism and Remote Therapy

[19:40] Ethical Boundaries in Therapist-Patient Relationships

[24:50] Handling Multiple Sources of Advice

[31:47] Am I Your Favorite??

[38:53] Therapeutic Obligations

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Fara White

https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

https://www.granthbrennermd.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this episode, Grant and Fara have a conversation with Dr. Robin Stern, the Co-Founder and Senior Advisor for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Dr. Stern is also the author of The Gaslight Effect and the host of The Gaslight Effect Podcast. They delve into Dr. Stern's journey in exploring gaslighting, the common tactics used by gaslighters in relationships, the role of shame and isolation for victims, and much more. Drawing from her 30 years of experience in treating individuals, couples, and families, Dr. Stern offers valuable insights into gaslighting dynamics and the steps to reclaiming one's narrative.

We hope you enjoy!

Key Takeaways

The longer you’re in a relationship where you’re second-guessing your reality and accommodating the other, the harder it is to leave.

Many times shame can begin to creep into gaslighting relationships. Victims might be ashamed to bring their gaslighters behavior up to family and friends, and can further isolate themselves.

In This Episode

[0:00] Introduction

[1:05] Episode Overview

[02:30] Robin’s Journey to Exploring Gaslighting

[10:10] Red Flags and Disavowal

[17:15] ‘Stage 3’ of Gaslighting

[18:40] Masquerading Gaslighting in Relationships

[22:10] The Role of Isolation and Shame

[24:30] Reclaiming Reality and Pushing Back

[27:40] Gaslighting vs. Other Forms of Dysfunctional Communication

[30:40] Navigating Behavioral Intention

[33:55] What about Gaslighters?

[35:40] Closing Thoughts

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Robin Stern

https://robinstern.com/

https://howwefeel.org/

Dr. Fara White

https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

https://www.granthbrennermd.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss the recent criticism that therapy has faced following the release of several publications, particularly "The Therapist Who Hated Me" by Michael Bacon. They delve into the dynamics of the therapist-patient relationship in various therapeutic approaches and the potential challenges that may arise. They emphasize that there is no universal solution for therapy and stress the importance of evaluating treatment options to find what works best for each individual. 

We hope you find this discussion insightful and enjoyable.

Key Takeaways

• No treatment is perfect, it is important to evaluate what's happening in therapy. Negative therapeutic experiences are valid, but hopefully shouldn't be the only experiences
• "Therapy is first and foremost meant to help facilitate development in a good direction" 

In This Episode

• [0:00] Introduction
• [01:10] Episode Overview
• [04:50] "The Therapist Who Hated Me" and Melanie Klein
• [08:05] Exploring the Therapist/Patient Relationship
• [13:30] Finding the Right Fit, the Right Treatment
• [17:30] Boom in Popularity for Therapy
• [25:00] Different Definitions of Mental Health Care
• [27:15] Countertransference of a Therapist
• [34:30] Negative Experiences in Therapy 
• [37:00] Evaluating Your Treatment

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this podcast episode, George Grombacher, a seasoned finance professional, joins psychiatrists Fara and Grant to explore the psychological dimensions of financial behavior. They discuss how childhood experiences and observed behaviors from adults shape our financial habits, whether we lean towards saving or spending. Grombacher emphasizes the need to confront limiting beliefs about money, drawing parallels between people's discomfort with finances and math. The conversation touches on the impact of trauma on self-care, including financial health, and the importance of designing a life aligned with personal values. Grombacher's journey from a corporate environment to a more creative financial advisory role illustrates the transformative power of addressing one's relationship with money.

Key Takeaways

• Childhood experiences and observed financial habits shape our approach to money and views on success and relationships.
• "Doorknob comments" can reveal deep-seated feelings and attitudes towards money.
• Emotional barriers and negative beliefs about money can hinder financial success.
• Overcoming financial challenges can improve self-confidence and discipline, impacting overall well-being.
• Financial self-care is crucial, especially for those with past traumas
• Money management is about achieving a balance in life, not just in finances

In This Episode:

• [[01:03] Introduction to George Grombacher
• [02:10] George’s  background and philosophy
• [04:37] Negative beliefs about money
• [05:40] George’s  career journey
• [07:40] Connection and collaboration
• [09:21] Financial challenges and seeking help
• [12:39] Common financial mistakes and debt
• [16:14] Designing the life you want
• [17:48] Wealth accumulation and financial mindset
• [21:10] Balancing present enjoyment and future planning
• [22:37] The evolution of money personalities
• [25:47] Intergenerational transmission of trauma
• [27:09] Understanding limiting beliefs
• [28:55] Impact of childhood experiences on financial habits
• [32:20] Psychological aspects of financial decision-making
• [35:03] Positive spillover effect of financial empowerment
• [37:12] Seeking mental health support for financial well-being
• [38:22] Financial success and personal responsibility

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

George Grombacher

• https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgegrombacher/
• https://moneyalignmentacademy.com/about-us/

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

Join hosts Fara and Grant on the latest Doorknob Comments podcast episode, where they delve into the intricate dynamics shaping the therapist-client relationship. They dissect the subtleties of this bond, emphasizing its profound impact on therapy efficacy. Ethical dilemmas like confidentiality and intervention in client danger are explored, alongside the significance of self-awareness and transparent communication. The episode navigates the therapist's role in addressing risk behaviors and physical health, while tackling challenges posed by clients with trauma or depression. The paramount importance of prioritizing client well-being resonates throughout the discussion.

P.S. Remember, therapy is a journey we take together, and every step reveals new horizons. Let's discover them together. Tune in now and let's continue the conversation.

