How are you doing, fam?

Really.

How are you?

We want to know. We need to know.

Take a few moments now to check in with us — and with yourself.

What we need now more than ever is connection, so let’s connect.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “When we can’t go without, the invitation is to go within." — Jenna “The mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual space that what we’re all going through right now takes up might eclipse any extra space that you feel like you have in your life." — Jenna “What if there isn’t a plan right now? What if there isn’t an answer? What if there isn’t a perfect next step?" — Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• What we need more of — and less of — in this moment

• How we want to move forward

• Avoiding self-isolation and self-abandonment in the midst of quarantine

• Our go-to self-soothing techniques and practices

• How we can best serve and connect with you

LINKS

MFTP Episode 35: The Quiet Storm

MFTP Episode 60: Future Tripping

Sarah Jensen

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Is it even possible for two perfectionists and people pleasers to peacefully coexist as friends + work partners?

If you remain unconvinced after having gotten to know Ashley and I (Jenna 👋), allow us to introduce you to another powerful duo of recovering people-pleasing perfectionists, Ashleigh and Tabitha of The Women’s Cooperative Co.

Through The Women’s Cooperative Co., Ashleigh and Tabitha are dedicated to creating a community of inspiring women who are ready for a change.

Sound familiar, Eff Perfect fam?

That’s a mission we can all get behind! 💪

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• The keys to a successful working partnership + friendship

• How to manage people pleasing + perfectionism in the context of friendships + working relationships

• Why giving one another space + grace is transformative

• Navigating conflicts + differences of opinions in partnerships

• Strategies for managing the Whack-A-Mole of perfectionism

LINKS

The Women’s Cooperative Co on Instagram

The Women’s Cooperative Co on Facebook

The Women’s Cooperative Co on the web

The Women’s Cooperative Podcast on Apple Podcasts

The Women’s Cooperative Podcast on Spotify

Tabitha on Instagram

Ashleigh on Instagram

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

When self-doubt is high, making meaning in our lives can feel nearly impossible. It’s so easy to fall down the rabbit hole of purposelessness and pointlessness.

We find ourselves asking questions like...

Why does this really matter?

Does anyone even notice — or care??

On the podcast this week, we learned that the better question may be…

Does it matter to YOU?

As Ashley and I discovered, we are actually responsible for making our own meaning — a fact that is both pants-crappingly scary and incredibly empowering.

To figure out what exactly the point is and to help things matter more, pop in your earbuds and join us for this meaning-full conversation.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Does it matter to YOU?" — Jenna “Don’t be an asshole to yourself." — Ashley “Because I know I matter, I can help others." — Jenna “You at your best and most meaningful is the same you that exists in your moments of greatest doubt." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Finding meaning when it feels like nothing matters

• The relationship between comparison and meaning making

• How to develop faith in our impact on others and the world

• Why we are responsible for making our own meaning

• Ways to cultivate meaning

LINKS

Ashley Gordon of Manifest with Ash

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Closer, more connected relationships with others are built on the foundation of closer, more connected relationships with ourselves.

Today guest, Love and Relationship Coach Michele Fabrega, teaches us that we must begin by being truly at home + present within ourselves as well as focused on what we want + need in order to avoid getting caught up in passively watching the “TV shows” of the lives of our partners + loved ones.

We need to tune into — and be the stars of — our own shows first.

So, flip the channel to YouTV™️ and settle in.

We’ve heard you’re quite bingeable. 😉

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “We need to be in our bodies and inhabiting our own experiences. Otherwise, there’s no one home." — Michele Fabrega “Sometimes, revealing that we made a mistake to someone else is actually a way to soften our own harshness that we’re having toward ourself." — Michele Fabrega “On the other side of conflict is more closeness." — Michele Fabrega WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Why self-compassion is essential in relationships

• The ways in which we abandon ourselves in dating and relationships

• Avoiding the trap of trying to change and mold our partners

• Enlisting our partners as allies to help us grow and change old patterns

• How to admit wrongdoing, apologize, forgive, and move forward without completely beating ourselves up

LINKS

Michele Fabrega on the web

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

So often, our behaviors are motivated by conflicting and competing objectives.

Love

Empathy

Compassion

Altruism

But just beneath lurks our hidden agenda.

People pleasing

Perfectionism

Conflict Avoidance

Worthiness + Approval Seeking

How can we tell the difference?

How can we identify what’s driving our behavior in a given moment — and intervene to redirect it?

Only when we know what we’re truly seeking can we ever hope to find it.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “People pleasing comes from a place of lack, and love comes from a place of abundance." — Jenna “When we’re motivated by love, we don’t need to compromise our values." — Jenna “Shame is an outcome of people pleasing and perfectionism." — Jenna “Tell the compassionate truth." — Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• The origins of people pleasing versus the origins of love

• The tension between people pleasing, boundaries, and values

• What it feels like to give and receive love versus people pleasing

• Tools for telling the difference between people pleasing and love

• Developing your own personal commandments

LINKS

MFTP Episode 107: The Middle Finger Project with Ash Ambirge

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

When we only have 12 f*cks a day to give, we better make ‘em count. That’s what today’s guest and Middle Finger Project guru, Ash Ambirge, is shouting from the rooftops.

