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Ege's Dad Was Killed When She Was 5. How To Forgive?


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In this episode, Ege Riitsalu shares her tragic personal story. It serves as an example of the power of radical forgiveness.

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About radical forgiveness

How do you get out of a rut and onto a ridge? Although my book, Hike Your Own Hikeoffers ideas, it doesn't discuss radical forgiveness, which can lead to breakthroughs. 

In my first TEDx Talk, I discussed "How Travel Transforms You."

But what if the wanderlust doesn't quite do the trick? 

Then, you take another type of journey, a mental one, to unlock deep-seated memories and beliefs.  

Ege Riitsalu is an Estonian who used radical forgiveness to dislodge a mental roadblock. Since then, she's run workshops and offered one-on-one therapy to help others take this mental journey.

Enjoy this two-part series discussing radical forgiveness and how to employ it.

Part 2: How to forgive the man who murdered your dad

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Part 1: What is Radical Forgiveness and When Should You Use It?

In this episode, Ege Riitsalu introduces you to the concept of radical forgiveness. What's below is taken from what Ege Riitsalu has written about radical forgiveness.

It's good for those with:

  • General dissatisfaction with life: stress, anxiety, meaninglessness, lack of purpose, low income, poor physical/mental health, etc.
  • Constant criticism of self and others, feelings of shame and guilt.
  • Painful emotions regarding life events that have taken place (divorce, betrayal, offense, claims about a partner, etc.).
  • Repeated life patterns in personal and professional life (separations from life and business partners, dismissal from work, etc.).
  • RADICAL FORGIVENESS IS A FIVE-STEP JOURNEY that results in freeing yourself from emotional burdens and transforming negative experiences into sources of personal growth and inner peace. This process allows for a deeper understanding and compassion for oneself and others.
    1. Sharing your story: You get the opportunity to express, discover, and map your experiences and the feeling of being a "victim"
  • Feeling emotions and taking responsibility: You allow yourself to feel all emotions and focus on expressing them in a safe space and a restrained manner.
  • Collapsing the story: When discovering your story, move toward understanding, compassion, and empathy to separate your interpretations, judgments, and expectations and deal with the facts.
  • Emergence of a new story: After discovering and releasing negative emotions and recurring disturbing thoughts, you can understand their motives and eliminate the story of being a "victim."
  • Integration: You integrate your entire experience holistically through various practices.
  • Radical forgiveness will help you:

    • Return to the joy of life and happiness that is so characteristic of you.
  • Find inner peace, strength, and balance.
  • Create more harmonious relationships with yourself and others.
  • Get rid of repressed emotional reactions such as anger, guilt, resentment, shame, etc.
  • Get out of victim mentality and behavior.
  • To shake off feelings of unforgiveness towards yourself or someone else.
  • To heal from emotional pain and the burden of the past.
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