Dulcinea Love Podcast

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How beautiful it is to start the day thanking life for another set of 24 hours. I am in my garden having a cup of cinnamon tea with coconut milk. I love to experiment with my morning drinks, hahaha I hope you are enjoying your day too. Today we are going to talk about the stages of falling in love.

Much has been said that being in love is the perfect state of being human, because in addition to positive psychological changes, it also brings health benefits to our entire body.

First let's define the word Love:

The word LOVE has the following meanings.

1 Intense feeling of the human being who, starting from his own insufficiency, needs and seeks the encounter and union with another being.

2 Feeling towards another person who naturally attracts us and who, seeking reciprocity in the desire for union, completes us, makes us happy and gives us energy to live together, communicate and procreate.

3 Feeling of affection, inclination and delivery to someone or something.

There are different kinds of love: Love for your partner, Love for your children, Love for your parents, Platonic love, Self-love, Love for your roots or where you were born or grew up, Love for sports, Love for work, Love for art, Love to god. As a good romantic, I love to think that Love overcomes all barriers, maybe some of you share my opinion and others not so much. I need to clarify that I only talk about my experiences lived on this planet, I am not a psychologist and I do not have any certification in medicine, however my goal is that one day we can minimize violence and hatred between human beings, hopefully one day not far away there are no more wars. But for that we need to love more!!! And these are the stages of falling in love, according to all the times I've been in love, and there have been several, hahaha!!! My grandmother used to tell me: "Don't worry sweetie, you will fall in love again" and she was never wrong.

First stage:

The attraction that dominates you... Do you remember that first time, when your eyes were overwhelmed by the gaze of your partner? Whether boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, life partner? I do!!!! the butterflies in my stomach were flying at full speed, yes! And then after they dared to connect, it was a big hit!!!  probably when you remember those moments you still feel the amazing "butterflies" sensation in your tummy again!!!It is in this stage of the attraction when we do not measure time or distance and we cannot think of anything or anyone other than being with that super duper awesome person that attracts you and drives you crazy, crazy and crazy. Experts say that this feeling of euphoria is the one that can create addictions, since our brain releases large amounts of dopamine, serotonin or norepinephrine during this stage. 

Second stage: The stage of Romance, of trust and the beginning of commitment…

This phase of falling in love is critical for the relationship to last, because unlike the attraction stage, it is when some couples begin to express that they like and dislike the other person and decide to live with it or end the relationship, i Personally, I consider this stage as the one to “remove the mask” and get the ghosts out of the closet, as we commonly say, and if we really love that person, we are going to say things that could affect the future of our relationship. It is said that most newly married couples have to survive the first five years together, to avoid divorce.

Third Stage: The Rock Solid Union Stage.

The best part!

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Que hermoso es comenzar el día agradeciendo a la vida por otro set de 24 horas, me encuentro en el jardín tomando una taza de té de canela con leche de coco, a mi me encanta experimentar con mis bebidas matutinas, jajaja espero que ustedes estén disfrutando su día también. El día de hoy vamos a hablar de las etapas del enamoramiento.Mucho se ha dicho que estar enamorado es el estado perfecto del ser humano, pues además de cambios psicológicos positivos, también trae beneficios de salud a todo nuestro cuerpo.

De acuerdo a la Real Academia Española, la palabra AMOR tiene los siguientes significados.

1. m. Sentimiento intenso del ser humano que, partiendo de su propia insuficiencia, necesita y busca el encuentro y unión con otro ser.

2. m. Sentimiento hacia otra persona que naturalmente nos atrae y que, procurando reciprocidad en el deseo de unión, nos completa, alegra y da energía para convivir, comunicarnos y crear.

3. m. Sentimiento de afecto, inclinación y entrega a alguien o algo.

4. m. Tendencia a la unión sexual.

5. m. Blandura, suavidad

Necesito aclarar que yo solo hablo de mis experiencias vividas en este planeta, yo no soy psicologa y no tengo ninguna certificación en medicina, sin embargo mi meta es que algun dia podamos minimizar la violencia y el odio entre los seres humanos, ojala algun dia no muy lejano ya no existan más guerras.  Bueno se vale soñar.