Through her wildly successful blog and just-published book, The Middle Finger Project, Ash is here to teach us how to trash our inner imposters and live the unf*ckwithable lives we all deserve — and that’s a message + mission we can truly get behind. 🖕

Press play now for badassery, brilliance, and ballsiness served with a ton of heart and more laughs than should legally be allowed in one podcast episode.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “You only have 12 f*cks a day to give." — Ash Ambirge “Happiness is about getting what you want, but meaningfulness is about getting what you want and also expressing and defining yourself in the process." — Ash Ambirge “Personal freedom is about being able to decide how you spend your next hour." — Ash Ambirge WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Ash’s unexpected, badass Middle Finger origin story

• How perfectionism shows up for Ash

• Why Ash believes that radical self-reliance is non-negotiable

• Ash’s thoughts on the dark side of ambition

• What personal freedom means to Ash

LINKS

Ashley Gordon of Manifest with Ash

The Middle Finger Project blog

The Middle Finger Project book

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

In all relationships, there exists a balance and a tension between giving + receiving.

Understanding our unique set points and comfort levels within that balance — or imbalance 😬— is essential to truly knowing ourselves and understanding how we operate in relationships.

For us perfectionists, people pleasers, conflict avoiders, approval junkies, and worthiness seekers, the ratio of giving to receiving can easily get waaayyyy out of whack.

In the episode, we explore the meaning we make around giving + receiving, how giving + receiving make us feel, and how to avoid the trap of overgiving while finding our ideal balance between giving + receiving in relationships.

Get ready to receive the goodness coming your way.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Inherent in receiving is the acknowledgment that we are worthy of receiving." — Jenna “If we don’t attribute to ourselves enough inherent value, then we will feel compelled to earn that value and worth through giving and doing." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Finding your ideal balance between giving + receiving in relationships

• Social constructs and value judgments around giving + receiving

• Strategies for overgivers

• Why our inner child shows up in our needs for giving + receiving

• How to not gaslight our needs for receiving

LINKS

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

As perfectionists, we love a plan.

Steps laid out in advance ✅

The illusion of control ✅

Minimal opportunity for uncertainty or failure ✅

Sounds pretty freaking good, right??

The thing is, it doesn’t always feel good.

And we miss opportunities for…

Surprise ✨

Spontaneity ✨

Intuition ✨

What if, instead of “perfect” plans, we were guided by our creativity?

That’s the path that today’s guest, copywriter and content strategist Emma Boshart, has opted for, and we are pretty freaking inspired by it.

In our conversation, Emma shares what it takes to be a multi-passionate badass who — over and over again — courageously chooses the creative path.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Nothing great is ever going to happen until you accept that you’re going to fail." — Emma Boshart “You won’t regret doing something, but you will regret doing nothing." — Emma Boshart “Self-confidence is built by trying, failing, and trying again." — Emma Boshart WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Using your creativity as your guide

• Balancing visibility with the noise of social media

• How to be paid what you’re worth for the work you want to do in the world

• Building confidence through taking big risks

• The difference between time and value in your work

LINKS

Creative Uproar on the web with Emma Boshart

Creative Uproar on Instagram

Treat Yo Sound

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Confidence can be a sticky subject for so many of us in the Eff Perfect fam, especially since perfectionism, people pleasing, and approval and worthiness seeking are all barriers to building confidence.

The good news for us recovering perfectionists… ⬇️

Confidence is a renewable resource and a learned state of mind.

We can borrow confidence from the areas in our lives where we feel secure to bolster the areas in our lives where we feel vulnerable.

And when you swap comparison for compassion, your capacity for confidence becomes limitless.

Press play for more truthbombs about the power of abundant, self-contained confidence. ▶️

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Confidence is a learned state of mind." — Jenna “True confidence has nothing to do with comparison. Healthy confidence is self-contained." — Jenna “Compassion is the fuel you need to build your confidence and keep it going." — Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• What confidence is — and isn’t

• Perfectionism as a barrier to confidence

• The confidence-competence feedback loop

• Confidence silos and borrowing confidence

• Creating confidence anchors

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

It’s frighteningly easy for what we do to become who we are, especially for us people pleasers, worthiness seekers, and productivity obsessives.

How is a recovering perfectionist supposed to navigate the minefield of identity?

Our guest this week, Theresa Tirk, breaks it all down for us, from constructing and deconstructing identity to the differences between labels and roles.

We are more than just the labels we claim — perfectionist, people pleaser, partner, mother, daughter, friend, etc.

To reclaim your unique identity, press play and join us for this empowering and enlightening conversation.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Self-care is all about getting rid of the toxins in your life, and that includes people." — Theresa Tirk WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• How our individual identities can be overshadowed by the labels we claim, i.e. mother, daughter, partner, etc.

• Deconstructing people-pleasing through increasing our awareness of the motivations behind our actions

• Toxicity as a barrier to empowerment

• How to differentiate between identities, labels, and roles in our life

• Theresa’s keys to self-worth, self-care, and self-preservation

LINKS

Scrivener writing software

Bearaby weighted blanket

Theresa Ann Coaching on the web

Theresa Ann Coaching on Instagram

Theresa Ann Coaching on Pinterest

Theresa’s private Facebook group, Soul Identity

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.