Dr. Wendy always says relationships are far more about skill than luck. Here are some tips of tricks to help you fine tune that skill. 

• 1. In your mind, date yourself. Instead of asking to be heard and attended to, ask yourself what it’s like being with you?
• 2. Give your partner less emotional value. Make sure your partner is a huge piece of your emotional pie, not the whole pie. Don’t drop friends and family for them.
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• 3. Help Your Partner be Themselves. Focus on supporting individual goals over couple goals and common interests (which can lead to enmeshment) 
• 4. Worry a bit. Act like your relationship isn’t secure and continue to court them. 
• 5. Don’t just feel love, do something! Love is a verb, an action. It is not a perpetual feeling.