Pero para eso necesitamos amar más!!!   Y estas son las etapas del enamoramiento, de acuerdo a todas las veces que he estado enamorada, y que han sido varias, jajaja!!!  Bien me lo decía mi abuela, “enamoradita, enamoradita”jajaja!!!

Primera Etapa: La atracción que te domina…

¿Recuerdas esa primera vez, cuando tus ojos se sintieron subyugados por la mirada de tu pareja? Ya sea novio, novia, esposo, esposa, compañero(a) de vida?  Las mariposas en el estómago estaban volando a todo lo que daba, si! Y entonces se atrevieron a conectarse, probablemente cuando recuerdas esos momentos vuelves a sentir las benditas “mariposas” otra vez!!! Es en esta etapa de atracción cuando no medimos el tiempo ni la distancia y no podemos pensar en nada que no sea estar con esa personita que te atrae y te vuelve loco o loca. Ese sentimiento de euforia que puede crear adicción, ya que nuestro cerebro libera grandes cantidades de dopamina, serotonina o noradrenalina durante esta etapa.

Segunda Etapa:La etapa del Romance, de la confianza…

Esta fase del enamoramiento es crítica para que la relación perdure, pues a diferencia de la etapa de atracción, es cuando algunas parejas empiezan a expresar que les gusta y que les disgusta de la otra persona y deciden vivir con ello o acabar la relación, yo personalmente considero esta etapa como la de “quitarnos la máscara” y sacar los fantasmas del closet como vulgarmente decimos y si realmente amamos a esa persona le vamos a decir cosas que podrían afectar el futuro de nuestra relación. Se dice que la mayoría de las parejas recién casadas tiene que sobrevivir juntos los primeros cinco años, para evitar el divorcio, pero no es una regla generalizada, en Estados Unidos las estadísticas muestran que la mayoría de los divorcios ocurren después de 8 años, por eso esta etapa de confianza es supercrítica

Tercera Etapa: La etapa de la Unión Sólida como una roca…

Esta es la etapa de indivisible compromiso de trabajar en equipo, pues la pareja ya sobrevivió el caos de la euforia, el tormento de los celos y la inseguridad para ahora disfrutar de los beneficios de estar juntos por amor.

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I want to remind you that this space is created specially for you and if you would like to hear an specific poem or poet please leave a comment and or send me your inquiries at: [email protected]

Today I want to talk about something that a listener asked me in an email. I’ll keep the name anonymous because it was requested. But this person told me that last week had encountered a really hard pill to swallow. Since he saw a person that caused a lot of hurt in the past and just to see this person made him relive some of the damage this person caused in his life. It took me a whole week to reply to this person after a week of asking friends in the psychology field, life coaches, counselors and even a priest.

Even when you can go to therapy or use one of those mental help apps, there are many factors to the hurt/forgiveness process, when someone gets hurt by another person, and it’s known that we are humans and we all make mistakes, nobody is exempt from getting hurt and hurting someone. And while there are many circumstances that could lead someone to do harm intentionally or not.

Weather it was a person you had a deep connection with or just an acquaintance

Who hasn't been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps your partner cheated on you with your best friend, (which by the way at the end was not a true friend), one of your parents was constantly letting you down when you were a kid, a friend who you trusted and confided a very intimate secret with, and told the entire school about it… Or in extreme cases you probably had a traumatic experience, such as being physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you, or a family member.These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness — even vengeance.

Because if you don't forgive, you are going back to that victim mentality and unfortunately you will end up being the one most affected and at the end of the day, simply you won’t find peace. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace hope, gratitude and joy.  Forgiveness can lead you to a happier and healthier life. We need to forgive, for our own sanity, we need to step away from that thing they did to us and hurt us, put it in the past, and move on, and I know it sounds like I am not giving the importance that it should to whatever they did to you, it is a selfish act of abandon whatever they did to you and just think about yourself and your well-being. When you don’t forgive someone you voluntarily allow that person to keep hurting you, literally you open the door to become a prisoner of their jail even when you have the key and could just open the door and walk out of that cell. There is a Gift in Forgiveness, give yourself the peace you deserve by forgiving whoever hurt you, I am not saying you forget what they did to you, I am just saying that what they did to you is in the past, the hurt belongs in the past too, keep it there, lock the box, bury it in the depth of the ocean and throw away the key. Learn to see the offense/harm in a way that doesn’t hurt you anymore, see it from outside, don’t relive it over and over.