Key Takeaways

• Dynamics of the therapeutic relationship
• Ethical considerations: confidentiality, intervention
• Client autonomy and decision-making empowerment
• Potential pitfalls of therapist self-disclosure
• Addressing unspoken and unconscious aspects of therapy

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

Tune in to the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, where hosts Fara and Grant take a candid dive into the intricate world of love and dating, perfectly timed for the approaching Valentine's Day. From dissecting the dynamics of romantic relationships to scrutinizing the impact of social media on our perceptions of love, they leave no stone unturned. Drawing parallels from the relationships of celebrities like Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce, they shed light on the societal pressures to find "the one."

But amidst the age-old topics, they bring a refreshing perspective, discussing the fascinating psychological concept of "doorknob comments" and advocating for personal growth and self-acceptance. With insights from therapists, they provide practical advice that listeners can implement in their own lives.

Join Fara and Grant as they navigate through the complexities of love and relationships, offering a blend of wisdom, humor, and relatability that is sure to resonate with audiences.

Key Takeaways

• Societal norms often create unrealistic relationship expectations.
• Establishing personal boundaries is essential in the face of external pressures.
• Social media tends to portray idealized relationships, distorting individual expectations.
• Understanding empirical findings on relationships can provide valuable insights.
• Celebrity relationship narratives may inadvertently influence personal relationship views.
• Effective communication, trust, respect, and mutual growth are cornerstones of healthy relationships.
• The phenomenon of "doorknob comments" highlights the challenge of expressing deep emotions and the stigma attached to singlehood.

In This Episode:

• [00:00:00] Understanding our needs
• [00:01:11] Romance and dating
• [00:02:21] Occupational hazards of therapy
• [00:04:07] Impact of social media on relationships
• [00:20:37] Core features of romantic relationships
• [00:22:46] Responsive Dating
• [00:24:02] Love Bombing and Authenticity
• [00:27:36] Pacing and Mutual Needs
• [00:35:10] Communication and Relationship Dynamics
• [00:37:18] Openness and Growth

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

Join Fara and Grant on the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast as they dive deep into the beautiful complexities of intercultural marriage. Le like to think that love knows no borders, but what about the hurdles that come with actually making it work? Together, they explore the ups and downs of love across cultures, from navigating emotional expressions to dealing with societal pressures and language barriers.

In this heartfelt conversation, Fara and Grant emphasize the importance of open communication and understanding each other's cultural backgrounds. They share personal anecdotes and insights, highlighting the need for creating a shared cultural space within the relationship.

And it's not just about the couples – they also touch on the broader societal challenges that impact all relationships. From there, they discuss the role of therapy in helping couples navigate these cultural complexities and build stronger bonds.

Ultimately, this episode is a reminder of the power of empathy, negotiation, and respect in fostering healthy and thriving intercultural partnerships. Tune in for heartfelt stories and valuable advice that will resonate with anyone in love, regardless of cultural differences.

Key Takeaways

• Intercultural marriages are Increasing due to globalization
• Partners from different cultural backgrounds may experience and express emotions differently
• Intercultural couples may face societal resistance or familial pressures
• Effective communication about cultural values and expressions is vital
• Couples can create a "third culture" within their relationship
• The Journey of Intercultural marriage Is both challenging and enriching

In This Episode:

• [01:05] Intercultural marriage and  its rising prevalence
• [02:30] Challenges in intercultural relationships
• [10:16] Impact of cultural values on relationships
• [17:24] How cultural backgrounds impact the expression of emotions
• [23:42] US cultural perspective on friendship vs Russian and Lithuanian cultures.
• [26:03] Family and societal attitudes in Intercultural relationships
• [33:30] Creating a third culture in intercultural relationships
• [36:12] Evidence-informed relationship practice

Resources and Links

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/

In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, we are excited to sit down with Dr. Edward Shapiro, a distinguished author and psychoanalyst.

During our conversation, we discuss his book "Finding a Place to Stand.” We explore the significance of family dynamics, institutional roles, and citizenship. He highlights the value of self-reflection and the challenges of leadership in a polarized society. Dr. Shapiro also shares a story illustrating the importance of action in confrontational situations. His book serves as a testament to the value of this learning process and is a recommended read for anyone interested in leadership, group relations, and active citizenship.

Key Takeaways

• Engaged citizenship is vital for a cohesive society and involves active listening and open-mindedness.
• Group relations conferences provide insights into organizational dynamics and the role of authority.
• Leadership requires courage to act in challenging situations, as illustrated by a social worker's story.
• Learning from others and self-reflection enhance leadership.
• Asking “How are they right?” rather than “How am I right?” is a paradigm shift for effective listening and collaboration.

In This Episode:

• [04:30] Experiences and journey to Austin Riggs
• [14:30] Therapy and its role in family dynamics
• [19:49] The family as an institution
• [22:39] The book's idea in addressing societal issues
• [24:28] The concept of good citizenship
• [30:10] Group relations conferences and their impact
• [45:19] "Why do I have to do this?"

Notable Quotes

• [12:47] “People resist impatient people who are labeled by others as one of the problems of family dynamics.” - Ed
• [19:49] "The family is an institution and like any institution, it has a mission on behalf of society, and that mission is development - Ed
• [38:32] "I don't know that everybody wants to be a leader. Many people are afraid of leadership because of what's happened in their families around taking up leadership roles. We always bring our family role into our organization.” - Ed

Doorknob Comments

• https://www.doorknobcomments.com/

Dr. Edward Shapiro

• https://www.edwardrshapiro.com/
• Finding a Place to Stand

Dr. Fara White

• https://www.farawhitemd.com/

Dr. Grant Brenner

• https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/