A "See You Later" message from Dr Barbara:

"My dear National and Global Listeners,

As I sit down infront of the mic, my heart is full of gratitude, nostalgia, and a touch of bittersweet emotion. Since September of 2020, this podcast has been a safe space for all of us—a place where we came together to find solace, inspiration, and connection during a time when the world felt uncertain and heavy. 

Over the past four years, we’ve grown together. Week after week, you welcomed me into your homes, your routines, and your hearts.

But as with all journeys, there comes a time to turn the page and begin a new chapter. To be honest, that time has come for me. After four incredible years of podcasting To Be Honest, I have decided to move on to new ventures in my mission to help people. This isn’t an end—it’s a continuation of the work I hold dear, but in a different form.

With love and gratitude, let me say this to you: until we meet again, stay safe, learn heaps, and find the courage to be your true self!"

Listeners who use Iphone and wish to keep certain episodes in your phone, you have till January 31, 2025 to download them for safe keep.  Unfortunately for Android listeners, you no longer can get access on Spotify, however, you could download your favourite episodes on my website: drbarbarakiao.com

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Acknowledgement:
Music: Dawn's Break by Shane Ivers

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

When parent-child roles reverse, a phenomenon known as parentification occurs. This happens when a child is forced (consciously or unconsciously) to take on the responsibilities of a parent, emotionally or physically, often due to a parent's inability or unwillingness to fulfill their role. Parentification can have profound effects on a child's emotional development, relationships, and mental health.

Come join Dr Barbara to learn more about parentification, the two main types of parentification and how you can heal from "parentification wound"?

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

In this Part 2 of To Be Vulnerable Is To Be Brave, Dr Barbara shares with her audience some common examples of relationship vulnerability.  Vulnerability in relationships is the openness and willingness to show our true selves, including our fears, insecurities, and desires, to a partner. This form of vulnerability allows for an authentic connection, building trust and emotional intimacy. Being vulnerable in a relationship requires taking risks, as it exposes us to potential rejection, judgment, or hurt. However, this transparency is what often enables relationships to grow and deepen.

Come join Dr BB to learn more about the consequences of not being vulnerable in relationships, and how you can overcome the fear of showing vulnerability with your loved ones. 

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

Vulnerability defined: Vulnerability refers to the willingness to expose oneself emotionally, to express genuine feelings, and to risk experiencing uncertainty, criticism, or rejection. This openness goes beyond physical vulnerability, involving emotional and psychological states where a person lets down defenses to connect more deeply with themselves and others. Dr Brené Brown, Professor of Social Work at the University of Houston. One of the leading researchers on vulnerability, defines it as a fundamental form of courage that underpins human connection, creativity, and resilience.

Come join Dr BB to learn more about the importance of vulnerability based on recent research, how to cultivate it, and the consequences of a lack thereof.

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

The skill of focus in psychology refers to the ability to direct and maintain attention on a specific task or object, while ignoring distractions. It is a key component of cognitive processes such as problem-solving, decision-making, learning, and goal achievement. Focus allows for deeper concentration and more effective use of mental energy, leading to higher levels of productivity, creativity, and overall well-being.

Come join Dr BB for further detailed explanation and learn all that you can to further enhance your skill of focus.

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

In Part 1, Dr Barbara concludes while both "How?" and "Why?" are valuable questions in problem-solving, the question of "Why?" holds particular importance for fostering deeper understanding, addressing root causes, and creating long-lasting change. It requires patience and introspection, but ultimately leads to more sustainable solutions. This shift from "How?" to "Why?" can help individuals, relationships, organizations, and societies better navigate complex challenges and achieve greater well-being.

In Part 2, Dr Barbara shares the similarities and differences of Australian Cultures and Japanese Cultures in comparison to North American Cultures.
Do they value the "How?" over the "Why?" questions?

Come join Dr Barbara to learn more about the Power of "Why?" quesions.
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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

The nature of the questions we ask shapes our understanding of reality and influences our problem-solving strategies. In North American culture, a significant distinction can be made between asking "Why?" and asking "How?" in the context of problem-solving, particularly when it comes to personal and societal challenges.

The Power of "Why?" When we ask "Why?" we seek to understand the underlying causes, motivations, and beliefs that contribute to a situation. In psychological terms, this is akin to probing the root cause of behaviors, emotions, or problems rather than merely addressing the surface symptoms. Asking "Why?" fosters introspection, critical thinking, and deeper insights, which are essential for long-term growth, healing, and meaningful change.

Come join Dr BB to learn more about the Power of "Why?" and how this type of questioning can benefit us in our daily life versus asking "How?"

For more resources please visit: www.drbarbarakiao.com

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

The schema concept in psychology, particularly in Schema Therapy (developed by Dr Jeffrey Young), refers to deeply ingrained, dysfunctional patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that originate from unmet emotional needs during childhood. These schemas act as filters through which individuals perceive and respond to life situations, leading to maladaptive coping behaviors in adulthood.

Schemas are often linked to early negative experiences (e.g., neglect, abandonment, abuse, etc.) and can trigger negative emotions, self-defeating behaviors, and interpersonal difficulties. There are 18 identified maladaptive schemas, divided into five main domains, based on the unmet needs.

Come join Dr Barbara to learn to identify and dissolve those maladaptive schemas.  It is only when you are equipped to identifying these maladaptive patterns and gradually replacing them with healthier thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, you can lead more fulfilling, balanced lives, free from the constraints of those schemas that are no longer serving you.

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

What are emotional or psychological triggers?

In psychology, a trigger refers to any stimulus—whether internal (like thoughts or emotions) or external (like situations, people, places, or objects)—that causes an emotional reaction or recalls a past trauma. Triggers often lead to intense, automatic responses (reaction) that can include anxiety, anger, panic, sadness, or other strong emotions. They can occur in various mental health conditions: Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, depression, or even in people without a clinical diagnosis.

How triggers are formed? Mental health professionals are not hundred percent certain how triggers form. Some researchers believe triggers are formed through conditioning— a process in which certain experiences, often stressful or traumatic, get linked to specific stimuli. The brain associates these stimuli with emotional responses, and the next time the person encounters the same stimulus, it "triggers" the same emotional response.

Come join Dr Barbara to learn more about your psychological or emotional triggers. Learn to be aware, so to identify them in order to cope and manage them in a healthy manner.

One major benefit of identifying and managing your triggers is to avoid unnecessary conflict when interacting with friends, family members and colleagues.

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...

From a psychological standpoint, understanding the difference between facts and interpretations is crucial for effective communication and interpersonal interactions.

Miscommunication often arises when people conflate facts with their interpretations.  If we assume that our interpretation is the "truth", it can lead to incorrect conclusion and unnecessary conflict.  For example, if you interpret a neutral comment from a colleague as criticism, you might respond defensively or even confrontationally, creating tension that wasn’t there to begin with.

Come join Dr BB to learn more about the key differences between facts and interpretations so to avoid unnecessary tensiion between friends, colleagues and family members.  By developing awareness of the distinction between facts and interpretations, individuals can foster more effective communication, emotional intelligence, and healthier interpersonal relationships. 

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Disclaimer: The information provided in this mental health podcast is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concerns.

Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

While we strive to provide accurate and up-to-date information, mental health research and understanding are constantly evolving. Therefore, the information shared in this podcast may not always reflect the most current research or practices. It is important to consult with a qualified professional or trusted source for the most recent and appropriate guidance.

This podcast may address sensitive topics related to mental health...