Forgiveness is not for the person who hurt you, forgiveness is so that the damage caused by that person no longer hurts anymore. It might sound very difficult in the beginning but like everything in life it ends, and the sooner you act on it, the better. I hope you give yourself the gift of forgiving your trespassers, you deserve to be happy. Ciao!

Hoy empezaremos por reconocer que el Amor ademas de ser la fuerza universal que mueve al mundo, es tambien una fuerza que si no la controlamos se puede convertir en obsesion.

Se dice que el "enamoramiento" es el estado perfecto del ser humano porque cuando estamos enamorados nada nos duele, nada nos molesta incluso si nos quedamos sin dormir por pensar en esa personita interesante que nos hace sentir mariposas en el estomago cuando la vemos.

Hoy recito "Nocturno a Rosario" del famoso autor Mexicano Manuel Acuna Navarro, espero que les guste tanto como a mi.

Ah! que bello es estar enamorado o enamorada, dejemos que el amor triunfe en todo momento.

Este espacio es para ustedes por favor dejen sus comentarios y diganme que autor les gustaria o que poema quieren que yo les recite.

As always a million thanks from the bottom of my heart for listening today and tomorrow, it means the world to me that you would spare a few minutes of your time listening to this podcast, and if you like it please share it, let’s keep spreading Love all around us, because the world needs more Love!!!

I want to remind you that this space is created specially for you and if you would like to talk about a specific poem or poet please leave a comment and or send me your inquiries at: [email protected]

With all the fuzz going around these past days about the big prize of MegaMillions, worth 1.34 billion; the questions flashed through our minds about what would we do with such amount of money?, well obviously after the taxes that uncle Sam would slash from your prize, but hey 433 millions after tax is still an awesome amount of money. When someone asked me what I would do, if I won the lotto?  I answered that I would offer at least 100 homeless people $150K ONLY IF they went ahead and learned a trade to survive on their own and never go back to live on the streets,(so roughly $15,000,000 would be gone the first year right?)  To what my friend said Dulcinea!!!! That’s crazy, homeless people are happy where they are, otherwise they would do something to get out of the situation they are in.

Hear me out Tom I said: Did I mention that I would pay for their tuition and also pay their lease, transportation and meals for a full year??? (that’s roughly another $4,800,000 in housing plus another $4,000,000 for transportation, groceries and personal hygiene at about $1,600 per/month p/individual) but that’s not all, because I would also pay for their tuition, and any good trade program to become a certified electrician, carpenter, HVAC tech or Certified Nurse Assistant will cost anything around $40,000 to $50,0000 depending on the certification field, let’s add another $5,000,000 at this point I already spent $29 to 30,000,000.00 at giving opportunities to people who will grab the bull by the horns and re-shape their future.

He said but why would you do that, Dulcinea??? Because you asked!!!! I said.No, he asked me again why would you help people who don’t want to help themselves? This time I grabbed him by the shoulders and answered: Because I was homeless once. And someone helped me. I was able to obtain a GED at age 27 because life was hard for me growing up besides I also did my fair share of bad choices. I decided to party instead of working towards my high school diploma, that mistake landed me an awesome job flipping burgers at a fast food place, where I used to hang out with the wrong crowd and one thing led to another, sure enough I ended up doing wrong things, and while I am not proud to say it, it was my own self trying to live a life that was not going to take me to any professional success, could I have done things differently? Maybe, I don’t know, I can’t blame the people I was with, because nobody forced me to do the things I did, according to me I was just having fun. How did I get out of it?

Someone offered me help, and when this person asked me Do you want to end up in a ditch OD, or do you want to do something good with your life? Of course I choose LIFE!!!

As always a million thanks from the bottom of my heart for listening today and tomorrow, it means the world to me that you would spare a few minutes of your time listening to this podcast, and if you like it please share it, let’s keep spreading Love all around us, because the world needs more Love!!! I want to remind you that this space is created specially for you and if you would like to hear an specific poem or poet please leave a comment and or send me your inquiries at: [email protected]

Today I want to talk to you about empathy and the desire to help others that many call: “good will” but not the thrift store, Lol :)x I am talking about the instinctive impulse to do good for other people. There are many books about positive energy, there are movies, documentaries related to this very interesting topic. There is this cultural collective thought about the idea that when you look for the positive side of circumstances life suddenly becomes easier and if not easier a bit more manageable and less chaotic. I would like to say that everything starts with the will of doing good, and I am not talking about the willpower that pushes you to exercise, to eat healthy, or to learn something new, (we will talk about willpower some other time) in today’s episode I am referring to the desire to make someone feel well. It recently happened to me while I was picking up my morning boost at a popular coffee shop, the place was packed! And when the Barista called my name I approached the counter and she said, you have a nice outfit, you paired the perfect shoes with that skirt!. I said thank you and left the shop feeling as if I just did the catwalk on the runway, Lol!

She didn’t know but that day I had a difficult morning, I started my day with a heated discussion with one of my siblings about how to care for one of our elder relatives and other personal decisions at one point of our lives we all have to make about our loved ones, I was feeling so down, but her comment on my outfit and noticing the effort I did in order to not show my frustration with my current life circumstances boosted my day and from that moment on I saw things with a new perspective. It’s amazing how our words can build confidence in us, it’s definitely a positive way to show support for anyone without even trying. I try to compliment people not based on their looks but on how they act or their personal achievements, for example at my line of business it is super important to tell your coworkers they’re doing a good job, and recognize a team effort when the team achieves a sales goal. Or build their confidence when the deadline for a job is coming and reassure them that we will be able to make it.

Words in the form of compliments are the most powerful tools we have in communicating good will. That’s exactly what I want to communicate today. We are social living beings and by social I mean we communicate, nowadays there are more ways to communicate than ever!!!! We have dozens of social media platforms that connect us with people around the world, we have free or paid chat sites, dating apps, video apps, etc…. And to that add radio, tv and the written press. We can’t complain about not having enough ways to communicate. 

Witnessing acts of kindness produces oxytocin, occasionally referred to as the ‘love hormone’ which aids in lowering blood pressure and improving our overall heart-health. Oxytocin also increases our self-esteem and optimism, which is extra helpful when we're anxious or shy in a social situation.

I would say let’s just practice kindness one day at a time, complement total strangers on your path, find something nice to say to them and let the good will spread through the day.

Today's poem is Kindness by Sylvia Plath.

Thanks for listening, Ciao!

Como siempre quiero agradecerles el que me permitan estar con ustedes aunque sea unos cuantos minutos de su tiempo, y si les gusta este podcast por favor compartanlo para seguir llevando mensajes positivos y buena voluntad a más personas que lo necesiten; para mi el hecho de que me escuchen es invaluable y les agradezco de todo corazón, un millón de gracias.

También quiero recordarles que este espacio es para ustedes, si quieren escuchar un poema clásico en especial, o hablar sobre la historia de algún escritor en particular pueden pedirlo a través de sus comentarios o enviándome un correo electrónico a: [email protected]

Hoy voy a platicarles algo que me pasó en una cafetería muy popular mientras esperaba por mi cafe mientras esperaba, cuando dijeron mi nombre me acerque a levantar mi café y un señor de edad madura que estaba a un lado de mi, me dijo, señora con mucho respeto es usted muy bonita. Para serles honestos me sonroje, tenía mucho tiempo que nadie me decía un piropo, y la verdad me puse nerviosa, le di las gracias y me aleje lo más rápido posible, sintiendo que flotaba de la vergüenza.

No se porque reaccione así, si yo me considero muy amigable, ya cuando llegue a mi destino le platiqué a mi compañera de trabajo y me dijo que los piropos tienen esa particularidad o te hacen sentir bien o a veces te hacen sentir nerviosa cuando no los esperas y vienen de alguien desconocido como me paso a mi.

Me encantaría saber la opinión de ustedes, porque si es cierto que hay piropos muy lindos y hasta románticos que te hacen sentir una persona importante, sin embargo hay otros que tal vez sean un poquito subidos de tono, tanto de hombres como de mujeres. Existen piropos que tienen un doble sentido pero al final el propósito es el mismo, el de llamar la atención. Hicimos una recopilación de los piropos más populares hasta los más descarados, si quieren llamarle de ese modo, en lo personal yo preferiría que no me dijeran piropos subidos de tono, pero es parte de la cultura popular Latina, así que estos son los piropos que están en  mi lista.